Honestly, I feel bad for everybody involved. What she is doing is horrible, but I am not ready to crucify her yet.
It sounds like she is at her wit's end. In the GMA link, she said that she had tried other methods like time out and it was a joke (her quote). That it didn't work. She does not do this to the other kids by the sounds of it (not that that makes it any better).
Have you ever seen or worked with a kid with attachment disorders? I know a kid with Reactive Attachment Disorder. (RAD). It is bad. The kid is the same age as the kid in the video and when the child flips out, the police have to be called the child is that violent. At 7. It is frightening. The parents in the case I know are doing everything to help the child, but it is a very slow road. The prognosis for RAD can be scary.
I am not saying this in any way to condone what she did. But until I know more about what is going on, I don't want to just dismiss her as a cruel woman. Remember the woman who returned her son? He had RAD I believe and if I remember correctly, she had tried to get help and nobody would help her. They were getting death threats from the kid and were scared of him. It makes me wonder if there is a similar circumstance.
I am glad that the courts are intervening. I think the whole family needs help. They either need to get them into counseling and teach her how to work with child with attachment disorders, or remove the little boy and put him in a home that is capable of raising a child with attachment disorders.
Go back and do some research on that story. As it turns out, the adoptive mother SAID the child was RAD, but had never once taken him to a doctor of any sort to actually get a diagnosis. As for her trying to get help and nobody coming to her aid.......Since she never reported his "behavior" to anyone (doctor, social worker, adoption agency, school) and in fact, gave glowing reports to the social worker, just how was anyone supposed to help? The ONLY thing she ever did was to phone a doctor and ask a few questions, but of course the doctor wanted to see the child and she refused to do that. NOTHING about her story adds up.
I'm not saying there aren't RAD kids. There are. But in that case, everything points to a woman who never sought help of any kind, if indeed there even was a problem that warranted help. She told any and all authority figures that the child and the adoption were fine. She homeschooled the child, so there was no way a teacher could even tell you what he was like in a classroom. Total isolation. In short, I don't buy a word of her story.
I think the child didn't live up to her expectations and she sent him back to Russia with a note, thinking she could cry "RAD" and everyone would pity her. Well, not me. There is not one ounce of proof the kid had RAD....Only her word for it, and I don't think that's worth a plug nickel. In fact, this is a woman who went out of her way to make sure NO ONE could say whether the kid had RAD or not. She hid him from everyone and did everything possible to avoid getting an official diagnosis. Perhaps because she knew she couldn't GET such a diagnosis. There's a difference between an older child having trouble adjusting to a new country, language, food, customs, family, etc., and a child with RAD.
Notice she was already trying to adopt another child even as she was trying to get rid of the boy. Seriously? We're supposed to believe that a woman who swears she was in fear for her life because of the threats from her adopted child would be hot to adopt another child? Don't buy it. If she was truly so terrified that she decided to abandon the boy, there is no way she'd be an eager beaver to jump on the adoption train again immediately. Her story does not hold water. Better for her to pack him off to Russia (knowing they will never send him back to the US) and be able to give only her side of the story than to actually take him to even ONE doctor and risk that doctor saying the kid was relatively normal and that she was the one with issues.
It's bad enough she never got the child any treatment......if indeed he ever needed it. But she went out of her way to make sure he never even got a diagnosis. When the dust settled, it seemed to me SHE was the one with mental issues.
As far as "hot sauce" freak is concerned, Hillbeans is right. She was
enjoying herself too much for my taste.
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