Millennials and travel

[Searc]

So phrase it "why are people in their 50-70s paying to take their adult children on vacation when those children are capable of taking their own vacations?"

Except she specifically noted the parent's aren't paying.

 

[tvguy]

So phrase it "why are people in their 50-70s paying to take their adult children on vacation when those children are capable of taking their own vacations?"

My mom paid for some of the vacations we went on with her and her response was she "was getting to enjoy us spending our inheritance while she was still here to enjoy it too"
I have paid for vacations for my adult children, including one with DD coming in March to Spring Training.
I got flamed when I phrased it this way when talking about parents paying for their kids college, but I was just raised to believe that these things are "just things parents do for their kids" if they can.
You pay for their college, take them on vacations as adults, lend them money when they need it. And later in my life, they may have to return the favor of some money or their time.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Except she specifically noted the parent's aren't paying.

I "liked" the post because I think the line of thinking can be the same even if the young adults are paying for themselves (given my earlier thoughts that is).

 

[skyblue17]

Except she specifically noted the parent's aren't paying.

The person I quoted is objecting to parents who do pay. Either way, there are two generations involved, so putting it on one is weird.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

My mom paid for some of the vacations we went on with her and her response was she "was getting to enjoy us spending our inheritance while she was still here to enjoy it too"
I have paid for vacations for my adult children, including one with DD coming in March to Spring Training.
I got flamed when I phrased it this way when talking about parents paying for their kids college, but I was just raised to believe that these things are "just things parents do for their kids" if they can.
You pay for their college, take them on vacations as adults, lend them money when they need it. And later in my life, they may have to return the favor of some money or their time.

You're totally not the only one to think like that but I so wouldn't want it held over my head "I paid for this I paid for that now it's time for you to return that by paying for me (be it time, or actual money)" The concept of tit for tat based on obligations of past deeds such that you're talking about.

 

[CdnCarrie]

I have traveled numerous times to WDW with my mother, but I don't want her, or our kids, on every vacation with us (I'm 45 and married 23 years). I think CdnCarrie is specifically talking about kids who don't vacation anywhere *without* their parents.

I am. And exactly.

 

[okeydokey]

I think the number of millennials who have never traveled without their parents is lower than you are saying. Not sure this an another thing to ping millenials about.

We travel with family and without family. My kids do the same.

 

[tvguy]

You're totally not the only one to think like that but I so wouldn't want it held over my head "I paid for this I paid for that now it's time for you to return that by paying for me (be it time, or actual money)" The concept of tit for tat based on obligations of past deeds such that you're talking about.

I never felt like that was held over my head by my mom. I hope my kids don't feel that way. But the reality is I might need my kids help from time to time and they may need my (and my wife's) help.
Whether it be baby sitting our granddaughter or lending them a car, etc.

 

[Moliphino]

I think the number of millennials who have never traveled without their parents is lower than you are saying. Not sure this an another thing to ping millenials about.

We travel with family and without family. My kids do the same.

I agree.

Last year both of my vacations were with my parents (Rome and WDW). The year before neither were (Spain and WDW). The year before that both (Paris and WDW) AND they came along on my work trip, but we didn't spend all of our time together at WDW because some of my aunts and uncles also came along for part of the trip and they went at a slower pace than my sister and I like to. 2015 and 2016 we didn't travel together.

Everyone paid their own way for all of these trips and my sister and I were the ones doing the planning.

 

[LadyntheTramp]

My question is where do the kids live in proximity to their parents?

For us we live across the country from family, so all mine and my husbands vacation time to goes to extended family. Either they come with us on vacation or we go visit them for vacation. We do have a few vacations planned just our family but they are several years away. At the moment all vacations are either with grandparents or aunts/uncles.

In fact we are going to the beach with my aunts, uncle, and cousins...It will be roughly 24 people all in one house for a week. We have always done vacations with family and I want to continue it. I can think of maybe 4 trips I took with friends in college...It wasn't really something that I did, but I always vacationed with family.

Before kids, my husband and I did take some vacations alone but I can really only think of two majors ones. We did and still do alot of weekend trips that our just family.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I never felt like that was held over my head by my mom. I hope my kids don't feel that way. But the reality is I might need my kids help from time to time and they may need my (and my wife's) help.
Whether it be baby sitting our granddaughter or lending them a car, etc.

Well sure I wasn't suggesting you felt that way but it is a valid way someone may feel.

Right about your kids needing help but from your prior comments that help is coming with a future "IOU" attached. Paying for college education or vacations among many other things but attaching that with a future "IOU" is what I was referring to.

 

[tvguy]

Well sure I wasn't suggesting you felt that way but it is a valid way someone may feel.

Right about your kids needing help but from your prior comments that help is coming with a future "IOU" attached. Paying for college education or vacations among many other things but attaching that with a future "IOU" is what I was referring to.

Well I never ever intended anything I ever posted to mean it is an IOU. It is give and take and like I keep saying, because "this is what families do."

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Well I never ever intended anything I ever posted to mean it is an IOU. It is give and take and like I keep saying, because "this is what families do."

Right but my point is exactly that...if it's what families do then it doesn't matter that college was paid for by parents or that vacations were paid for by parents.

That's a materialistic tit for tat done out of financial past obligations not because "hey they're your family we help each other out" kind of thing with no strings attached.

I get what you're meaning I've just heard the sentiment many times over phrased the way you have just felt like clarifying

 

[CdnCarrie]

My question is where do the kids live in proximity to their parents?

For us we live across the country from family, so all mine and my husbands vacation time to goes to extended family. Either they come with us on vacation or we go visit them for vacation. We do have a few vacations planned just our family but they are several years away. At the moment all vacations are either with grandparents or aunts/uncles.

In fact we are going to the beach with my aunts, uncle, and cousins...It will be roughly 24 people all in one house for a week. We have always done vacations with family and I want to continue it. I can think of maybe 4 trips I took with friends in college...It wasn't really something that I did, but I always vacationed with family.

Before kids, my husband and I did take some vacations alone but I can really only think of two majors ones. We did and still do alot of weekend trips that our just family.

Distance would play a factor. Growing up we lived in a different province than our extended families so vacations were often going back there.
I do have relatives that celebrate Christmas in a vacation spot so that they all gather.

The ones in my circle all live in the same city as the parental units.

 

[cvjw]

May I ask if inviting includes you paying? No criticism - I would have gone practically anywhere with my parents if they were treating, especially way back in my single days. Our DS is similar. I do doubt he would accompany us if he had to pay for it himself though and given his age, we're at peace with that.

Yes, we pay . If we invite, we pay! We try to take one family vacation with our family of 4 each year - generally a Disney cruise. We are just so delighted to get a week with our grown kids.

We come from families that still travel together. We have taken an extended family trip to the Caribbean each summer with DH’s family - with his parents paying for everyone.

We also rent a big house at watercolor every summer with my extended family - with my parents paying.

Parents paying for extended family vacations is just how we roll

 

[Searc]

I would be extremely uncomfortable as a successful adult having my parents try to pay for my leisure time. If we'd go, we would pay our own way.

 

[tvguy]

Right but my point is exactly that...if it's what families do then it doesn't matter that college was paid for by parents or that vacations were paid for by parents.

That's a materialistic tit for tat done out of financial past obligations not because "hey they're your family we help each other out" kind of thing with no strings attached.

I get what you're meaning I've just heard the sentiment many times over phrased the way you have just felt like clarifying

Well, you are reading stuff into my posts that I never even thought of.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Well, you are reading stuff into my posts that I never even thought of.

That wouldn't be the first time that's happened to me

 

[VandVsmama]

Who cares?

 

[tvguy]

That wouldn't be the first time that's happened to me

Same here. But I work in a TV newsroom and answer viewer calls. Like the people who wanted to know when the wildfires were burning why they didn't just set off bombs to blow out the fires. Apparently that is done in some parts of the world. But probably would be counter productive given that it would also blow up wildlife and houses. But I had never thought of doing that.