My first dream about my Dad.

[crazyme5kids]

I had my first dream about my father since he passed away (on Dec.1,2005) the other night. It wasn't earth shattering, just silly. I thought I would have dreams about him right away but didn't. I wondered if it was normal not to dream about a loved one.

Shortly after he died my mother mentioned how it was strange she didn't have any dreams about him. When I told her about my dream, she said she wakes up with a feeling that she was dreaming about him, but can't remember the dream. She just knows she was having a dream about him.

So, if you have lost a parent or loved one, how long was it before you had a dream about them?

 

[vellamint]

My dad has been gone since 1989 and I dont think I have dreamt of him more than a few times...that I remember anyway. It was a great feeling when I woke up.

My mom has been gone since 2003 and I have not had one dream with her in it yet

 

[NoodlesTheRabbit]

My dad passed away on Dec. 10, 2005. I have dreamed about him maybe about once a week, but it didn't start until after the first month or so. My mom dreams about him almost every night now. She dreams that he's alive and she tells him what is going on here. In every dream, he's still alive and telling my mom he's ok. I am really convinced it's his way of still talking to us.

 

[mckryan]

I think I've had one dream about my dad since he passed away in August. Weird thing was we were sitting on the stairs talking to him through a air vent! LOL He was telling us he was okay and with my grandparents, and I could hear them in the background. Very weird when you sit and think about it, but it felt really real when I woke up and remembered. I really wish I could have more dreams about him to know how he's doing. I know he's in a better place and feeling much better than he did in the last couple years of his life dealing with emphysema.

 

[slk537]

I think it took me about 6 months before I dreamed about my mom. I cherish these dreams. In most of them, we are hanging out and doing things together and I am usually worried that she is going to remember her accident and that she died and go away again. In one dream, I was irritated with her because she told me she didn't really die and now she had decided to come back to us. I was happy she was back, but only a bit annoyed that she had made us go through the whole funeral and such. My mom did have a sense of humor, but not quite that caliber...!!

When I dream about Mom, she and Dad are still together. They were in love and happy up through the day of her accident and he took it very hard. But now, four years later, he has finally found someone wonderful to share his life with and is getting married. Yet, in my dreams of Mom, Dad's fiance doesn't exist. Which I guess is a good thing, eh?

I wish all of you happy and ordinary and funny and warm dreams of your loved ones!!! I always feel so warm and loved when I dream about my mom. It truly is the closest I get to being able to hug her and be with her and talk to her.

 

[Nancy]

I think I've had one dream about my dad since he passed away in August. Weird thing was we were sitting on the stairs talking to him through a air vent! LOL He was telling us he was okay and with my grandparents, and I could hear them in the background. Very weird when you sit and think about it, but it felt really real when I woke up and remembered. I really wish I could have more dreams about him to know how he's doing. I know he's in a better place and feeling much better than he did in the last couple years of his life dealing with emphysema.

I think it is very telling that you dremt about him talking to you through an AIR VENT and then you go on to state he had breathing problems....maybe his way of letting you know that he doesn't have those anymore and his air vent is clear.

 

[crazyme5kids]

Last year my mother told me that an old boyfriend of mine had died. She said he passed away when I was moving back east, which was 12 years ago. She said she didn't tell me because she didn't want me to be upset. Now, what upset me was that I always thought I would see him again, just once. I always thought I would meet him and tell him about my kids and husband. He was my first real passionate love. I had had other boyfriends before and after him, but none as passionate.

I finally had a dream about him, maybe three months after I found out he had died. In my dream, I was at a party. My friend came up to me and said, "Michael is here." I said, "He can't be here, he's dead." She said, "No, no he is here! Come see.". So I went with her and there he was. He looked a little older and his hair was shorter (it was long when we were going out), but it was him!

I was able to tell Michael about my life. I can't tell you how good I feel to this day that I was able to see Michael one more time. The mind and dreams can be a wonderful thing.

 

[Chris2597]

My dad died 11 yrs ago....He had been terribly sick and I was his main caregiver as my mom was still in the process of recovering from a stroke..I was very stressed dealing with all of the business matters, family disputes, caring for mom, and keeping a margin of normalcy for my family....to say the least I was stressed....I missed my dad but never dreamed of him. One night I dreamed that my family was at a large home show in the dome and I turned and there he was in a brillantly white outfit, healthy and happy looking, actually glowingly happy....he extended his arms for me and hugged me, but I didnt feel his touch, he spoke to me but I couldnt remember what he said ....just that I felt comforted and relieved....I woke up, remembered in detail everything in the dream (except what he said) and was like a new person, the stress was gone and everything seemed to start to fall into place...I have only dreamed of my dad on a few occasion since, but the dreams are very vague, unlike the first one.

 

[DebbieB]

My Mom died 9/30/05. I wondered the first month why I didn't have any dreams about her. Then around 11/1, I was in California on a business trip when I had a dream about her. I dreamed I was sitting on the end of her bed and she came to me and said she would visit me every once in a while. I was really shook up when I woke up, especially being in a hotel room. After that I had dreams every once in a while but not lately. The funniest thing is we were trying to get her to sign some savings bonds so that we could get them cashed in about a week before she died. She wasn't up to it. In 2 or 3 dreams, one of the first things I said was "I have to get you to sign those bonds". I finally got them cashed in about a month ago, after I was named executor of the estate.

 

[mckryan]

I think it is very telling that you dremt about him talking to you through an AIR VENT and then you go on to state he had breathing problems....maybe his way of letting you know that he doesn't have those anymore and his air vent is clear.

Oh wow, Nancy, I never thought about that. Very interesting! Dad died at home with Hospice care, and he died around 1:30-2:00 AM while Mom was asleep. She woke up and the only way she could describe it was to say that he looked illuminated in the dark. Also, his oxygen nose thing was off and on the side of his bed. I've read stories since then about people on oxygen dying and people finding their oxygen at their sides.

 

[agnes!]

I had some sort of a dream about six months ago about my grandmother...whom I never met. She died before I was born. The 'dream' was *very* vivid and she told me to do something (which shall remain private in this forum). I have never had any other dreams with her in them.
She's been dead for at least 50 years, so I'm thinking that what she told me to do was pretty important.

agnes!

 

[dylansmom1]

Oh, My gosh! Your dad and my dad both died on the same day. I also dream about him too. I had a dream about me and him fishing together on the local resevoir. It felt very real. He couldn't talk very well before he died because he had a stroke and was on oxygen. Your post made me tear up.

Bless you,
Jane

 

[crazyme5kids]

dylansmom1 my dad loved to fish! We have lots of memories of days spent fishing with him. He also had a stroke, but with massive brain hemmoraging, so we didn't get to talk to him (well we talked to him but you know...).

 

[PaulaSB12]

My father died suddenly in September 2004, I had a couple of dreams wheere he came home (he lived with me) and told me he hadn't really died and he wanted to come home, I told him he wasn't welcome and go away. After 2 of these no more dreams. Mind you I was very angry with him as I was left to deal with the mess of his finances when he died, he had (in dollars) about $300000 worth of debts, and though I didn't have to pay them dealing with the banks was very unpleasant.

 

[luckywife]

My mom passed away in August of 2003 and I started dreaming about her almost right away.

The very first "real" dream I had about her seemed like a sign from her letting me know she was OK. (I know some people don't believe this but I do.) I've also had some strange dreams but in one way or another, they always seem real to me.