Meeting Guys?

[WatchinCaptKangaroo]

Besides bars, clubs, church and dating websites?

I'm having the hardest time meeting single guys these days. I'm finding the *right type* kind of guys my age are married, in serious relationships, just want to party or are gay.

I don't date co-workers or go to church and while I enjoy bars and clubs they aren't ideal for meeting the *right* type of guy. And I'm not ready to go to a dating website. I know people have good luck but it's not my thing.

Suggestions?

 

[goofygirl]

Wish I knew. I'm in the same boat.

I don't like bars/clubs, I did the "singles nights" things already and hated it, did internet dating and kept meeting weirdos, I recently joined a church but they are mostly older or married, and I also don't date coworkers- its against my personal ethical code.

People tell me I'll meet "the one" when I'm not looking. I don't believe it.

Suggestions I've gotten is meet guys through friends, but my friends don't know any singles. I also hear "join groups", and I just run into the same problems in each group.

I am just meant to be single, and that's ok. I like my independence.

 

[nwdisgal]

Go skiing. I have had more guys try to pick up on me on the ski slopes. I'm not available - but that is where I would go if I were single and looking.

 

[Zoiebear]

there is a site www.dismates.com I think that is what it is. I know I have a hard time meeting men............ and then there is the issue I have 2 dogs that are part of the package and some men don't realize that they come with the package, good luck ................. let me know if you find out anything exciting
S

 

[nwdisgal]

there is a site www.dismates.com I think that is what it is. I know I have a hard time meeting men............ and then there is the issue I have 2 dogs that are part of the package and some men don't realize that they come with the package, good luck ................. let me know if you find out anything exciting
S

How could any man not love those dogs. They are darling.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

Hang out at Barnes & Noble or Borders and strike up a conversation with someone. It's a great place to meet someone, especially if it's one that has a coffee bar in it.

Volunteer for stuff. I volunteered for the fire department - that's how I landed my dh!

Take some classes at a community college. Study groups are a great way to meet someone.

Go to the gym - another good way to meet someone new.

Good luck - it will happen!

 

[Kirk]

Besides bars, clubs, church and dating websites?

I'm having the hardest time meeting single guys these days. I'm finding the *right type* kind of guys my age are married, in serious relationships, just want to party or are gay.

I don't date co-workers or go to church and while I enjoy bars and clubs they aren't ideal for meeting the *right* type of guy. And I'm not ready to go to a dating website. I know people have good luck but it's not my thing.

Suggestions?

No Co-workers, No Bars, No Clubs, No Church and No websites? Aren't you narrowing the field a little here? He could be standing right in front of you but you'd never know...

1) Who EXACTLY are you looking for? (Honestly)

2) Make a marketing plan!

You'll be amazed just how far a little positive thinking can take you!

 

[MouseWorshipin]

Sometimes it really does happen when you least expect it. I met mine at a co-worker's child's birthday party. I was apologizing for my lateness - my wiper blade had half-detached and I couldn't see and had to get off the highway-and he (a total stranger!) asked me why I didn't stop to fix it.

Told him I had no idea how to do that and would go to the shop. We left together so he could help me buy wiper blades (see, I have a really nice husband!), and the rest is history!

Don't despair.

 

[ducklite]

I agree about it happening when you least expect it. I was happily single and the last thing on my mind was finding the right guy. Well, along he came--I was at work, but he didn't work for the same company. We both worked for companies--completely different lines of work--that subcontracted for another company, so it was totally cool.

Anne

 

[Imzadi]

Sometimes it really does happen when you least expect it. I met mine at a co-worker's child's birthday party. I was apologizing for my lateness - my wiper blade had half-detached and I couldn't see and had to get off the highway-and he (a total stranger!) asked me why I didn't stop to fix it.

Told him I had no idea how to do that and would go to the shop. We left together so he could help me buy wiper blades (see, I have a really nice husband!), and the rest is history!

Wow! Ripping the wiper blade off my car as I type.

 

[RUDisney]

I wasn't looking for a boyfriend when DH found me. As a matter of fact, he was a coworker than, and still is now. He was dating my cousin's friend when he asked me out. I knew about her and knew we weren't going to be a long term thing. After our first date, he broke up with the other girl so we could go out again the next night and every night that week. After a month, he told me he loved me. I told him that it was far too soon to be thinking about such things. So, 16 years later, I'm very happy that things worked out the way that they did... whether I was looking or not for a boyfriend.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

Honestly, you really do meet someone when you least expect it or when you aren't looking. I met my dbf on myspace, but I wasn't using it to find a boyfriend. I was looking up people I went to high school with to see what they're up to. I added a few I recognized to my friend list and one of them emailed me and we just started chatting. Someone had just broken up with me a few days earlier, so I wasn't looking for anything. My dbf started out as a kind of rebound guy! And now I can't imagine my life without him.

Anyway, everyone has made some great suggestions. But don't narrow the field down quite so much. I have a couple of friends who met their husbands in bars. I've dated a couple of guys from work in the past. You just never know when love will find you.

 

[sajetto]

I know you said no websites but I just wanted to say that even though I was totally against online dating that is how I met my DF and I've never been happier in my life! There was no way I was going to pay $40+ for those match.com and eharmony.com websites. I met Michael on Yahoo.com I was on there for about 3 weeks and sifted through a few pages of responses and saw Michael and said I had to meet him. We talked in emails and on the phone for a week and then met the first time at Outback. He was the best date I ever had and was such a gentleman. Seriously, after our 2nd date I knew I would marry him. A year and a half later I'm planning my Disney wedding with him!


Really....a website may not hurt as much as you think. I thought it was going to be terrible and that I had gone as far in the bottom of the barrel as I could, but it turns out I was wrong

 

[rt2dz]

What is the *right type* first? That has a lot to do with where you go to meet men. And how old are you? Again, a lot to do with where the right playing field is.

I don't think you can go looking for someone. I think it just happens when it happens. And more likely to when you don't have huge expectations.

I met DH at a party a friend dragged me too. I bumped into him stepping backwards to let someone by and knocked him into a fish tank. The fish are all fine. But he made sure to make me feel so bad, I spent the night talking to him. I had no intention of dating anyone at that time. Just swore off men. I had been in a 3 year relationship that ended and then went on a 1 year dating spree and finally just wanted "me" time. Didn't quite happen that way.

Good places are a *young* church, doing volunteer work that actually interests you, through friends (I actually had a friend that made every friend shed had set her up on a date--winner of the best date during a six month span got $150. Didn't get past date #7, married him), cafes/restraurants, gyms, and by making the first move. Be bold.

 

[Maleficent13]

(I actually had a friend that made every friend shed had set her up on a date--winner of the best date during a six month span got $150. Didn't get past date #7, married him)

This made me LOL...what a concept. I love ingenuity! Did she follow through with the $150 payout?

 

[RUDisney]

My DH's grandmother didn't want to go to a dance one Saturday night because it was in the "wrong" section of town. "The boys there just aren't gentlemen." Her friends made her go and she met her DH. They had 9 children and about 60 grandchildren. The great grandchildren are still being born and now number between 30-35.

Sometimes life happens when we're busy making other plans.

 

[Floydian]

Hmm, I don't know, but if you find out, please tell me so that I'll know where to go to meet ladies.

I feel the same way about bars and clubs (and not just because that was where I met my ex-wife), and in my limited experience with internet dating stuff, I've found too many ads to be fronts for "services".

 

[CapeCodTenor]

I always had this problem when I was dating except it was the other way around. I couldn't find the right lady and I don't like bars or clubs. I finally found one through school. Maybe you can take a class at a community college or an extension program. Take photography or something. Just and idea.

 

[zalansky]

I met DH at work. Unless you are in management I don't see why it would be unethical, but that's just me? Even in that case there are exceptions. I think the workplace is one of the better places to find someone.

As some previous posters have already said, you are limiting your options a bit too much. I have a friend who is super picky and that is why she is still very single at 35 years old. Is it possible you're too picky?

 

[wvjules]

What is wrong with being picky?