My In-laws are worse than your In-laws!

[SydSim]

Angelrose:. I as well have been blessed, Twice! 2 great DIL's And my 2 sons
Aren't too bad. . . Oh, either!

God Bless you and your family.

I thoroughly believe that good daughters-in-law are made from good sons, and good sons are made from good mothers. So that is a direct reflection on you!

 

[pigletgirl]

I haven't spoken to my MIL since April 2011, best decision I ever made!!! She is a horrible, selfish, vapid, nasty *****. My DH barely has contact with her, talks to her maybe once a month, she only calls him when she needs something (as in, take out her garbage, clean her bathroom, **** like that. IDIOT woman). She was horrible to me over the years and finally I snapped - that day in April she called me while I was driving (it's illegal in our province to talk on a cell phone while driving and back then I didn't have blue tooth, which I do now) so anyway I didn't answer. She took this as a sign that I was avoiding her (not unusual) and left me 2 horrible voicemails about how the last time I saw her I was rude to her (not true, I was always civil) and how I should be nicer to her etc.

I flipped. Left her an equally nasty voicemail, told her to go **** herself and never spoke to her again. BEST DECISION EVER!!! Yes, it was awkward for dh for a while but we have never let it affect our marriage and now he just finds it amusing that his mother is still trying to manipulate the situation. She barely sees our kids (her doing, not mine) and she is just digging her own grave. Good. I can't wait to dance on when she's gone

Wow.....

Angry and bitter much? You are going to be happy once she's gone?

I will tell you once she is gone, the root of bitterness will still be there.

 

[dyna]

1st let me say my DH was raised by his grandparents not his parents.

My Inlaws never learned how to stand on their own 2 feet they was always a dollar short an a day late. The killer was when they called needing 20.00 for light bill an I find out they went to dinner an a movie leaving the 2 youngest kids at home to go without dinner that night the kids was young teens. Nevermind at the time DH is making 5.00 to much a month to get food stamps an we have 2 babies under the age of 2. This was when I started telling Inlaws I'll go to pay the bill with you but I not just handing you the money.

There was much more than money troubles going on tho, It slowly came out that FatherinLaw had sexually abused all 9 other kids in the family....even went so far as to keep them home from school 1 at a time so he would be able to abuse them.
Even worse by the time I was in the family he had started on GRANDKIDS (I did not know till after his death.)

He was a busy man fathered 10 kids, was bisexual, had a mistress too. And still found time to abuse children!!!!!!!!!!

Mom was the bread winner in the family an dad stayed homed took care of house an abused children every chance he got. When he did go to work he found another woman an that relationship lasted till he died. But the worst of it was the POOR KIDS.

 

[fortwildernessishome]

1st let me say my DH was raised by his grandparents not his parents.

My Inlaws never learned how to stand on their own 2 feet they was always a dollar short an a day late. The killer was when they called needing 20.00 for light bill an I find out they went to dinner an a movie leaving the 2 youngest kids at home to go without dinner that night the kids was young teens. Nevermind at the time DH is making 5.00 to much a month to get food stamps an we have 2 babies under the age of 2. This was when I started telling Inlaws I'll go to pay the bill with you but I not just handing you the money.

There was much more than money troubles going on tho, It slowly came out that FatherinLaw had sexually abused all 9 other kids in the family....even went so far as to keep them home from school 1 at a time so he would be able to abuse them.
Even worse by the time I was in the family he had started on GRANDKIDS (I did not know till after his death.)

He was a busy man fathered 10 kids, was bisexual, had a mistress too. And still found time to abuse children!!!!!!!!!!

Mom was the bread winner in the family an dad stayed homed took care of house an abused children every chance he got. When he did go to work he found another woman an that relationship lasted till he died. But the worst of it was the POOR KIDS.

Your FIL was a truly disgusting man.

However, equally disturbing is the actions of his own children. If I read this correctly, he had 10 children and would alternate keeping them home from school to abuse them. If they were abused by their Father why in the world did they leave their own children (his Grandchildren) around him unsupervised so he could abuse them as well.???

If that is what happened, that REALLY makes me angry!!! Truly disturbing......

 

[NFLDERS]

I thoroughly believe that good daughters-in-law are made from good sons, and good sons are made from good mothers. So that is a direct reflection on you!

Nice sentiment, Thank you. .

Your location reads East Coast?

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

I thoroughly believe that good daughters-in-law are made from good sons, and good sons are made from good mothers. So that is a direct reflection on you!

I just shared this with both of my sons and my future daughter-in-law.

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

OOH man this is my kind of thread where do I begin....

Every 4th of July we have a big party - MIL ALWAYS brings vodka in a Hawiann punch container, I've asked her before not to do that as one of the kids could EASILY pour themselvs a drink, she doesn't listen.

At our wedding she wrote us a check for $12.50. That is not a typo. We had a table out with a self serve bar, well she self served herself with the full bottles of vodka, she hid them in her purse and took them home.

We had her babysit the kids when they were 3 and 1 - my three old told me Grandma was hiding in the pantry eating junk she brought for herself, because she didn't want to share with the kids.

One time she spent the night and wore a completely see through nightgown, Just what every man wants to see, his mother in lingerie.

I have so many other stories - my favorite is that she wears ankle bracelets UNDER her pantyhose.

 

[loveshak22]

I posted my MIL horror stories on this thread earlier (either October or December timeframe) but I have to say that recently our relationship is improving!! She was going through a tough time in her life and I was extremely frustrated by the way she treated me and more importantly my DH. However, now that she is in a better place she's been much better to those around her. While her unhappiness is not an excuse to be mean and angry to everyone else, things have become a lot better and I'm happy for that

I wanted a good relationship with her since we got married and didn't think it would ever happen when like a year into our marriage I would call her to see if she wanted to go out to a movie or dinner and she always turned me down and then told my DH it wasn't her responsibility to hang out with me! Ouch! I had plenty of friends but was trying to be nice and build a relationship. I guess it took 7 years but I'm happy we're making some steps forward!

 

[scbelleatheart]

I feel so sad for all of you! That you hate your in laws. They raised your husband/ wife. They must have some redeeming values to make you love your spouse?

 

[Jennasis]

I feel so sad for all of you! That you hate your in laws. They raised your husband/ wife. They must have some redeeming values to make you love your spouse?

One has nothing to do with the other. It's my DH that my MIL treats like garbage. The fact is that he turned out as well as he did DESPITE who raised him...not because of it.

 

[ZachnElli]

One has nothing to do with the other. It's my DH that my MIL treats like garbage. The fact is that he turned out as well as he did DESPITE who raised him...not because of it.

Same with my DH, he is nothing like the mother who raised him. When my DH went back to school to finally get his college degree at 43, he was told he was being vain. And thats the nicest thing she had to say.

 

[MinnieLovesMickey12]

I don't have any stories about my current MIL. She is a pill head and druggie and a mooch. I have only met her once in 7 years and only then she had stopped by to try and bum some money for drugs from DH.

Most of the time when she calls Dh doesn't even answer.

She was a horrible drunk when DH was growing up and the kids had to take care of themselves, feed themselves, get themselves to school, etc. And when Dh was old enough to work at 16 she would take most of his money to buy booze and get drunk with her alcoholic husband.

She is a total loser and has been her whole life. Dh turned out to be an amazing man DESPITE her not because of her.

I am thankful she leaves us the hell alone. I would be rude if she were around too much.

Funny thing is my first MIl was also a fall down sloppy drunk who hated life, hated her kids, wanted to die all the time. She was a real winner. Both my MIL's have been winners.

 

[Turn the Page]

My MIL was alright when I was still married to her worthless son, over involved but ok. It was after the divorce when things started going downhill.

The ex had supervised visitation at their house, which he rarely used. He had four suicide attempts inside of three weeks that the in laws didn't tell me about so the ex could see her that one time in a period of three months or so he got off his butt to show up. To this day, about 4 years later, they still say they didn't have to tell me about it. I had no reason to know because they were there to supervise. They didn't tell me about that until after the ex died.

At the funeral they put up pictures of DD all over the place and carved her name on his headstone in an effort to make him look better.

Now DD and I live out of state and they come to see her a few times a year. They stay for 36 hours each time and have been up once in the last year. They don't understand why I won't let them take DD out of state to their home for a week. Their daughter lives about three hours from us and they have been to see her and her kids several times without bothering to let me know they were in the state let alone coming the extra few hours to see DD. They refuse to acknowledge my existence and I haven't spoken to them in about two years.

I'm sorry, but you used my kid like a pawn to make your family look better, you won't get off your butt for more than a few hours a year to see my daughter and you haven't acknowledged my existence in years. Heck no you can't take my daughter 12 hours away for a week. I. DO. NOT. TRUST. YOU.

 

[lovin'fl]

I posted my MIL horror stories on this thread earlier (either October or December timeframe) but I have to say that recently our relationship is improving!!

I may have posted in here before too (will go back and look). But my relationship has also gotten much better with my MIL. We lived out of state (from our family who are all in MD) for most of our marriage and moved back in 2007. We had a major blow up the day we (the kids and I...DH came later after closing on our house in NC) moved back to MD. It was BAD and we didn't talk for a couple weeks but worked it out and things just keep getting better. It has helped that we live nearby and don't have to stay at their house for 2-5 days (like we used to when we visited) or them in our house. Really that was the root of our problems (they felt that they had charge of our kids when under their roof and would not let us parent our way...that led to much drama). I have come to really love my MIL. She, in some ways, gives me more mothering than my own mom. I am glad she's here and will miss her one day when she's not.

DH has 2 sisters too and the one closer in age is easier for me to deal with too. The other one (his eldest sister) lives just down the road from us and that's the inlaw I have most trouble with as everything always has to be her way. There are still tensions on that front and my solution is 'small doses'.

 

[disneydee6]

I have spent about 3 days reading this thread from beginning to end. Wow. The lengths people go through to make their family (or future family) feel unwelcome, and be downright nasty. So sorry for those that try and deal w some real basket cases.
My ex-Dbf mother refused to meet me, after we were together for over 2 years. He would go above and beyond for this woman. Twice while I was with him she texted him, "come to the hospital, your brother was in an accident" no further detail, just come. So of course, he would leap into action, just to find out both were very very minor accidents. I'm sorry, why would u not tell him whether it was minor or if it was 'life or death'. Because she loved the drama. My Dbf would be in panic that his brothers life is at stake, when he had some bruises.
It was a constant of him running to her side whenever she beckoned. One year he took off of work for her birthday, but after planning for my birthday, called on that day to say work came up and he needed the money. Not a pleasant bday for me, or him.
We had a large age difference, so she had reservations about our relationship, but you would think after such a long time together, she would learn to accept it. Eventually, I came to my senses and realized that my Dbf was not sticking up for me, otherwise he would have made our meeting actually happen.
But I read some of these, and I see some stories of their spouses sticking up to their mother/father/sibling for the rudeness. Be grateful you have such a great partner, cuz it makes me happy I dumped that loser.
(Btw my wonderful breakup line, "you always told me you were worried Id leave you for someone younger. Who knew that you'd be leaving me for your mother? Hope you two are happy together")

 

[kimmyann]

Mine is my SIL (husband's side), I will just give a list of some of the things she has said to me or stopped speaking to me for over the years. We do not speak now because she is angry again at me, but I'm not sure why.....again.

Started 22 years ago with the first comment..

- "Your pregnant? Your having an abortion right?" (DH & I were young & not married)

- She stopped speaking to us again because she "should have had the first grand daughter". She went on to have two boys.

- She stopped speaking to us for three years because I would not give her my son's port a crib when she had her second child. My mother bought it for me & we still used it every weekend when my best friend came over with her baby.

- During these periods she will not get together for holidays at all. She has been sick every Christmas for years.

We did get along for a couple of years & would hang out & go on outings together but then she stopped talking again when my mother died. I don't know why & I actually asked her about it all recently & she would not tell me or give me a straight answer. I saw her face to face at a viewing for one of my DH's old friends mother & she would not even acknowledge me when I tried to speak to her. I have never done anything to my knowledge to her! Come to find out from my other SIL, she talks about us awful & is still mad over the port a crib. Needless to say, I have now made it very known that we have nothing left to say & I refuse to even be around her at any point if I can help it. She's just plain mean & now brags to my MIL how she is bi-polar. It's just frustrating because I feel bad for my husband. He & his brother don't even speak because of her & I know it hurts him & there's not a darn thing I can do to change it.

 

[sbtrfly74]

My husband had been in the hospital for a few days with a sore back (they did not visit) was eventually diagnosed with Stage Four Cancer. My husband phoned to tell his parents. They (live five minutes from the hospital) came to pick up the his car keys to move his car which was in their driveway(long story) and then went out to dinner. I had to go down to the entrance of the hospital to give them the keys.

Can anyone top this??????

I actually hope that NOBODY can top this. Cold is just a joke. Hope your DH is doing well now.

Ive had 2 batcrazy MIL's, Ive posted one story before but forgot a few things until I saw this thread....

My DH (only son) was in the ICU for 6 weeks after a bad car accident, my MIL worked about 5 mins away as a Kindergarten teacher so came by after about a week on her lunch break to see him. He was unconscious since day 3 on a ventilator and her first question to me when she saw him was "Is the reason you dont let me drive the kids anymore is because I have a convertible?"

Nope its because the one time we let her drive the kids she put the top down in 30 degree weather before getting out of the driveway so we stopped her and asked her what she was doing... but they asked me to.
And the numerous accidents, too many to count, and we saw her pass a car on the right shoulder to catch up to us..... she went out a month later and bought a Taurus, nope still wouldnt let her drive the kids anywhere.

I had to tell the doctors not to tell her information anymore because she would get there before me and question them and forget what they said... so I would get " ummm something about a trach and I think they said blood transfusion" seriously thats all you remember? Yeah she was kinda po'ed they wouldn't tell her anything anymore, which they really werent suppose to, to begin with.

Then I found out that she was taking off work using DH in the hospital as the reason to just stay home and drink. I only found out when relatives would call everyday asking if she came by to see him... nope havent seen her in weeks.

Due to her drinking my DH would eventually get mad and yell at her, then 3 days later call crying that she needs help and can you please take me to the hospital. (I told him after the 3rd or 4th time just tell her to call 911 and hang up) The last time she did a 3 day detox she came to stay with us for a week (joy). My DH made her cancel her cruise and she complained for about 4 days she needs to go home then the last 3 days cried that she couldnt go home and needed to be taken care of... not! I followed her home at a distance to watch her go to the liqueur store... then I was done with it all.


ex-MIL#1

We lived on her farm that had a pool store and a 400 ft driveway. My DH at the time was working 30 mins away at the other store. I went to pick up my kids off the bus when a guy stopped by to ask me if my DH needed any help for the summer which he had done the previous year. I get home to my DH yelling at me on the phone asking "who was that guy at the end of the driveway talking to me?" I guess MIL had to call him to let him know.

When DH passed away from lymphoma (not lung cancer) MIL told my two kids 5 & 9 at the time that I killed him because I smoked.....

 

[worm761]

I feel so sad for all of you! That you hate your in laws. They raised your husband/ wife. They must have some redeeming values to make you love your spouse?

My MIL treats my husband like crap and ONLY wants anything to do with him since we had a child. Before that she never bothered visiting and only called on holidays and birthdays.

She treats my son like crap. She insults me every chance she gets whether it is true or not. She went so far as to say that I should not have gone to my sister's wedding and we should not have allowed my daughter to be her flower girl because we were not also spending the following week with them.

She expects everyone around her to do exactly what she says and we don't do what she says therefore she is nasty to us as a whole. Including the precious grandchild that she claims to love so much.

 

[sbtrfly74]

Originally Posted by scbelleatheart View Post
I feel so sad for all of you! That you hate your in laws. They raised your husband/ wife. They must have some redeeming values to make you love your spouse?

Nope my DH raised himself, his DD was killed when he was six. She remarried her husbands friend a year later when he was seven and ignored the crap out of him after that. Oh but she has PTSD from the love of her life being killed.

When he was 12 she left him at home on xmas so she and her new DH could go on vacation. She would lock him out of the house in ele. school during the summer when it was 90 degrees outside so they could have a mid day romp. They divorced when my DH was 21 and he couldn't ever move out of the house, when he did she would get drunk and fake suicide attempts so he would move back in.... I could go on.

 

[loveshak22]

I may have posted in here before too (will go back and look). But my relationship has also gotten much better with my MIL. We lived out of state (from our family who are all in MD) for most of our marriage and moved back in 2007. We had a major blow up the day we (the kids and I...DH came later after closing on our house in NC) moved back to MD. It was BAD and we didn't talk for a couple weeks but worked it out and things just keep getting better. It has helped that we live nearby and don't have to stay at their house for 2-5 days (like we used to when we visited) or them in our house. Really that was the root of our problems (they felt that they had charge of our kids when under their roof and would not let us parent our way...that led to much drama). I have come to really love my MIL. She, in some ways, gives me more mothering than my own mom. I am glad she's here and will miss her one day when she's not.

DH has 2 sisters too and the one closer in age is easier for me to deal with too. The other one (his eldest sister) lives just down the road from us and that's the inlaw I have most trouble with as everything always has to be her way. There are still tensions on that front and my solution is 'small doses'.

Glad things are improving in your family as well!!!