Mulan Is Back

[2poohbears]

I'm surprised your lawyer would not have contacted you by now. I think DAMM not showing up for a 5 week scheduled visitation would be a big deal. If you left a message, I would call again.

Glad you had a great day!

 

[poohfriend]

I do think it's an amazing breach of contract for him not to show...

Glad you and the kiddos are having a great week.

 

[Mulan'sWarrior]

My atty's assistant got back with me and is out of town, she wants to schedule a phone conference....but its not till Tuesday at 4pm

The kids are LOVING Karate Camp and have already asked if they can do it again next year. Yesterday during sparring they learned how to get out of a choke hold. DD and DS did fine, but DD began crying, I wasn't sure but I was thinking "this reminds her of what she witnessed DAMM doing to me". Today during sparring, DD just cried. I took her equipment off and talked with her, sure enough, sparring frightens her. I explained to her that all that she is learning comes together in sparring so that she can ALWAYS be able to defend herself. Once she calmed down I asked her to tell Sensai and Senpai what was going on, they were very great and understanding and can now redirect her thoughts.

Give him your cell phone number!! Or buy a tracfone and give him that number!! Go for it!! Give it to the dad, if they have any questions after he gets home!!!

Ok, I called him back and left him a message just saying hope all is going well with his dad and left him my cell number This is the BIGGEST step I have ever taken. I overheard one of his aunts saying that he never answers his cell but while he was at the hospital he was on it regularly...hopefully he'll get the message and call? There is nothing more I can do now. Either he calls me or hopefully I will run into him again someday.............................................

We have Karate class again tonight Tonight I earn my belt

Mulan

 

[JoiseyMom]

Ok, I called him back and left him a message just saying hope all is going well with his dad and left him my cell number This is the BIGGEST step I have ever taken. I overheard one of his aunts saying that he never answers his cell but while he was at the hospital he was on it regularly...hopefully he'll get the message and call? There is nothing more I can do now. Either he calls me or hopefully I will run into him again someday.............................................


Mulan

WTG!!! This is great...you left a message, they have your number and the ball is in his court. If he doesn't call, ok, if he does... .

Have fun at karate!!! Congrats on your belt!!

 

[Mulan'sWarrior]

He called back He left a message about his dad, and reminded me of his own drs appt he has.
He called while I was in Karate class then me and the kids went to my best friends dd horse show...I didn't want to call him back right away so I waited till after I got the kids settled down, and left him a message- just small talk- why I missed his call, glad about his dad, asked him to give his dad my best and asked him to call me back when he gets back from his drs appt tomorrow to let me know how things went...So we'll see if he calls again.
He is a very healthy good looking guy, but he has alot of cardiac issues (maybe a broken heart, that I can fix ) seriously, though, I don't know all the details but maybe if he calls me back then I will know more. We'll see

Job Interview went very well they unofficially offered me a PRN position till a FT position opens up. Its $4 more an hour than what I make now So, in a week after my drug screen comes back, I will be offered the position officially.

Mulan

 

[AngieWin]

Yay for the job offer and yay for the phone calls!!

 

[lillygator]

great news on the job offer and whoo hoo on the call back!

 

[cherjp]

Fabulous news on the job front mulan, and hoping for good news on the telephone call front too

I am a bit worried that your lawyers havent gotten back to you before now, Tuesday seems a long way off, and what about DAMMs next weekend what have you to do then? AND what worries me more is what DAMM and his sister might say to Judge TIGHT BREEKS .

 

[Mulan'sWarrior]

Fabulous news on the job front mulan, and hoping for good news on the telephone call front too

I am a bit worried that your lawyers havent gotten back to you before now, Tuesday seems a long way off, and what about DAMMs next weekend what have you to do then? AND what worries me more is what DAMM and his sister might say to Judge TIGHT BREEKS .

ITA, Not this weekend but next is when he gets the kids- my guess, DAMM will play like this is his weekend, he won't show up here for Father's day and then try to take me back to court to say I never showed. Bottom line- if you take the calendar and mark every other weekend from Jan to Dec and then add in the 4th weekend as his extra every odd month- problem solved, DAMM will claim ignorance just like with DD bday- excusable? Absolutely not, but then again thats for the Judge to decide.....

DD and DS earned their white belt with purple strip today! Karate Camp- ROCKS! Sadly, tomorrow is the last day but at least they got to go!

Mulan

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I really feel for your daughter. Are you sure she hasn't experienced his physical abuse herself? My daughter has 'body memories' of her bio-father's abuse which comes out in the same way your daughter behaved. I hope she'll talk with her therapist about it.

I'm so happy they're home with you for now. Their karate camp sounds wonderful. Teaching them to be strong and to be able to defend themselves will help them feel safe and courageous.

Brave you! Calling the handsome fellow. I'm crossing my fingers.

 

[JoiseyMom]

YES!!!! HE CALLED!!!! I am so happy for you!! Start slow, and see what happens .

CONGRATS on the JOB!!! This is a banner day for you!!

I am sooooo happy for you!!

Keep us updated.

 

[cherjp]

Can someone tell me what ITA means ? i know most of the abbreviations, but i have my stupid head on tonight and i cant work it out!

thanks
cheryl

 

[cherjp]

OOOPs just worked it out!!! its 1030pm here and i am tired so thats my excuse

 

[mla1977]

Found you! I realized that I hadn't seen any updates since I got back. Now to read everything.

 

[lnh'smom]

OOOPs just worked it out!!! its 1030pm here and i am tired so thats my excuse

Ok, I am not tired but I still can't figure out what it stands for!

 

[cherjp]

Ok, I am not tired but I still can't figure out what it stands for!

I Totally Agree! i hope thats right and Mulan wasnt saying something else !!

 

[momlady]

I'm wondering out loud here, just bear with me...he is allowed to see the children on Father's Day if he comes to your county to get them, is that right? Wonder if it might be a good thing on your part to "assume" he wants them (as would a normal parent...no comment please) and contact/have your lawyer call his lawyer to ask what time he would be wanting the kids for Fathers Day. In that way he might think you want him to take the kids and will say "sorry I can't" or whatever. I can't say I have figured out how this guy thinks but seems like when he is expected to have the kids he will find an excuse not to. SO if you trump the scene that you described by asking him what time he wants you to show up, he might just do the opposite. Then -- problem solved!! You keep the kids, and there is no dirt on your face (or even the hint of it) because you guessed wrong at what he might do. Plus you can add it to the file that he did not take his children on Fathers Day even though he was offered the opportunity to do so, per the court documents.

Just some rambling thrown out for consideration!

 

[cherjp]

I'm wondering out loud here, just bear with me...he is allowed to see the children on Father's Day if he comes to your county to get them, is that right? Wonder if it might be a good thing on your part to "assume" he wants them (as would a normal parent...no comment please) and contact/have your lawyer call his lawyer to ask what time he would be wanting the kids for Fathers Day. In that way he might think you want him to take the kids and will say "sorry I can't" or whatever. I can't say I have figured out how this guy thinks but seems like when he is expected to have the kids he will find an excuse not to. SO if you trump the scene that you described by asking him what time he wants you to show up, he might just do the opposite. Then -- problem solved!! You keep the kids, and there is no dirt on your face (or even the hint of it) because you guessed wrong at what he might do. Plus you can add it to the file that he did not take his children on Fathers Day even though he was offered the opportunity to do so, per the court documents.

Just some rambling thrown out for consideration!

good rambling!

 

[ilovejack02]

I'm wondering out loud here, just bear with me...he is allowed to see the children on Father's Day if he comes to your county to get them, is that right? Wonder if it might be a good thing on your part to "assume" he wants them (as would a normal parent...no comment please) and contact/have your lawyer call his lawyer to ask what time he would be wanting the kids for Fathers Day. In that way he might think you want him to take the kids and will say "sorry I can't" or whatever. I can't say I have figured out how this guy thinks but seems like when he is expected to have the kids he will find an excuse not to. SO if you trump the scene that you described by asking him what time he wants you to show up, he might just do the opposite. Then -- problem solved!! You keep the kids, and there is no dirt on your face (or even the hint of it) because you guessed wrong at what he might do. Plus you can add it to the file that he did not take his children on Fathers Day even though he was offered the opportunity to do so, per the court documents.

Just some rambling thrown out for consideration!

It is a thought.. sometimes rambling way of working things out lol!

Wow... a boy called Mulan hehehee!

How silly are we all giggling like a bunch of 14 yr olds?

I know you all are doing it too, I cant be the only one!

Good luck girl!

 

[poohfriend]

It is a thought.. sometimes rambling way of working things out lol!

Wow... a boy called Mulan hehehee!

How silly are we all giggling like a bunch of 14 yr olds?

I know you all are doing it too, I cant be the only one!

Good luck girl!

sometimes the 14yo haven't forgotten that it is fun just to live in the moment. (In the good way.) As we get older and have more responsibilities, it's difficult to appreciate the small things! Mulan, so happy you are finding joy in your daily life. I think you are well on your way to a more normal life.

so proud of you. congratulations on the new job. maybe how uncomfortable you were on the old job MADE you find a job that will pay $160/more per week -- whippee more karate and swim lessons!



I really like the idea of your lawyer contacting his about the time for pick-up for father's day in county.