Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[Hixski]

Yay for you Hix! Now you can really enjoy your vacation with no worries of being laid off!

I am sure we will have an "adios thread" for you over on the other side- But I will say it here too!

ADIOS and have a WONDERFUL time!

Congrats - although sometimes I think it is as tough surviving as being laid off. The feeling of guilty relief at not getting the pink slip plus the time it takes to mentally wind down from waiting for them to "rip off the band aid" so to speak.

Enjoy your vacation & hopefully your stress levels will be way down by the time you are back.

Thanks!!! I am going to have so many adult beverages this next week!!!!! That should make my stress level go back to normal.

 

[bulah1]

I am just a bit confused-- are they looking for you for a class reunion??

In your friend's e-mail, does she say she would like to get together, or was it just a, hi, how have you been kind of e-mail.

Sorry, I thought I threw in there that it was for our 10 year reunion. Didn't mean to confuse!

She did say at the end of her message that she wanted to get together. I guess she's only here for four months before she goes back to Costa Rica for her mission work with her hubby and is staying with friends. There was a hi -how are you 'ness' about the whole e-mail... but honestly I can't feel out the truthfullness behind it because I'm jaded about the whole relationship to begin with. I don't want to be a bad person, so I guess I need to get over the past and move on. I'm just so afraid of being hurt again. Ugh.

I'd say you have it right there..."just try it"

If you go in knowing your lives have taken different paths & you won't go back to the high-school best friends type of relationship, who knows what could happen? You could touch base once and it may end there, you could end up re-connecting w/someone from high school who becomes an acquaintance, casual friend, or possibly even a good friend.

I'd say better to try & walk away if you are uncomfortable w/the situation than to not at least be open to the possibilities.

Good luck! I hope it works out & the 2 of you can get together & have some laughs reminiscing over your HS days.

Thanks so much for the kind advice. I think you're so right, I guess I just needed to hear it. I guess I just keep holding the past few experiences which have been so drawn across the past several years... and I've labeled her now which is terrible. I've got this mindset as "this is how it will be because that is how it was"... You're right that I'll never know unless I give the experience the benefit of the doubt and just do it.

Personally, I'd probably be friendly, but also be really, really busy. My first thought on reading your post, especially when you commented on how much she changed from when you were best friends, is that this woman doesn't miss you - she misses the person she used to be at that time and is hoping to find that feeling again. I'd say to trust your instinct on this one. If you feel like you have it in you to risk being disappointed in her, go for it. If not, I think it's best to try to keep your distance.

LOL - I MISS the person she used to be too! You may be right there, she may be digging back in her life now that she does have a kid and thinking back on to what she used to have. I hope she still has some of that sparkle left in her. I miss that so much about her. I like to think I still have mine too.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond!! I'll be giving her a call in the next day or so. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for the support!

 

[KirklandTutu]

I just had a Disney dream...

DH and I are planning to go drinking around the world in February. I dreamed that we started in Canada and and stayed there from 11am-3:30pm. Then we had to rush around to get all the other drinks from the world. At least I dreamed that the food was really really good...except the food seemed like it was from the french pavillion.

This is what reading the DisBoards does to you.

 

[kennancat]

She did say at the end of her message that she wanted to get together. I guess she's only here for four months before she goes back to Costa Rica for her mission work with her hubby and is staying with friends.

Okay, I originally gave my advice thinking this was someone who lived in the same area as you did. If she's only there temporarily, I'd definitely say to give her a call and see how things turn out. Chances are it's only going to be a casual, getting together for a lunch a couple of times thing anyway, especially if she's got a toddler to run after. Good luck!

 

[kennancat]

I just had a Disney dream...

I once had a dream that I was being chased by kids on heelies... way too much time on the boards to get that one

 

[Mischa]

I just had a Disney dream...

DH and I are planning to go drinking around the world in February. I dreamed that we started in Canada and and stayed there from 11am-3:30pm. Then we had to rush around to get all the other drinks from the world. At least I dreamed that the food was really really good...except the food seemed like it was from the french pavillion.

This is what reading the DisBoards does to you.

I usually lurk on this thread because although DH & I are married and have no kids it's not what we choose. Anyway, I'm learning to live with that.

But I had to comment on this dream...I've had similar dreams, except we stayed in Italy way too long and all the food tasted like it was from Germany. This dream usually comes to me when I've had too much wine!

Thanks for the laugh - I so needed it today!

 

[FortWildernessLoopy]

My DH and I reply that we can't have kids, the cat is allergic.

We love going to WDW and DCL without children. You get to set your own schedule, ride whatever you like, dine in any restaurant and lets face it...its WAY cheaper .

 

[maddhatir]

My DH and I reply that we can't have kids, the cat is allergic.

HA! I love that one- and I can't bear children!

 

[roselark]

My DH and I reply that we can't have kids, the cat is allergic.

I LOVE it!!!! That will be the new phrase for my DH and I. Luckily our families have learned not to bug us anymore, so it is typically strangers that ask..

 

[Mischa]

My DH and I reply that we can't have kids, the cat is allergic.

We love going to WDW and DCL without children. You get to set your own schedule, ride whatever you like, dine in any restaurant and lets face it...its WAY cheaper .

That is the funniest line! I love it! and it is definitely better going to WDW withOUT kids!

 

[FortWildernessLoopy]

I agree 1000%! My DH have tomorrow off so we're headed over to Fort Wilderness and then going to roam around the "world". Lunch somewhere on the Boardwalk and of course roaming over to our favorite resorts. We could never do all that with kids in tow.

 

[jumoo044]

Hi everyone! I've been reading this thread for a long time, but I haven't posted until now. My hubby and I have been married for 19 years and have no kids. We didn't plan not to have kids, it just never happened for us...and we're okay with that. Besides, with the state the world is in, I'm not so sure bringing more people into it is such a good thing. We have 2 cats, Cleo and Simon, and 2 basset hounds, Max and Molly. Oh, and we love Disney World! I'm glad I'm not alone, coz sometimes it seems like EVERYONE has kids!

 

[PrincessKitty1]

Hi everyone! I've been reading this thread for a long time, but I haven't posted until now. My hubby and I have been married for 19 years and have no kids. We didn't plan not to have kids, it just never happened for us...and we're okay with that. Besides, with the state the world is in, I'm not so sure bringing more people into it is such a good thing. We have 2 cats, Cleo and Simon, and 2 basset hounds, Max and Molly. Oh, and we love Disney World! I'm glad I'm not alone, coz sometimes it seems like EVERYONE has kids!

Welcome to our thread! As I've posted before, I really think childless-not-by-choice folks and us childfree people often have a lot in common--we have similar life experiences and similar reactions from the rest of society.

 

[maddhatir]

Hi everyone! I've been reading this thread for a long time, but I haven't posted until now. My hubby and I have been married for 19 years and have no kids. We didn't plan not to have kids, it just never happened for us...and we're okay with that. Besides, with the state the world is in, I'm not so sure bringing more people into it is such a good thing. We have 2 cats, Cleo and Simon, and 2 basset hounds, Max and Molly. Oh, and we love Disney World! I'm glad I'm not alone, coz sometimes it seems like EVERYONE has kids!

Welcome!!

I have a little "kid story" that happened to me on Thursday.

DH and I went to a baseball game with a bunch of friends. We were in a suite and had seats right outside of the suite. My cousin has 2 boys, one 7 and the other 4. Well they had 2 friends with them. I walked inside to talk to my cousin. The 4 boys were in the suite wrestling around, screaming, you know, boy stuff. Very loud and crazy- I could feel my anxiety rising

She (my cousin) hates when they wrestle but their father does not mind it. My cousin screams, "OK! knock it off!" Her older son says, "but dad said we can wrestle" and I just said the first thing I thought of and SCREAMED....."well, your father isn' here!" My cousin just stopped and looked at me and we busted out laughing and I said......well isn't that what YOU are supposed to say? I hear moms saying that all the time

Well, the kids not care, of course what mom said, so her next plan of action, she yelled out that I (me) was going to take out my tazer gun! - the boys did not stop b/c they were scared, they stopped b/c they thought it would be cool The one kid said to me "I KNEW it! You are a cop aren't you!" All amazed.

Of course I am not, but I told their little friend I was

 

[jumoo044]

Thanks for the warm welcome! Some of you guys' stories are hilarious! The other day, on the radio, they were talking to a caller who was celebrating his 25th anniversary. The dj asked him what his secret was, to be happily married for 25 years, and the guy said, "We never had children!"

 

[Liisa]

Hi all!

Just got back this past weekend from WDW. We had a great time. We saw La Nouba for the first time... what a show! The bummer of the trip (and my own fault), I only have one Disney pin - for the Wilderness Lodge (and only because that was our first DVC property). I pinned it on my mini-backpack and the darn thing came off on our second day. As we were staying at the Boardwalk, I was never able to get back to DTD or Wilderness Lodge to replace it. When I got home, I did a search on-line only to discover that particular pin was retired. DOH! Of course, after I lost the pin, I found these great locking backs that can be used for the pins. Ugh! I bought the locking backs so at some point, when I get a new WL pin, I'll make sure it doesn't go anywhere.

Other than that, we had a great time!

 

[maddhatir]

You know- the back fall off of every stinking pin I get from Disney!

Instead of making us buy the darn locking backs- why don't they just PUT the locking back on all the pins to start with!!!!!! UGH!

I know why-- cha-ching!

 

[Hixski]

Hi everyone, we just got back on Sunday from WDW and the DCL cruise. We had a fabulous time. I am just now getting back on reality time instead of vacation time.

I don't really have any good kiddo meltdown stories. Most of the time on the cruise we spent in the lovely adult areas. We of course had to have the one guy in a speedo for our viewing pleasure at the adult pool. He would lay on his stomach to show off his butt, then would turn over and have to adjust his "package" for all of us. Pretty tame for the most part. Oh well, back to reality and back to the grind. I think post vacation depression is setting in.

 

[aclov]

I got back almost two weeks ago from Saratoga Springs for 4 nights, and I'm still not back to reality! My best friend and her sister in law came with me and we had such a nice time. Wish I was planning another trip soon

 

[maddhatir]

Welcome back girls!!!