my neighbor came over to my house and yelled at me for

[Alicnwondrln]

for driving to fast. I dont even know this man. It was around 830 I just dropped my kids off at school. This mana nd his family recently moved into the neighborhoodthis year I have lived her for over 5 years and never had any neighbor problems.

He rang my bell and just started yelling at me is that car yours you just drove by my house and and you were speeding I have 3 kids and a handicapped person living at my home and if you dont stop it your gonna be sorry and Im call the police on you
I said I was not even going 25 miles per hour he was like i dotn care and stormed off to his car and drove away



Well I called the police. I told them how he came to my home and started yelling at me and exactly what he said. The police were very surprised that a neihbor would approach me and not even intro himself and just start yelling at me. I ama step 9 driver the lowest for insurance rates in MA I have no tickets EVER and no accidents I also explain to the officer that I have 2 kids of my own a 5 year old and a 8 month old and I dont speed around the neighborhood. I am feeling very uncomfortable and I have to drive by this persons house to come and go I live at a dead end.

Well the cops were like we will go and speak with him and tellhim that he should not approach me again and if he has problems that he should call them
Well they called this afternoon and still there was no one home at his house. So they never spoke with him
I am feeling very uneasy about this as I feel very attacked and for no reason
The man never even let me say anything back to him and I dont appreciate him yelling me...
Thanks for letting me vent
sorry for spelling errors its late and um wiped

 

[Pete's Mom]

Sorry, to hear that Kelly. I probably would have just said, "Well, Merry Christmas to you too!"

 

[chadfromdallas]

"It wasn't me, *******." Shut door....case closed...

 

[Alicnwondrln]

chad I wished I had said that
I have been mad and upset all day
I feel unsafe like at anytime this man will show up at my home and yell at me
i told the police if he comes to my home again im calling them

 

[Pete's Mom]

"It wasn't me, *******." Shut door....case closed...

 

[mommytotwo]

I would also feel uneasy and wouldn't even want to see that guy outside of his house as I pass by. You know with an attitude like that, that he will most likely be watching you as you pass by his house for another excuse. I think you did a correct thing in calling the police to let them know what had happened before your neighbor says or does something weird again.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

well that why i called the police cuz you know eventually hes gonna call them and now they will already know about him coming over here and yelling at me

why do people have to bo so mean and well i cant say what else

 

[Jasminesmommy]

I would purposely drive fast now. And spit on him if he came to my door or push him down the stairs. 2 weeks ago I had a neighbor say my kids were to noisy. I live in a town house so we share a wall. She came and yelled they are too loud and bang all the time and we are so loud she can't hear her TV. I also watch 2 kids and she told me that was against the bylaws which I checked and doesn't say anything. She was watching through my windows and at the foot of my stairs before she came to yell at me that crazy woman. I now let my kids bounce off the walls. after 7pm they need to be good but they were always fine before. Now I am hoping she comes to my house so I can give her a piece of my mind. I wanted to before but I had kids at my house and wasn't going to make a scene and my husband wouldn't let me go to her house when they left.

 

[Imzadi]

Get a peephole plug & purposely NOT answer the door for this man. He sounds unhinged. Also, keep a bat by the door from now on, just in case. If you DO answer the door by accident, and he starts yelling, just slam the door in his face in the middle of the sentence.

You teach people how to treat you. He knows from this once that he can yell and get away with it. (At least this once.) I would have been dumbfounded too, & would have thought he'd at least wait for you to answer. Let him know the next time (and there probably WILL be a next time) that you just aren't going to politely stand there & take his verbal abuse.

 

[luvthatduke]

You did the right thing by calling the police.
We had our next-door neighbor come unhinged,
after living next door to my DH for 20+ years,
(we live in the house he grew up in, & he's been here 42 years).
We tried to "be nice" about his complaints,
but then he got physical.
We finally filed a complaint with the police.
They contacted him, but he didn't care.
So, they charged him.
He moved (answer to prayer).
Anyway, we learned our lesson.
If anyone harasses us in the future,
they will get "no" strikes.
The cops will be called first thing & let them handle it.
Our neighbor escalated things so rapidly,
we spent very little time outdoors,
couldn't be out in our yard, etc.
So, yes you definitely did right by informing the police.
God bless, I hope it all turns out well & nothing further develops.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Thanks everyone I was very upset yesterday
and will be following up with the police today

 

[poohandwendy]

What a jerk! Sounds like he is going to be a fun one to have around...I would tell him to "Bite me!" or something less polite. Probably not the 'right' approach, but I tend to have little patience for people who go off the handle without cause.

 

[auntpolly]

I think the guy's a jerk, too, but I gotta say I almost did the same thing he did. I believe you when you say you weren't speeding, but I've been tempted to follow people to their doors when I see them speeding down our street. We have no sidewalks. The limit is 25mph. We have little kids on bikes, senior citizens strolling, joggers, walkers, dog walkers, and everything in between and it really ticks me off to see people careening around corners not knowing whether or not a little kid has just fallen off his bike or a dog's leash has gone out into the street.

The guy shouldn't have lashed out at you, but he may be at the end of his rope. I know that this is a huge deal here in my town, because their are weekly letters to the editor from angry residents complaining about speeders in their neighborhoods. It's dangerous, and it's a valid complaint.

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, I don't agree with speeding, obviously, since it is against the law. But my suggestion to those of you with children &/or pets is to keep them in your yard. It is not the rest of the world's responsibility to watch out for your kid or pet who may be in the street. As a child, I wasn't allowed in the street, knew it, and didn't go in the street. The few times I did go in the street, I was reprimanded and got the message. I have a pet. We fenced in our yard, to the tune of about $3000, to keep the pet contained.

To the OP-smart move to call the police. If you do call them back, my suggestion would be to file a written complaint and start a paper trail. I would also suggest that if that man steps foot on your property again that you call and have him arrested for trespassing. What you want is witnesses, and it's good if the witness is a police officer. Quite frankly, if I saw the man walking in the direction of my house, I'd call the police because I'd be assuming he'd be coming to trespass and harass me again and I'd want the police there ASAP!

I would agree with the poster who said there are no second chances. I have neighbors across the street who just finihsed a 1 1/2 year long battle over a boundary that could have been rectified in about 1 month had the one neighbor listened to the attorney she contacted instead of trying to keep good neighborly relations with people who weren't interested in neighborly relations as much as they were interested in the 1 1/2 feet of property that was the area of contention.

My attitude about neighbors is that I'll be nice and neighborly and friendly, but don't think you will come onto my property or call my home and harass me for ANY reason. The police & my attorney will be involved IMMEDIATELY in that case, no questions, no second chances. There are many men in the world who are "tough guys" when it comes to delaing with a woman because they think she an be easily intimidated. Well, you were caught off guard the irst time. The next time, hit him with both barrels!

 

[Alicnwondrln]

ABSOLUTELY! I have 2 kids of my own and can understand his concern as there are no sidewalks in our area. BEfore you even get to his house there is an area where all the kids in 4 houses are always out in the street and I have never had aproblem with them. I can understand if he is at teh end of his rope but dont come to my house yelling at me and threatenign me with the police
I hate to say but the police where than impressed and probably have better things to do but I now feel unsafe and I bet they still never spoke with him. Which doesnt make me feel any better.

 

[auntpolly]

Well, I don't agree with speeding, obviously, since it is against the law. But my suggestion to those of you with children &/or pets is to keep them in your yard. It is not the rest of the world's responsibility to watch out for your kid or pet who may be in the street. As a child, I wasn't allowed in the street, knew it, and didn't go in the street. The few times I did go in the street, I was reprimanded and got the message. I have a pet. We fenced in our yard, to the tune of about $3000, to keep the pet contained.

So a 9 year old has to ride his bike through people's yards? We have to walk our dogs through people's yards? How about jogging? Am I allowed in the street then? We don't have sidewalks.

 

[auntpolly]

. I can understand if he is at teh end of his rope but dont come to my house yelling .

I agree with you 100%. That's why I didn't do it - I knew it was wrong. And people that do stuff like that usually have a screw loose and you need to be wary of them -- honestly, not blaming you in any way. I just thought it brought up a good point.

 

[poohandwendy]

I totally agree, definitely wrong to speed in a residential area (of all places)...however, you get further with honey than vinegar. His actions have done nothing to make the neighborhood safer. His actions have only caused a rift that will probably stick for quite some time.

 

[Christine]

I also want to reply that I can understand this man's frustrations (but certainly not his actions).

In my neighborhood, we also have no sidewalks. Fortunately, not many kids run around either. I live smack center in the street and the street goes downhill to a "T" intersection at the bottom of the hill. When most drivers get on the street, right about the point that they are in front of my house, they are at top speed. Most are "not" doing 25 mph. I would say that they are doing close to 40 mph. The biggest offender was the president of our HOA. I did not approach her directly. I just filed a complaint with the HOA that "some" neighbors were speeding in my general area. Not only is it dangerous, it is noisy and irritating. Sometimes I'm just sitting in the living room trying to be quiet and read a book and I hear the loud, speeding Hummer go by, the loud Isuzu Trooper (yes, I know them all). It is annoying as heck. People are gunning it. That's fine on a major thoroughfare--not fine in a neighborhood. Honestly, the president of the HOA did slow down. I'm not sure she even realized she was speeding. It's hard to commute for an hour (doing 60-70 mph) and then suddenly switch off to 25 mph.

As you can see, it makes me really angry. But he did the wrong thing by approaching you. I believe you when you say you weren't speeding, but I also doubt he would approach you just for the fun of it. Obviously he's very senstive for some reason and his points may be valid, if not his delivery.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

Holy Cow it sounds like that guys has problems of his own and he is taking it out on you.