My DD got ANOTHER nasty, filthy letter in school (update #55)

[XTinabell]

Has she told her friends about the second letter? I think if she doesn't mention it to anyone, other than the authorities the culprit might slip up and ask about it. Then you'd know that was who was responsible. It's probably too late at this point, especially if the students are now going to be questioned but might be worth a try anyway. I really hope this ends well and you find out who's behind this disgusting act.

 

[rigs32]

I haven't read the entire thread but if they are really considering filing criminal charges, couldn't they test the paper/envelopes for fingerprints? I had a car radio stolen and the police officer tested for fingerprints right there. He had the tools and everything.

Can they? Sure. Will they? Probably not. The cost to lift and then analyze the prints would be expensive. Since the worst case scenario in NY would be a misdemeanor, that's a lot of resources to expend. Not to mention that the young person doing this would be entitled to their record being sealed if they've currently got a clean record.

 

[Silent1CB]

Schools always have extra unassigned lockers in case someones lock or door breaks. Could she have her locker re-assigned to one that has a camera in that hallway since her hallways does not? Just in case another letter is delivered.

 

[Rora]

This is disgusting. I am so so sorry this is happening to your family.

I hope they catch this person soon and that they do get arrested. Kids need to know that this is not okay and in the "real world" they could go to jail for this behavior.

So so sad. Please keep us updated!

 

[RDM83]

I have been keeping up and finally decided to post. I am outraged that a couple of teenagers who know nothing about life have made it their duty to make another human beings life impossible.

But please continue giving your daughter all the love and support she needs rite now. You're doing a great job. Keep all those communication doors WIDE OPEN.

Oh I would be furious, I would feel like telling them: That is MY child, and I have worked darn hard to raise her and keep her safe, HOW DARE YOU TRY TO TAKE HER PEACE AND HAPPINESS AWAY! UGH, I am so mad just typing it.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[MELSMICE]

To the OP, I just wanted to say that I think you handled the situation wonderfully. My DD is only a little one but I'm definitely taking note because I think you are showing your daughter support and also how to handle a tough situation with poise and grace.

Thanks to you & everyone else for the support.

Nothing new as of yesterday afternoon. The school officer told her that as horrible as it would be, he hopes she does get another letter because he has already told her not to touch it at all if she should. It would then be easier to check for prints.

We are in Disney right now (heading to EPCOT in a few minutes!!!). Maybe when we get back something will turn up.

 

[Buckalew11]

Thinking of you and your DD and the family during this most difficult scary time. Are you having to hold your DH back?!
Enjoy your time at Epcot!

After dealing with bullying and my daughter 2 years ago, I know much of how you feel.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Hope you and your family are having a GREAT trip!! I'm happy for you guys! Your DD needs to get away and forget about that mess for awhile!

Are you going to do a TR? If you do, I'm in!

 

[lillygator]

hope you are all able to find out more info soon and the culprits are caught.

 

[N&B'smom]

Any updates??

 

[MELSMICE]

Any updates??

Nothing. DD graduated about a month ago & nothing has happened since then. Maybe it's all behind us.

It still stinks that we never found out who actually wrote the letters. Hopefully it ended when high school ended.

 

[N&B'smom]

Well, at least it didn't happen again and now she's graduated and no longer exposed to those people. Thanks for the update!!!

 

[LuvOrlando]

That's good news. Has your daughter recovered ok or is she still shaken over it?

 

[MELSMICE]

That's good news. Has your daughter recovered ok or is she still shaken over it?

I think she's fine. She doesn't mention it.

I honestly think we know who the person that did it is, however, without more proof or even fingerprints we can't prove it.

About a month ago DD got together with some kids from the swim team that had graduated. The "suspect" was also on the swim team & went with them. DD said everything was OK & they were both polite to each other.

According to the other girls (who are now in college) as soon as DD left the "suspect" started bad mouthing DD & saying all kinds of nasty things about her. Two of the college girls got up & said, "I can't believe you're saying those things, we've had enough & won't listen to this" & left the pizza place they had met at.

So...........who knows. DD has distanced herself from the girl. It's too bad because they were very, very good friends right up until their senior year.