A lot of folks who use strollers as a wheelchair are great and quite often tell us to not put a ramp down since they can easily get the stroller/wheelchair on without any problem and in all honesty throughout the course of a day they have probably popped the stroller/wheelchair back on 2 wheels numerous times going up and down curbs etc however I still offer.
Usually the CM beats us to it and puts down the ramp, but we often do that with DD's wheelchair because it is pretty easy to pop the weight to the back wheels so that the front wheels go up into the monorail.
Once you have done that, it is easy to push the wheelchair onto the monorail.
My DD is 24 and we have been dealing with a wheelchair for 21 years, when most things were not accessible. We just got used to not always having things accessible and having to make do, so maybe I have a different perspective.
I've said this in a previous post but to me there is more to this then just being rude.
Some have said this may have happened to keep the monorail on schedule. Would telling the patrons to lift up the chair and the 11yr old child into the monorail instead of putting down the ramp save any amount of time?
I also believe there is a huge saftey issue here also telling the patron to lift up the chair and child into the monorail. What would happen if they tripped or lost their footing while lifting the transport chair into the monorail?
Is it up to the discretion of the CM's at the station when and when not to use a ramp or is there some policies in place?
The OP was in the handicap loading section and also reminded the CM that they had a wheelchair. This is a chair for an 11yr old, its got to be bigger and more obvious that its not a typical stroller for toddlers.
I'm glad this isn't hampering their vacation.
Without knowing what was in the CM's head, my guess is that he thought they would just pop a wheelie and put her on, the same as guests loading strollers do.
The words the OP wrote they were told were:
"I don't care. I'm not loading her. You can pick her up and load her".
That could have the interpretation of lift her entirely off the ground in the wheelchair and lift her on or pick up the front wheels (pop a wheelie).
My guess (although I obviously don't know) is that he thought they would pop a wheelie.
We have not totally lifted DD's wheelchair like that on the monorail, but have done it to get DD's wheelchair onto a boat a number of times - once a year when we rent a boat at OKW and several times to get onto WDW transportation boats. We also do it whenever we visit my mom because her apartment building has 3 steps to get up. We know what we are doing and it is not dangerous the way we do it.
The difference is that we knew we would be lifting her in, we expected it and planned how to do it.
If the OP had the option to choose whether or not they felt it was safe for them at that time or whether to use the ramp, it would be different. They could have decided if they felt it was safe or not.
So, IMHO, it was more rude than dangerous to be told to put the wheelchair onto the monorail without using the ramp.
And, unless the OP lets us know the size of their child, we don't know that she is the size of an average 11 yr old. Some children with disabilities are very small. One young man in my DD's dance class is 28 yrs old and is about the size of an average 3 yr old. Through the years, DD has a had several kids in her classrooms who were much smaller than average and looked like preschoolers.
That doesn't excuse rudeness (and I do think the CM was rude), but it is possible that an 11 yr old could be mistaken for a younger child.
First: It's wonderful to be able to talk to a CM about these issues. Thank you!
I will be on a 3-wheeler
ECV in November. A ramp is always required when boarding the Monorail on one of these.. correct?
Oh my! Just saw an image in my mind of me trying to pop a wheelie on one of those things.
I don't think you could pop a wheelie with an ECV very easily

(you do possibly have to be careful with the 3 wheeled ones if you are going up a steep hill though, because most of the weight is on the back, it would be possible for the front wheel to come off the ground because there is little weight on it.
In cars 3 and 4 ECV's and wheelchairs take priority, guests who ride in those cars are required to make room for ECV's or Wheelchairs should the space be needed, this can be a simple as folding up the stroller and making room or being put in to another car.
As far as I am concerned it is quite clearly posted inside the monorail and if they have a problem moving then they should choose a different car when getting on the monorail.
I absolutely have no problem enforcing this, If a guest starts to argue about being moved I'm more than happy pointing out the sign posted in the monorail or offering either security or monorail managements assistance.
We have had the CM point out to guests that they need to make room for DD's wheelchair. Most of the time, they are pretty nice about it.
It is helpful when a CM pops in to assist.
We have run into some rude transportation CMs, mostly on the buses. The complaint we made was about a driver who was 'shooting the breeze' talking to someone else while the bus was parked and completely ignored us. After we were on the bus, he refused to bend down to attach the tiedown straps to the area where I told him to and was insisting he needed to attach it "high up for safety" even when I told him that part was not safe to attach to. He argued with me and then tried to tell me that it was safe and acceptable to attach only 2 of the 4 tiedown straps.
At that point, I told him we were getting off the bus, which he gave us a hard time about.
That was rude and dangerous. It's also possible that the CM in the OP's situation was more like that.
I'm glad that it sounds like the OP got some closure on this and hopefully the CM will think a little more with the next guest.