Mild vent

[nana50]

I can totally see that you are disappointed. However, I am going to play devil's advocate. You got to spend time with them and they got to do things they liked to do. If something awful were to happen tomorrow, you would never regret that you spent that money and didn't get to ride RSR. You would be grateful that you had gone with them and spent time with them.

You are so right. I have already lost 2 siblings which is why I did this. I paid for everything because there is no way they could afford it. My older sister died of Lou Gherigs. It was diagnosed quite late and we didn't have time to do things with her. I told myself I wouldn't wait until it was too late again. They did say they had a good time, but I know it wasn't that great for them as they were ready to be done early both days.

 

[nana50]

FWIW, their version of fun at Disneyland is very similar to my brother and sister in law. And I live up here in Tacoma, while they live in Chula Vista. We're the opposite.

Actually, I live right next to Chula Vista in Bonita. Call me next time you are down this way.




But it doesn't seem like they *could have* done all of what they did inside of one day. It sounds like they were enjoying themselves, but just couldn't do a whole lot. Back to my sibling; he refused to consider FPs until he had known about them for 4 years. He would rather do far less than go back and forth. He is totally content to do a few rides and go home.

It's too bad you guys couldn't have had more honest conversations; I suppose there is a good reason you didn't share how much it was and/or how much you wanted to do other things. I assume there's a reason you didn't say "you guys shop here and here, and I'm going to do the Single Rider line for RSR b/c I'm dying to ride it". No matter the reasons, now you know that their style is very different from yours.

Thanks for all the sympathy. I knew you guys would "get it". I'm over my funk and you are right, they did enjoy it in their own way. I will be going again soon with my grandkids and they will go aaalllll day. I'm so lucky to live close. I should quit my complaining. If it was a once in a lifetime trip I would be verrrry sad.

 

[Pesky]

Sorry it turned out to be such a hard trip. At least now you know and good thing is you've been there, done that with them so are unlikely to deal with such a different style from them again. Hopefully your do-over trip with grandkids will be much better!

 

[joeysmommy]

That stinks!

I kind of experienced the same thing with my Mom last September.

We like going with other people but usually only overlap one day with friends so we can still do things our way...rides! rides! rides! fastpasses! and more rides!

We have our routines we like and sometimes non-Disney peeps put a damper on that.

 

[Malcon10t]

I'm sorry the trip didn't come off as great as you wanted. But I can also see their point. My group is more of the "Let's wander and see what we find." We go often (monthly, to every 6 weeks) and enjoy our way of doing Disney. My brother thinks if you aren't on a ride, you are wasting time. So, when they join us, we spend meals together, then let everyone do their own thing. He knows if he wants to spend time with us, he will need to go at our pace. So we do meet ups, then go on with our plans.

 

[TheChapman6]

I'm sorry things didn't go as planned make a little "bucket list" for your next trip and make sure you get all the things done you wanted to do. Then make sure you get them all done even if you do them alone. If I was closer I'd go with you.

 

[TheChapman6]

Actually we are going next week if you want to meet up one day!

 

[nana50]

Thanks for all the offers. I have 2 trips planned this month so that should satisfy my ride urges.

 

[Belle5]

If you can't complain a little here, where else would anyone understand? I would have been very frustrated...Having said that, I do think you should have made a point of saying that your own priority was going to be RSR. Surely, they would have "given" you ONE indulgence!

 

[Cheshirecatty]

If you can't complain a little here, where else would anyone understand? I would have been very frustrated...Having said that, I do think you should have made a point of saying that your own priority was going to be RSR. Surely, they would have "given" you ONE indulgence!

I have to agree--this is definately the right place to complain/vent, because I think we pretty much can understand and empathize when expectations don't "pan out"!

I hope your trip with the grand kids is fabulous!

 

[brertoad]

Sounds like you did something amazing for your sister and BIL.
At least you have the memories. Save some money to treat yourself to something special next time, sounds like you really deserve it for being such a great sister. That was very generous and kind of you.

Just seems like they lack the stamina or enthusiasm that you have to have fun. Sometimes family and friends just seem to be "party poopers" (aka Debbie Downers), for whatever reasons, it could be completely legitimate reasons like physical limitations, illness, or energy levels, but also things within their control like attitude, willingness, rudeness, or many other reasons. And they end up not being ideal traveling companions.
They should have definitely offered to wait for you while you ride on something you were wanting to do. It's not fun when there isn't give and take.

 

[lana772]

I totally agree with brertoad. I have had repeated situations with family members where I included them in my plans only to have them not appreciate it or make themselves miserable. I have learned not to focus on trying to make them happy. Some people you just can't.

 

[CaptainEIEIO]

Wow, sorry about your trip.

I would have been going on the rides anyway. Once I got them back to the room I would have said something like, "okay, you all enjoy your evening here in the room, I'm going to Disneyland while its still open, I can watch tv at home." and I would have left them sitting there while I went out and had me some fun.

They may vacation different than you or I do, but I still would not have let them get me down like that, I would have done my vacation my way, and spent what time I could with them. If they wanted to be in the rooms I would have taken them there so I know they were okay and safe and whenever they were ready to go to the parks I would have been right there with them. If need be I would have went back and got them for a meal, but then if they didn't want to go back to the parks, again, I would have went and made arrangements on when to meet up next time.

I would have done it all politely, but I would have done it. I don't spend my vacation money to sit in a room.

 

[MrsMears]

My husband and I have a saying, "do not base your joy upon the deeds of others".

Honestly, if I had a sibling or friend that expressed your bitterness about money spent, it would be the last vacation I would ever take with that sibling or friend. If you can't just be compassionate and excepting of other's limitations without mentioning the money you are out, you are really better off just saving for your own direct needs. I took my disabled 55 year old sister last year for her birthday. I paid for everything. We didn't experience the park anything like the way my husband and I do. She wanted to shop, sit, didn't want to ride anything and got tired often. It was such a precious cherished experience. The human connection is so valuable, you can't just buy that into existence, it comes right from the heart.

 

[larina]

My husband and I have a saying, "do not base your joy upon the deeds of others".
....

Wise words to live by!

 

[Belle5]

My husband and I have a saying, "do not base your joy upon the deeds of others".

Honestly, if I had a sibling or friend that expressed your bitterness about money spent, it would be the last vacation I would ever take with that sibling or friend. If you can't just be compassionate and excepting of other's limitations without mentioning the money you are out, you are really better off just saving for your own direct needs. I took my disabled 55 year old sister last year for her birthday. I paid for everything. We didn't experience the park anything like the way my husband and I do. She wanted to shop, sit, didn't want to ride anything and got tired often. It was such a precious cherished experience. The human connection is so valuable, you can't just buy that into existence, it comes right from the heart.

I am sure OP has a good "feel" for the limitations of her own relatives. I am sure she believes in her heart that they were capable of much more than what they gave as far as effort in the parks or she would not have complained!! You understood the limitations of your own 55 year old sister and were satisfied with your trip. The OP knows her relatives and did not feel the same. Her situation is clearly different from yours. She is obviously NOT a selfish person based on the way she attempts to treat others to vacations.