Need ideas...IL's still here

[Beastlover]

Okay my loyal DIS friends...My IL's have been here for 46 days. MIL just came home from nursing home for her therapy from the broken hip she sustained falling in my kitchen 2 days after my mom died.

They are here another 3 weeks minimum. Do the math. THat is a total of 67 days...at least. During that time I have to take FIL for a stress test, and 3 tests for the urologist.

I need help. Suggestions if you will. How do I keep my sanity? Today I resorted to mocking the Price is Right. It was good. "And you, why you're just stupid...you over bid!"

Anything? Anyone??

 

[MsLeFever]

Cocktail hour can start at breakfast!

Mimosas anyone?

 

[Beastlover]

Cocktail hour can start at breakfast!

Mimosas anyone?

Excellent idea!! I'll serve it with their meds!!

ANyone else???

 

[bananiem]

Is there somebody else who can take over for the weekend so you can just go away somewhere? Even if it's the hotel down the street?

 

[jennyl772003]

Start setting the clocks ahead, in 10 minute increments.

Pretty soon everyone will be going to bed at 6, and you will have the whole evening to yourself!

 

[Beastlover]

Start setting the clocks ahead, in 10 minute increments.

Pretty soon everyone will be going to bed at 6, and you will have the whole evening to yourself!

Me likes that one...

 

[ElizaB39]

My DH wants to know where your DH is? As in, "Where is their child in all this?" How about you go back to work and leave DH home using some of his vacation time? Said with tongue in cheek and no animosity meant.

He stays with them while you go to recuperate from losing your mother, which I am sure must be so difficult to deal with on top of having visitors?!




Hang in there.

Is his company large enough to have to offer leave under the federal Family Leave Act? He can take sick leave to care for a relative. A previous coworker did this for his mother when she was doctoring for cancer. He went with her every time she had chemo and stayed overnight sometimes too and used his Family Leave Act mandated sick time.

 

[L107ANGEL]

What the drinking isn't working anymore

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Set some time aside for yourself, even if all it means is that you have to watch a certain show everyday, no interruptions please!

 

[EthansMom]

Well, not to be too mean, but I would start touring assisted care facilities. Bring home literature and leave it around. If either of the ILs wants you to take them out, then tell them you have a stop to make and go check out adult care facilities.

Beastlover, I've read your past posts and these folks need to get real about their needs. I think you've gotten taken advantage of and need to be recommended for sainthood in the future.

I agree with the poster who says your DH needs to step up to the plate. At a minimum, you're due for a Girl's Night Out while DH parent-sits. While you're at it, have a mixed drink at my request -- you deserve it!

 

[luvflorida]

Maybe they would like to spend the afternoon in the backyard picking up sticks with Spencer. It could be physical therapy for them!

 

[imsorry]

Maybe we could start a "sewing circle" (only we sit on "stools") and drink tea (only the long island kind). Costumes optional

 

[Beastlover]

These are all really good!!!

 

[Quackmore]

Okay my loyal DIS friends...My IL's have been here for 46 days. MIL just came home from nursing home for her therapy from the broken hip she sustained falling in my kitchen 2 days after my mom died.

They are here another 3 weeks minimum. Do the math. THat is a total of 67 days...at least. During that time I have to take FIL for a stress test, and 3 tests for the urologist.

I need help. Suggestions if you will. How do I keep my sanity? Today I resorted to mocking the Price is Right. It was good. "And you, why you're just stupid...you over bid!"

Anything? Anyone??

Drink Heavily!!!!!!

 

[Beastlover]

Drink Heavily!!!!!!

ummmm....yeah.....that one is in process...

 

[mickeyboat]

I second the suggestion of looking into an assisted living facility - one with graduated levels of care. My grandmother has been living in this type of arrangement for 20 years. She has a two bedroom apartment, and can get as little or as much care as she needs. Your IL's are certainly aware that they need some help, know they can't stay with you forever (not that they would evenw ant to), and understand they will need to make some sort of arrangements for their furure care.

FMLA would entitle your DH to UNPAID leave. That may not be an option for your family, especially one supporting two additional members. He should also be front and center in finding a way for his parents to survive without being a burden to your family.

Oh, and I also strongly recommend the drinking part. Some days that's the only way I can deal with my FIL.

Good luck.

Denae

 

[Quackmore]

ummmm....yeah.....that one is in process...

 

[halestrm]

I would recommend you get a room in Chicago for a weekend. You're about 60 miles away right? That is far enough to make them think twice about calling you home for a gallon of milk or whatever.

Go out and have fun w/o IL's. If you don't want to go alone, maybe you and DH can go while IL's take care of the house.

Hit the museums, catch a play, enjoy MMile, just be a silly tourist.