My oldest DD is so sick

[MELSMICE]

Two weeks ago my oldest DD21 came down with the flu (influenza). She was down & out on Monday & then rallied for the rest of the week.

She was getting better over the weekend & the following Sunday started feeling lousy again. Went to the Dr. on Monday & was diagnosed with walking pneumonia. She was on the couch all week & started feeling better on Friday so she did a few things.

She started getting a sore throat yesterday & by this morning it was horrible. She went to immediate care thinking she might have strep. I told her to have them check for mono. Sure enough......she has mono.

The worst part about it, DH & I have been in Florida since last week & won't be home until very late Wednesday evening.

I feel like the worst mom in the world. My DD has been so sick & I am not there to take care of her. One of my other DD's has been tending to her (grudgingly), along with my in-laws & my neighbor, who is like a 2nd mom to her.

This is probably the only time I've been in Florida & can't wait to get home again.

 

[punkin]

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. I'm sure she'll be fine until you get home.

 

[MELSMICE]

Thanks punkin!

 

[krcit]

Oh no!! Hope she feels better soon.

 

[S. C.]

Prayers said for her a speedy recovery.

 

[MELSMICE]

Thanks all! I hope she recovers quick too.

 

[mommasita]

Sorry to hear that To her and you.

She probably will just rest and rest some more. That is the only thing really for the Mono.

I hope she heals quickly.

 

[Buckalew11]

Get well soon, "Oldestmouse"!!!

My oldest niece is away at college in PA and got sick 2 weeks ago. They kept running tests and finally said the mono test is postive. She is soo sick--I thought she was awfully puny in August before she went back! I'm very worried about her--she's in PA, with no family and no car.

I know Wednesday can't get here soon enough for you.

 

[kimmar067]

.... and here's hoping for a quick recovery....

 

[MELSMICE]

I have not talked to her yet today. I texted her last night to say good night & love you but she didn't respond. I'm assuming she was sleeping, but of course, because I'm a mom, all kinds of things start running through my head.

She is a senior in college so we're wondering how this needs to be handled as far as school. She is going to contact her professors to see what can be done. I have never called the college because, seriously, she's an adult, but because she is having such a hard time talking & you can barely understand her, I am going to call & see if I can speak to her advisor to see how this will be handled.

It would be horrible if she got an incomplete for the semester or something because of this. She's a good student & in the honors program, so it's not like she's trying to get out of finishing her college years......she's really sick. She can't be the first student this has happened to???????

 

[golfgal]

I have not talked to her yet today. I texted her last night to say good night & love you but she didn't respond. I'm assuming she was sleeping, but of course, because I'm a mom, all kinds of things start running through my head.

She is a senior in college so we're wondering how this needs to be handled as far as school. She is going to contact her professors to see what can be done. I have never called the college because, seriously, she's an adult, but because she is having such a hard time talking & you can barely understand her, I am going to call & see if I can speak to her advisor to see how this will be handled.

It would be horrible if she got an incomplete for the semester or something because of this. She's a good student & in the honors program, so it's not like she's trying to get out of finishing her college years......she's really sick. She can't be the first student this has happened to???????

In the case of a serious illness like this I doubt any of her profs or her adviser would think twice about having you call them to get things arranged. If your DH was in the hospital and couldn't talk, wouldn't you call his boss?

I hope she feels better soon.

 

[daughter_of_amid_chaos]

I am sorry she is so sick

Make sure you get a doctor's note because the school will probably ask for one confirming she has mono.

Usually if she gets an incomplete you have about a month to complete all the work and then the grade shows up on your transcript. The incomplete won't be removed but if she wants to apply to graduate school she an simply explain to them that she had mono and completed her work as soon as she was well enough. I had to do that and had no problems with grad school.

 

[MELSMICE]

I am sorry she is so sick

Make sure you get a doctor's note because the school will probably ask for one confirming she has mono.

Usually if she gets an incomplete you have about a month to complete all the work and then the grade shows up on your transcript. The incomplete won't be removed but if she wants to apply to graduate school she an simply explain to them that she had mono and completed her work as soon as she was well enough. I had to do that and had no problems with grad school.

Thank you. This is good to know as, well not 100% sure, she is considering grad school.

She has a doctor's note from last week because of the walking pneumonia. She goes back to the Dr. today & will be getting another note.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[RadioFanatic]

When I was a junior in college, I went to Venezuala for spring break. Stupidly drank a drink with ice - guess what I got? So I was out of school for three weeks and all of my professors worked with me so I still completed the semester. I even graduated a semester early! Hope your daughter feels better soon.

 

[AndreaDM]

Aww, that is the worst no matter how old they are! We were in New Orleans last year for my 40th birthday and my oldest DD called to say the youngest was throwing up and had a fever. She was only 6 at the time and I wanted to be home in the worst way! DH tried to get me to go out dancing and have fun, but I felt awful for having a good time when I knew how sick she was! DD20 was taking care of her, but it's still not like mom! Hope yours gets better soon! Seems to be a LOT of it going around right now.

 

[MELSMICE]

Aww, that is the worst no matter how old they are! We were in New Orleans last year for my 40th birthday and my oldest DD called to say the youngest was throwing up and had a fever. She was only 6 at the time and I wanted to be home in the worst way! DH tried to get me to go out dancing and have fun, but I felt awful for having a good time when I knew how sick she was! DD20 was taking care of her, but it's still not like mom! Hope yours gets better soon! Seems to be a LOT of it going around right now.

That's how I feel, even though she is 21 years old. Especially, because when I talk to her I can hear her voice cracking & a few times she has broken down & cried, which makes me feel horrible.

Again, I know she's an adult but it still makes me feel bad that I can't be there. I try to be kind of matter of fact on the phone & focus on how she can make herself comfortable & what she can do to try to get better instead of being weepy myself. That even makes me feel horrible because then it seems like I'm not being sympathetic.

 

[DebD4T]

That's how I feel, even though she is 21 years old. Especially, because when I talk to her I can hear her voice cracking & a few times she has broken down & cried, which makes me feel horrible.

Again, I know she's an adult but it still makes me feel bad that I can't be there. I try to kind of matter of fact on the phone & focus on how she can make herself comfortable & what she can do to try to get better instead of being weepy myself. That even makes me feel horrible because then it seems like I'm not being sympathetic.

It doesn't matter how old she is, you are still her mom and feel the need to mother her!!

I hope she feels better soon!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That's how I feel, even though she is 21 years old. Especially, because when I talk to her I can hear her voice cracking & a few times she has broken down & cried, which makes me feel horrible.

Again, I know she's an adult but it still makes me feel bad that I can't be there. I try to be kind of matter of fact on the phone & focus on how she can make herself comfortable & what she can do to try to get better instead of being weepy myself. That even makes me feel horrible because then it seems like I'm not being sympathetic.

I know how that is. My dd was sick 2 weeks ago and she was in a dorm room, so not even at home.

She calls me to say she has dysentary.Yea...she is a hypo.

The kicker is once they are feeling better they don't even call you and then you are still worrying about them and then you ring them up and they say, oh I am better.

Your dd sounds like she is really boogered up. I hope she feels better soon.

 

[gillep]

When I was in college if we were going to be out for an extended period of time we always had to coordinate with the Dean of the school in which we were studying (in my case the dean of the school of science) they deal with this a lot and will absolutly have a protocol in place for when your daughter gets better so that she can catch up. Please do not worry about calling for her, I understand that she is an adult and that she has been handling her own schooling (I did so as well) but right now she really can't, and she needs an advocate, and as her mom you are more than qualified to do that for her. I know that I would have been very worried about the impact of an extended illness on my schooling and would be able to rest and get better much easier if I knew that everything was being handled with the school. Good luck and I hope your daughter feels better soon!!!!