Need Advice

[Disneymom4123]

Boy Do I feel as if im back in high school! But im hoping that someone here can give me some advice on this situation I am having! There is this guy I dated MANY of years ago and havent talked to in five years keep in mind.... Well last week i start getting these calls and emails from this girl saying stuff about him like i better watch out his family steals and that he gets back at his ex's by being abusive etc..... I highly doubt that this is true but im getting sick of the calls.... I never did get to meet his family as we only dated a few times but i just cant believe this to be true. I looked up his parents number in the phone book would i be wrong to call them and let them know this girl is saying and see if they have any of her info for me to call the cops just for them to tell her to stop... All the girl has ever told me was her first name. I just don't know what would have sprung this on. I have been married for over three years and am just in shock that this is happening!

 

[Darcy03231]

I would just ignore her. Block her emails and don't answer the phone when she's calling. If you don't have caller ID I would tell her to stop calling and hang up on her. She can't suck you in if you don't let her.

 

[Mkrop]

do you have caller id, you could do a reverse lookup so you could at least find out who she is.

And next time she calls,A) either dont answer (dont give her an audience) or b)confront and say "listen Sue, I am sick of hearing you bash Joe, so if you dont knock it off I will contact his family and tell them exactly what you are doing and igve them this number so shut your trap "

I think I like B

 

[Disneymom4123]

Her number comes up unknown I have threatend her with the cops etc and she always says I think you need to know this... His fmaily stole 15,000 off me etc. It's just driving me batty. I cant even reply to the emails because she keeps changing the adress. That's why I was thinking of calling his parents just to see if they have her last name or anything because this is beyond harassment.

 

[Beth E. (NJ)]

I would ask her why she is calling you. After all you are not in touch with him and you have moved on.

I wouldn't give her any info about your life though.

Have you called the police to ask for their advise on how to handle it? She is stalking you now.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Why does she think you need to know this if you have had no contact with this guy for 5 years? I would contact the police.

 

[Disneymom4123]

That's what I can't figure out. We only dated for a very short time. We broke up on good terms just never talked after that. I conacted the police and thier unwilling to help unless I have a last name. And then they can warn her. That's why I was thinking of calling the parents. Who will probably think i'm some sort of nut since I haven't spoke to thier son in like five years. And they never even met me! But I don't know what else to do

 

[Disneymom4123]

The thing that makes me worry is we lived in diffrent citys maybe like two hours apart. He met maybe two of my friends and I never met any of his because as i said the dating thing was short. My last name has changed since and so has my cell number and where I live. So I don't know how I was tracked down.

 

[badblackpug]

block her email address and block her calls. I know I can block calls from #'s that don't have caller ID on my phone.

 

[disykat]

I would feel the need to talk to his family - or directly to the police if I wasn't comfortable calling them. From the sounds of it, it's quite possible his family is being harassed by her and the police are already involved. They may need you as a witness to help prosecute. I'd get it "on the record" one way or another - she sounds scary and you need to protect yourself.

Oops - I just saw the police won't help you. I'd call the parents.

 

[Disneymom4123]

Thanks to everyone for hearing me vent I think I am just going to call tom as I got three more calls tonight. And hopefully the family won't think i'm to nuts

 

[DevilDuckie]

How about saying, "Thank you so much for the information. I appreciate you letting me know."

This gives her no recourse. No reason to argue with you, no cause to continue to pursue. Even if you think she's a total nut, this makes her feel validated and she might just leave you alone.

 

[Aliceacc]

How about letting her know that you'll be taping any further calls and printing up any emails, should the family choose to prosecute for liable.

Then do so, and send them on to his parents.

And contact the phone company. They deal with stuff like this all the time. They can put a trace on the phone number the next time she calls.

 

[semo233]

disneymom4123,
My phone company has a security office. After receiving annoying phone calls, I need to dial #57 (or something like that). It reports the last number that called you to the security personnel. Once the security office receives a certain number of these, they may decide to take some action.
Call your phone company and find out if the phone calls continue.
semo233

 

[momamy]

that is weird. Maybe you made more of an impression on him then you think?

Maybe he is using your name to get out of dating her???

 

[MSSANDRA]

How about saying, "Thank you so much for the information. I appreciate you letting me know."

This gives her no recourse. No reason to argue with you, no cause to continue to pursue. Even if you think she's a total nut, this makes her feel validated and she might just leave you alone.

I vote for this.
And i will be the odd man out; perhaps there is something he did to her and she really cares and feels the need to let you know. There must have been more to the relationship than you thought if after 5 years another girlfriend is aware of who you are and where you live.

If you only dated him a few times, perhaps he is not the man you thought he was.