My sister just called me and is freaking out - **small update**

[Jenvenza]

I'm so glad the police took the cell phone. Hopefully they can dust it for prints. I hope your DS stays w/you guy for a few nights until this is sorted out. Ex-DH or not, the person who did this doesn't sound normal. She might think she's fine now, but when darkness sets in she'll probably be changing her tune.

I bet you are right about that!

Holy cow, Jenvenza! I'd be freakin' in the hell out. Thanks for keeping us posted.

And your sig pics get cuter every time you change them!

Thank you!! I love yours as well!! For some reason I think our DD's look a little bit alike. I think it is the hair and the eyes.

 

[Jenvenza]

Well, I am off for the night, but I will be back tomorrow with any updates!

Thanks so much for all your kind words!

 

[dispor]

I dont think it is unusual for officers to give out personal numbers. I just called about a vicious dog in my neighborhood recently and the responding sheriff officer gave me his personal # to call if had any more problems. I dont really think they are their private home #'s really, the officers cell # was on his business card. I would imagine they are job provided cell phones.

Thanks for clarifying that! That makes much more sense to me. So it's more like giving her his "direct" number.

 

[ilovejack02]

I bet you are right about that!



Thank you!! I love yours as well!! For some reason I think our DD's look a little bit alike. I think it is the hair and the eyes.

LOL they do look alike.. I have seen both your posts before and sometimes if I dont pay attention and just look at the little girls I get confused.

Both little ones are so stinking cute!!!

 

[vettechick99]

Thank you!! I love yours as well!! For some reason I think our DD's look a little bit alike. I think it is the hair and the eyes.

Well I take that as a huge compliment because your daughter is gorgeous! And yes, I can see that too.

ETA: I just showed Scooner your daughter's picture and i asked who it was and she said her own name!

 

[ChrizJen]

Well, that doesn't really prove that the FOUND cell phone was just purchased, only that it hadn't rec'd or sent any calls yet (although it probably is new). It was the number that was used to CALL the cell that appears to be new (because the mailbox hadn't been set up yet). KWIM?

Pretty darn creepy. I'm glad she got sympathetic officers, but why in the world would she need the officer's personal cell phone number? She should be calling the police line if there's trouble. (And she'd better hope her ex isn't buddies with this officer.)

I would think that if a cell phone belonged to anyone for more than 24 hours, there would at least be a short call history on it. That to me indicates that it's probably new. Not proof of such, but a fairly good indication.

And the officer giving his personal cell # is nothing unusual. I live in a fairly large metropolitan area, and our officers still give their cell #'s to people (to call if you have more info later, or if he thinks he can be there more quickly than calling 911.

 

[brockash]

Your sister needs to get out of that house asap. I hope she takes you up on your offer and stays with you. That is just REALLY scary!! Please keep us updated.

Yes, ITA. I would basically insist that she come stay with you for a while. If this is the soon to be ex, this is probably going to be one of the most dangerous times for her, if he is doing this stuff. She really shouldn't be alone at all for a while, until she knows how he's reacting to the protection order. Good luck to you, and really I would really make her understand that she needs to be away from the house for a little while.

 

[coolbeans]

This is the first thread I've read page by page in a long time.. I hope she is okay!!

 

[cinmell]

This is the first thread I've read page by page in a long time.. I hope she is okay!!

Me too.

OP, I hope your sister comes to stay with you until this is resolved and that she has a safe and peaceful night tonight.

 

[dispor]

No, it doesnt prove anything, I am just guessing that it was recently purchased. And why does it bother you that the officer gave her his personal cell number? I am sure it was his work cell number. He said to call that because he could be there within 3 minutes. Nothing wrong or strange about that.

Well, geez, excuse me for trying to help! To me, a personal cell phone is a personal cell phone, and a work cell phone is a work cell phone. I didn't understand why any officer wouldn't want the call to go directly to a police line - if for no other reasons than record keeping and traceability (sp?). But don't worry, the previous poster explained (rather politely, too) that it was probably his work cell.

As for the new/not new issue... I was trying to make the point that - if indeed this is the ex doing this - that he not only purchased a cell phone, but also set up another number to call from. That's pretty frightening!

I almost wonder if she wouldn't be better off staying in a hotel until a security system could be installed. I would think that the OP's house would be the first place he'd look for her and his son.

I sure hope this turns out to be some crazy (non-scary) scenario that we just haven't thought of.

 

[drivencrazy]

I think a move might be in order! I wouldn't be staying there overnight by myself (or with my kids!)!

 

[XTinabell]

Oh my gosh, that is so scary! Hopefully they figure out who it is/was really soon. That is too freaky, your sister is so lucky to have a neighbour who helped her out like that.

 

[browneyes106]

I'm sorry about what happened to your sister.

 

[Rora]

I just read all 9 pages of this thread.

OP- I really hope this situation has a logical conclusion that us crazy DISers just missed. You're right- we all love a good mystery but this is very different than the safe in the basement mystery.

I hope your sister stays the night with you tonight.

I don't know what I think.. why would the ex be in her house? If he was, was their relationship so bad that he would've ran before he saw her? Anything of his still at the house?

What freaks me out is the empty phone. Just because there was no info, phone book, calls, whatever, doesn't mean it's new- all those things can be erased. But who would do that? Hmm.

Also, the whole dog thing is strange. If it was her ex, wouldn't the dogs have recognized him and not been upset when she got home? This leads me to believe that maybe it wasn't her ex.

Regardless, I hope the police figure out what is going on ASAP and I'm glad she got a restraining order against the ex, just in case.

Keep us updated!

 

[ZPT1022]

It sounds like you are all handling it as well as you can. I hope it all works out for your sister

 

[Shmily1]

OP, good luck to your sister. I know from experience how scary it is for your soon to be ex-DH to be after you... I fought mine for over 2 hours at gunpoint with my two kids watching before my friends got the police to go check on me. Kids and money drive them nuts so she is better to be safe than sorry. Please tell her to do whatever is needed to keep herself and her DS safe.

 

[Just Jan]

I was just thinking, since he kept writing yesterday how he couldn't afford child support, maybe he hoped to enter the house, steal and destroy any old financial bills, receipts, records that he hoped might still be stored at the house. Without the proof she needs X amount of dollars, he was hoping he might be able to get the child support dropped to a lower rate. Only DSis got home sooner than expected and he had to run out the door. Luckily, it didn't turn into a nasty confrontation.

Your post made me think of a situation I was in a few years sgo..
My ex had accumulated a huge debt. ($65,000).while I was In WDW with my youngest daughter. My oldest daughter was at home, preparing to go off to college.
While in the park one afternoon my ex called to say the house had been broken into and ransacked. Entry was gained through a kitchen window that faces the back yard and the screen was placed aside, not tossed (which he knows the screen can easily be popped. The dog was put into a downstairs bathroom instead of just let loose (he would have run into the street and been hit). Many obvious large ticket item had been stolen while my daughter left the house for 1 hour to have her hair cut. small, but valuable items were also taken that were in the garage ready to go to school, like Sterling silver Tiffany earrings (that he and his new wife gave her 2 mos earlieer as a HS graduation gift). Bassically had to know what the small blue box was. I also found it funny that my youngest gad a video camera and a money box in plain view that was not touched.
I have many friends in another town that are policemen and it is the general concenses that he was the culprit.

Anyways, not that anyone hasm but I have to reiterate what everyone has said,,,Do Not Rule Out The Ex!

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

She just called me back and we just talked about this. She told me she didnt think anything about it at the time, but when she got home today, she said the dogs ran to her and then ran to the front door and looked back at her. I think someone ran out when pulled in the garage.

Tell her to keep an eye on the dogs. If the cell phone owner knows the neighbors have been alerted to keep an eye out, the cell owner might come back and poison the dogs to make a future break in go undetected, especially if they bark a lot.

Yes, I watch to many crime drama's but my mom's dog was poisoned by a neighbor who didn't like dogs.

 

[mickaholic4077]

OP,I hope your sister is okay!!

 

[Bluestars]

If I were in that situation, and if it was the ex, I would agree to a lower child support amount and hope that he never comes near my child. I'm a whimp that way though. I would not want to battle a psycho.

It seems like someone was in the home looking for something or possibly installing surveillance like another poster suggested. Since it doesn't look like anything was taken, I don't think it was a random person or something would be out of place.

The fact that the cell phone had no history is very disturbing. That means it was either erased or brand new. Sounds like someone is covering their tracks.

OP, I hope it is none of these things and there is a logical explanation for the phone. But I would definitely be installing very good locks and some type of alarm system. If the dogs didn't stop someone from entering the house, they must have known the dogs would not bite. Scary.