My son was in a car accident

[Ranatra]

I raised two teenage boys (and 1 girl) so I know how scary it can be. And they do think they're invincible. Hang in there, they do grow up!
Mine are now 22 and 24 and both out of college.

 

[twinmomplus2]

First I am so glad your son is ok. Second was he cited in the accident? I am also in MA. And October the 12th, my DD got her liscense came home got her car and took a friend out. As they prepared to leave I said to her, You are not supposed to have anyone in the car. The response was soooooo everybody does it. I responded well I don't want to get a phone call from you crying you got pulled over. On the 15th 3 days later. She made a rolling stop at a stop sign and was pulled over. She recieved a ticket for not making a full stop, failure to yeild, and passenger restriction. $125 dollars. which she paid. still she was cocky continued to say so what. Until the 10th of November that is..... Because she is a JR operator here in MA if they get pulled over or cited for anything in the first 6 months. The registry can pull thier liscense. And they did almost a month later. And I say kudos to them!!!! Nothing I could have done could have been more effective to get this kid to wake up then that car sitting in the driveway. And of course it removes me the evil mom from the equation as I am not the one handing out the punishment. She has 30 days of being relegated to can I have a ride status? While her car just sits there. I know it sounds mean, But you should almost hope they will pull it. And get him to see its not all fun. I am so glad mine didn't get away with pushing the envelope.

 

[powellrj]

(((((hugs))))) I understand your pain. I have one ds who is 20 and would test every limit and then not see why am I always angry at him. I know this sounds stupid, but there is a comic in our paper called zits and that stupid comic would help me more than anything. It looks at the world throught the eyes of a 15 year old boy. If anything it tells you that we are not alone!!

 

[monalsw]

thankfully he wasn't hurt!

my teen is making me crazy and counting down the days til she can drive. she'll be 15 in february and i am seriuosly considering invoking the 'no driving until 18' rule, regardless of what the state of ohio allows. she still shows major signs of immaturity and impulse control, and makes me want scream at least once a day!

hang in there! we have to believe that it will get better!

 

[BobbinWeez]

Kteacher
My younger brother got pulled over for speeding when he still had his JOL. He had his buddy in the car with him so he got a ticket, a fine and lost his license for a month. Then he cracked up his car about 4 months later and didn't have one for about 8 months...he learned that he's not invincible...he wasn't badly hurt in the accident...just banged up but he sure scared himself. Maybe your son will learn after the registry takes his license away. I'm glad he's ok and keep your chin up things will get better.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

My SIL called yesterday and said that her son (he will be 18 tomorrow) left the house. He wanted to go to the library and "he has to ask" (for everything, but that is a whole story in itself) & he told them he shouldn't have to ASK, left and went to his friends.
(He has NEVER done that EVER. They are VERY STRICT PARENTS)

Must be something in the air?

 

[goofy4tink]

My 27 y/o dd's best friend lost her little sister on THanksgiving Eve in CT in a car accident. Of course, no one was belted in. My dd is now a seat belt vigilante!! But, speaking of my dd, I have to tell you that when our kids say these nasty things to us, we wonder why they do it. I figured out why with this dd, about 13 years ago. They do it because they can. They feel safe in their mother's love. My dd knows that I will love her no matter what. So, she really tested her new found wings out on me!!! Not her dad, just me. ( I was a single mom at the time...wouldn't want to upset daddy would we??). Now, as an adult, she has apologized over and over for her behavior. ANd it was pretty awful behavior. So, hang in there with the son. Hopefully, he will get his act together and see that he really does need a mom and that he isn't invincible!!! Man, those teen years are awful. Couldn't pay me enough to go through them again!!!

 

[Rock'n Robin]

KTeacher, I'm glad he is OK. But he needs to know he broke school rules too, didn't he, if he left when he wasn't supposed to? Perhaps he will get a detention--was he skipping?
Also, maybe if or when the state pulls his license that will help him realize the concept of consequences.
Robin M.

 

[Keli]

I'm sorry that this has happened with your son and I'm really glad no one was hurt.
It's a shame his birthday is tomorrow. It's no fun when you are upset with your kid on their special day.