mini vent

[meggiebeth]

I hope things have gotten better as regards to your colluegue. She is being manipulative, and obviously needs some boundaries!

 

[bearloch]

Please let us know how this worked out!

 

[KennesawNemo]

Dear all, OP here. Thank you for your kind suggestions.

I worked from home last Friday, so I let her have it for another day. Monday, I went to her desk and asked her if she had got herself a coat over the weekend because I wanted mine back. She said "oh, you can have it back". No "thank you" and no "sorry". But it's fine, I have my coat back. I have sent it to the dry cleaner and locked everything else that's not office supply in my cabinet.

I have to say I am a person who hates conflicts to an extreme point. I think it has something to do with the culture I was brought up in. I was always taught to be tolerate and not to fight. I do understand that's very different from being taken advangtage of.

Thank you all so much for the understanding! I will work on standing up for myself from now on.

 

[hereyago]

Dear all, OP here. Thank you for your kind suggestions.

I worked from home last Friday, so I let her have it for another day. Monday, I went to her desk and asked her if she had got herself a coat over the weekend because I wanted mine back. She said "oh, you can have it back". No "thank you" and no "sorry". But it's fine, I have my coat back. I have sent it to the dry cleaner and locked everything else that's not office supply in my cabinet.

I have to say I am a person who hates conflicts to an extreme point. I think it has something to do with the culture I was brought up in. I was always taught to be tolerate and not to fight. I do understand that's very different from being taken advangtage of.

Thank you all so much for the understanding! I will work on standing up for myself from now on.

So glad you got it back!! Learning to stand up for yourself is a process and not many people really like to be in a conflict, but I'd rather be in a conflict then to let someone take advantage of me.

As for her not saying sorry or thanks, that wasn't going to happen, people like that feel they are entitled to do what they want, that you are there to serve them.

Enjoy having your stuff to yourself now.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

I try and avoid confrontation as much as possible, but I even would have to say something to her. And I would demand the jacket back. It belongs to you, not her, and she has no say in how long she gets to "borrow" it.

I would also not keep any extra jackets or whatever in your office anymore. Only what you're wearing. Keep whatever else locked in your car.

Your coworker has a lot of nerve!