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[wendyt_ca]

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[CookieDiva]

She is right. Depending on the state, they could be considered married by Common Law no matter if any vows have been said or not. I say, that if they have that law in your friend's state and your friend and her SO consider themselves Husband and Wife, then that is what they are.

Here in the state where I live, they do not have that law though.

 

[wendyt_ca]

No I know they are common law. We live in Canada so it's common law partners. But she is saying they are husband and wife.

 

[TennisGirl80]

oh the drama

 

[Jenvenza]

In Texas after living together so long, you are considered common law husband and wife. As in you would actually have to get a divorce. She is correct.

 

[momof1princess]

there are very few states that still recognize common law marriage (i live in one of them-alabama), so unless your friend and her fiance live in a common law state, they are NOT legally married in the eyes of the law. however, they are free to consider each other husband/wife if they choose to do so-this won't make it legal, but to each their own.

 

[wendyt_ca]

In canada they don't have to get a divorce they can just break up if they wanted there are no legal steps. Here it is called common law partners. And as I said I am not argueing that they are common law cause they are. But she is saying they are husband and wife. You have to really know this girl to fully understand. I have never heard her refer to him as her husband and vice versa....she is the type who always has to compete so I think this is her saying it because I am now married. She does these type of things so I know it's hard seeing it from the outside. Again I know that they are common law. But they aren't actually husband and wife.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

So if someone is considered common law married, and accepts all the benefits of being married, do they have to get a divorce if they separate?

Never mind, I missed the pp's post about this.

 

[SwedishMeatball]

What a silly fight. Go give her a sincere apology and put this nonsense behind you. That is my opinion.

 

[momof1princess]

i can't speak for every state, but in alabama, a couple that is considered common law husband and wife (living together, both receiving mail at the same address) must obtain a divorce.

 

[Liberty Belle]

What does it really matter? If she feels like he is her husband, then what's the harm in her calling him her husband? I don't really get it.

Also, you didn't ask (and I realize I don't know the history between you two), but I think you were being rude to her.

 

[harleyquinn]

What a silly fight. Go give her a sincere apology and put this nonsense behind you. That is my opinion.

ITA
Who cares who is right? I honestly think you are being a little too high and mighty about the definition of husband and wife. It's fine for you to define it your way, but I don't think it's right to try to force it on your friend.

I could see someone feeling so strongly about this in a religious sense, (not that I agree) but just based on the "scaredness of love?"

 

[wendyt_ca]

Me and her aren't argueing about this anymore she said she went on a forum and posted and most of them disagreed with her so we have already talked about it offending each other. I am only posting this poll to see what others say I'm not going to even tell her the results either way they come up. I don't really see it as being high and mighty that you become husband and wife when you get married and she is the one who said out of the "sacredness of love" not me I said sacredness of marriage...I never considered my husband my husband until we got married, when talking to his friends he might have referred to me as the wife from time to time but that's not what I mean that's different but we didn't actually consider each other husband and wife and didn't tell everyone we were. I think ppl are getting confused by what I mean.

 

[rie'smom]

IMO, why fuss over something so trivial. if your friend feels like she is a wifw and her partner is her husband, so what?

Canada
In Canada, the legal definition and regulation of common law marriage fall under provincial jurisdiction. A couple must meet the requirements of their province's Marriage Act for their common-law marriage to be legally recognized.

According to the Canada Revenue Agency, as of 2007, a common-law relationship is true if at least one of the following applies:

a) the couple have been living in a conjugal relationship for at least 12 continuous months;

b) the couple are parents of a child by birth or adoption; or

c) one of the couple has custody and control of the child (or had custody and control immediately before the child turned 19 years of age) and the child is wholly dependent on that person for support.

For a full, up to date CRA description go here: http://www.cra-arc.gc.ca/tax/indivi...eturn/completing/personal-info/marital-e.html
In many cases common law couples have the same rights as married couples under federal law. Various federal laws include "common-law status," which automatically takes effect once two people (of any gender) have lived together in a conjugal relationship for five full years. Common-law partners may be eligible for various federal government spousal benefits. As family law varies between provinces, there are differences between the provinces regarding the recognition of common-law marriage.

In 1999, after the court case M. v. H., the Supreme Court of Canada decided that same-sex partners would also be included in common-law relationships

 

[harleyquinn]

Me and her aren't argueing about this anymore she said she went on a forum and posted and most of them disagreed with her so we have already talked about it offending each other. I am only posting this poll to see what others say I'm not going to even tell her the results either way they come up.

Okay, well I didn't understand the poll, so I didn't vote. Which of the answers agrees with your friend?

It's funny that people disagreed with her on one board and here we all are disagreeing with you on this one...maybe you need to switch boards? Just kidding!!

 

[SwedishMeatball]

Me and her aren't argueing about this anymore she said she went on a forum and posted and most of them disagreed with her so we have already talked about it offending each other. I am only posting this poll to see what others say I'm not going to even tell her the results either way they come up. I don't really see it as being high and mighty that you become husband and wife when you get married...I never considered my husband my husband until we got married, when talking to his friends he might have referred to me as the wife from time to time but that's not what I mean that's different but we didn't actually consider each other husband and wife and didn't tell everyone we were. I think ppl are getting confused by what I mean.

I am confused, because in your first post you said that you'd just gotten in an argument. Also, if you already have confirmation that she was in the wrong from what she posted on another forum, then why the need to come and post it here?? It sort of seems like tit for tat.

 

[wendyt_ca]

Oh I want to clear something up as well cause I just saw how this may have been read. the first email I have posted from me where I say it is more special now that we are husband and wife I am not talking about our relationship that was in response to her previous email I didn't post and I am talking about getting a card that says wife on it not anyones relationshop which would have been clear with her email before that one but it probably isn't without it.

 

[wendyt_ca]

I am confused, because in your first post you said that you'd just gotten in an argument. Also, if you already have confirmation that she was in the wrong from what she posted on another forum, then why the need to come and post it here?? It sort of seems like tit for tat.

When I orginally posted this hadn't happened yet.

 

[harleyquinn]

Huh?? Way more confused now!

I think I got ya. But seriously, the poll, are you asking if your friends are husband and wife or if the words 'husband' and 'wife' are titles?

 

[wendyt_ca]

Yeah I just noticed how the original post must have been read and it looks like I was saying my relationship was more special now but I was talking about getting a card that says wife on it.
Lol sorry if they actually are husband and wife. not if husband and wife are titles lol