Mulan Is Back

[jackdis]

I agree.....do not communicate with him. Have the attorneys set up everything. I could see him trying to be nice to you, just to revert back to his old ways.....

 

[LoveKermit]

New lurker/now poster here....

Call any atty TODAY! They work all 7 days of the week. They need to know right away that you have your kids. You don't want DAMM to say you kept them (despite your proof at the drop-off point). If you have a cell number for any atty involved, call today! I would also let them know about the ex-SIL's fake phone call. That is questionable as well.

(I say any atty, because reading between the lines, it seems you have two retained--they might need to call the judge that the court orders have not been followed.)

 

[jackdis]

Definitely make contact with your attorney. If they have an emergency number to call, use it. Worst case - leave a message advising your attorney of what has happened. Include the SIL's "legal" call.

 

[JoiseyMom]

Congrats!! This is such great news!! Have a wonderful birthday!!

 

[LoveKermit]

Told Attorney DH about this. He said what SIL did is illegal. FYI.

 

[Mulan'sWarrior]

Told Attorney DH about this. He said what SIL did is illegal. FYI.

I know you said you were new, so here is a summary- 1. Kentucky 2. Good Ol' Boys Club is in county. 3. I now live in county and the law here is MUCH better, however the case is still in county. 4. The Judge in co is 'friends' with DAMM (ex)
so long story short ALOT of injustices have been done and everything gets documented and maybe some day JUSTICE will prevail.
DAMM has 2- custodial interferences, he has missed several pick ups, he has phone harrassment and terroristic threatening charges on him and is on probabtion, he lost his phone visitation rights with the children, he has violated my DVO 2x and spent 6 days in jail, he is over $1500 behind in CS, well that's all I can think of right now...
I don't even have parking tickets and I was held in jail in co for 13 hours because DAMM failed to show up for DD birthday and I was held in contempt of his visitation.
So although what ex SIL was illegal, its documented but nothing will ever come of it.
I just keep on top of everything and get prepared for court

Mulan

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Mulan - Happy Birthday!
Did you go back last night to the drop off point or did your kids stay with you?
Any word from your attorney?

 

[BlondeAlligator]

My heart goes out to you...stay strong...I'll be thinking of you...

 

[2Kds2K9]

Hi Mulan,

Still lurking here. I agree with PP. I don't think he had any intention of taking the kids for 5 weeks. I think he did this intentionally to make your life crazy in the next few days. Now you'll have to scramble for child care and the like.

My original thought was that he would take the kids, but not last the whole time. That "something" would come up and he'd have to bring them back early. This whole thing just proves that he does not want the kids, he just wants to disrupt your life. Bottom line!

This again proves that he is nothing but a mean, cold, calculating, self-centered, jerk. (trying to keep it clean. It is Disney after all!)

Hope you had a wonderful birthday. Probably made better by the fact that you got to spend it with your kids!

Leigh

 

[hematite153]

To echo some of the others...

Please contact one of your attorneys and ask if you should be the initiator preparing a motion of some sort so that you won't end up the defendant once again when DA comes up with some ludicrous explanation for why he didn't show up.

I have this sense that an offense is better than a defense. But, I also trust your lawyers to know what to do. So, ask, and then do what they tell you.

 

[Merriwind]

Just to parrot...

the events of Friday evening definitely warrant an immediate call to your attorneys. Good luck and Happy Birthday!

 

[poohfriend]

Mulan,

WOW is about all I can think to say. (I thought he'd make it a few days before he demanded you take them backi!)

prayers for the judge to see it as neglect...and let you have them the full 5 weeks! I'm so glad you have your precious children with you today.

way to go! Remember not to tell SIL anything...but to direct anyone to your attorney with these issues.

peace!

 

[2poohbears]

Remember not to tell SIL anything...but to direct anyone to your attorney with these issues

I agree. Don't even say 2 words to her. If she calls again, whether she's pretending to be someone else or her own self, just say "you can contact my attorney", and hang up. You never know what they are taping, what they'll try to make up, etc...

I hope you had a great day today! Can't wait to hear what your attorney has to say about this turn of events...

 

[robinb]

I just want to pop in here for a second. I have not been posting much on the DIS lately for various reasons, but I have been reading Mulan's thread. I am still "processing" the fact that DAMM didn't show up to take his kids for his 5-week summer break. Everything that DAMM does is in his best interest, but I simply can't figure out what this gets him. I guess the best thing I can say about him is that he never ceases to surprise me.

Mulan, I hope that you had a good birthday! Please keep us posted on what your lawyer says. I would be curious on how DAMM tries to "spin" this one in his favor.

 

[ilovejack02]

Hey M!

Hope you a wonderful birthday! Interesting turn of events I see! Hope it all works out in you and the kids best interest.

 

[Mulan'sWarrior]

The kids started Karate Camp today- they LOVED it and can't wait till tomorrow. Tonight I got to start my class- the kids sat quietly for most of it and when I was done- it was high 5's around and they said over and over- mommy you did awesome! They said they were so proud of me- I told them that I learned the moves from watching them

No word from the attys or DAMM or ex SIL. Yet.....

I have a job interview tomorrow- maybe thats where God wants me.

I had a patient 1 day last week and then both days this weekend. His son is good looking A very nice big family, very supportative of each other. The son and I connected and it was just nice to go in the room and talk to the whole family. They all seemed fairly interested in me from the 70 year old aunts to the 18 year old nieces and nephews and everyone in between. On Sunday night, before I left, the patient (dad) asked me when I would be back to work. I told him but reminded him that he would more than likely be disharged before I returned. He told me what a great nurse I was and asked if my number was listed (maybe he was asking for his son ) I told him no. He said well thats good- you're a smart woman to protect yourself like that. I even googled myself- I am nowhere- maybe too bad, so this son can't find me but at least they know where I work! Today was my day off and I stopped by work because my best friend needed to talk and on the way out we swung by his room, she made an excuse to go in( just for me) and I followed, the son was there I played it cool and asked how he (the dad) was doing and spent a few minutes chating with the both of them- mainly talking about dad's plan of care....as I left the son said well it was good to see you "Mulan" and I said yeah, you too-----I melted as I walked away and my best friend and I got to do that girly thing laughing and acting silly down the hall
Will anything ever come of this...probably not, but it sure was fun while it lasted. I hope he finds a way to get in contact with me- the ball is in his court now On the floor I work on it very rare that you have the same patient over and over after the first few days of admission.

Mulan

 

[mom23boys]

I am glad you and the kids are having fun.

I was getting worried about you. Keep having fun with the little ones.

Sharon

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

I'm glad you're having fun, too!

Did you call your attorney about the situation? If you haven't spoken to him yet, make sure you do!

(Just a friendly public service announcement from one of your followers! )

 

[FinallyBoughtDVC]

I am amazed that your attorney(s) haven't gotten back to you. This was a huge event that occurred.

In any event - enjoy this unexpected time with the kids. So glad you were able to get them into karate camp at the last minute! <---Mulan doing Karate Hi Ya!

 

[JoiseyMom]

The kids started Karate Camp today- they LOVED it and can't wait till tomorrow. Tonight I got to start my class- the kids sat quietly for most of it and when I was done- it was high 5's around and they said over and over- mommy you did awesome! They said they were so proud of me- I told them that I learned the moves from watching them

No word from the attys or DAMM or ex SIL. Yet.....

I have a job interview tomorrow- maybe thats where God wants me.

I had a patient 1 day last week and then both days this weekend. His son is good looking A very nice big family, very supportative of each other. The son and I connected and it was just nice to go in the room and talk to the whole family. They all seemed fairly interested in me from the 70 year old aunts to the 18 year old nieces and nephews and everyone in between. On Sunday night, before I left, the patient (dad) asked me when I would be back to work. I told him but reminded him that he would more than likely be disharged before I returned. He told me what a great nurse I was and asked if my number was listed (maybe he was asking for his son ) I told him no. He said well thats good- you're a smart woman to protect yourself like that. I even googled myself- I am nowhere- maybe too bad, so this son can't find me but at least they know where I work! Today was my day off and I stopped by work because my best friend needed to talk and on the way out we swung by his room, she made an excuse to go in( just for me) and I followed, the son was there I played it cool and asked how he (the dad) was doing and spent a few minutes chating with the both of them- mainly talking about dad's plan of care....as I left the son said well it was good to see you "Mulan" and I said yeah, you too-----I melted as I walked away and my best friend and I got to do that girly thing laughing and acting silly down the hall
Will anything ever come of this...probably not, but it sure was fun while it lasted. I hope he finds a way to get in contact with me- the ball is in his court now On the floor I work on it very rare that you have the same patient over and over after the first few days of admission.

Mulan

Give him your cell phone number!! Or buy a tracfone and give him that number!! Go for it!! Give it to the dad, if they have any questions after he gets home!!!