My night....(hmm, controversial?)

[Tigger&Belle]

I wonder if any of this even happened or if she's just and is now sitting back

 

[The Mayor]

Okay, at this point, say what you want.

You've made me feel like ****.

I did not intend this to be this way. If you knew me, you wouldn't have said this to me.

Have fun.

Got two words for you...common sense...next time you want to post something like this...try using yours.

 

[snowwite]

I have several thoughts.

First, the man should not have laid a hand on you. If he hadn't touched you, but just asked you for the food nicely, what would your reaction have been?

I think the $10 comment was rude. You should have ignored him and not said anything or told him "no". He was in the wrong to begin with, but it doesn't mean that you needed to continue the wrong.

I hardly think a lecture about lying to him would have been the right thing to do. He shouldn't have followed you--at that point he was probably pissed off.

Karma got your leftovers, I do believe.

I can't fault you for not giving the guy your food since he grabbed your arm, however, you didn't handle it well, either. There's no reason to not show respect for others. "There But for the Grace of God go I" I hope that none of us are ever in that man's shoes.

Very well said. AMEN!
OP I know that you feel that you were just trying to be funny after a stressful situation but it comes across as if you were being mean and teasing a starving person with your leftovers. I think that upsets most people when they read it.

 

[Magickndm]

Okay, at this point, say what you want.

You've made me feel like ****.

I did not intend this to be this way. If you knew me, you wouldn't have said this to me.

Have fun.

You must have known how this would be taken seeing how you worded it, right?
You came across as unbelievably heartless and crass.

 

[Pop Daddy]

are you sexy ?

 

[vivilasvegas]

are you sexy ?

I'll answer this last question....yes. I think it's my personality. but sorry, I guess I won't be starting anymore posts for a while!

 

[Bbgrizzle]

I'll answer this last question....yes. I think it's my personality.

 

[disneymom3]

Well, at least in this scenario he gets the food.

Oh, and by the way, you are not as witty as you think you are.

This is a sad thread, but alliecats, THAT was funny!

 

[lulugirl]

This is a sad thread, but alliecats, THAT was funny!

Gave me a chuckle too!

 

[vivilasvegas]

You've all been reported to the Mods.

 

[alliecats]

You've all been reported to the Mods.

I guess you are taking your toys and going home!

 

[The Mayor]

You've all been reported to the Mods.

OMG...that's a first...are you shaking Monkeyboy

 

[irishbosoxfan]

I grew up in an inner city and have to add that not all "homeless" people are actually homeless--I would be followed down the street by a person constantly being harassed for any number of things---"Can I get a cigarette"-"Do you have a dollar I can borrow"---"Know where I can get a cup of cofee" etc etc====And I have to admit that I wasn't always the nicest person I could be in those situations but it was exactly those situations that determined my demeanor--NO one wants to be grabbed by a stranger in the dark and I wouldn't care if it was a homeless person or not and whether I had leftovers or not---Or if they tried to give me some smile weak or not---

In the OP's case she may have used sarcasm as a defense mechanism which is highly plausible and unless anyone here can say they have been in the exact situation and they did it differently then we cannot judge----But my money is on if some strange guy grabbed you while walking down the street you wouldn't be running to join the feeding line at the local homeless shelter you would be looking for a cop

With all the flames the OP has received in regards to her post it should be of no surprise that the sarcasm has continued---I think we should look honestly at ourselves and what we would have truly done before we question the reaction she may have had

 

[vivilasvegas]

OMG...that's a first...are you shaking Monkeyboy

I guess that remark didn't convey my sarcasm either.

 

[vivilasvegas]

I grew up in an inner city and have to add that not all "homeless" people are actually homeless--I would be followed down the street by a person constantly being harassed for any number of things---"Can I get a cigarette"-"Do you have a dollar I can borrow"---"Know where I can get a cup of cofee" etc etc====And I have to admit that I wasn't always the nicest person I could be in those situations but it was exactly those situations that determined my demeanor--NO one wants to be grabbed by a stranger in the dark and I wouldn't care if it was a homeless person or not and whether I had leftovers or not---Or if they tried to give me some smile weak or not---

In the OP's case she may have used sarcasm as a defense mechanism which is highly plausible and unless anyone here can say they have been in the exact situation and they did it differently then we cannot judge----But my money is on if some strange guy grabbed you while walking down the street you wouldn't be running to join the feeding line at the local homeless shelter you would be looking for a cop

With all the flames the OP has received in regards to her post it should be of no surprise that the sarcasm has continued---I think we should look honestly at ourselves and what we would have truly done before we question the reaction she may have had

Thank you.

 

[NewJersey]

So my boyfriend and I are walking to the EL from Chili's, leftover package in hand. This homeless man, (or just down on his luck) grabs my arm and asks if he can buy my leftovers. I look at him and say "sure $10", so then he says he doesn't have any money. So of course I'm about to start this long conversation about the ramifications of telling lies, but my boyfriend drags me away. So we're walking, and I turn and look, and the guy is following us very closely, trying to intimidate us. I can tell he's going to grab my purse.
And then sheer panic. I realized he was going after the food!!!!!!

So finally I turn around and ask him if he thinks I'm a bleeping tourist!! (no offense) What are you gonna do, follow me home so I can make you a sandwich?? So he leaves....

At this point, my boyfriend and I are on the EL, feeling like the tough Chicago kids we are. We get off, we walk home. We think maybe we'll join the Guardian Angels and protect the streets.

So now we were going to split part of the leftovers. I ask him where are they?
We look at each other, and tear rolls slowly down his face and I realize, we left them on the train.

***edited to change title****

wow, you're so cool.


did that sarcasm come across clear enough?

 

[rparmfamily]

I grew up in an inner city and have to add that not all "homeless" people are actually homeless--I would be followed down the street by a person constantly being harassed for any number of things---"Can I get a cigarette"-"Do you have a dollar I can borrow"---"Know where I can get a cup of cofee" etc etc====And I have to admit that I wasn't always the nicest person I could be in those situations but it was exactly those situations that determined my demeanor--NO one wants to be grabbed by a stranger in the dark and I wouldn't care if it was a homeless person or not and whether I had leftovers or not---Or if they tried to give me some smile weak or not---

In the OP's case she may have used sarcasm as a defense mechanism which is highly plausible and unless anyone here can say they have been in the exact situation and they did it differently then we cannot judge----But my money is on if some strange guy grabbed you while walking down the street you wouldn't be running to join the feeding line at the local homeless shelter you would be looking for a cop

With all the flames the OP has received in regards to her post it should be of no surprise that the sarcasm has continued---I think we should look honestly at ourselves and what we would have truly done before we question the reaction she may have had

Please take off your blinders and look at every single posting in this thread. Once you have done this you will see why the sarcasm has continued. By the way she was not alone, she had her bf with her. If a strange guy aggressively grabbed my wife going down the street then I would remedy the situation and not leave my wife all alone to deal with this.

Rex

 

[tnkbl]

Shame on you vivilasvegas. Not much more to do in Chaiago than taunt a person who is down on their luck or homeless?
Probally if you would have given the man your food he would have left you alone.
Shame on you, I am sure your parents are very proud.
You should have know that posting this would bring a reaction, but I guess you like drama!

 

[Beth76]

I've been approached by a homeless man before in Chicago. It was late at night and we were leaving a club. I don't give homeless people money and we had to tell him no twice before he left us alone. Yes it scared me. Now if he had asked for my leftover I would have gladly handed them over in a second. He wouldn't have had to beg or offer money.

 

[southernbella]

There is an old cliche- Perception is everything/ perception is truth. It means, no matter how you meant something, if the majority of people took it another way, their perception is the truth. It may not seem fair, but if the majority is telling you you are being heartless, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate yourself.

I can tell you are young, so hopefully one day down the road, you'll get it. I was homeless once. I have had to ask strangers for a handout because I hadn't eaten in 3 days. When I could scrounge up enough money for an 89 cent taco at TB, I would eat that taco as slowly as I could just so I could stay in the store longer & maybe feel normal for a change. I knew that people made fun of me.

Life sucks when you are at the bottom. It was the hardest thing I have ever done just getting enough money & resources to be able to get out of that black hole. I am not ashamed of that time in my life because it helped make me the person I am. I pray that you have a family & a support system around you so you will never have to feel the humiliation of being alone & not knowing where you are going to sleep at night or how you are going to eat.

Sbella