Moving away from kids...

[HHSTigerFan]

Who was lying? The PP mentioned that you had a lawyer that said a judge would force spousal maintence. They didn't say you were going to take it. You should practice your writing skills and jot down everything you say so you don't get so confused.

He said could, not would... Know the difference???

 

[Riles_and_Gabe]

I give up...I used the word would. Sorry I apparently typed too fast. My point is the PP was not lying.

 

[DznyCrzy11]

Simple.. I fly down early Dec, fly back Jan 6.. Dec 20 she is driving home to visit her parents.. On Dec 28 go back, I will ride back and forth with her..... Jan 3-5 I have a baseball convention down there, fly back next day..

So I'm guessing her parents are in the same area as you live now? See, if you were clearer on this earlier, people would have gotten the story straight. From your post before, you made it sound like you were leaving for TX Dec 6 and would be down there for 4 weeks. No one is trying to bash you, we are just trying to understand the story since some of your posts contradict each other.

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[RitaE]

He said could, not would... Know the difference???

Well thank goodness you want no part of that Spousal Maintenance thing because I have to tell you, not even with a drunk Judge as an April Fool's Day joke would I be thinking that was going to happen.

 

[aaarcher86]

So I'm guessing her parents are in the same area as you live now? See, if you were clearer on this earlier, people would have gotten the story straight. From your post before, you made it sound like you were leaving for TX Dec 6 and would be down there for 4 weeks. No one is trying to bash you, we are just trying to understand the story since some of your posts contradict each other. Sent from my Galaxy SII

No no. I'm fully supportive of public shaming.

Maybe the OP will even get to introduce her to his children and his mum. Such a great family opportunity.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

So I'm guessing her parents are in the same area as you live now? See, if you were clearer on this earlier, people would have gotten the story straight. From your post before, you made it sound like you were leaving for TX Dec 6 and would be down there for 4 weeks. No one is trying to bash you, we are just trying to understand the story since some of your posts contradict each other. Sent from my Galaxy SII

You mean my post from a month ago in a different forum???

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

You mean my post from a month ago in a different forum???

DISers are known for their "research" skills. If you've ever put it out there, they will find it.

Let the back peddling begin!

 

[NFLDERS]

And now he uses the word 'hens'.

Lovely!!!! Ohhhhh, just lovely....
Just keeps gettin' better!

Time to call this out for what it is folks...
Walk away....
Just w a l k a w a y...

I will I promise! But first I'd like to know whom Chuck is? Reference made by one pp a few posts back. Someone that has been posting unbelievable threads b/c of boredom.

 

[mom2AidanAndEli]

Simple.. I fly down early Dec, fly back Jan 6.. Dec 20 she is driving home to visit her parents.. On Dec 28 go back, I will ride back and forth with her..... Jan 3-5 I have a baseball convention down there, fly back next day..

But you're going down to "surprise" her so she's not expecting you to be there, although somewhere along the way she did buy you a round trip ticket already. Still can't figure how that plays into it.

So if she doesn't know you're coming, how do you have plans to drive back with her? And are her kids coming back too? Do they know you're tagging along on their family outing? Or is she leaving them behind and not being with her kids on Christmas? Do your kids know the only reason they get to see you is because your new girlfriend will be visiting her family?

 

[mnrose]

Thanks for the humor everyone. I'm waiting for my kids and LMAO. OP should consider a 4th (or 5th?) career in comedy.

Signed,

A bored hen.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

But you're going down to "surprise" her so she's not expecting you to be there, although somewhere along the way she did buy you a round trip ticket already. Still can't figure how that plays into it. So if she doesn't know you're coming, how do you have plans to drive back with her? And are her kids coming back too? Do they know you're tagging along on their family outing? Or is she leaving them behind and not being with her kids on Christmas? Do your kids know the only reason they get to see you is because your new girlfriend will be visiting her family?

It's getting pretty deep. I don't know if OP can dig his way out.

 

[NY Disney fan]

OP, just walk away from this thread. Go spend time with your kids and forget this nonsense with the girlfriend. Your family's love is uncondtional, everyone else's is based off of how good you can be to them.

 

[Katy Belle]

I'm kinda late to this discussion... and I didn't read the whole thing.

In general, its super hard to have a positive influence on children you only see 2-3 days a month. My oldest has just gone away to college, and I see him 2-5 days a month, and I miss him like crazy. Luckily, I've had 18 good ,solid years to build a good, solid relationship, so we are still close.

I see it as your responsibility to be there for your kids. Move to the suburbs, get a cheap apartment, get a retail job during the day and work Fast Food evenings and weekends. You will still be able to see the kids more than if you lived far away.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Thanks for the humor everyone. I'm waiting for my kids and LMAO. OP should consider a 4th (or 5th?) career in comedy. Signed, A bored hen.

If I were very active on this thread I'd tell the OP to cluck....... Well never mind. I don't need any points

 

[etoiles]

DISers are known for their "research" skills. If you've ever put it out there, they will find it.

Let the back peddling begin!

To be fair, that post was only made 8 days ago, not a month.

 

[DznyCrzy11]

Again, you are going from A to D...

I am indeed planning on flying down Dec 4, coming back around Jan 6... Since you have all the answers, you smart enough to figure out b and c??? I doubt it

This was from you today!!! Sounds like you are the one going from A to D.

You mean my post from a month ago in a different forum???

Holy moly you are a confused individual who thinks we are stupid here!!!! Duh, you not only posted that in a thread a WEEK ago, you JUST mentioned it again today!!!! You remind me of Dory from Finding Nemo, lol.

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[DznyCrzy11]

Thanks for the humor everyone. I'm waiting for my kids and LMAO. OP should consider a 4th (or 5th?) career in comedy.

Signed,

A bored hen.

This made me LOL!!!! I agree, the OP should consider a career in comedy, he sure had me laughing, hahaha.

Signed,
A hen who is at work but can't get enough of the Disboards. LMAO

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[Krista in MA]

I think that if you move away from your kids, you're saying to them that they are not as important to you as (PICK ONE!), this other woman / a new job / your happiness / a new family, etc.

I think that by going down to TX for a month in Dec., and going back to IL with your gal-pal, you're saying to your kids that your time with them has to fit into whatever plans you have with your gal-pal.

You might as well sit your kids down and say something like "I love you, but daddy (PICK ONE!) loves / has a spark with / really likes, etc. this other woman and my world is going to center around her and her life now".

I think that growing up, they're going to wonder why you chose something else over them. I think they're going to wonder what they did wrong that made you "go away". I think they're going to be devastated that you pick anything over them. I feel sorry for your kids.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

But you're going down to "surprise" her so she's not expecting you to be there, although somewhere along the way she did buy you a round trip ticket already. Still can't figure how that plays into it. So if she doesn't know you're coming, how do you have plans to drive back with her? And are her kids coming back too? Do they know you're tagging along on their family outing? Or is she leaving them behind and not being with her kids on Christmas? Do your kids know the only reason they get to see you is because your new girlfriend will be visiting her family?

Correction... The only reason she gets to see me that much is because she is coming home...

 

[disneyhand]

And maybe I need to mention the other part of the equation...

My friend that I can live with in Dallas is a college girlfriend that I have remained friends with for 20 years... The last 2-3 years she has been a great help as I worked thru my problems, went down to visit her and there was a huge spark still there..

I'm sorry I took the time to post earlier in this thread. It's all clear to me now and when I said it sounded like you'd already made your mind up I was right. You are willing, planning and trying to justify with all of us here to abandon your children for this woman. I shouldn't have bought in to this drama.