MIL rant threads

[MamaLema]

I've read my fair share of them on the DIS and I've noticed one thing to be true 99% of the time - it's usually always the woman complaining about HER mother in law. How come we don't hear about men complaining about their DW's mother? I find it interesting.

With me and DH, it's my mom who makes the problems and interferes. Luckily, DH is extremely patient . Any thoughts?

 

[jrydberg]

We're smart enough not to put it in writing

 

[MamaLema]

We're smart enough not to put it in writing

 

[Aimeedyan]

You must not live in my house, LOL! DH has his rants for sure but he usually doesn't jump online and tell a bunch of strangers about it.

 

[Kermit]

I think that women in general are more likely to rant. Also, women are more likely to get into another woman's business in a more personal way. I mean, my MIL asks questions about what kinds of food I cook for DH and what I do to help him relax after work, but my mom never asks my DH those kinds of personal questions.

 

[wheeler1]

I can only offer my personal experience, but maybe its not so uncommon...

My DH and I have been together for 19 years, I have never ever in that amount of time been treated like a member of his parents family. Mostly treated like some sort of sub human species....you know the drill.

Now take my DH's sister for instance, she routinely brings home "fixer uppers"
(she is now 41 btw). The last one was on his way to prison for almost killing a police officer. He did two prison terms while my SIL was "with" him.
I kid you not. My DH parents practically fell over themselves welcoming him, oh, he's such a nice guy, all we want is for her to be happy etc etc etc etc.

It just never occured to them that his cocaine habits, boozing and general propensity for violence was an acceptable reason to not shower him with all the warm and fuzzies they could manage.

I am seen as the threat to "mum", if I dont do something the way she does it I'm ridiculed. Poor Poor hubby, having to live with someone who doesnt do things the "right" way.....

Oh I'm ranting!!!!! so sorry

What I am trying to say is it seems to me that the daughters husbands are often treated like gold whilst the sons wives........well, you get the picture!!

Yay!! Its the weekend

Have a good one!

 

[tiggersmom2]

We're smart enough not to put it in writing

That is so true. My DH doesn't have the most....uh....cordial relationship with my Mom but he would never tell that to a stranger (just me )

 

[DisneyPhD]

Actually I love my MIL. She is great.

My DH has more to complain about my mother, but he love her too. She is a very kind and loving person, but takes a bit of pateince. (funny because she raised 4 kids, 3 of them boys so she must have a lot of it herself.)

I don't think men vent as much, and don't feel the need to be right, or validated they are right about things like this. I also think most men find it a given that their MIL might be a little nutso, but they need to keep their mouths shut about it.

Also there tends to be a lot of women (married ones) here on DIS.


Oh and my best friends MIL is truely nuts. It makes me appreicate mine all the more.

 

[Microcell]

I wouldn't have believed it until I had my DS and I can tell you right now, while he sucks on his little three year old finger watching Spongebob, there is not a woman on this planet good enough for him.

I chalk it up to the Freudian theory that women have a special bond with their son, that causes jealousy of another woman being more important to him. The thought makes me sad.

My MIL loves the thought that he likes her food better. He says he dosen't (both ends against the middle a touch) but I let her have he ideas that nobodyy does things as good as mom. She is nice enough to me, why burst her bubble. Honestly Dh likes his own cooking the best!

FYI- I don't think my Dh would get along at all with my mom. She was very controlling and I adored her and probably still would if she was alive. I always did what she said, and I think Dh would get annoyed at her interference.

 

[DisneyPhD]

I wouldn't have believed it until I had my DS and I can tell you right now, while he sucks on his little three year old finger watching Spongebob, there is not a woman on this planet good enough for him.

I chalk it up to the Freudian theory that women have a special bond with their son, that causes jealousy of another woman being more important to him. The thought makes me sad.

My MIL loves the thought that he likes her food better. He says he dosen't (both ends against the middle a touch) but I let her have he ideas that nobodyy does things as good as mom. She is nice enough to me, why burst her bubble. Honestly Dh likes his own cooking the best!

FYI- I don't think my Dh would get along at all with my mom. She was very controlling and I adored her and probably still would if she was alive. I always did what she said, and I think Dh would get annoyed at her interference.

Those are very wise words. I don't think I would of thought about it, I only have DD's (so far.) They say "a son is his mothers until he takes a wife, but a daughter is her mother's all her life." I guess that is very true.

My own MIL had a MIL with some major control issues and is still pulling them (she is 97 years old!!!!! She keeps playing the "wait to have a life yourself until I die" card, but really she is 97 and very healthy! (at least none life threating.) So I know my MIL is very senstive to the issues and I think she may have said to herself a number of times "I will never do that to my DIL." Both my SIL and really admire her, (but yes she makes us a little crazy from time to time, all family does.)

Of course we both know that right on the money Freud may have been for some things, he really was just a dirty own man with a mommy complex himself!!!! (every human emotion and motovation comes back to sex, I like to think I am a bit deaper then that.)