Mother's Day Cards for Everyone?

[TinkTock]

When I went to the store to get my mom a Mother's Day card, I noticed that fewer than half the cards were for your mom. There was a section for a spouse (I find that a little weird already, though it seems most don't). But fully 1/3 of the cards were for other people: sister, grandma, aunt. Do so many people buy Mother's Day cards for their aunts that they should have a special section?

I know the card companies do this to try to expand sales. If they convince people that they have to get a Mother's Day card not just for mom, but for every woman they know that has a kid, they'll sell a lot more cards. My question is do people really fall for it?

 

[luvmy3]

When I went to the store to get my mom a Mother's Day card, I noticed that fewer than half the cards were for your mom. There was a section for a spouse (I find that a little weird already, though it seems most don't). But fully 1/3 of the cards were for other people: sister, grandma, aunt. Do so many people buy Mother's Day cards for their aunts that they should have a special section?

I know the card companies do this to try to expand sales. If they convince people that they have to get a Mother's Day card not just for mom, but for every woman they know that has a kid, they'll sell a lot more cards. My question is do people really fall for it?

I'm not falling for anything, I have always given my Aunt and Grandmother cards, and gifts. I don't have to be convinced to get them anything, they are important women in my life who were like mothers to me. I'm sure there are alot of people out there with similiar stories that had other family members step up and be "mom" when mom didn't and deserve a little acknowledge of that on Mother's Day.

 

[maggiew]

I usually get a "grandmother" card for the kids to give my mom/MIL.

I also get a card for my niece to give her mother (she is a single mom). However, I don't buy my sister a "sister" card.

Maggie

 

[LJSquishy]

I only celebrate Mother's Day with my mom and my mother-in-law. I have 2 sister-in-laws who each have two kids and I don't feel it is my responsibility to acknowledge that they are good moms. It is a really touchy subject for me because hubby and I have tried to have a child for 5 years with trouble conceiving and two early miscarriages. So, when everyone wants to go out to lunch on Mother's Day together, I don't want to go because I am the only one who is not a mother. This year I am getting out of it and decided to go by myself to visit my parents out of town. Either way, though, I would not send someone other than my mother or mil a card.

 

[worm761]

When I went to the store to get my mom a Mother's Day card, I noticed that fewer than half the cards were for your mom. There was a section for a spouse (I find that a little weird already, though it seems most don't). But fully 1/3 of the cards were for other people: sister, grandma, aunt. Do so many people buy Mother's Day cards for their aunts that they should have a special section?

I know the card companies do this to try to expand sales. If they convince people that they have to get a Mother's Day card not just for mom, but for every woman they know that has a kid, they'll sell a lot more cards. My question is do people really fall for it?

Why do you find this weird? I am HIS children's mother and the most important one! While he should acknowledge his mother on mother's day, if he ignores me there will be an issue. I was the one that gave him children.

As for the rest, I say Happy Mother's Day to all that are mothers but I don't buy them cards or anything.

 

[swkmom]

I don't find it odd. We always buy for my mom and mother in law and my dh and kids always buy for me. This year I also bought and sent my best friend a card and gift because it is her first mother's day and she tried for a long time to have her twins. We are the Godparents of one of the twins and wanted to let her know we were thinking of her on her new special day. I will probably also have my dd 15 give her best friend's mother a card and something small like a rose because she spends a lot of time with them just as her friend does with us.

 

[kaytieeldr]

When I went to the store to get my mom a Mother's Day card, I noticed that fewer than half the cards were for your mom. There was a section for a spouse (I find that a little weird already, though it seems most don't). But fully 1/3 of the cards were for other people: sister, grandma, aunt. Do so many people buy Mother's Day cards for their aunts that they should have a special section?

I know the card companies do this to try to expand sales. If they convince people that they have to get a Mother's Day card not just for mom, but for every woman they know that has a kid, they'll sell a lot more cards. My question is do people really fall for it?

Fall for what? That an aunt or a grandmother can't raise a child? Sure, there's Grandparents Day - but as far as I know, there's no official "Raising me as if you were my mom/dad" Day.

 

[Pesky]

Before she died, I used to send a Mother's Day card to my childless great-aunt who was like a 2nd grandmother to me. I send one to my grandmother and my children send her one. My kids send cards to their grandmothers and we send them to our mothers. I have never hesitated to send a card to someone who helped fulfill the mother/grandmother role.

 

[superme80]

I send a card to my MIL and my mom. The only other person I ever gave a card to was my friend who was a single mom on her first Mother's Day. I wanted her to know that I knew she was working her butt off. The next yearI got pregnant so we usually would go out to lunch to celebrate Mother's Day and my birthday. I know some people get everyone cards.

 

[Metsfan520]

I don't have kids, but I do have nieces, nephews, Godchildren. They have "fallen" for it, and send me cards. I love that they acknowledge me.

 

[maggiew]

I don't find it odd. We always buy for my mom and mother in law and my dh and kids always buy for me. This year I also bought and sent my best friend a card and gift because it is her first mother's day and she tried for a long time to have her twins. We are the Godparents of one of the twins and wanted to let her know we were thinking of her on her new special day. I will probably also have my dd 15 give her best friend's mother a card and something small like a rose because she spends a lot of time with them just as her friend does with us.

This reminds me. I also had the kids send Mother's Day cards to their Godmother's (until they turned 18).

Maggie

 

[momto2inKC]

OP...I noticed that the other day at the store.
I pick out a card for my mom, my DH picks out a card for his mom. We sign both of our names to each card. My DH doesn't get me anything for mothers day and I honestly never expected him to, i'm not his mom My kids get me gifts or make me something. I don't send cards to anyone else, of course I have no one else I would send them to anyway as my grandmothers/aunts are all deceased and have been since I was a child.
I think it's one of those things where you can acknowledge whomever you feel the desire to acknowledge on that day

 

[chimilady]

Why do you find this weird? I am HIS children's mother and the most important one! While he should acknowledge his mother on mother's day, if he ignores me there will be an issue. I was the one that gave him children.

Exactly, I'm the mother of his children! And he made me a mother, so I don't get how that could possibly be weird.

 

[Heidict]

If you were raised by your grandmother and/or aunt, then I could see getting them a card, but it's Mothers day, so I just get my mother a card. I don't expect my DH to get me anything since I'm not his mother.

 

[DisneyMomma81]

Before she died, I used to send a Mother's Day card to my childless great-aunt who was like a 2nd grandmother to me. I send one to my grandmother and my children send her one. My kids send cards to their grandmothers and we send them to our mothers. I have never hesitated to send a card to someone who helped fulfill the mother/grandmother role.

I have/had one of those too, she was/is an angel. Not only childless, she never married.

 

[wvjules]

If I had an aunt, grandmother, sister, etc. that raised me like a mom would then those cards are fine. However, just getting my aunt or sister a card for mother's day? Strange.

Also getting a spouse a Mother's Day/Father's Day card is weird too. I was not my ex's mom nor was he my father. Now, the spouse taking the children out to buy mom or dad a card/gift is different. But buying a "to my wife" a mother's day card...totally unnecessary. It's his time to celebrate his mom and your childrens' time to celebrate their mom. The time for your husband to celebrate you (on a holiday) is your anniversary.

 

[brookmey]

I buy cards for my mom and my MIL. I don't send cards to my sisters, SILs or aunts. If I had an aunt who was like a 2nd mom to me, then I would send one to her, too.

I get a card and gift from the kids and DH gives me a card, too. I like that I get something from him. Even though I'm not his mom, I am the mother of his children and he had a part in making me a mom, so I like that he recognizes and appreciates the hard work I do as a mom for our family. I know other posters don't see it this way, but this is how I see it:

On our anniversary we celebrate each other as husband/wife, on birthdays we celebrate the people we are, and on mother's/father's day, we celebrate the parent part of us.

 

[Styx Fan]

There are so many non-traditional (bio mom, dad, kids) out there now days I can see a place for all kind of cards. So many grandparents raising grandkids, aunts stepping into help. Why not acknowledge those folks that help fill the role of a mom?

As for giving a spouse a card.....while we stress the kids celebrating their parent on mother and fathers day and help them do that, I find nothing odd at all on being recognized by my husband. I am the mother of his kids. And in our case we have chosen that I be a SAHM...I am with the kids much more than him due to that choice. I really appreciate being told I am appreciated for my part in raising our great kids!

 

[SaraJayne]

I buy cards for my mom and my MIL. I don't send cards to my sisters, SILs or aunts. If I had an aunt who was like a 2nd mom to me, then I would send one to her, too.

I get a card and gift from the kids and DH gives me a card, too. I like that I get something from him. Even though I'm not his mom, I am the mother of his children and he had a part in making me a mom, so I like that he recognizes and appreciates the hard work I do as a mom for our family. I know other posters don't see it this way, but this is how I see it:

On our anniversary we celebrate each other as husband/wife, on birthdays we celebrate the people we are, and on mother's/father's day, we celebrate the parent part of us.

Excellent post.

 

[QVCshopper]

I don't mind the various cards, but I don't like spending much on them. I usually stick to the .99 cards, they get the point across without costing a fortune. The man in front of me today spent over $12 on three cards. If it was me, I'd bank the extra $9 and buy something improtant like food with it.