My 6 yo is angry because of a bully....

[Pembo]

Ds is at Grandma's for a few days. I talked to my mom today and she said he was telling her how mad he is. There is a boy who keeps buggin him. He chases him on the playground saying he wants to fight, he mimicked him in the hallway (when the teacher was around the corner). DS has been telling me he hates school for the last month. I've talked to the principal after each incident that I've known about! I wonder how many I don't hear about.

Plus there is another little s*&^ that lives on our street. He is also in Ds's class. He likes to chase DS and his friend and hit them with his bookbag. One day DS took the bag and threw it over our fence! Ds told my mom that this kid bugs him too.

I'm so upset about it all!!!! This is only the first grade! I can't believe how annoying some kids can be!!!!!! I'm planning on asking for a meeting with his teacher and the principal as soon as school goes back. DS has enough troubles, he doesn't need this kind of pressure.

Thanks for listening...........

 

[preshi]

Austy (whos 3) told me the other day that Cooper at school hit him... I'm like what!!! Little Brat. I told him to yell "You're a Bad Boy" LMAO... The teachers take care of it I guess but ex-H and MIL(who take him to school) didn't know about it so I so wonder why the school didn't tell us.

{{{hugs}}} pembo

 

[JohnTBap]

Bullying is NOT tolerated at our school. It's one of my principal's pet peeves. PLEASE INSIST that something be done. If the situation is not taken care of, I would INSIST that the bully - NOT your son - be moved from the class. Bullying is not something to be taken lightly. It causes real psychological harm, loss of learning time, and can present a physical danger. {{{HUGS}}}

 

[Pin Wizard]

DS had problems with a bully in Kinder and first...the same kid. One day when I picked DS up at after care, he just happened to be near this kid. I let him know that he was being a bully and that if he didn't stop, I'd talk to his FATHER and the principal! We never had another problem with him.

 

[Towncrier]

James got bullied on the first day of Kindergarten. Sue and I saw an instant change in his personality after his incident on the bus. We enrolled him in Kenpo a week later. The next time that a bully picked on him, he was able to roll with the guy's punches. James even managed to knock the bully's legs out from under him (after the bully had knocked him down a dozen or so times). Turns out that the bully in this case was a 7th grader who had been picking on 4th graders. I told the principal that I wouldn't press charges against the boy. But if it happened again, I was going to bring the full force of law enforcement against this "child" and the school system. Thankfully, these were the only two times that James has been bullied.

I was bullied throughout elementary school and into high school. I don't know about your son's school policy on bullying, but I for one will not tolerate it at all.

I hope and pray that things work out. 6yo is way to young to be facing this kind of crap.

 

[RitaZ.]

Pembo~ I'm sorry to hear that. Your DS's school should have a Code of Conduct booklet/ pamphlet that explains the discipline policy and students' rights. My sons' schools do and they are sent home at the beginning of the school year. The forms have to be signed by the parents and sent back to the teacher. In ours, it's is clearly stated that a child has a right to attend school without being harassed or bullied.

If the school doesn't respond to your concerns and this problem right away, don't hesitate to tell them that your child has the right to attend school without being bullied. If necessary get a copy (I always have mine handy ) and show them where it's states so. Don't back down on this!

Good luck!

 

[Snow White]

Poor thing, he shouldn't have to put up with that! I'd have a meeting with his parents, the other boy and the principal to straighten this out before it really gets out of hand. You might talk to the teacher and make her aware of this so that she can be on the lookout for trouble on the playground etc. Hope everything works out for him!

 

[zurgswife]

Our school has a ZERO tolerance of Bullying....It has become quite a thing for schools these days to try to have a zero tolerance...they are teaching teachers all the time about bullying and the ways it can happen....verbal and physical....I'd go to the school again and then to the School Board...surely they will do something...

 

[Pembo]

Thank you everyone! My son is still with Grandma and she has gotten a lot of information from him! This problem is MUCH bigger than I ever imagined! This kid is a sneaky brat!

I'm asking for a meeting with the principal and the teacher on Monday. I want the meeting Mon or Tues. I'm prepared to spend my every waking moment at the school until this is resolved!

The principal told me he was bullied so he won't put up with it. Unfortunately he is not a very intimidating person, very quiet. I hope he can handle this bully!

Poor ds, told Grandma he loves school but doesn't want to go back because of this brat! ARGH!

 

[ByTheSea]

Aww, that just breaks my heart.

DS age 8 has recently experienced a bit of a bully too and I can't stand it. You want to protect them, don't want anyone hurting them and sometimes you feel so helpless.

DS is an average kid, average build, a bit stocky (his ped says he has very big bones and is not overweight in the least, at about the 60 percentile) but this kid in his class who is much more athletic and faster has been calling DS "fat" and "slow" to the point where DS wants to weigh himself and diet!!!! He's 8!!!

I told DS to tell the kid "Hey, I'd rather be slow than stupid" (DS is a much better student than this former friend) but DS says "no, he's my friend, I won't call him stupid"

I guess you just can't protect you kids from all bully's, but I wish you could. In your situation I would definately follow up at school... so sad..... and such a helpless feeling..... have you thought of calling the parent? Although some adults can be bullies too so that may not help. I know if MY kid was doing the bullying I sure would want to know.

 

[Saffron]

I don't have anything to add. I agree with everyone here. I just wanted to let you know that my heart goes out to your son. I don't know what gets into some kids/people.

 

[Kitty 34]

That's one of the hardest parts of teaching is seeing how mean kids can be to other kids. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to your son and you.

 

[shortbun]

Bullying isn't tolerated at our school either. DS and his
friends are in a group the school psych created to educate
and curtail bullying. This has helped immensely! Bullys and
bullied alike are learning. Friends often bully friends and that
was what was happening in our case. Our principal has met
with the group too. Letters went home to all the parents
of involved children. Stopping this behavior in a positive
environment will give the kids ownership and make them
leaders in the fight against bullying. I highly recommend
this solution. Good luck. I work to make it safe for my DS
to emote at home. I take him on rides in the car where he
doesn't have to look at me while he talks. This method seems
to produce the most information. I know how frustrating it
is to see your child this young being emotionally distraught-
at any age it is awful.

 

[Boots]

I am so sorry your DS is having to go through this. {{{{HUGS}}}} for both of you!

 

[padams]

We have been going through a very similar situation with our 1st grader this year. For the first 2 months of school, DS was uncharacteristically unhappy, acting out against his little brother, saying he didn't have any friends, and disliking school. We couldn't figure out what was wrong until he finally broke down and told us that several of the boys in his class were physically hurting him on the playground during recess. I immediately contacted his teachers (there are 2 in his class), and had a conference the next morning. Reading these posts, I wish that we had brought in the headmaster/principal immediately. DH wanted to do so, but I said no, because I thought it would be better not to go over the teachers heads immediately. My heart hurts for you and your son. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by Pembo
I want the meeting Mon or Tues. I'm prepared to spend my every waking moment at the school until this is resolved!

The principal told me he was bullied so he won't put up with it.

It sounds like you are ready to do battle. Just make sure you tell your ds what you are prepared to do as it might bring relief to him and keep him a part of the solution so he can feel its power.
Good Luck!!!!