My DH doesn't like kids so.....

[TheBellhop]

Originally posted by goofygirl
Well... YEAH, I am. If a child is behaving in a bad manner, the parent is supposed to be in charge of the situation and correct the child if the child is doing something wrong.

I think that even those who always disagree with me will agree with me on that one!

Umm..I'm sorry you think my parents were unresponsible...but IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...and besides..you're not a parent...how can you say all this?

and yes, all the kid-hating cat-loving people will!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Originally posted by Shugardrawers
Oh, and just to set the record straight, Ian isn't a bad kid. He's sociable, smart and quite a charmer. He is, I agree, spoiled and in need of discipline but he's not a little terrorist. They laugh at his antics at home and so he thinks everyone finds them cute and funny, as does my sister. I'm afraid when kindergarten starts in a couple of weeks he's in for a rude awakening but that's a whole 'nother post!

Depending on the kid he will probably do just fine in school. He's been allowed to be a normal child growing up, (ok, maybe a bit oeverindulged, but having people laugh at your antics is hardly the worst thing that could happen to a child). He's been the center of attention, which can be good and bad, probably has a lot of confidence in himself. Just because he acts this way with his family does not mean that he's a hellion with others.

My 4yo can be such a handful with me, my DH, and my other children. However, his preschool teachers have always loved him, said how cooperative he is in school, how well he gets along with other children, what a great sense of humor he has, etc, etc. Of course I first looked around to make sure they were talking to me , but I do realize that he is very different in a classroom situation than at home. Of course if different reports start coming from school I will deal with it, but I've had enough kid experience with kids (he's my 4th) to know that my son will be fine.

T&B

 

[meandtheguys2]

Originally posted by TheBellhop
Umm..I'm sorry you think my parents were unresponsible...but IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...and besides..you're not a parent...how can you say all this?

and yes, all the kid-hating cat-loving people will!

So you don't think that a parent is responsible for the control and discipline of a 5 year old? I sure do. If my 5 year old acted like that there would be consequences for his behavior. What is your problem with that? Don't you discipline yours...or are you not a parent either?

And some of us love kids and cats.

 

[momof2inPA]

I don't understand why everyone thinks the nephew is a brat. He accidentally spit cookies out when he laughed. Then the adults made him laugh again before he could swallow the cookies, and lo and behold he spit them out again. The only thing the kid is guilty of is having his mouth too full.

One of my son's friends laughed during dinner while he was here, and a noodle came out of his nose. That monster should have been sent to reform school according to most of the posters here.

 

[TheBellhop]

I have a problem when someone insults my parents..wouldn't you?

 

[WDWguru]

Originally posted by TheBellhop
and besides..you're not a parent...how can you say all this?

I've never been president of the United States either -- does that mean I can't question anything he does? Get over yourself.

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by momof2inPA
I don't understand why everyone thinks the nephew is a brat. He accidentally spit cookies out when he laughed. Then the adults made him laugh again before he could swallow the cookies, and lo and behold he spit them out again. The only thing the kid is guilty of is having his mouth too full.

One of my son's friends laughed during dinner while he was here, and a noodle came out of his nose. That monster should have been sent to reform school according to most of the posters here.

That is exactly how I read it too. She said the second time he did it, it "might" have been an accident. I challenge anyone to keep oreos in their mouth while they are laughing. Even twice, especially if he had taken another bite in between laughing.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Originally posted by TheBellhop
I have a problem when someone insults my parents..wouldn't you?

If I was a brat or behaving in a bratty manner, and my folks did not deal with it, then I would have to agree they dropped the ball. Parents are not perfect. I certainly miss chance to teach my children the correct behavior on occasion. It *seems* to me that was all that was said, and you took it personally. If I am mistaken, then I apologize.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Originally posted by onecoolmama
That is exactly how I read it too. She said the second time he did it, it "might" have been an accident. I challenge anyone to keep oreos in their mouth while they are laughing. Even twice, especially if he had taken another bite in between laughing.

True, but at that point my little guy would have been getting a lesson as to what is appropriate, and how to apologize.

 

[momof2inPA]

Originally posted by meandtheguys2
True, but at that point my little guy would have been getting a lesson as to what is appropriate, and how to apologize.

Maybe there wasn't time for that, yet. If it may have been an accident, the DH owes the kid and his mom and apology, and the two should be kept apart. ....And the DH should stay away from Disney World, way too many kids there.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by meandtheguys2
True, but at that point my little guy would have been getting a lesson as to what is appropriate, and how to apologize.

I agree, but those lessons are done once company leaves, not in the middle of a family get together.

 

[onecoolmama]

From what I understand, I think the DH got mad enough at the child.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Originally posted by momof2inPA
Maybe there wasn't time for that, yet. If it may have been an accident, the DH owes the kid and his mom and apology, and the two should be kept apart. ....And the DH should stay away from Disney World, way too many kids there.

Why should he apologize?He did not say anything to him.I would expect her to apologize for how her DS acted.

 

[meandtheguys2]

Originally posted by Bob Slydell
I agree, but those lessons are done once company leaves, not in the middle of a family get together.

I would have removed him from the situation. I agree, kids shouldn't be dealt with in public unless necessary.

 

[momof2inPA]

Originally posted by luvindisneyworld
Why should he apologize?He did not say anything to him.I would expect her to apologize for how her DS acted.

The OP didn't elaborate, but her DH did react in some way that upset the child and the child's mom.

 

[TheBellhop]

Originally posted by luvindisneyworld
Why should he apologize?He did not say anything to him.I would expect her to apologize for how her DS acted.

Because he's the one that got ticked at the kid because the kid accidently spit oreos at him once and then did it again because he thought it was funny.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Originally posted by TheBellhop
Because he's the one that got ticked at the kid because the kid accidently spit oreos at him once and then did it again because he thought it was funny.

Exactly he did it again thinking it was funny.Kids should know not to go around spitting on people.I can understand the first time.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Here's how I see it.

Ian was eating Oreo's.
Ian laughed and ACCIDENTALLY spit Oreos's on DH.
DH said "Hey, you spit Oreo's on me."
Ian, still with Oreo's in his mouth, laughed-again spitting Oreo's on DH.

My speculation is that Ian got a reaction from the guy who *doesn't like him* and started laughing again. ACCIDENTALLY spitting Oreo's on him made DH pay attention to Ian. The way I read the "Hey you spit Oreo's on me" was kind of in a teasing manner, so Ian thought DH thought spitting Oreo's was funny.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn
Here's how I see it.

Ian was eating Oreo's.
Ian laughed and ACCIDENTALLY spit Oreos's on DH.
DH said "Hey, you spit Oreo's on me."
Ian, still with Oreo's in his mouth, laughed-again spitting Oreo's on DH.

My speculation is that Ian got a reaction from the guy who *doesn't like him* and started laughing again. ACCIDENTALLY spitting Oreo's on him made DH pay attention to Ian. The way I read the "Hey you spit Oreo's on me" was kind of in a teasing manner, so Ian thought DH thought spitting Oreo's was funny.

I guess I read it as DH's reaction being a little stronger the first time and Ian's second spitting being a little more on purpose than an accident.

That's why I thought Ian needed some discipline, but that DH could use a little lightening up (or at least give the kid a little bit of a break).

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn
Here's how I see it.

Ian was eating Oreo's.
Ian laughed and ACCIDENTALLY spit Oreos's on DH.
DH said "Hey, you spit Oreo's on me."
Ian, still with Oreo's in his mouth, laughed-again spitting Oreo's on DH.

My speculation is that Ian got a reaction from the guy who *doesn't like him* and started laughing again. ACCIDENTALLY spitting Oreo's on him made DH pay attention to Ian. The way I read the "Hey you spit Oreo's on me" was kind of in a teasing manner, so Ian thought DH thought spitting Oreo's was funny.

No matter how it was said, Ian took it as a joke beuase he laughed again and the oreos came out.

Bob, the second time was when the DH "should not have reacted the way he did" according to the OP.