hello,

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i just wanted to share..i think you are very brave to share with
others.
i like to share too ....& i hope by doing so will help you toward
recovery & healing hurt feelings.
"picking a pearl" , might seem liked over reacting..but i know
better, from a similar experience this past summer @
aulani -in hawaii. however, i was just a bystander - the real
action was created by my wife & especially my daughter.
for what it worth- i am sorry for the ugly xperience that your
mil gave you. i don't know except your post, but it was written
with much sincerity that left little doubt. i think you are
correct and the conflicts were "understandable" , though not
desire. however, i hope you eventually put it behind you &
found comfort in a future "pearl ". and though it was a "mean-
spirited" act, i think you need to forgive her , for your benefit.
( it is evident & i think you already realized, she dealing with
her own issues- that likely cloudy her judgments. but she is
still a mother, & family. ) people make mistakes. & while
it darken the epcot day - you made through it - & epcot
is still there so you can come back with your family.
as you work through this....i hope you remember that the pearl
is from her grandmother,& not her mother....the only "first pearl"
with her mother, can only come from you. no one can steal that
away, and it is your daughter's feelings that will make that pearl
special, when you & her do it together- disney or not. psst, that
when the "magic" happens" for your daughter-not before.
the other , was just a pearl because "you" was not there. &
that is the difference. very much liked dumping sparkles ,
anyone can buy & do it, but it isn't special until your very
own fairy god-mother wave the wand. her grandmother was
just a dress reheresal.
i'm old-er , in the people business but not the disney type,
been married for-ever, have 3 kids, and one mil. thanks
goodness for the last part. however, s/p 30 years, &
a few xmas ago...she got me an extra present. a ball
cap that had "living legend" embalzed on it.
just because it was bad outing didn't mean you had a bad trip.
most have troubles mixed in any trip , it just easier-better to
remember all the good things because they make it "worth"
coming back. those getting "stuck' on the bad things-often
never going back- & that's sad because the next trip may
have been their trip of a lifetime. so as it "is" for everyone.
but more than anything else, i just wanted to address what
your husband might have been feeling. first, if i had read your
story before my own experience--i would have felt you was
over the top, way too emotional and /or little crazy. now
let me share what changed all of that...., i thought my wife
was throwing away more of my $$$. on more junk. i could
care less and was just wandering around when my wife sneak
to the pearl stand. i was also irritated about her wasting my
time. my daughter, has been a blessing even before she
was born. she came 10 years after we decided no more.
she is also older than yours, a teenager. and this has been
something she been wanting to do for the past couple of
years....and she was dreaming for a black one. as they went
through the ritual , i heard her high expectations ,catching
my attentions---she could only make low pitch groans of
joy. she was so happy , she had tears & trembling as she
cup her hands to hold not one, but twins, solid black. yeah!
she was trembling with joy. 2 seconds before....all i was
thinking...what a waste of time. she picked 4 more times...
and 4 more times twins of black pearls. all matching.
then my wife chose....& she got twins, pink ones. by that
my son came back so we thought what the heck...he
broke our streak ...but is was black with a green ring
around it. later on the week, we stopped again and my
daughter picked another black twins.
the settings cost me more than $2,000. but the happiness
it gave my daughter/wife.....make it peanuts. i was not
interested & almost missed it. if your husband understood
the potential, i am sure he would have supporter your
efforts better. i know~ i never knew such a little thing
could be so exciting,
in time, i hope you can realize that your mil only redirected or
delayed the moment & there's plenty of time left to make
the memory even more special..maybe triplets ? either way,
i think it will be something extra. even if it has nothing to
do with pearls. faith & trust.
i would not worry about the strangers....every marriage has
a few rough bounces on the way. sorry no one offered any
comfort measures even from the cm's , as i think that
would have been the disney thing to do. but i bet if you
ask the cm with the biggest ears, he would welcome
you & your family-even mil, with welcome arms.

.... & even cindy has a few moments of
despair. i say your in good "company."