Need to vent about bringing family!

[eileenfk]

After reading these posts, I am starting to wonder if I invited myself on my brother's up-coming trip.
He did invite me, but only after I asked if I could come.

Several years ago, my brother invited me to join him and his family on a trip to WDW. (This time it was his idea to ask me, and I had not even given any hints that I might like to come).
I wanted to invite my other nephew, Nicholas (my sister's son), who was about 9 at the time. My Brother was hesitant (at first). The problem was, that a few years prior, I had told Nicholas, that as soon as I graduated from college, and had a good job, we would go to Disney World. So I knew that I couldn't go without Nicholas.
Nicholas was much more hyper then any of my brothers children, who were very calm and well behaved.
My brother did allow Nicholas to come, as long as Nicholas' mother (our sister) also came. So I paid for my Sister, Myself and Nicholas and my Brother paid for his family.
We all had a great time.
This was my first trip to WDW in many years, and is the trip that started my current addiction.

Since that trip I have taken several other nieces and nephews to WDW and to DisneyLand.

My brother is my only sibling that I have never actually treated to WDW (he always pays is own way). So I wanted to treat him to the room.
He insists on paying his share. I can admire this. However, this means I will get two studios when I really want to get a 2 bedroom.
I was able to show him that the points I will use for my DVC reservation, really did cost me less then what he would have paid for the Pop Century.


Eileen

 

[marymrg]

If it's not too late Eileen, book a 2 bedroom lock-off at OKW. This way, brother gets his studio portion and you get the 1 bedroom portion. That way, he will not feel that you overspent points on him..........since he is getting the studio.
And, you get the benefits of the one bedroom!

 

[eileenfk]

Originally posted by marymrg
If it's not too late Eileen, book a 2 bedroom lock-off at OKW. This way, brother gets his studio portion and you get the 1 bedroom portion. That way, he will not feel that you overspent points on him..........since he is getting the studio.
And, you get the benefits of the one bedroom!

This is what I ended up doing. I did go for Saratoga Springs, since I have never stayed there, and I like to try new resorts.

Thank you for the advice.

Eileen

 

[MDonley]

We had the experience of relatives inviting themeselves instead of relatives cancelling. We wanted to take 1 nephew (Godchild) and ended up with DM and most of my sister's family. Talk about inconsiderate! We all know that using points to stay at CSR and OKW if FREE, right? So, we should be paying for everything else since they invited themselves along as our GUESTS! The kicker was when, after we arrived at our home airport and my BIL met us, the other nephew said, "Well, my ride's here!" We got no thank you .... NOTHING! Never again!

 

[robinb]

Originally posted by eileenfk
This might work.
Except my brother insists on paying for half of my studio as well, because his daughter will stay in my room due to him having a family of 5.
He also wants to be able to charge to the room (on his charge card of course). But since I don't mind not being able to do this, that is not a problem.

Eileen:

Since you invited yourself to your brother's vactaion, behaps staying at Pop Century this time would work out better and split costs. Your brother would have to rent 2 rooms anyway (although they would have more privacy without you tagging along), so you're actually making the vacation cost a bit less.

Once your resale closes (yay!), why don't you set up a special trip just for you and your brother's family? That way the ball is in your court, you are the one inviting and you are the one who is treating. If your brother insists on paying for things, he can always pick up groceries and some meals.

FWIW, DVC keys are numbered so when you get your bill at the end you can tell who made which charges. When I split a room with folks, they will go up to the front desk and pay their portion of the bill on their credit card, leaving the rest for mine.

 

[manning]

Inviting themselves to your vacation. Had that happen once and was amazed how fast they backed out when said "Glad to hear your coming, which hotel are you staying at?"

 

[MACDADDY]

We had a good situation a couple of summers ago. We gave my brother and his family a studio for a week in exchange for him paying for our rental car. Everything worked fine and would do it again.

 

[SimbaCub]

Manning, I'll have to remember your response when people invite themselves along!! I have a potential trip Thanksgiving through the following week this year and am now considering abandoning the trip and letting folks fend for themselves as everybody thinks they can just "stop by" for a few nights. Imagine their surprise when I am not there!! LOL!! Or better yet, put the room in someone else's name in my party but not let on what we are doing. . .

SimbaCub
BCV May 04

 

[Rence]

When we were buying last year our guide started in on how I could bring my sisters and their families. I stood up and started backing away from the table and said "You're losing me, don't go there" I know my sisters and I know what a nightmare it would be with them backing out, changing their mind etc.

Our guide looked surprised and I told her that we're doing this for us, not my sisters and that the idea of trying to plan a vacation with them is too scary to even consider.

The subject was quickly dropped.

 

[gritzel4]

My DH and I are planning our vacation home for next year and have enough points to get 2 bedroom. Thought we would invite my brother and his family - now I am re-thinking that plan after reading this board. We have gone camping with them for a weekend - but a weekend of camping is not the same as a week in WDW. We all get along very well but is there enough room in a 2 bedroom to escape and take a break?