Men are such fools.

[LilBlackSheep]

All you posters who say there's nothing wrong with it if they're in love blah blah blah. What about the single 40 something women out there who want a man THEIR age and he wants the 20 something year old!!! That is a phenomenom and there have been studies on it. That is unfair to the mature single ladies out there cause they know the majority of men their age are going to go for the young thang......ALOT of you are missing the big picture!

Life isn't fair...period. It is...however...what you make it.

 

[JerseyJanice]

I don't see how a difference in age makes someone a fool.

ITA. There are many reasons why someone might be a food, but dating a much older or younger person doesn't automatically make one.

Attended a wonderful christmas party that a wealthy man held for his company/clients. He went thru a bad divorce a couple years ago.

I think it was nice of this man to share his wealth and hospitality with business associates. It's not easy to plan a party, especially all by yourself, so perhaps this young lady helped him plan the party. You know, it may not have happened without her.

 

[Mom21]

All you posters who say there's nothing wrong with it if they're in love blah blah blah. What about the single 40 something women out there who want a man THEIR age and he wants the 20 something year old!!! That is a phenomenom and there have been studies on it. That is unfair to the mature single ladies out there cause they know the majority of men their age are going to go for the young thang......ALOT of you are missing the big picture!

I'm sorry to disagree with you, but I am a woman in my 40's. Men my age bore me for the most part. Should I feel sorry for them and keep dating them because it is unfair to them I want a 30yo? No. I should date someone that makes me happy whether he is 30 or 50.

I don't really go out or put myself out there but there are plenty of 40 and 50 something men perfectly happy with a woman their age. I haven't had a problem getting a date when I wanted one.

 

[Phil'sFrontier]

Even though I know the OP didn't mean to offend anyone. I find this thread title a little offensive. Just helps generate a sexual stereotype imho

my .02¢

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

All you posters who say there's nothing wrong with it if they're in love blah blah blah. What about the single 40 something women out there who want a man THEIR age and he wants the 20 something year old!!! That is a phenomenom and there have been studies on it. That is unfair to the mature single ladies out there cause they know the majority of men their age are going to go for the young thang......ALOT of you are missing the big picture!

A LOT of men (and women) don't want to deal with the emotional baggage that some people their age seem to drag around.

who wants to date a women (or man) that only talks about how she/he got messed over by former spouses, etc. etc. etc.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Even though I know the OP didn't mean to offend anyone. I find this thread title a little offensive. Just helps generate a sexual stereotype imho

my .02¢

So true! She's way too High Class to do that!

 

[jemgumby]

Sooooo......men should only date people their own age even if they are attracted to someone younger?

What if I wanted to date an older man (if I wasn't married of course) because I like older men better?

Duh men ARE USUALLY attracted so someone younger....THAT's the whole deal! Heck I'm 36 and HAPPILY married to a man 2 yrs older than me BTW. Anyway, when I see some guys in their early 20's well DUH they ARE attractive. I know a married couple where she was 16 and he was 23 when they got married. Was he probably attracted to her well yes but was it responsible on his part? No....she was still a child. I hate to see how alot of older grown men act around young women. It's pretty disgusting. Here's an interesting article on the why older men want a younger woman and vice versa:

http://www.thirdage.com/dating/why-do-older-men-date-younger-women

 

[jemgumby]

A LOT of men (and women) don't want to deal with the emotional baggage that some people their age seem to drag around.

who wants to date a women (or man) that only talks about how she/he got messed over by former spouses, etc. etc. etc.

So your going to stereotype all people as older as having "emotional baggage".....interesting.

My point is that what usually starts the relationship between a much older man and a younger woman is sorry to say but sex. Don't mean to be crude but he wants the young hottie. Does he want to be with her because of common interests? Not likely? We ALL know why he wants to be with her......That is so shallow. A relationship should be based more on a physical attraction. Whether it is an older woman going for a younger man, etc. The same thing applies. For a relationship to work it takes more than that. That is what I find COMPLETELY disgusting!!!!

 

[jemgumby]

Life isn't fair...period. It is...however...what you make it.

True but there is no need to enable people (like older men) who get tired of their wife and trade her in for a new model. Happens all the time and it is disgusting.

 

[BelleWDW]

I'm posting this as a Mother also.

But if I had a daughter and SHE was dating a 30 year older man just for the $$, I would not be happy....at all.

I cant believe the MOTHERS on this thread just think its a cute situation???

 

[LilBlackSheep]

Here's an interesting article on the why older men want a younger woman and vice versa:

http://www.thirdage.com/dating/why-do-older-men-date-younger-women

Yeah, uh huh, that's why I'm with my younger husband. It couldn't remotely be because I love him...could it? Oh brother!!

Talk about stereotyping.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

So your going to stereotype all people as older as having "emotional baggage".....interesting.

My point is that what usually starts the relationship between a much older man and a younger woman is sorry to say but sex. Don't mean to be crude but he wants the young hottie. Does he want to be with her because of common interests? Not likely? We ALL know why he wants to be with her......That is so shallow. A relationship should be based more on a physical attraction. Whether it is an older woman going for a younger man, etc. The same thing applies. For a relationship to work it takes more than that. That is what I find COMPLETELY disgusting!!!!

So big deal if they are in it for great sex! If that is enough for them then so be it. I personally want the whole package but I don't think you can wrap that up in a number. You never know who you will fall in love with. Also, for some people love isn't important. They want compatability or whatever. What may seem shallow to some may be the perfect relationship to others.

As a Mother would I be thrilled if it was my dd or ds? Honestly I don't know. I think it would boggle my mind why my child would want a spouse 30 years older than them. I don't think I would be happy about it but if they were adults on their own I wouldn't really have much say would I?

 

[tasha99]

So your going to stereotype all people as older as having "emotional baggage".....interesting.

My point is that what usually starts the relationship between a much older man and a younger woman is sorry to say but sex. Don't mean to be crude but he wants the young hottie. Does he want to be with her because of common interests? Not likely? We ALL know why he wants to be with her......That is so shallow. A relationship should be based more on a physical attraction. Whether it is an older woman going for a younger man, etc. The same thing applies. For a relationship to work it takes more than that. That is what I find COMPLETELY disgusting!!!!

You find it disgusting, but I find it kind of . . . hot. But then, I'm a 43 and prefer guys in their 50's to early 60's. I just do. Not interested in an extreme age difference (10-15 years is perfect for me), but I'm also not interested in men my own age. The woman in the opening post here is 28--old enough to be interesting in her own right, so I think it's unfair to her to assume he's only with her because of sex. But even so, wanting good sex is not shallow. I'm not sure why so many women don't realize that sex isn't just important, it's an integral part of a relationship.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Yeah, uh huh, that's why I'm with my younger husband. It couldn't remotely be because I love him...could it? Oh brother!!

Talk about stereotyping.

Nah, he is nothing more than a stud.

 

[LilBlackSheep]

True but there is no need to enable people (like older men) who get tired of their wife and trade her in for a new model. Happens all the time and it is disgusting.

I didn't say anything about fooling around and having an affair. You sure can twist things.

You said it wasn't "fair" to women in their 40's for men their age to be attracted to younger women.

And I said, life is what you make it.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

So your going to stereotype all people as older as having "emotional baggage".....interesting.

My point is that what usually starts the relationship between a much older man and a younger woman is sorry to say but sex. Don't mean to be crude but he wants the young hottie. Does he want to be with her because of common interests? Not likely? We ALL know why he wants to be with her......That is so shallow. A relationship should be based more on a physical attraction. Whether it is an older woman going for a younger man, etc. The same thing applies. For a relationship to work it takes more than that. That is what I find COMPLETELY disgusting!!!!

You just sterotyped they whole age difference relationship situation as sexual, now that, I find, is disturbing.

Perhaps some emotional baggage IS rearing its ugly head?

men and women can certainly find common grounds of interests besides sexual attraction.

Most mature adults that have had such relationships know that, and are not bothered by an age difference.

 

[PixieDust32]

What about the cougars and young boys? Like Maddona

 

[LilBlackSheep]

Nah, he is nothing more than a stud.

Well, yeah you're right, he is. And I'm the cougar.

 

[LilBlackSheep]

What about the cougars and young boys? Like Maddona

I'm a cougar and proud of it!!!

 

[PixieDust32]

Where did I see this before? Oh yes, "the girls next door"