My DD got ANOTHER nasty, filthy letter in school (update #55)

[Poohbear123]

please file an official police report. If these girls aren't getting enough "response" from your daughter they may decide to do something else more upsetting -- vandalize her car or your home, etc. Having a police report on file will help you a great deal at that time.

Here in Deerfield Beach Fl. a young 14 year old girl was beaten SEVERLY and is IN A COMA due to A Text Massage incident....the Male student that beat her up, did so with his STEEL TOED BOOTS REPEATEDLY KICKING HER IN THE HEAD, AFTER HE KNOCKED HER TO THE GROUND!!! Be afraid...very afraid.. and let the local police know about this!

 

[agnes!]

We were just talking about this again at dinner. I spoke with the principal last week. I could write a book with the conversation we had, but I'll try to sum it up.......................

He called a bunch of kids in to his office & spoke with them. He also spoke with Kelly's mom, who works at the school. Kelly's mom told him that it wouldn't surprise her because of what she is going through with Cory , however, the principal said that after speaking with Kelly she adamantly denies writing the letter & the principal said he believes her.

He also said that Katie was not in school on Monday. DD said today that Katie's mom (who also works at the school) approached her today to tell her that Katie is very disappointed that my DD would even think that Katie wrote this letter to her. DD said she just kept saying, OK.

The principal said he believes it's just a case of "mean girls". I was very disappointed in this & kind of told him so. I said that it angered me to think that whoever wrote it is going to get away with it. They will think it's OK to do it again, whether it be to my DD or someone else. It still ticks me off, to put it mildly!!!

My DD is fine & has moved on. In our minds (my family) we still believe that Katie & Kelly are at the bottom of this but have been unable to prove it. I seriously hope that the real culprit comes out of the woodwork eventually.

It was a sick, filthy, vile letter.

I think that you should now file a police report with the local precinct, if only to put this incident on record in case anything else happens... you will have then established a paper trail.

agnes!

 

[LuvOrlando]

Since your DD is a minor this might be against child pornography laws. How can anyone assume it wasn't a teacher posing as a student? Or a parent posing as a student? Until you know for certain who it is no-one can even begin to make assumptions regarding the gravity of the situation.

If it was my kid I'd bring in the police and the superintendent and insist an investigation be made into finding where the letter originated.

 

[monsterkitty]

The School Resource Officer (SRO) is a police officer. The principal is also aware of the situation and has investigated. While it may appear they are not doing investigating the letter, I bet they are. However, sometimes the SRO and the principal just have to wait until the person says something to a friend and someone overhears or the friend does the right thing and goes to the administration. If no one saw anything and there is really no proof of who placed the letter, it may be a waiting game.

Good luck to the OP and her DD.

 

[tinatark]

Here in Deerfield Beach Fl. a young 14 year old girl was beaten SEVERLY and is IN A COMA due to A Text Massage incident....the Male student that beat her up, did so with his STEEL TOED BOOTS REPEATEDLY KICKING HER IN THE HEAD, AFTER HE KNOCKED HER TO THE GROUND!!! Be afraid...very afraid.. and let the local police know about this!

That's really not comparable - I read the reports about the FL case, and the beating was retaliation for the girl texting garbage to the boy- about his brother, who recently committed suicide. Not condoning what he did, by any means, but that was pretty horrible of her.

 

[Blessed99]

Hugs to you and your daughter! I hate that she is having such a tough time! I hope things get better soon! I think you were right in turning the letter over to the police and letting the school resource officer handle things! Best of luck!

 

[MELSMICE]

The School Resource Officer (SRO) is a police officer. The principal is also aware of the situation and has investigated. While it may appear they are not doing investigating the letter, I bet they are. However, sometimes the SRO and the principal just have to wait until the person says something to a friend and someone overhears or the friend does the right thing and goes to the administration. If no one saw anything and there is really no proof of who placed the letter, it may be a waiting game.

Good luck to the OP and her DD.

The principal said that the case is "not closed" & he would continue to try to find the culprits. He said at this point he thought someone would have "cracked", however, at this point he can only take their word & continue to keep all eyes & ears open.

We have continued to ask my DD if any new information has surfaced, but unfortunately, no.

As I said, I seriously still think it is Katie & Kelly, but without concrete evidence or them just coming clean about it all we can't accuse them.

 

[Ephany]

DD said today that Katie's mom (who also works at the school) approached her today to tell her that Katie is very disappointed that my DD would even think that Katie wrote this letter to her. DD said she just kept saying, OK.

I can't believe this woman thought it was appropriate to approach your DD at school and confront her about this. I really, really agree with the other posters who say file a police report. At the very least it'll start a paper trail, and if this woman or any one tries to talk to your DD without you or your DH present she can tell them that it's in the hands of the police and she's not supposed to discuss it.

Good luck, this whole episode just makes me ill and I'm very sorry that your DD (and your family) are having to deal with it.

 

[SOnotLayuh]

Having your daughter react the way she is will teach her how to deal with situations similar later in life. Kudos for being a great mom! I hope everything works out well

 

[MELSMICE]

I can't believe this woman thought it was appropriate to approach your DD at school and confront her about this. I really, really agree with the other posters who say file a police report. At the very least it'll start a paper trail, and if this woman or any one tries to talk to your DD without you or your DH present she can tell them that it's in the hands of the police and she's not supposed to discuss it.

Good luck, this whole episode just makes me ill and I'm very sorry that your DD (and your family) are having to deal with it.

I was surprised, yet not surprised, that Katie's mom approached my DD. Katie was a very good friend of both my DD's for many years. A few months ago I actually asked my DD's why they didn't hang around with her anymore. They both said it was because she was just nasty & they didn't want to hang with someone like that.

We are neighborhood friends with Katie's parents & Katie can never do anything wrong. Not only that, but as you can, Katie's parents are the type that come to her defense with everything to prove that Katie did nothing wrong. It's always been that way.

If the tables were reversed & my DD was the one being questioned & she adamantly denied it I would tell her to approach Katie herself & talk to her. They were once great friends, why have mommy fight your battles if you've got nothing to hide.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Ephany wrote: can't believe this woman thought it was appropriate to approach your DD at school and confront her about this.

I agree. It was not right to approach your DD about this. I think I would make the principal aware of this.

TC

 

[OceanAnnie]

I was surprised, yet not surprised, that Katie's mom approached my DD. Katie was a very good friend of both my DD's for many years. A few months ago I actually asked my DD's why they didn't hang around with her anymore. They both said it was because she was just nasty & they didn't want to hang with someone like that.

We are neighborhood friends with Katie's parents & Katie can never do anything wrong. Not only that, but as you can, Katie's parents are the type that come to her defense with everything to prove that Katie did nothing wrong. It's always been that way.

If the tables were reversed & my DD was the one being questioned & she adamantly denied it I would tell her to approach Katie herself & talk to her. They were once great friends, why have mommy fight your battles if you've got nothing to hide.

I don't think it was right for the mom to approach your DD either. It kind of sounds like she was chastising her. The mom doesn't sound quite right to me. Your DD has been through enough. That letter was jarring to say the least. I would file a police report, for sure.

 

[Poohbear123]

That's really not comparable - I read the reports about the FL case, and the beating was retaliation for the girl texting garbage to the boy- about his brother, who recently committed suicide. Not condoning what he did, by any means, but that was pretty horrible of her.

The Police are not even sure it was THE VICTIM that SENT the TEXT...there is another Girl involved and SHE is also in Jail! Meanwhile, the VICTIM is still in a coma, and her family is devastated...Really? SO It wasn't horrible that THE VICTIM is IN A COMA??? YOU are UN-REAL!

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

The Police are not even sure it was THE VICTIM that SENT the TEXT...there is another Girl involved and SHE is also in Jail! Meanwhile, the VICTIM is still in a coma, and her family is devastated...Really? SO It wasn't horrible that THE VICTIM is IN A COMA??? YOU are UN-REAL!

No, not unreal, just attempting to bring full factors into the scenario.

Under no circumstances should the victim have been touched, never mind beaten into a coma.

However, the person who is suspected of doing the violence did just lose a brother to suicide and the victim is implicated in tormenting him about that.

Those are mitigating factors, not excuses, and not information to make someone "un-real."

 

[MELSMICE]

New update:

DD received another letter that someone slipped in to her locker today. It was just as filthy & unfortunately, more threatening than the last.

After receiving the text from my DD about it I immediately called the principal again. I spoke with both him & the school officer.

An official police report has been filed (the last one was a school police report - whatever that is). The school officer said that this is now considered aggravated harassment & the person could/will be arrested for this. Actually, in his words, "I want to find this person & will have no problem putting cuffs on them & arresting them for this."

He spoke with DD twice today but told her & myself that he would like to speak with her alone tomorrow morning, as there are always friends around when they talk.

This evening while eating dinner we all tried to piece together some events that happened prior to the last letter. From our "investigation" we came up with the following:

--The original letter was in the senior class mailbox & found on a Monday. The original thought was that the letter was put there on Monday, however, DD said in thinking back her & her project partner last checked the mailbox on Wednesday, so the letter could have been put there at any time between Wednesday & Monday.

We tried to think of anyone at all that she could have ticked off besides the original Katie/Kelly scenario.

--Wednesday afternoon (March 10) some kids (which included Katie from the original story) were putting up posters for spirit assembly. They spelled assemblies wrong & the posters said "assmeblies". DD pointed this out to them, although she was not the first & not the last that said anything. The kids got annoyed that she said anything & she told them that she knew the director of these projects would make them fix the problem or do everything over.

--It was Monday, March 15 that she received the first letter. We were told that Katie was not in school that day, but if it's correct that mailbox had not been checked since Wednesday, it could have been put there at any time, not specifically Monday.

The letter today -

--She went to her locker before 5th period & it was not there. She went after 5th period & it slipped out of the locker, so we're assuming someone put it through the slits at the top of the locker. It has to be someone who knows exactly where her locker is. It must have been put in there while classes were in session. I would think that the school can check hall passes.

--While trying to piece things together my other DD (her twin) said that one of their friends that is helping to coordinate the prom limo got a call last night (Tuesday) from Katie's date asking if they could ride in their limo this year. The friend said that it was not his call & if this would have been last year, possibly, but he didn't think it was such a good idea, considering the circumstances.

--Katie approached the limo friend today asking what the deal was & he told her the same thing he told her date. According to my DD (twin) he included, "I'm not saying you sent the letter before, I'm just saying..........", which IMO was really dumb on his part & I wish he would have not said.

--DD also filled in on the cheerleading squad a few weeks ago (long story). They went to a competition & were scheduled to go to another one. The coach asked if everyone was on board with it & DD, along with some other girls said they would prefer not to do it. (another long story, which includes DD being injured during practices). I asked if any of those kids could have been ticked off about it. She said she doesn't think so, but there's always a possibility.

Anyway, she made a bulleted list of everything we talked about today so she can talk to the officer tomorrow. She also wrote down the fact that Katie's mom approached her a few weeks ago. She said that she hates to think it might be Katie, because they had been good friends at one time, but she has also done some things to another friend in the past that could point a strong finger at her for this fiasco.

I don't want to accuse because I know it's "innocent until proven guilty", so I hope it's not Katie also.

If you got this far, thanks for listening.

 

[lillygator]

oh no....hope it is resolved.

Never heard of one filling in on a squad. Did the team have alternates?

 

[OceanAnnie]

You would think after the negative attention the first letter got, the person (or persons) responsible would have backed off. It takes a lot of arrogance and nerve to send the second one. That will probably be the person's downfall.

Are there similarities in the two letters such as writing style, handwriting, terms, and sayings? Can you tell it's from the same person? It will be interesting to see how this will be handled now that it has escalated. I hope the administration has a plan in place to protect your DD.

It's disturbing this person is so bent on harassing your DD. I hope whoever it is gets caught soon and gets the appropriate punishment for the crime. He or she probably needs counseling too. It sounds like the person has a lot of issues.

 

[MELSMICE]

oh no....hope it is resolved.

Never heard of one filling in on a squad. Did the team have alternates?

Long story..........some girls quit towards the end of the year & the story was because they didn't like the fact that there was an autistic girl on the squad. Don't know if that's true, but that's the story.

Athletic director went to the kids on the senior board & student government to ask if they would fill in for the remainder of the year so they could participate in these competitions. DD & another girl said they would.

They should have never been allowed to do the stunts because DD was injured 2X - once a girl was dropped & fell flat on DD's face. I'm surprised she didn't break her nose. She was so black & blue that when she returned to school on Monday (this happened on a Friday) she was asked by about 4 teachers if someone was hurting her & if she needed their help.

I had already told her that her cheerleading days were over & that while I know she's 17 I was going to play "mamma bear" & she was to tell the coach that the first competition was the last - she was done after that. That is why she told the coach she didn't want to/couldn't participate in the 2nd competition.

 

[MELSMICE]

You would think after the negative attention the first letter got, the person (or persons) responsible would have backed off. It takes a lot of arrogance and nerve to send the second one. That will probably be the person's downfall.

Are there similarities in the two letters such as writing style, handwriting, terms, and sayings? Can you tell it's from the same person? It will be interesting to see how this will be handled now that it has escalated. I hope the administration has a plan in place to protect your DD.

It's disturbing this person is so bent on harassing your DD. I hope whoever it is gets caught soon and gets the appropriate punishment for the crime. He or she probably needs counseling too. It sounds like the person has a lot of issues.

There are similarities in the writing - it has to be the same person. It was typed - no handwriting. They were checking school computers to see if it was typed on one of them.

The 2nd letters taunts the fact that the person has not been caught yet & got away with it. It states that they, along with their friends, will laugh at her funeral. It ends by saying something to the affect of "don't bother turning this in, I will not get caught anyway".

It disgusts me.

 

[OceanAnnie]

There are similarities in the writing - it has to be the same person. It was typed - no handwriting. They were checking school computers to see if it was typed on one of them.

The 2nd letters taunts the fact that the person has not been caught yet & got away with it. It states that they, along with their friends, will laugh at her funeral. It ends by saying something to the affect of "don't bother turning this in, I will not get caught anyway".

It disgusts me.

That is just sick! I hope the person did use a school computer. Then the charges would include using school property on top of harassment and threats.