MTV 16 & Pregnant

[heimlichfan]

I just happened to be checking in here as I watch the episode of 16 & Pregnant with the girl who decides to give her baby up for adoption...

I'm currently sobbing!!!

I know there's LOTS of discussion floating around about this documentary series, but this episode is so intense that I had to take a moment to write about it. What a brave girl (boyfriend also) to do such a selfless act. She really wanted to keep the baby, but her and her boyfriend knew they couldn't provide the home and life for the baby that the baby deserved.


As an adoptive parent, I marvel at the strength of all birthparents. Thank you.

 

[CathrynRose]

OH good - I wasn't the only one watching (and crying) tonight.

I gave them SO much credit. Both very bright. I was so impressed with the b/f, too.

Now those parents (her mom and his dad) ??? Scum bags.

They did the right thing, and (even though I don't know them) I felt proud of them.

 

[mantysk8coach]

I watched too. I have been hooked on that series...I watch everytime its on even though I've seen them all many times.

That couple tonight was amazing. They were so strong, and showed such maturity...too bad the same couldn't be said for their parents.

What an inspiring way to end the series.

I hope Caitlin and Tyler stay together, get married sometime down the road, and go on to have more kids. They will be awesome parents someday.

 

[Tink&SquirtsMom]

I was sobbing too (and am also an adoptive parent). I was soo impressed by those kids.

The way the boy stood up to his father and said his daughter deserved more, and the way he supported his girlfriend, and handled the birth of their daughter showed a maturity not many teen boys have.

I too hope they are able to stay together.

 

[browneyes106]

I watched that episode too. I cried several time during the episode especially Tyler stood up to dumb dad.

 

[pfishgirl]

I normally don't watch this show, but... I was skipping through channels and stopped on it to answer my phone..

I was like.. Ummm The parents of these too Teens don't want them to give up their daughter to provide a better life for her then what they can offer her??? How absurd is that???

I didn't watch the episode but I did have to sneek a peek here and I am Proud to see the baby's parents did the right thing..

 

[quasar4legs]

I didn't see the show but hope that involved will be at peace with the decision that was made.

Trish

 

[Seewhatimesdone]

I think obviously it would be an extremely hard decision but i'm not sure I would call these girls brave...it's shows like this that make young girls think it's fashionable to have a baby as a teen.

 

[Tink&SquirtsMom]

I think obviously it would be an extremely hard decision but i'm not sure I would call these girls brave...it's shows like this that make young girls think it's fashionable to have a baby as a teen.

I'm guessing you haven't seen the show. This show does not glamorize teen pregnancy at all. And I cannot imagine from this episode in particular ANY teen girl thinking it would be cool to have a baby after watching it. They detail the whole thing from the fighting it causes in the family, to the difficulty maintaining in school and relationships, they show the hard labor, and the parents crying over their decision to place the baby.

This girl was brave and strong and so was her boyfriend. Others they have shown... not so much. They have shown girls who have been immature spoiled brats and kept the child, when the guys were out of the picture by the time the strip turned pink. Those didn't glamorize it either, but they showed a different perspective, and different issues. This is a show I would ENCOURAGE a teen to watch, specifically because it shows the harsh reality of teen pregnancy, not the Juno version.

 

[mousetravel]

This is a show I would ENCOURAGE a teen to watch, specifically because it shows the harsh reality of teen pregnancy, not the Juno version.

I agree! Me & my teen watch this together usually.
Last night's show was really sad and I was tearing up!

They are having a "reunion" show next Thursday at 10pm. They showed a clip of the adoptive parents bringing out the baby.

 

[MomNeedsVacay]

I think obviously it would be an extremely hard decision but i'm not sure I would call these girls brave...it's shows like this that make young girls think it's fashionable to have a baby as a teen.

I disagree with this statement completely and I'm guessing you didn't see the episode b/c there is no way you could interpret what they showed as "fashionable"...


I think these teens showed enormous strength and maturity on their part. I started bawling right after the birth and the teen father was crying and talking it through with the teen mom. And when the adoptive mom gave the teen girl the bracelet...it was a beautiful process. It, however, in no way glorified teen pregnancy.

 

[Veronica Lodge]

I saw bits of this finale episode, like the scene where the girl & her boyfriend are talking to the potential adoptive parents, but I fell asleep beofre the end.

Most of the other episodes feature really dumb and/or shallow girls who are really witchy to everyone and decide to keep their babies but they are obviously going to be terrible mothers (sorry, that is my opinion on these girls). The episode on right before the finale - with the girl who's boyfriend got her engagement ring at K-Mart and asked about the refund policy on a $23 ring!!! - make me sick.

I wish they'd shown more girls going the adoption route, or even one girl who terminates the pregnancy.

 

[scottishduffy]

I am watching on Tivo right now and it is amazing. This is the best episode so far and these two kids are very mature.

More so than most the others... The cheerleader Farrah was particularly shallow and immature.

This she has truly shown that adoption is not about giving up a baby that isn't wanted. It shows how deeply these two teen parents LOVE their baby, how they want so much for the childs life and are strong enough to realize that at this point they can't provide it. They are giving the child away out of love. They are wonderful people and I hope they can stay together. This episode i feel really gives a voice to the birth-parents, and the love for the child they know they cant raise.

 

[pyrxtc]

I really like this show. It shows it how it really is. I'm so glad that the teens from last night went through with the adoption. If they stay together, they will be great parents one day. I like that they have an open adoption also so ther is never any questions. The dad's letter to his daughter was very sad and had me crying.

 

[Shmily1]

I think obviously it would be an extremely hard decision but i'm not sure I would call these girls brave...it's shows like this that make young girls think it's fashionable to have a baby as a teen.

Right....

DD18 will be having a baby in the next 9 days. I'm sure she wouldn't exactly say this is "fashionable". We watch this show and many of the (shallow) girls on there aggravate her because that's not how she sees it. She also starts college the middle of August so, no, I wouldn't say this is going to be real fashionable.

 

[ozarkmom]

I missed that episode but want to catch it. I'm not a big fan of reality t.v. but I've watched this a few times and it was not what I expected at all. Around we have had a near epidemic of high school girls having babies. I have been amazed at from what I've seen of this show they do not glamorize these pregnancies at all. It's just the opposite it's nearly painful to watch these kids and what they and their families go through. Now around here these girls act like it's the greatest thing ever huge showers with lots of pictures on facebook. Everybody oohing and ahhing over them. The girls I've know here for the most part haven't had to miss a beat. Now on the show I've seen girls that didn't get to graduate with their class, start college etc.

 

[omghidanielle]

I haven't caught this episode yet (not that it'll be difficult, since MTV shows them like 9 times a day...) but I've heard the same from everyone that it's super sad.

This is by far the most 'realistic' show MTV has put out in a while. I'm a fan.

And I don't agree that this is showing teen pregnancy as being "fashionable". Maybe you're thinking of that godawful "Secret Life" series?

 

[airhead]

I think obviously it would be an extremely hard decision but i'm not sure I would call these girls brave...it's shows like this that make young girls think it's fashionable to have a baby as a teen.

Have you watched the show? I don't think ANY young girl watching this show would think having a baby at a young age is a good thing. The episodes I've watched show young girls really struggling with the changes in their lives.

 

[CathrynRose]

The couple last night - not only were they dealing with the heart ache and pain of giving away their child for adoption - they had their stupid parents giving them a hard time about it!!!

The dad yelling at the boy about 'man'ing up?' The mom refusing to sign the papers? Calling the daughter a 'witch (with a B)'? Leaving baby clothes and a bassinet for when the daughter got home? It was disgusting!!!!

And my mouth about dropped when I heard that those two (his dad / her mom) got married??? OMG!

Those kids - considering the environment they were in - I am so impressed with everything they did through out the entire process. Brave, brave, brave!!!

**Anyone else also ask themselves "Why arent they taking the baby out of there??" when Tyler was asking the same thing?? UGH! The whole thing was gut wrenching.

 

[dvcnewgirl]

I watched it this morning and cried my eyes out! The seemed were the smartest and most thoughtful teengers I have seen. The fact that the boy was so involved was awesome. I hope they are able to make their dreams of college and a better life come true.