Need help with appropriate punishment.

[Miss Jasmine]

Well thanks for checking up on me Miss Jasmine. Now you know all my torrid secrets. Perhaps if all the Perfect Parents on the DIS could write a book sharing all your tips and secrets that could really help the inferior parents. You should also include the name of the doctor that gave you an extra set of eyes and hands too. Or maybe you have clones. If your children never break anything, put stuff in their mouths, color on walls, lie, don't go to bed on time (oh the list goes on) then please share your secrets. Really the world will be a better place.

As for the original topic at hand, if you read my post, it was my husband's idea. I also decided not to carry out that punishment.

Aren't you sometimes that "perfect" parent doling out advice? Someone asked what another poster meant when she said about the iron and the screw. So I decided to look myself. I wasn't checking up on you, just supplying information asked for.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

You're not supposed to eat your offspring :{

I'm not???? But I used to have 4 children and I am now down to 4--you should have told me sooner!

And I really want to get rid of that foot, but the second I do they will morph into something really neat.

Beth, I make no judgements on you, your parenting, or the parenting of anyone, for that matter. Before I had my last child I thought that I had things pretty well figured out. My kids were no angels and had things they did, but it wasn't too bad. Then I had Jake! He's 6yo today and he has been a humbling experience, to put it nicely. If I did eat my offspring he'd be the one I would have started with!

 

[Beth76]

And I really want to get rid of that foot, but the second I do they will morph into something really neat.

I have the foot on another board and I feel the same way. I have to keep it to see what it changes into. I was just bummed that the egg I had here didn't hatch for whatever reason.

 

[Downrivermama]

Beth76

I feel for you. Just last week my dd 7 took scissors to her desk at school and gouged the side. (It looked like somone had beat her to it, but that wasn't the point.) She got in trouble and the principal made her call me. I asked her what her favorite toy was and what if I broke it or destroyed it. It made her think. So I took her favorite stuffed animal hostage until she wrote 100 times "I will not destroy school property." It was up to her when to get the sentences done. Well she did it a bit faster than I expected and she was reunited with her animal yesterday. I told her I will not tolerate her destroying school property. And I could read every sentence. LOL! I asked her what she thought Santa would think and that was as far as I went with Christmas.

 

[jenniferma]

Sorry I have to say.. I've never heard of eggs hatching on the internet.... Beth, I was really hoping for two girls, so you would have two of each!

LOL... sorry!
jen laughing guy by dd4

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Sorry I have to say.. I've never heard of eggs hatching on the internet.... Beth, I was really hoping for two girls, so you would have two of each!

LOL... sorry!
jen laughing guy by dd4

That's ok--you gave me a great laugh! I mean I did give birth to 8 feet in real life, but none started off as big as the foot in my signature. And maybe you know something about Beth that even she doesn't know about herself!

 

[crazee4mickey]

After reading all these threads can anyone wonder why kids of the day are like they are. Everyone is afraid to punish their kids when they do something wrong. Geez... Oh its okay junior, you intentionally broke this but thats okay, mommy is mad now go play like a good boy.

I don't think anyone said don't punish him--I believe it was that the punishment was being tied in with Christmas and like I said earlier giving the child the idea that the mentality of "you broke my toy so now I'll do something mean back"....I think everyone was questioning whether the type of consequences the OP was asking about(taking the gift) was appropriate for a 4 1/2 year old.
Yes, he needs to know what he did was wrong but there are other ways to teach him that