Moving away from kids...

[HHSTigerFan]

But you're going down to "surprise" her so she's not expecting you to be there, although somewhere along the way she did buy you a round trip ticket already. Still can't figure how that plays into it. So if she doesn't know you're coming, how do you have plans to drive back with her? And are her kids coming back too? Do they know you're tagging along on their family outing? Or is she leaving them behind and not being with her kids on Christmas? Do your kids know the only reason they get to see you is because your new girlfriend will be visiting her family?

Also, she thinks I am coming down Dec 12, not a week earlier... Thus the surprise..

 

[HHSTigerFan]

This was from you today!!! Sounds like you are the one going from A to D. Holy moly you are a confused individual who thinks we are stupid here!!!! Duh, you not only posted that in a thread a WEEK ago, you JUST mentioned it again today!!!! You remind me of Dory from Finding Nemo, lol. Sent from my Galaxy SII

Doesn't change the fact that it was in a different forum, when speaking about transportation, wasn't necessary to mention such details..

 

[LongLiveDisney]

I don't feel sorry for you. At all. I feel terrible for your children. Maybe you can go be a MAN and tell your kids that a lady you knew twenty years ago is more important than them and their mom.

 

[NY Disney fan]

I don't feel sorry for you. At all. I feel terrible for your children. Maybe you can go be a MAN and tell your kids that a lady you knew twenty years ago is more important than them and their mom.

That's the crux of the issue here isn't it? So sad. This thread isn't funny anymore. OP, please think!

 

[HHSTigerFan]

I'm sorry I took the time to post earlier in this thread. It's all clear to me now and when I said it sounded like you'd already made your mind up I was right. You are willing, planning and trying to justify with all of us here to abandon your children for this woman. I shouldn't have bought in to this drama.

Where did I say any of this??? Said from the start that my first option is to stay here, just not sure I can financially swing it right now unless I find a better paying job real quick.. Like I also said, next 4 mos are my slow stretch..

Clearly said my only option, other than my moms who seems hell bent on not letting me stay there, is to go to Texas...

 

[lil mermaid]

Also, she thinks I am coming down Dec 12, not a week earlier... Thus the surprise..

I sure hope she doesn't have any other guests there when arrive early...

 

[DznyCrzy11]

Doesn't change the fact that it was in a different forum, when speaking about transportation, wasn't necessary to mention such details..

OMG, READ what I wrote!!! It was what YOU posted a few pages back TODAY!!!! You seriously need to go back and read your own posts because you are completely forgetting what you posted and are twisting everything around. I don't know if this is some sort of a joke or what but it sure seems that way.

Sent from my Galaxy SII

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Oh no, she isn't like you... LOL

Cleaver comeback...

 

[Cupcakey78]

I don't want to put all of my personal details out there, but my son currently lives on the other side of the country from me. While initially this was not my choice, right now his dad's home is the more stable place. I go to school ft, work two PT jobs trying to make ends meet, as well as take care of my 85-year old grandfather

To put it bluntly, it is the worse thing in the world, and pretty much my own personal hell. I am counting down the days until I can move back to where he is, which will be in May/June. We try to talk on the phone, text and skype, but his father really limits our communication.

I am terrified that my absence in his life is going to effect him negatively. I am in therapy presently, and anticipate an adjustment period for all of us.

If I could go back in time, there is no way I would make the same choices I did then.

I do want to say, I did not initiate the divorce. My ex moved out of our home and in with his current wife. I was scared and hurt and ran back home. In hind sight, I would have toughened up, stayed and figured it out.

 

[disneyhand]

Where did I say any of this??? Said from the start that my first option is to stay here, just not sure I can financially swing it right now unless I find a better paying job real quick.. Like I also said, next 4 mos are my slow stretch..

Clearly said my only option, other than my moms who seems hell bent on not letting me stay there, is to go to Texas...

I'm sorry it doesn't seem that way to me from all your other posts here. I really hope I'm wrong. For your kids. If I'm wrong, I'm truly sorry and again I hope I'm wrong. Good luck.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

This autocorrect is too good to change!

Haha! I didn't even notice.

 

[okeydokey]

You can try to explain and justify all you want.

What you are doing is wrong, just plain wrong and will forever change your relationship with your kids. If you are OK with that, and it sounds like you are, then go ahead and move in with your girlfriend and parent her children instead of your own. Just don't wonder why you are no longer close to your own kids.

 

[aaarcher86]

Haha! I didn't even notice.

Pictured you saying it with a smile and a butcher knife!

 

[GSUJillybean]

I would really rethink the whole financial career thing if you can't figure out if increased taxes will reduce your take home pay:

Have a question, both wife and I are school teachers, she claims our checks will be lower now that the federal payroll tax will go back to 6.2%.. I say we don't pay into social security, checks should be the same.. Any possible chance I am right?

http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3039964

 

[Allison]

What a story.

 

[HHSTigerFan]

You can try to explain and justify all you want. What you are doing is wrong, just plain wrong and will forever change your relationship with your kids. If you are OK with that, and it sounds like you are, then go ahead and move in with your girlfriend and parent her children instead of your own. Just don't wonder why you are no longer close to your own kids.

What exactly am I doing????

 

[HHSTigerFan]

I would really rethink the whole financial career thing if you can't figure out if increased taxes will reduce your take home pay: http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=3039964

School teachers don't pay into social security and Medicare, thus my confusion.. In the end, out checks were not reduced...

 

[GSUJillybean]

Also, OP, I'm putting this out there on the chance that you're real and telling the truth, because, if you are, there are real, hurting children involved here.

My first husband committed suicide, and I witnessed it. Seeing something like that is.... horrific. At least, it was for me and I was a grown-up. These poor babies have been traumatized

Please don't just show up on her doorstep a week early all surprise like while her children are recovering from trauma. They don't need any more surprises.

 

[minkydog]

School teachers don't pay into social security and Medicare, thus my confusion.. In the end, out checks were not reduced...

Seriously? I've worked in enough schools to know that teachers indeed DO pay into social security and Medicare. Just like everyone else.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Seriously? I've worked in enough schools to know that teachers indeed DO pay into social security and Medicare. Just like everyone else.

I think this is another example of how things vary from state to state. I was a teacher for a few years, so trust me, I can still see this first hand whenever I look at my contributions to Social Security. Teachers don't pay into Social Security in Louisiana or Texas; I'm sure they don't pay into it in other states as well. However, they may well pay into it in your state.