Need Help with Bridal Shower Etiquette

[Lisann]

I'm so confused.

So I'm bringing a gift to the Bridal Shower for the bride (I'm getting her personal items), and then do I bring the "wedding gift" (I'm getting them a beautiful mirror) to the wedding? Or can I just bring it to the shower?

I'm old school, but I don't know if there is a proper way to do this. Any help??

 

[lorimay]

Usually you bring a wedding gift to the wedding reception.

 

[Princess_Ariel_5]

Where I live (NYC) one typically brings an item as a gift for the shower and then gives cash or a check for the actual wedding.

 

[design_mom]

Generally, the shower gift and wedding gift are given separately. The shower gift is given at the shower, and the wedding gift is either taken to the wedding reception or shipped to the bride's/couple's home. There is often an address provided on the wedding registry. I'm in the midwest and unlike some parts of the country (apparently) physical gifts are still acceptable as wedding gifts.

 

[Christine]

Generally, the shower gift and wedding gift are given separately. The shower gift is given at the shower, and the wedding gift is either taken to the wedding reception or shipped to the bride's/couple's home. There is often an address provided on the wedding registry. I'm in the midwest and unlike some parts of the country (apparently) physical gifts are still acceptable as wedding gifts.

This is what we do here in Virginia also, but it really is becoming increasingly popular to give money for the wedding gift versus a physical gift. Or so I've been told. Mostly because people are marrying later, have their own households already established and really don't need for typical wedding gifts. It's not like years ago where most people getting married were also establishing their first home away from their parents.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

I'm so confused.

So I'm bringing a gift to the Bridal Shower for the bride (I'm getting her personal items), and then do I bring the "wedding gift" (I'm getting them a beautiful mirror) to the wedding? Or can I just bring it to the shower?

I'm old school, but I don't know if there is a proper way to do this. Any help??

Manners wise, it doesn't matter either way. But usually, when you're getting a separate shower gift, you would being that to the shower and the wedding gift to the wedding. But manners wise, if your mirror is large and cumbersome for example, you could even arrange with the Bride or her parents to drop it off so she and her relatives don't have to deal with it on the day of and that would not be bad manners.

 

[Lisann]

Manners wise, it doesn't matter either way. But usually, when you're getting a separate shower gift, you would being that to the shower and the wedding gift to the wedding. But manners wise, if your mirror is large and cumbersome for example, you could even arrange with the Bride or her parents to drop it off so she and her relatives don't have to deal with it on the day of and that would not be bad manners.

Thank you for that suggestion. The mirror is heavy!! And big!

 

[KristaZ]

I second trying to arrange to drop it off to the couple if you can. When I got married last year most of our wedding gifts were cash, however of the few physical gifts we received, a few brought them to the reception, but most either dropped off the gift at our house or had it shipped to our house - which we much appreciated - we had a lot of stuff we were taking home ourselves after the reception and anything cumbersome would have just been an extra burden to try to figure out how to to get that home.

 

[Hikergirl]

Only bring the shower gift to the shower.
Since your wedding gift is large and heavy arrange to have it dropped off at the couple's home instead of bringing it to the wedding.

 

[_19disnA]

^^ I agree. At some showers the bride to be will open the shower gifts for all to see. You have no idea what she plans to do and would be awkward telling her she can open the shower gift but not the wedding gift. I don't see any reason to bring the wedding gift to the shower. If there is some reason why you won't be able to attend the wedding, shipping the gift to her home (or making arrangements to drop it off) prior to the wedding is an alternative.

 

[Lisann]

Only bring the shower gift to the shower.
Since your wedding gift is large and heavy arrange to have it dropped off at the couple's home instead of bringing it to the wedding.

I think I will do this. It’s too darn heavy. I’ll drop it off at their house a couple of weeks before the wedding.

Thanks ya’ll.

 

[Disneyfan754321]

I just went through this.. I had the wedding gift mailed to the house.
At our sons wedding most gifts were in card form.