My DD got ANOTHER nasty, filthy letter in school (update #55)

[Mrs. Charming]

How would that girl even know about it, unless she wrote it?

Exactly!

 

[TaylorsDoDisney]

I am shocked by the way some of the girls act at my sons high school. There is always some kind of nasty drama going on.

Maybe having the police involved will teach the "mean girls" a good lesson.

With technology today the kids seem to be really mean. Texting and facebook bullying is a real problem here right now. I hope it's better by the time my 10 year old dd gets to high school.

 

[kacaju]

((HUGS)) I have a dd16, I can't even imagine her receiving a letter like that!! I am glad you brought it to the police.

 

[BadRomance]

. There wasn't really anything threatening in the letter - just that "Karma is a 'you know what' & you will get yours in the end." Oh, they did say they hope she gets raped & that they would stand by & laugh when it happened because that's what she deserves - nice, huh?

I feel bad for my DD but she's tough & will get over it. It did hurt her feelings very much today though.

THAT is horrible. I have the chills (not the good kind) from reading that.

When I was in high school one of my class mates made a "hit list" of who he was going to kill. I was on the list along with dozens of other names. Needless to say he was expelled.

I don't think one could be overly protective in this day and age. Report EVERYTHING.

 

[Tess]

My DD, a 17 year old senior, texted me from school today telling me she got a very nasty letter from someone. She is on the Senior Class Board, is doing the senior class video & it was found by her co-chair in the video mailbox.

It was filthy beyond words calling her names & insinuating things that are disgusting. I could have never imagined how filthy it was until I read it. It was a one-page typed letter. She was told by the senior class advisor to take it to school resource officer. I also told her to get a copy.

We asked her who she ticked off & she said that she couldn't think of anyone or anything at first, but then the girl who found it reminded her that she danced with a guy at the Spring dance this past weekend that had recently broken up with a girl he had been dating for 5 years (since 8th grade). My DD said the guy danced with a few different girls & that she & him fast danced together - not slow danced.

Anyway, she said that she believes it might be the ex-girlfriend (Kelly) or a friend of hers, (Katie) who was a friend for many years of my DD's. It's a long story, but they really have grown apart. A few weeks ago I asked my DD about her (Katie) & she said that she has just been nasty & DD has decided to distance herself from the girl.

DH & I told DD not to say anything to anyone about the letter when asked & definitely not to incriminate anyone because we really have no idea who did it - just speculation. We told her if asked she is to say that she doesn't know who wrote it, it was turned over to the police & they are taking care of it - which it was & they are - & that is it!!

So, tonight she got a text from the ex-girlfriend (Kelly) saying she heard that DD received this nasty letter & she is so sorry to hear about it, the break-up between her & her boyfriend has been hard but DD did not deserve to have such things written about her & if she should find out who did it she would take care of it. She wanted to know what happened to the letter. DD told her it went to the police.

A few hours later she gets a text from another girl (Ali) stating that Katie called her & was acting "sketchy" about some letter DD got & wanting to know if Ali heard anything about it & did she know anything about DD giving the letter to the police. Ali had not heard anything about the letter but texted DD wondering why Katie was asking about it & to tell her that it was a very strange phone call.

We told DD to save all her texts, but still not to say anything at all when questioned by friends. We told her it's best to let the school officer handle it. We really don't know who did it for sure.

I'm not one to want to cause drama, start trouble or get anyone in trouble, but I told her that she should go to the school officer tomorrow & show him the texts. I'm kind of torn because I do hate drama & trouble, but I also feel that this was just so nasty (you have no idea how nasty this was) that whoever did it should be reprimanded. There wasn't really anything threatening in the letter - just that "Karma is a 'you know what' & you will get yours in the end." Oh, they did say they hope she gets raped & that they would stand by & laugh when it happened because that's what she deserves - nice, huh?

I feel bad for my DD but she's tough & will get over it. It did hurt her feelings very much today though.

When my daughter was a senior and class president, her life was made a living Hades by four or five girls who wanted to control senior events. While it was nothing as vile as your poor DD has experienced, I can totally relate and am sorry your family is experiencing the "senior drama". It will be over soon and life will go back to normal.

 

[Rainwater]

Sick person. Because you don't know who sent the note, you can only turn it over to the administration. Probably not a bad idea to file a police report. Could expect vandilisium to follow.

 

[MELSMICE]

I actually just spoke with one of the school principals. He said he was going to look in to the matter further. He asked me if I had any idea who might have done it. I told him that we did, but didn't have concrete proof. I relayed the entire story as to why we thought it was 2 particular girls without naming names. I'm sure he's up on high school gossip, but when I mentioned the very long term relationship that had ended between 2 seniors (since 8th grade) he got very quiet. The boyfriend was the star quarterback on our football team, so who knows............maybe he was trying to figure it out or thought he might know........who am I kidding.............probably not!!!

I told him that all texts were relayed to the school officer today who said he was going to look in to it. The principal said he was going to get a copy of the letter tomorrow.

I told the principal that it is not our nature to look for people to get in to trouble, however, we felt that if we just sat back & let things ride out without contacting him also it would be like saying that we are accepting of this behavior towards our DD.............and we are not.

 

[agnes!]

MM -

When you say you reported it to the school 'officer', is that the same as filling out a police report? Sometimes is it and sometimes is *isn't*.

I'd want to make sure that it was a real police report with real repercussions.

agnes!

 

[krcit]

Wow. I'm so sorry that your dd is going through this. As the mom of 2 girls, it breaks my heart.

 

[MELSMICE]

MM -

When you say you reported it to the school 'officer', is that the same as filling out a police report? Sometimes is it and sometimes is *isn't*.

I'd want to make sure that it was a real police report with real repercussions.

agnes!

We haven't filed a police report officially or anything. The school resource officer is a police officer from our town police force.

 

[hegsag]

Wow! What a horrible thing to say/write to someone. Hopefully, you'll get to the bottom of this -- whoever wrote those things needs to learn that it's unacceptable.

 

[4nana]

I feel so sorry for your DD, I can only imagine how this type of harassment must have hurt and upset her . Some would let this slide, but as a mother of 3 DD's I share your concern that someone is so jealous they felt they had to write such evil in a threatening tone . I hope they find out who it is so they can be held accountable and let it be known it will not be tolerated. 's to your DD.

 

[JESW]

Sorry for your dd but good for you for going after the mean girls! Maybe they'll learn a lesson...and maybe others will too.

Jill

 

[a1tinkfans]

I do think it was threatening.
I do think you did the smart thing by telling her to keep low and not say anything
I do think Police should be made aware at school and then THEY can deal with it or have it documented. meanwhile, whoever wrote that is disturbed and so your daughter should really use the buddy system....especially after school hours!

 

[Disney Doll]

Letting the school resource officer know is a good idea.
Letting the Principal know is a good idea.
Telling your DD to keep quiet about it is a good idea...probably the best idea of all since it will drive the letter writers crazy!

 

[MinnieTink]

I'm sorry for your DD and also for you! It's so tough with girls. When mine get hurt, it hurts me too. I'm sure you are stressed about it. I hope it all works out. Karma will hopefully come back to bite THEM!!

 

[pixiewings71]

Yikes!!! What a horrible situation. Just a word of caution to not let your DD go anywhere alone for a while. You never know what this group might try next....be careful!!

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

please file an official police report. If these girls aren't getting enough "response" from your daughter they may decide to do something else more upsetting -- vandalize her car or your home, etc. Having a police report on file will help you a great deal at that time.

 

[N&B'smom]

Just wondering what, if anything ever happened, OP!

 

[MELSMICE]

Just wondering what, if anything ever happened, OP!

We were just talking about this again at dinner. I spoke with the principal last week. I could write a book with the conversation we had, but I'll try to sum it up.......................

He called a bunch of kids in to his office & spoke with them. He also spoke with Kelly's mom, who works at the school. Kelly's mom told him that it wouldn't surprise her because of what she is going through with Cory , however, the principal said that after speaking with Kelly she adamantly denies writing the letter & the principal said he believes her.

He also said that Katie was not in school on Monday. DD said today that Katie's mom (who also works at the school) approached her today to tell her that Katie is very disappointed that my DD would even think that Katie wrote this letter to her. DD said she just kept saying, OK.

The principal said he believes it's just a case of "mean girls". I was very disappointed in this & kind of told him so. I said that it angered me to think that whoever wrote it is going to get away with it. They will think it's OK to do it again, whether it be to my DD or someone else. It still ticks me off, to put it mildly!!!

My DD is fine & has moved on. In our minds (my family) we still believe that Katie & Kelly are at the bottom of this but have been unable to prove it. I seriously hope that the real culprit comes out of the woodwork eventually.

It was a sick, filthy, vile letter.