My DD got ANOTHER nasty, filthy letter in school (update #55)

[RitaZ.]

When my DD found the letter in her locker her twin was with her. It feel out, she opened it & said, "Are you kidding me............again." She started reading it & started crying. Her twin took it from her & told her not to even read it, that it wasn't worth the time & immediately took her to the school officer. I feel horrible that I couldn't be there to comfort her, but at least her sister was. I guess they do like each other!

Is the daughter that received these letters the same daughter that is having difficulty choosing a college? You don't have to answer my question. If it's the same daughter, this added stress and worrying can't be good for her.

Hang in there. I hope this is resolved very soon.

 

[MELSMICE]

Is the daughter that received these letters the same daughter that is having difficulty choosing a college? You don't have to answer my question. If it's the same daughter, this added stress and worrying can't be good for her.

Hang in there. I hope this is resolved very soon.

No. The DD that received the letter already chose her college. Thanks for asking.

 

[Frantasmic]

Does your school have a Senior Study Hall type elective where seniors can schedule a "free" period as one of their electives and come and go as they want?

Also, it would be interesting to see if any of the suspects might be office or other class helpers 5th period that wouldn't typically require a hall pass to be out and about.


I wouldn't be surprised if the letter deliverer was not the letter writer. Sounds like a queen bee type who gets minions to do their dirty work. If your DD went to her locker before 5th period and after 5th period, someone was watching to make sure she got the letter, I bet and had to know her schedule fairly well to avoid getting caught.

So, I'd suggest reviewing the security tapes, if they have them, of your DD actually finding the letter and opening it. The letter writer is probably nearby waiting to find out the reaction your daughter would have.

I agree with other posters and if the police haven't been called in yet, they should be. A school might try to handle all these events themselves to avoid negative publicity.

 

[Frantasmic]

Another suggestion would be to go to school after school hours and put duct tape on the inside of her locker over the vents so that another letter couldn't be delivered in that manner. If it is done in secret and not too noticeable when your daughter has the locker open, any future letters might cause more of a distraction if someone can't easily slip it into the locker.

Your other DD should do the same thing so letters couldn't be delivered to her locker instead.

 

[MELSMICE]

Does your school have a Senior Study Hall type elective where seniors can schedule a "free" period as one of their electives and come and go as they want?

Also, it would be interesting to see if any of the suspects might be office or other class helpers 5th period that wouldn't typically require a hall pass to be out and about.


I wouldn't be surprised if the letter deliverer was not the letter writer. Sounds like a queen bee type who gets minions to do their dirty work. If your DD went to her locker before 5th period and after 5th period, someone was watching to make sure she got the letter, I bet and had to know her schedule fairly well to avoid getting caught.

So, I'd suggest reviewing the security tapes, if they have them, of your DD actually finding the letter and opening it. The letter writer is probably nearby waiting to find out the reaction your daughter would have.

I agree with other posters and if the police haven't been called in yet, they should be. A school might try to handle all these events themselves to avoid negative publicity.

Many of the seniors do have leeway in their schedule. I asked the officer this morning if they could check agendas, because they contain hall passes that the students need filled out to walk the halls. Trouble with that is, some teachers use pencil so the kids erase them (they only get so many per semester) & some teachers are very lenient - especially with seniors - & don't even bother filling them out. But............they said they would check in to it.

The security camera does not show my DD's locker. It is at the end of the hallway facing a stairwell & exit door. They were looking at the tape to see if anyone was in that area during 5th period. We actually saw them this morning & the kids in that area were none that were familiar to DD. Of course, that is only one end of the hallway & doesn't really provide much information.

An official police report with the department has been filed.

DD (actually both DD's) are both very involved in school. The DD that received the letter is on Senior Class Board, the other is a student government officer. They are both part of a Leadership Academy class. They have a close knit group of friends that also are part of these activities.

There are a few kids that are in leadership, but not part of the student body organizations that are in question. They were once part of the "inner circle" (for lack of a better term) but the "inner circle" has distanced themselves from them (one girl in particular) because of other incidents with other kids. My gut feeling points to this one particular girl, but it's just a hunch. No concrete proof at this point.

 

[threecrazykids]

Maybe I missed it along the thread but even though these letters are typed I would assume there are hints/suggestions to what drove the letter to be written. I know they said HORRIBLE things about seeing her at her funeral etc...but were there indications such calling her things like "sl*t/wh*re that may indicate it being an ex-girlfriend situation? Or "you'll never be the cheerleader X was" which would indicate another cheerleader? I agree with the previous poster who said the person who wrote it probably isn't the one delivering the letter. Typically they have one of their "friends" do the dirty work. Kids are just getting smarter and smarter about how to do these things and are MUCH smarter than we think they are when it comes to electronics. I will be VERY VERY surprised if they were ignorant enough to write it at school and leave that track record on a school computer. It surely won't look to hurt though...if there are computer labs, libraries, etc I'd be checking each and every computer in that school that kids have access to.

Best of luck.

 

[sunshine girl]

What a terrible situation. I'm glad your daughter has a twin sister who was by her side for support when the most recent letter appeared. Ugh!

I'm just horrified that this kind of thing actually happens. Hope it is resolved swiftly and that your daughter and family are OK.

 

[agnes!]

Hahahahahaha, I LOVE the idea of taping over the grillwork in her locker, the harasser or their delivery service would be sitting there struggling to get the 'letter' in the slot and maybe someone would see...

I still like the idea of putting a concealed camera within the locker so the delivery-person's face would be revealed.

I sure hope any additional/new security cameras would be installed after school hours and would have be installed 'under-cover'. I wonder if the already-installed camera on that hallway could be adjusted for a different field of vision.

agnes!

 

[buckler]

I don't think I would block over the grill to prevent notes from being delivered.

1. Another note would provide more evidence and might add to the number of "counts" of threats if charges were brought against someone.
2. If the person can't deliver the note and get their outlet that way, they might turn to physical violence instead of verbal threats.

It would be great if there was a way to film through the grate (like with one of those fiber optic cameras, but those are expensive).

 

[MELSMICE]

I don't think I would block over the grill to prevent notes from being delivered.

1. Another note would provide more evidence and might add to the number of "counts" of threats if charges were brought against someone.
2. If the person can't deliver the note and get their outlet that way, they might turn to physical violence instead of verbal threats.

It would be great if there was a way to film through the grate (like with one of those fiber optic cameras, but those are expensive).

Along the lines of another note........the officer told DD today that if anything else should be found she is not to touch it. She should come & get him immediately, or protect the evidence (should it fall out of her locker or something) & have someone come to get him.

He said yesterday it would difficult to check for prints because so many people had already handled it, including my DD, her sister & then the officer. If she doesn't touch it it would be easier to check for fingerprints.

 

[rgf207]

I haven't read the entire thread but if they are really considering filing criminal charges, couldn't they test the paper/envelopes for fingerprints? I had a car radio stolen and the police officer tested for fingerprints right there. He had the tools and everything.

Also. That police officer told us that he kept a copy of his fingerprints on him and if he couldn't lift any prints but had an idea, he would go to that person, show them the fingerprints and say "I found these prints on xxx, do you know anything about it" and 9 out of 10 times they would come clean. Maybe they could try that.

 

[Trish Bessette]

This breaks my heart this is happening to you and your DD. Continue doing what your doing staying on top of this. I pray this is resolved soon.

Brings tears to my eyes reading about her twin and how she "protected" her from the 2nd letter. Good job twin

 

[dis-happy]

You and your poor family.

Is it safe for her to go to prom? The school should be providing extra security. Seems like if the threats are real then a high profile event like the prom would be prime target.

Also, you should tell them of your "gut" feeling on who it is. If nothing else hey can work backward to check.

 

[lillygator]

after reading about the bullying that has escalated so around the country this is really scary. Hopefully they find teh culprit soon.

 

[Trish Bessette]

Just checking in to see how you and your DD are doing? Your in my thoughts.

 

[MELSMICE]

Nothing new yet.

 

[Buckeye Princess]

To the OP, I just wanted to say that I think you handled the situation wonderfully. My DD is only a little one but I'm definitely taking note because I think you are showing your daughter support and also how to handle a tough situation with poise and grace.

 

[DisneyKT]

Nothing new yet.

How is your DD doing? Is she handling this ok? Sounds like she is doing everything the right way. Tell her to stay strong.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I hope everyone is getting through this mess ok, how terrible for everyone involved.

Last week Dr Phil did a show on "Bullies" and I was able to watch the end but not the whole thing. I just checked and he has a bunch of stuff archived for on-line viewing, maybe there is something useful for you and your girls in there.

 

[4nana]

Oh no, I am so sorry to hear there was another letter incident. Bless her heart, how scary and sad for your DD, her sister, and your family. I can only imagine the damper this has put on her fun senior year, upcoming prom, college prep., etc., also how much heartache you've all gone through. This is so sick, so wise the poilce have gotten involved. Hopefully the school authories do not drop the ball this time and quickly get to the bottom so this person is held accountable and responsible . Sending hugs and prayers your DD can stay strong, she's very blessed to have such loving parents, family and trustworthy friends, for support.