My kids are such "model citizens".....

[imthatgirl]

i have to ask.....is it that you arent getting the reaction that you desire? do you expect them to do cartwheels and thank you profusely for providing this oppurtunity?
well, kids dont do that. they dont know how much disney costs, they dont know how much money mommy and daddy make and what is saved for this. they dont know that every kid in the world doesnt get to go.
all they know is they go to disney, theyve been a couple times and they will more than likely go a couple more.
so maybe its not that they dont want to go(because im having a hard time believing that) maybe its that they just arent showing the emotion that you want to see about going.

 

[vcgirl925]

Do you have someone you trust that can watch them for the week? Maybe just take you dd since she's young and leave the boys behind. That would certainly make them appreciate those trips and KNOW that when their parents tell them they won't take them, they mean business.

 

[Nie0214]

Do you have someone you trust that can watch them for the week? Maybe just take you dd since she's young and leave the boys behind. That would certainly make them appreciate those trips and KNOW that when their parents tell them they won't take them, they mean business.

And also scar your relationship with them for quite a while.

If my mother ran away to Disney with someone else's child and left me behind, I'd still be annoyed with it now.

 

[Narnia]

My boys have no intrest in disney and I gave them a chose because when I brought it up they all complained it was for girls even if I explained otherwise. They are waiting a year or two to go on a two-three week florida family trip. They wasnt to go to sea world,bushgardens,and universal.they are going to have the trip of a life time and not my trip. We camp alot and we love it . Theme parks are not for every kid nor is camping. I refuse to spent tons of money on a trip were kids will complain. I think kids should get an idea of what they would like to do. We NEED a goal, my kids really want to go to PEI and I might do that before Florida because PEI would cost less. They also want to go to british columbia but the drive is way too long so the kids know we won't be able to go there.

 

[vcgirl925]

SOMETIMES, just MAYBE...

The problem arises when kids get BIG gifts too early in lifer (like the PRIVELEDGE of seeing Disney). They don't get to "look forward to it." Some kids will see the castle before they know what the castle is. They meet the princesses and heroes when they are one year old and then go to Disney every year after that. Maybe it becomes "old hat." It may be fun to them but not a big deal. We took my daugther for the first time when she was 5 (still sooner than I ever planned but we had a great opportunity and had to take it). She was amazed to see all the things she had only seen in movies and t.v.. She was so impressed with everything and remembers it all so well. So this year we are going back and we now have a 2 year old. We plan on going more often from this point forward. Will my two year old appreciate it as much over the years? Not sure. If she doesn't, maybe it's personality, maybe it will be the fact that we took her before she dreamed and dreamed and dreamed of it.

My older daughter was the last of her friends to get an American Girl doll (she was 6 - still younger than the recommended age). But she LOVES, LOVES, LOVES, the ones she has. Many of her friends had them at age 2 (not the
Bitty Babies, the actual dolls). Those $100.00 dolls were slung to the floor and taken for granted and treated like any other doll. I'm glad we waited until she could appreciate the doll before purchasing one.

I'm just saying - I know it's hard in our society - to hold off on the "special" things in life. I know that younger siblings, cousins, and friends sometimes get big treats by default (from being with older children). But maybe, just maybe, our kids aren't ungrateful, they just get special "things" too soon. It takes some years before they are truly appreciative people.

That's a good theory. I've always wanted to buy my kids everything because my parents didn't have much money when i was a kid. But thank GOD my husband has the sense to not allow it. He always told me that we don't want them to walk into a store, see something they want, and throw a fit if they don't get it. I'm SO glad he did because my kids are so well behaved in stores. Sometimes they ask for something, sometimes they don't, sometimes they get something when they ask and other times they don't. So nothing is ever expected. I have dear friends who spoiled their kids rotten and they are now monsters (i mean that in the most loving way) in stores. My friend now says how she regrets getting him so much stuff, but she still does it.

My kids have gone to disney every year since they've been born and they are 2 and 4. My dd doesn't remember the last trip but my son does and he's still very excited to go. Maybe we'll start going every other year so this doesn't happen to us.

 

[vcgirl925]

I think kids today are too involved with technology to the exclusion of a lot of worthwhile experiences. There is no more free time, everything is scheduled in play dates, monitored and evaluated. I’m glad I didn’t grow up in this era. I yanked DD out of that world and we have so much fun, the secret ingredient is enthusiasm.

Try somewhere else, I can understand how it may not be everybody’s cup of tea. While DD loves WDW, her favorite trip of all time was camping in a tent and canoeing.

That is a great point too. My ds4 is the only one of his friends that doesn't have a nintendo ds, wii, or some other electronic game. He doesn't ask for them though, so i'm not going to push it on him. I did buy him that smartcyle game system which is a bike that they pedal while they play different games. And i only bought that because i wanted to keep him active in the cold winter months. I'm not going to keep my ds from electronics, but i'm certainly not going to encourage it either.

My kids FAVORITE vacation is anywhere with a pool and/or a swimming hole or river with rocks to throw into it. Kids really don't need to be impressed.

 

[vcgirl925]

And also scar your relationship with them for quite a while.

If my mother ran away to Disney with someone else's child and left me behind, I'd still be annoyed with it now.

I didn't say to go with the neighbors kid, i said just bring their youngest dd. If they don't want to go and the parents do, then don't bring them. Also, since she said that her husband gives them threats that he won't take them and they call his bluff. Maybe if he follows through with his threat then they'll believe him.

 

[MonicaInFlorida]

My grandmother was always into clothes and jewelry and makeup. I was a little bit of a tomboy and really was never into those things. She "shared" her passion with me - but she wasn't interested in ME, she wanted ME to be interested in her - and thought I was ungrateful for not sharing her passion. But she certainly never had any gratitude for the effort I did make.

My husband, in one of those stupid guy moments, bought me a joystick for OUR computer so I could play video games. To his credit, he thought I might actually LIKE flight simulator (I didn't - he did). It was his lesson in "people aren't grateful if you give them things because YOU want them."

Disney isn't about your kids for you, its about you for you....why should they be grateful for something YOU want. I get petulant just reading your posts ti this thread, and I'm a grown up who likes Disney and doesn't have to travel with you.

Wow. Way to project your hurt feeling about your grandmother onto somebody who had nothing to do with it. She's not your grandmother... get a grip.

 

[fakereadhed]

Wow. Way to project your hurt feeling about your grandmother onto somebody who had nothing to do with it. She's not your grandmother... get a grip.

Here we go...hold on to your Mickey Ears...

 

[robsmom]

I agree that it is great if you can let your kids have input into vacations. I don't know if I will let my son have the sole decision (although I might!!) but i already talk to him about ideas and get input. I also make sure he understands that they cost money and that we can't afford everything. We talk about vacations we have done and what we each liked or disliked about them, where we would want to go back to, etc. Then we talk about if you could go anywhere or see anything what would you like to see. On the top of his list is Italy. I have told him that we will try to do that but that right now Europe is really expensive due to the exchange rates so we need to think of other places. He really wanted to see Washington D.C. so i suggested that we could do this instead of spending money on a birthday party. He jumped at the offer and we went for a weekend. We did the disney transatlantic last year and hawaii the year before and we all ranked both of those vacations above the parks so in November we are doing the Western cruise and just grabbing 2 days in the parks. This month we went to Williamsburg and he really had no input in that, was just told this is what we are doing!!

 

[Vijoge]

It's kinda sad that your kids were "over" WDW after only their 1st trip.

We took DS to WDW when he was 9. He had a good time but has never wanted to go back. We've asked many times but it's just not something he's interested in.

We also took him on a cruise when he was 11. He never wanted to go on another cruise, either. We did talk him into another cruise last Feb but even before we were off the ship he told me he didn't think he'd ever go on another cruise. Just not his cup of tea.

Not everyone loves Disney as much as some of us. Some people don't like WDW at all! I know. . hard to believe, but it's true.

 

[noodleknitter]

Wow. Way to project your hurt feeling about your grandmother onto somebody who had nothing to do with it. She's not your grandmother... get a grip.

analogy
One entry found.

analogy


Main Entry:
anal·o·gy Listen to the pronunciation of analogy
Pronunciation:
\ə-ˈna-lə-jē\
Function:
noun
Inflected Form(s):
plural anal·o·gies
Date:
15th century

1: inference that if two or more things agree with one another in some respects they will probably agree in others2 a: resemblance in some particulars between things otherwise unlike : similarity b: comparison based on such resemblance

Get it?

 

[crisi]

Wow. Way to project your hurt feeling about your grandmother onto somebody who had nothing to do with it. She's not your grandmother... get a grip.

Thank you Dr. Phil. I'm sure you put that psychology PhD to work in psychoanalyzing a complete stranger over the internet.

 

[fakereadhed]

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[noodleknitter]

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LOL, no fair deleting!

 

[MightyMom]

Not everyone loves Disney as much as some of us. Some people don't like WDW at all! I know. . hard to believe, but it's true.

Yeah...I know not everyone is a Disney fan......but it's still kinda that a kid would be "over" WDW after the first trip. I dunno.... it just seems kinda sad that the kids were so unimpressed that they didn't want to go back. But...even kids ....are entitled to their own opinions.

BTW.... I was born in Joliet!!!! I haven't been back there in 20+ years..... but I've heard it's changed a lot....

 

[bonzarella]

gosh, did this thread turn ugly fast . OP-I think I understand what you were trying to get across . pm me if you want

 

[MonicaInFlorida]

Thank you Dr. Phil. I'm sure you put that psychology PhD to work in psychoanalyzing a complete stranger over the internet.

Yes, of course, if you're behaving badly, it's Dr. Phil's fault. Way to deflect criticism of your nasty behavior.

 

[Cruz91]

This thread has, as do many others, gone waaaay off track. But since we're in the weeds, I guess I'll go there with you.

To me, the point is not whether the kids want to go or don't want to go. The point is that Disney represents something very innocent, very magical, devoid of the cynicism that plagues most of our day to day lives. We started taking our kids when they were 4 and 2. They are now 6 and 4 and we have our 6th trip scheduled for Nov. They are as excited now, and maybe more, than they were for the first trip. When they decide they don't want to go anymore, I will be crushed. Not crushed that they don't want to do what I want to do for vacation, but crushed because they may have started losing the innocence, losing the magic, and embracing the cynicism. Crushed because they're growing up, which has a whole host of other implications, not the least of which includes the fact that I too am getting older! Crushed that this phase of our lives is drawing to an end.

 

[noodleknitter]

Yes, of course, if you're behaving badly, it's Dr. Phil's fault. Way to deflect criticism of your nasty behavior.

You are still not getting that whole "analogy" thing, are you?

Or is it that you can't deal with someone who has an opinion different than your own. The internet, by nature, is like that.

I don't always agree with Crisi, but she is a bright, to the point poster whom I respect. You, btw, were not exactly the picture of social grace, in case you haven't read your own post.