"Mom, what does sex mean?"

[JESW]

This is the question i got from my 8 year old son tonight! That one just stumped me. I have always spoken honestly to my kids and answered their questions as best I could so they could understand. (Today we were at the cemetery with my Mom & Dad and DD4 so you can IMAGINE the questions I got there! But that's another thread..)

First I wanted to know which way he meant and why he was asking. Came out that a kid on the bus told everyone that two boys were sexing in the bathroom. Uhhh..am i out of it? Does that mean something? I just told him that kids his age hear words and they are not sure of what they mean but they still say them. He has heard all the swear words on the bus and just the other day said the "f" word. (and he knew right away that was so wrong and sent himself to his room. We had a nice little chat after that)

DS has had a lot of questions. He has seen pictures and knows where babies come from - I had a good book when I was pregnant with DD. He has asked a lot of questions on how babies get inside a woman. I can't believe that we were having "the talk" at such a young age. But when he asks me questions I feel that I have to tell him. I want him to know the truth and not believe the stuff that comes out on the bus.

Just a short while ago he asked me what "gay" meant. Geez...when I was 8 we never heard of any of these things!

This parenting thing gets harder and harder...I'm just glad that he feels comfortable enough to ask me these things. (DH conveniently slipped out of the room after the first question )

Jill

 

[Yzma and Kronk]

Wait until he asks what extending the middle finger means.
DD7 brought this one home from school a few weeks ago.
Let's just say my explanation, went something like this....."well, umm, let's see, ah, ummm........"
Sheeessh!

 

[momsal]

They want to know younger and younger!!! I blame tv but what are you going to do? You are doing the right thing!! Tell him the truth ( or as much of it as youi have to)

 

[*Robin*]

YIKRS! I have a 7yo...does this mean I should start getting prepared?????

 

[Michelle]

YES, be prepared.

At 9 my daughter has pretty much asked every question and I've given her every answer...honest answers, but age appropriate. I gave her a couple of good books as well, she's a big reader and she read them both a year or so ago and hasn't asked any questions since.

She DID ask that middle finger question for the first time the other day, and I just told her it was a rude gesture from one person to another and not nice. No biggie.

 

[*Robin*]

*big sigh* not looking forward to that!

 

[peg2001]

Originally posted by WebmasterMichelle
YES, be prepared.

At 9 my daughter has pretty much asked every question and I've given her every answer...honest answers, but age appropriate. I gave her a couple of good books as well, she's a big reader and she read them both a year or so ago and hasn't asked any questions since.

She DID ask that middle finger question for the first time the other day, and I just told her it was a rude gesture from one person to another and not nice. No biggie.

Well, I'm 34 and I still don't really know what the middle finger gesture is supposed to mean.

Peggy

 

[CruiserDew73]

It has something to do with some ancient warriors who cut off their middles fingers, and then held it up to taunt their prisoners...

 

[Cinders]

Wait until he asks what extending the middle finger means.

ROFL Oldest DS came home from school in second grade and gave me "the finger." I froze.....asked why he did that. LOL He said Mrs. (insert dumb blonde teachers name here) said that it means "I" in China. Then he danced around the living room finger up say I, I, I..... I said whoaaaaa no!!!!! I said well it may mean that in China but I doubt it. You're in America and it doesnt mean I here, its a very rude gesture and if I see you doing it again you'll have to put your nose on the wall for 10 minutes with your eyes closed. That stopped him but I must say there were some upset parents after that and nothing was done about it.

 

[RUDisney]

I got the middle finger question a couple of weeks ago from my 8yo DS. He knew that it meant something bad and that it was "cursive."

I explained that it means, "you're a big, dumb jerk who should do nasty things to yourself," but in a very not nice way, which makes it a curse. I told him that I never expect to see him show it to anyone again.

He said he was glad that I told him what it meant and he promised not to do it again.

One night, he came into the kitchen trying to do something and he said, "sh**." The real issue is that he said it exactly like I do sometimes. I explained that it was a word that Mommy can use, but he can't use until he's 18.

 

[WillyJ]

JESW,


My advice is to tell your son "sex" is the number between five and seven, give him some Children's NyQuil, and then spend the rest of evening drinking beer and watching Cinemax. .

 

[MomE@Home]

RUDisney, your sh** story remind me of when my DS(14) was around 2 or 3 yrs. old. My DS and my MIL were blowing bubbles on the porch when the bubbles tipped over, DS yelled SH** ! My MIL looked so shocked ! She asked him where he had heard that and said that he must have heard it from his Dad. I was so embarrassed because I knew he had heard me say it. Needless to say my DS & myself had a talk about swearing after we got home and I curbed my sh** useage.

 

[Gette88]

I like WillyJ's reply LOL. Silly

 

[MerryPoppins]

These are great stories. My brother drove his toy train across the floor when he was very young, saying "sh**, sh**, sh**" instead of choo-choo. My mother was mortified. LOL!

 

[JESW]

I knew I would stir up some responses with parents here with this one!

Willy...if it was only that easy! lol!

DS8 also has told me about the middle finger and asked me if I wanted to know all the swear words because HE knew them! Oh boy..I think he is getting waaaaaay too much of an education on that bus!

I've got it from both ends. DD is 4 and she likes telling everyone they have a big butt...

heavy sigh.

Jill

 

[Gette88]

This is so embarrassing, but last night my DH was telling me a story and so-n-so said "don't bust my chops" and DD 3 said "Daddy you mean balls". OMG we were mortified While talking on the phone earlier today we both said we really have to watch what we say. What's the saying ? Little pictures ?

 

[AngieBelle]

I remember once in elementary school, some kid told me that sex was when a man and woman stood naked in front of each other! I remember thinking "ew, I'll never do that."

In elementary school, I heard kids making references to the "s word" and the "f word" but I didn't know what they were. I once surprised my mom but saying damn it, something I had heard her say many times. hehe.

Even today, I only swear when I'm by myself so people are shocked if they ever catch me. lol. Most people think I'm more innocent than I am

 

[mhopset]

you could tell him that "sex" is something that doesn't happen often enough.

 

[JESW]

lol mhopset...you sound like my DH!