Need advice-Beauty pageant

[luv2crash]

My little girl has decided to be in her school beauty pageant this year. She is 8yo. What is appropriate makeup for her age. I thought a light shade of lip gloss, a little blush and some clear mascara just to make her eyes stand out a bit.

I am really stressing about this. She is so tender hearted and has only been in this pageant one time before (Kindergarten). They have an interview portion that counts 30% of the score. She is extremely shy with people she doesn't know and totally bombed the interview, giving one one answers.

Last time, she cried all the way home because all she wanted was a crown. Her Daddy went to Claire's and bought her a crown the very next morning and told her she would always be his princess and that she was the most beautiful little girl in the world.

She is 3 years older now and I know that she can handle the competition a little better but I still worry about her self esteem being crushed if she doesn't win.

She is beautiful. Long naturally curly hair and big brown eyes. Everybody says she looks like Keri Russell....but I know she will clam up in front of the judges. I really can't believe the interview counts as such a high % of the score. Especially with that age group.

I really dislike pageants. I was always in them in high school BUT I didn't wear my heart on my sleeve like she does. I did usually place and even won a few but I haven't told her this because I don't won't her to think she HAS to win.

Sorry this is so long. I am just so anxious to get this thing over.

 

[paigevz]

I can't understand why the interview is so much of the score either. I mean really, as long as she looks good who cares what she says right?

 

[Passions71203]

This reminds me of that "other" thread about young children and pageants...But I think that was about a baby..

 

[Passions71203]

I can't understand why the interview is so much of the score either. I mean really, as long as she looks good who cares what she says right?

thats what they all say...

 

[shirleyb]

What I can't believe is that your school has beauty pageants. Is this a public school? Yeah, that sends a good message.

 

[NMAmy]

They have a beauty pageant at school?

 

[hentob]

They have a beauty pageant at school?

 

[paigevz]

thats what they all say...

Good training for the dating scene there isn't it?

 

[EMom]

The SCHOOL has a beauty pageant? What happened to the spelling bee? Nothing like being judged on your looks in front of the entire student body when you're 8 years old. Just saying.

MY DD is 8 and there is no way I'd let her do this. BTW, she is very pretty and I've been asked to put her in pageants. DH and I flatly refused. We don't want her to place such importance on her appearance. They are a fluke of her birth, no more, no less. If she lost them tomorrow, she'd still be the same person. If blonde hair & blue eyes go out of style, she is SOL.

I hate child beauty pageants. I know your DD asked to do it, but I don't know if she understands what she may be letting herself in for.

 

[luv2crash]

Yes, it is a school sponsored beauty pageant. Well, I guess it's really sponsored by the PTO as a fundraiser. They have it every year.

I was shocked that the interview counted so much. I mean, it's not like they will have to conduct public speeches in the community. There is no scholarship money involved. Basically, they get their picture in the school yearbook and a crown. Everyone gets a trophy for participation.

I have never encouraged her to be in pageants but she wants to be in it since all her friends are.

 

[WeCantWait]

A beauty pageant at school? A full 30% goes to something other than looking good? What next?

 

[shirleyb]

I was shocked that the interview counted so much. I mean, it's not like they will have to conduct public speeches in the community. There is no scholarship money involved. Basically, they get their picture in the school yearbook and a crown. Everyone gets a trophy for participation.

I still think it's weird at a public school, but I'd rather have the interview count for more than the "swimsuit" or "evening gown" portion. After all, looks fade, personality doesn't.

 

[Pigeon]

Yes, it is a school sponsored beauty pageant. Well, I guess it's really sponsored by the PTO as a fundraiser. They have it every year.

I would be at every single PTO meeting, and organizing other parents against this. Schools should not be sponsoring beauty pageants.

 

[crzyred]

The SCHOOL has a beauty pageant? What happened to the spelling bee?

Why do you need brains when you got beauty?

 

[Piglets Mommy]

I'm not so sure i agree with a SCHOOL hosting a beauty pageant, but that's neither here nor there at this point....

I would say let her enter, and let her know that it's not about winning or losing, it's about the experience. i would think that that's why the interview portion is worth so much , just so the kids learn that there is more to life than smiling and looking pretty.

 

[HamTown]

I actually think it's a great thing that the interview portion counts so much. If a public school is going to go this route, then they should learn something from the process besides how to apply makeup. Other schools have forensics competitions as young as 1st or 2nd grade, use this opportunity to have your daughter start speaking in public. Have her practice answering questions from you and other adults in the family. Her confidence should go up and as she becomes more comfortable, it may give her the confidence to try other things.

IMO, your idea of makeup is spot-on.

 

[paigevz]

A beauty pageant at school? A full 30% goes to something other than looking good? What next?

Who knows? They may even want them to be able to do something like twirl a baton to music or sing "Over the rainbow"...........

 

[HollyJoy]

I haven't gotten past the fact that your school is having a beauty pagent!

 

[Aisling]

I think the rest of the girls, or many of them, will be wearing make-up, but have you thought about just fixing her hair in a pretty style and not using any makeup? Will she feel less confident if she's the only one without makeup? Maybe put some sparkle powder on her arms? But if she feels she wants it so she can be like the other girls, some lip gloss, clear mascara and nail polish to match her dress color sounds good.

I'm thinking of the little girls who get the princess treatment at Bibbity Bobbity Boutique, and the sparkles they use are so cute. You even put some in her hair!

Good luck, and I hope she has fun!

 

[luv2crash]

The SCHOOL has a beauty pageant? What happened to the spelling bee? Nothing like being judged on your looks in front of the entire student body when you're 8 years old. Just saying.

MY DD is 8 and there is no way I'd let her do this. BTW, she is very pretty and I've been asked to put her in pageants. DH and I flatly refused. We don't want her to place such importance on her appearance. They are a fluke of her birth, no more, no less. If she lost them tomorrow, she'd still be the same person. If blonde hair & blue eyes go out of style, she is SOL.

I hate child beauty pageants. I know your DD asked to do it, but I don't know if she understands what she may be letting herself in for.

She came in 3rd place in the spelling bee.

I hate child beauty pageants, too. When she came to us and asked if she could be in it this year we had a really good heart to heart with her about what is important. She said she knew all that but she wanted to be in it anyway.