Moms to be Part 4

[Nette]

WDWAurora -- Sorry you are stuck waiting. Make someone go for a walk with you... even if you just go around your block 50 times. OTOH, I did a really long walk w/ DH 3 days before DD was born and it didn't do anything but make me really hot and tired. Maybe the coffee table is a better idea.

I also totally get not wanting to use up your FMLA waiting. I had the same thing w/ DD... she came 4 days late. Hopefully you have less than that to wait.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I don't really have anything to say or update, and since we got the van and the weather is nice, we've been out a lot. Nothing really now, the little guy (who still doesn't have a name... ughhhh) is moving around a lot. Yesterday he was transverse, today I think he's some kind of diagonal.. lol.

I've been wanting to go to WDW in the worst way. We need a break, badly. DH and I are so tired, we're getting really snippy and short-fused. Sigh. I wish we could do Free Dining, LOL. Doesn't anyone have a teleportation device I could borrow? I'd do 3 days at Pop and then go home, but I think the airfare would cost more than the trip. SO I would like to figure out a small, local trip for us. We've done Great Wolf in the past, but its not so fun when you're pregnant.

WDWAurora, I hope labor kicks in for you ASAP. I wish I could suggest something, but I don't know what going into labor is like.




SO it's off to Walmart for us today. Fun fun fun. I wish I knew if someone was going to give us a shower or not, so I can either buy the baby's things, or hold off. Everything we have is pink, so we've gotta start from scratch. I have a $150 gift card from BRU that I've been hanging on to, which I wanted to put toward a double jogging stroller, but if we're not getting a shower, I could really use some other things before I buy that. Arrgghhh what a pain. I'm sister-less, cousin-less, and MIL doesn't want to step on any toes (and she's broke.) I know I should plan on not having a shower, but a few people have asked what we need, and I didnt know what to tell them.

 

[Temair]

We had our ultrasound this morning and we are having a BOY!!! Yay!!!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

WDWAurora ... due May 4... It's a boy!
Sherry7 ... due May 25... It's a girl!
EmALee ... due June 5... It's a girl!
mla973 ... due June 9... It's a surprise!
phragmipedium ... due June 10... It's a surprise!
kt_mom ... due June 12... It's a boy!
lilianddomsmom ... due June 20... It's a girl!
LaurenLC ... due June 28... It's a girl!
CaveCricket ... due July 7... It's a surprise!
Nette ... due July 9... It's a boy!
Locolala ... due July 12... It's a girl!
FoundMyPrince ... due July 25... It's a girl!
Milmore104 ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
TarzanKat ... due July 31... It's a surprise!
pixiegoose ... due August 5... It's a girl!
JennandNelsonRego ... due August 10... It's a surprise!
Vettechick99 ... due August 21... It's a girl!
kpm76 ... due August 22... It's a boy!
Piecey ... due August 31... It's a boy!
Irisbud ... due September 1st... It's a boy!
Mrs. Charming ... due September 7... It's a boy!
Gabes_Mommy ... due September 10... It's a surprise!
Temair ... due September 18... It's a boy!
cmskok ... due September 23rd... It's a surprise!
Pollito916 ... due September 28th... It's a girl!
Dizluvah ... due October 13th... It's a surprise!
sunlover13 ... due October 22nd... It's a surprise!
TSRE ... due November 2nd... It's a surprise!
WDWorBUST ... due November 15th... It's a surprise!
newddmommie ... due November 16th... It's a surprise!
Buckeye Princess ... due November 30th... It's a surprise!
Leger13 ... due December 12th... It's a surprise! ​

 

[Mrs. Charming]

We had our ultrasound this morning and we are having a BOY!!! Yay!!!

LOL, we seem to be manufacturing boys around here for the month of September!

Congrats on your little man!

 

[LaurenLC]

I can say that I am defiantly not cut out for this bed rest business.... I am bored out of my mind! I had my weekly doctor's appointment today and we (my husband, I and my doctor) were all ecstatic that it didn't end up with a trip to OB triage! As much as I hate bed rest it is obviously working because everything was tons better than the past two weeks. I still 'get to' do the 24 hour urine collection again this week and go for my nst on Friday, but at least things are going in the right direction.

I have a question for all of you... I actually started a thread asking about it, but it ended up turning into a mom vs. mom battle which was not my intent.....
Have any of you decided not to return to work after having your baby? And if so, how are you handling telling work? I always thought that I would return to work, but now we're thinking differently. Right now my thoughts are to return to work on my scheduled day (my mom or mother-in-law will stay with baby) and give my two weeks’ notice....
What do you all think of that? How are you planning on handling it?

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

 

[LaurenLC]

We had our ultrasound this morning and we are having a BOY!!! Yay!!!

Congratulations!

 

[Temair]

Oh and I forgot to add they also moved up my due date to sept 18th.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

I can say that I am defiantly not cut out for this bed rest business.... I am bored out of my mind! I had my weekly doctor's appointment today and we (my husband, I and my doctor) were all ecstatic that it didn't end up with a trip to OB triage! As much as I hate bed rest it is obviously working because everything was tons better than the past two weeks. I still 'get to' do the 24 hour urine collection again this week and go for my nst on Friday, but at least things are going in the right direction.

I have a question for all of you... I actually started a thread asking about it, but it ended up turning into a mom vs. mom battle which was not my intent.....
Have any of you decided not to return to work after having your baby? And if so, how are you handling telling work? I always thought that I would return to work, but now we're thinking differently. Right now my thoughts are to return to work on my scheduled day (my mom or mother-in-law will stay with baby) and give my two weeks’ notice....
What do you all think of that? How are you planning on handling it?

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

I'm glad the bedrest is helping you!

Bedrest sucks! Been there, done that. No fun at all. Thank goodness for my laptop.

My 'work' experience was this-- I planned on working up until or around my due date. But, I ended up having hyperemesis and couldn't hold food down, I basically couldn't function. I tried to take a leave of absence, that didn't fly. I didn't have short term disability, my then-OB was uncooperative, and so I had to quit. It was a disaster. I wasn't really planning on returning to work, so that was that.

I think if you're going to quit, do it while you are on your leave, maybe 3-4 weeks before you're scheduled to return. Just tie up all your loose ends before you begin your leave.

I hate the mom vs. mom battles, seriously. It's just a bunch of crap, we're not all gonna agree, and we're certainly not going to change someone's mind by berating them.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Oh and I forgot to add they also moved up my due date to sept 18th.

No prob! It's been fixed!

 

[Nette]

Re: going back to work...

I wish it was financially feasible for me to just stay home, but it's really not. We could live on my salary alone (with no savings potential) but not on DH's salary. I have considered (and sort of am still considering I guess) trying to work part time for a while.. but I would still have to pay for some amount of daycare, so I'm not sure it's really worth it.

With DD though, I was ready to go back to work when I did. I was really going insane with boredom and frustration by the time leave was up. This time though, I think that it would be nice to be able to pick DD up from school each day and help out at school or work on at home projects for the school. I'm also really dreading having to start pumping again. Ugh. I love nursing. I hate pumping. But I'm also too cheap to buy formula.

 

[kpm76]

I have a question for all of you... I actually started a thread asking about it, but it ended up turning into a mom vs. mom battle which was not my intent.....
Have any of you decided not to return to work after having your baby? And if so, how are you handling telling work? I always thought that I would return to work, but now we're thinking differently. Right now my thoughts are to return to work on my scheduled day (my mom or mother-in-law will stay with baby) and give my two weeks’ notice....
What do you all think of that? How are you planning on handling it?

Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

Ugh, those debates are awful and usually stem from insecurities on both sides. What working mom wants to be told someone else is raising her child and what SAHM wants to be told they gave up their identity and are living in poverty because they don't work?? Those threads usually degrade to that level and it's sad. If everyone was secure with the decision they made based on what was best for their family, nobody would be mud-slinging.....I digress....

I think the answer of when to give your notice is really based on what you think you "owe" your employer. I decided to go back to work part-time after I had my DD, but I took 8 full months off before that. Honestly, even the PT thing was not working for us and I work in a field that allowed me to start my own consulting business so I decided to quit my job completely and since then I have been doing contract work from home. I feel fortunate for the flexibility to be with DD and it works for us. I had a very close knit office and I had been with the agency for almost 10 years. Plus I was implementing a state-wide program so I didn't feel comfortable dumping that on someone else's lap after just 2 weeks notice. I think I stayed about a month after my notice working 3 days a week. DD was in a daycare in the building I worked in so it was convenient.

What are the consequences of telling them ahead of time that you will not be returning? I have no idea because I was in a position to take 8 months paid and then I could have taken another 4 unpaid......

 

[EmALee]

Ugh, I wish I had real news!! I didn't feel like looking for this thread last night, so I was waiting until somebody else posted. I'm a lazy bum.

I was at 1.5cm yesterday, which was progress, but not enough for me to go over to the hospital or anything. He's still head down, which is good. They did change my due date to today, with no questions, which was good. They called today and scheduled inducing for Tuesday. They didn't have anything available on Monday. They also didn't have any weekly appointments available on Monday, so I'm going in on Friday for a non-stress test (they didn't tell me that yesterday, so my time had to change this morning) and just my regular weekly appointment. The Dr. didn't think I would make it to next week, so now it's just waiting, which is frustrating! As if this whole getting pregnant thing wasn't enough waiting, now it's waiting for him to get here. I'm over waiting. I'm not allowed to leave the house alone (DH, his parents, my dad, my grandmother, etc. all driving me crazy) even to walk the block, so I can't even go for a decent walk to try to get things started. I may do laps around the coffee table. Argh.

I hope things start moving along for you soon!!

We had our ultrasound this morning and we are having a BOY!!! Yay!!!

Congratulations


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Thanks for your concerns everyone. I'm a little nervous about making the drive, 4 hours in the northwoods of WI is kind of scary. I keep telling my bf I'd rather just have her here so I don't have to worry about going into labor on the road. He's not so thrilled about the idea to say the least LOL. Besides, I have NOTHING here for her so we'd have to do some serious shopping and since I have no money right now and I won't let him spend it, I guess I have to go home So for right now I'm just taking it easy around his house, trying not to clean because my nesting is kicking in and with a 4 year old in the house it's a little messy.

I hope everyone is having a good day!

 

[LaurenLC]

I'm glad the bedrest is helping you!

Bedrest sucks! Been there, done that. No fun at all. Thank goodness for my laptop.

My 'work' experience was this-- I planned on working up until or around my due date. But, I ended up having hyperemesis and couldn't hold food down, I basically couldn't function. I tried to take a leave of absence, that didn't fly. I didn't have short term disability, my then-OB was uncooperative, and so I had to quit. It was a disaster. I wasn't really planning on returning to work, so that was that.

I think if you're going to quit, do it while you are on your leave, maybe 3-4 weeks before you're scheduled to return. Just tie up all your loose ends before you begin your leave.

I hate the mom vs. mom battles, seriously. It's just a bunch of crap, we're not all gonna agree, and we're certainly not going to change someone's mind by berating them.

Thanks for your thoughts....
My intentions were to tie up loose ends before my leave began, but then I ended up on bed rest and won't be able to return to work until my short term disability is up.... The only reason that I hesitate saying anything until I return to work is that I've heard horror stories of people's insurance charging them for OB services and companies 'playing' with people's benefits.

It's so frustrating, I want to do what's best for everyone, but I think I'll be resented (by the company) whatever I do....

 

[LaurenLC]

Re: going back to work...

I wish it was financially feasible for me to just stay home, but it's really not. We could live on my salary alone (with no savings potential) but not on DH's salary. I have considered (and sort of am still considering I guess) trying to work part time for a while.. but I would still have to pay for some amount of daycare, so I'm not sure it's really worth it.

With DD though, I was ready to go back to work when I did. I was really going insane with boredom and frustration by the time leave was up. This time though, I think that it would be nice to be able to pick DD up from school each day and help out at school or work on at home projects for the school. I'm also really dreading having to start pumping again. Ugh. I love nursing. I hate pumping. But I'm also too cheap to buy formula.

Trust me; I get the money piece... If I go back to work we would have the benefit of two salaries, but we would then also by paying close to, if not over, $600.00 a week in child care... I just can't rationalize paying that much and not seeing the real benefit of my paycheck.... Once you factor in the child care cost, gas (I have a 2 hour commute each day) clothing (I'm a retail executive so I have to be 'in-style') and lunches, I would hardly bring home anything…. And most of all, I’d be missing my little girl.

 

[Nette]

Trust me; I get the money piece... If I go back to work we would have the benefit of two salaries, but we would then also by paying close to, if not over, $600.00 a week in child care... I just can't rationalize paying that much and not seeing the real benefit of my paycheck.... Once you factor in the child care cost, gas (I have a 2 hour commute each day) clothing (I'm a retail executive so I have to be 'in-style') and lunches, I would hardly bring home anything…. And most of all, I’d be missing my little girl.

Ugh, your daycare is even more expensive than ours ($1200/mo)... And having to travel 2 hours each day would just be a deal breaker for me. I'm not sure when you should give your notice. Maybe go back a little earlier than anticipated, but part time only? And then give a few weeks notice? Then you can just play it off as missing the baby etc instead of something you planned (which might be viewed as intentionally trying to screw the company and could lead to issues w/ your benefits.) Have you read the company handbook? There might be info on just this kind of thing where after maternity leave you have to come back for a minimum time period before giving notice otherwise you are liable for certain expenses.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Trust me; I get the money piece... If I go back to work we would have the benefit of two salaries, but we would then also by paying close to, if not over, $600.00 a week in child care... I just can't rationalize paying that much and not seeing the real benefit of my paycheck.... Once you factor in the child care cost, gas (I have a 2 hour commute each day) clothing (I'm a retail executive so I have to be 'in-style') and lunches, I would hardly bring home anything…. And most of all, I’d be missing my little girl.

Yep. Thats basically where we are at. I wouldn't see the salary I worked for, it would go straight to daycare.

 

[Nette]

So yesterday from about 2pm - 6pm I had BH about 10 minutes apart consistently. I didn't call the doctor. I'm trying not to panic over every little thing, and I know w/ DD I had BH contractions for long spurts of regularity towards the end. Though, I don't think it ever happened as early as 30.5 weeks.

DH is supposed to travel for work starting on Sunday (yay... mother's day -- but that's a different rant) and I'm really nervous something is going to happen. I'll never forgive him if he isn't here. At least, right now I feel like I would never forgive him.

Someone tell me the BH thing is normal. I'm freaking out this morning.

 

[Temair]

My Dr said that if you get dehydrated you will get more BH. So make sure you are drinking lots of water. With my DD I never got many BH till right close to my due date, but with this one I've already had some, but it was due to doing to much and getting dehydrated. It scared me as I wasn't even 20 weeks yet.

 

[Nette]

My Dr said that if you get dehydrated you will get more BH. So make sure you are drinking lots of water. With my DD I never got many BH till right close to my due date, but with this one I've already had some, but it was due to doing to much and getting dehydrated. It scared me as I wasn't even 20 weeks yet.

Yeah I've heard that too... but I drink tons of water all day long, so it would surprise me if that is the case... (I'm talking close to 100oz per day probably)