Mother of Bride help please! New link in post 55. Found my dress!

[low-key]

I cannot wear any pale neutral color, like a beige or champagne type of color. I fade into those colors so badly,

me too

 

[Ciao Mickey]

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-beaded-bodice-asymmetrical-gown/506364453?di=04782105_zi_teal_mercury_black&categoryId=410&facetCache=pageSize=48&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

OP here, this is the dress that I like...no Dillards near hear, and they have a pretty restrictive return policy. So I will try on the same brand/similar style at a Macy's, and then after I figure out how they fit, and if I feel like the dress will work for me, will order from Dillard's.

Did you see this dress? It's on sale and navy would be pretty for a winter wedding.

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-flo...nIndex=0&orderBy=1#pr-header-back-to-top-link

 

[tarheelmjfan]

I am mother of the groom. Wedding in 3 weeks. Bridesmaid dresses are navy. Teal is a color the dress shop suggested for me.

Mother of bride is wearing a gray/blue chiffon dress. The dress shop also suggested a merlot/maroon color for me. That looked better on me than teal. And I found a style in that color that I liked. So that's what i am wearing.

Enjoy the months ahead. They go by fast!

Also, be sure to order early if you have to order. I ordered my dress April 28th as soon as the MOB told me she had ordered hers. (It's proper etiquette for mother of the groom to wait and get her dress after MOB so that they coordinate and not clash and are not the same color) I just got my dress Wednesday. Alfred Angelo (my dressmaker) went bankrupt Friday! It was close that I got my dress. MOB is still waiting on her dress-don't know who she ordered with. But if there's a mother of the groom and grandmothers they need time to also choose their dresses. And I needed time for alterations and choosing shoes and jewelry.

David's Bridal website has a 'if the wedding is x color then mothers can choose y color' feature, too.

Well I guess I learned something new. I never thought the MOB had precedent over the MOG. I guess I'm just lacking in proper etiquette. In my experience whichever mom bought their dress first shared what they had bought with the other. If they bought their dresses at the same time & they were similar, so be it. For my wedding, it never occurred to me that DH's mom was should have to take the color, style, etc. that my mom didn't want. I don't know anyone, including my five sisters, who thought the MOB should have first choice & the MOG should make a decision based on that. Grandparents are a different story.

 

[clh2]

Did you see this dress? It's on sale and navy would be pretty for a winter wedding.

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-floral-beaded-bodice-gown/505535000?di=04567620_zi_navy_silver&categoryId=672399&facetCache=pageSize=48&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1#pr-header-back-to-top-link

I am just ignoring this. It is harder, because they have it in BOTH the sizes I am debating between. My problem is the black tuxes. I just do not like black with navy, and DH will be in a tux, and I would love a great pic of the two of us! And the price is just...,awesome! Bummer!,,,

 

[kuhltiffany]

The one you picked is classier, I'd skip that one. I too hate navy/blue and black, won't ever wear it or let my kids either (bruise, anyone?). Also consider cranberry or purple, depending on your colouring. Navy is also too hard to match shoes too, I find…

I am just ignoring this. It is harder, because they have it in BOTH the sizes I am debating between. My problem is the black tuxes. I just do not like black with navy, and DH will be in a tux, and I would love a great pic of the two of us! And the price is just...,awesome! Bummer!,,,

 

[adisneyaunt]

Congrats ...to ur daughter n future son in law OP.
lovely gown choice!!

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Did you see this dress? It's on sale and navy would be pretty for a winter wedding.

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-floral-beaded-bodice-gown/505535000?di=04567620_zi_navy_silver&categoryId=672399&facetCache=pageSize=48&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1#pr-header-back-to-top-link

I love this one. Great colors, and love the 3/4 arm length. Dillard's has some great dresses....wish I had one near me. I want this one!

 

[Wendy31]

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-beaded-bodice-asymmetrical-gown/506364453?di=04782105_zi_teal_mercury_black&categoryId=410&facetCache=pageSize=48&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

OP here, this is the dress that I like...no Dillards near hear, and they have a pretty restrictive return policy. So I will try on the same brand/similar style at a Macy's, and then after I figure out how they fit, and if I feel like the dress will work for me, will order from Dillard's.

The dress is gorgeous!

However, while I usually really like teal, the teal of this particular dress seems a little dark to me. To me, it looks like it wouldn't stand out enough against the royal blue of the bridesmaids' dresses - it's not enough of a contrast & isn't a good complimentary color to royal blue, in my opinion. But, in person, it might look better.

I definitely wouldn't do navy w/ royal blue either.

But, if your dd likes this dress & you like this dress, then that's all that matters!

As another consideration, w/ royal blue bridesmaids' dresses & a January wedding, have you thought about an eggplant or dark purple? Or maybe even a gunmetal gray?

Here's one in eggplant:

http://www.dillards.com/p/alex-even...facetCache=pageSize=96&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

And I love this gray one:

http://www.dillards.com/p/emma-stre...facetCache=pageSize=96&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

Or here's one in plum by the same designer as the teal dress w/ bead work on the bodice similar to the the teal dress:

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-v-n...facetCache=pageSize=96&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

 

[kaytieeldr]

http://www.dillards.com/p/jkara-beaded-bodice-asymmetrical-gown/506364453?di=04782105_zi_teal_mercury_black&categoryId=410&facetCache=pageSize=48&beginIndex=0&orderBy=1

OP here, this is the dress that I like...no Dillards near hear, and they have a pretty restrictive return policy. So I will try on the same brand/similar style at a Macy's, and then after I figure out how they fit, and if I feel like the dress will work for me, will order from Dillard's.

Respectfully, the return policy appears typcal, not restrictive "The merchandise may be mailed back to us, or returned to any Dillard's location. Please leave all merchandise tags attached. Also, please note that if you choose to mail the merchandise back, you will be responsible for the shipping fees. We recommend that you insure the package and ship via a traceable method. Dillard's offers a Fed Ex return label you can print from your computer and attach to the return package. No refunds are given on shipping and handling charges."

 

[kaytieeldr]

What about this https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06X1952S7/ref=twister_dp_update?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 or this https://www.amazon.com/VaniaDress-M...ds=formal+gowns+and+evening+dresses+teal&th=1

 

[Hikergirl]

I like the style of the dress you like OP, much better than any other one that has been posted, but I agree with the pp that is kind of close to royal blue (because of how dark it is) and may not compliment it very well.

It is really hard to tell on a computer screen what the true color is, plus I have a vision in my head of royal blue that could be completely different than the royal your dd is using.
If you like the dress, and your dd does, then you should wear it. That really is all that matters.

 

[focusondisney]

Congrats OP! I love JKara gowns. I had a plum colored JKara gown for my DD's wedding. And found a light blue one for my DS's wedding. I got so many compliments on them both. The quality was good. Size wise, I am short, 5'3 & usually wear size 14/ large. I got a size 12 gown both times. Sure, they both would have looked a bit better if I had lost a few pounds, but that never happened. The size 12 looked better on me than the 14 did tho. Length wise, I needed just a very small alteration to the hem. I like the gown a little longer & only wore a small kitten heel. So I needed it just a bit shorter. If you are a little taller or wear a higher heel, the length might be fine.

I also never understood the moms needing to match the bridesmaids colors. Of all the wedding pictures I have seen in my 60 years, I have never seen photos of the whole wedding party & the parents all in the same photo. I always see pictures of the wedding party, then the bride & groom in separate family photos with the parents. Sure, if there is a daughter/ sister in the wedding party, then mom & bridesmaid will be in the same picture. But I would be more inclined to pick a color that looks good & compliments me for the whole day rather than something that looks "coordinated" for 1 or 2 pictures. I want to look good & feel good at my kids wedding. Not worried about a picture that only the bride & groom will see once in awhile over the years.

 

[cluvsdisney]

op, the dress you linked is beautiful!!

Congrats OP! I love JKara gowns. I had a plum colored JKara gown for my DD's wedding. And found a light blue one for my DS's wedding. I got so many compliments on them both. The quality was good. Size wise, I am short, 5'3 & usually wear size 14/ large. I got a size 12 gown both times. Sure, they both would have looked a bit better if I had lost a few pounds, but that never happened. The size 12 looked better on me than the 14 did tho. Length wise, I needed just a very small alteration to the hem. I like the gown a little longer & only wore a small kitten heel. So I needed it just a bit shorter. If you are a little taller or wear a higher heel, the length might be fine.

I also never understood the moms needing to match the bridesmaids colors. Of all the wedding pictures I have seen in my 60 years, I have never seen photos of the whole wedding party & the parents all in the same photo. I always see pictures of the wedding party, then the bride & groom in separate family photos with the parents. Sure, if there is a daughter/ sister in the wedding party, then mom & bridesmaid will be in the same picture. But I would be more inclined to pick a color that looks good & compliments me for the whole day rather than something that looks "coordinated" for 1 or 2 pictures. I want to look good & feel good at my kids wedding. Not worried about a picture that only the bride & groom will see once in awhile over the years.

This has always been my train of thought as well. I can see maybe wanting to go with a color scheme for the immediate family and wedding party so there is some cohesion with regards to season of colors but they don't need to coordinate or match. I'm pretty sure everyone present will know everyone's role without being color coded.

 

[Kellydelly]

I guess I am the only one who thinks teal would clash with royal blue. I just can't see that color combo looking good at all. I would try to go with a totally different color (not a blue) or at least pick a dress that is royal blue.

 

[Wendy31]

I guess I am the only one who thinks teal would clash with royal blue. I just can't see that color combo looking good at all. I would try to go with a totally different color (not a blue) or at least pick a dress that is royal blue.

I think it depends on the shade of the teal, but I would agree w/ you in most cases.

I'd probably go w/ an eggplant or a gray w/ a January wedding. An emerald green could be pretty too - two different jewel tones.

 

[Hikergirl]

A brighter teal looks nice with royal. I think these shades of royal and teal look good together, but there are so many variations of each color.

 

[Wendy31]

A brighter teal looks nice with royal. I think these shades of royal and teal look good together, but there are so many variations of each color.

Yes! I like that!

 

[Jeannie]

I got to be mother of the bride twice last year! My two daughters got married just under 3 months apart. Pick whatever color you look and feel good in. Of the hundreds of photos taken, DH and I aren't in any with the whole bridal party. We are in pictures with the bridal couple and maid/matron of honor as those were our daughters. DD1's bridesmaids wore blush and MOH (DD2) wore light gray. I wore royal blue (groom's mom wore baby blue) and DH wore a black tux, as did all the groomsmen. DD2's bridesmaids and MOH (DD1) wore navy and groomsmen wore medium gray suits. I wore magenta (groom's mom wore 2 piece, print top and lavender flowy pants) and DH again wore his black tux (groom's dad wore same suit as groomsmen.) On another note, I just looked up images of weddings with navy gowns and black tuxes, I think it can be stunning!

 

[Imzadi]

There's a difference between matching and coordinating. The mothers will be in the formal photos, what they wear should harmonize (NOT match) with the rest of the wedding party otherwise they'll stick out like a sore thumb. Next time you're watching TV or a movie pay attention to what people are wearing. Everyone in the scene somehow coordinates, it's very subtle but it's there. That's done on purpose, it makes things smoother and less distracting.

I work with fabric dyes and paints. OP, what you want to be aware of is that once you get beyond the basic "primary" colors, every paint/dye color falls into a hue which very subtly contains a bit of one of the other primary colors. (This is what color wheels are all about.)

Royal Blue, which you said the bridesmaids will be wearing, usually falls into a RED Blue category.

Teal is a GREEN (yellow) Blue.

So even though they are both "Blues" they aren't quite in the same Blue family. So they don't quite "go" together. The blues will seem "off" from each other, yet people who don't know how to see what they are looking at, won't quite know what's off. If you want a color that coordinates with the bridesmaids dresses and doesn't subtly clash, pick a color also in the RED-Blue family. Maybe a more purply-Blue or a pale RED-Blue.

However, the best way to check and see what color the bridesmaid dresses actually are, is to see a swatch. What the bride and the store are currently describing as a Royal Blue, may indeed be a GREEN-Blue, in which the teal would look absolutely lovely. Or even a turquoise which is also a Green-Blue. "Royal Blue" isn't an exact technical term, like ultramarine blue, a paint/dye color that is always a RED Blue. That's why I said earlier it is usually a RED Blue. Yet, anyone can and do call a bright, deep blue "Royal Blue." And it usually doesn't matter except when you are trying to find a harmonizing color, like now.

If the Royal Blue is closer to Navy then it is definitely a RED Blue.

 

[BLAZEY]

It's fine. My wedding colours were royal blue and silver, my mum wore a dark teal dress and MIL wore a royal blue dress, SMIL wor a grey/silver dress.