Marrieds choosing not to have kids

[supersuperwendy]

Another thing was- she hated waiting in line for any rides! It was another hissy b/c she didnt want to wait- do you know what its like to play stinking "I spy" while in line for SOARIN' for 30 minutes- you can only pick out so many things to freakin' spy!- She started again on Buzz Lightyear and I finally just said- KNOCK IT OFF! I told SIL- I bet she was doing it just to see if you would get out of line with her- that would mean she wins!--- now stay and your both getting on this stinkin ride!!!! Thank god the line was fast for that one.

The moral of this story--- I like doing Disney better without kids!

You're talking about a five year old, right? Not a 10 year old. Of course a 5 year old is going to hate waiting in line. As an adult you can reason with yourself..that while yes waiting sucks...it's worth it in the long run. A five year old doesn't have that brain capacity. I have a 5 year old as my youngest and a 9 year old as my oldest....! I know from experience that a 5 year old is too young to truely understand. If my 9 year old complained I'd kick her butt!!!! But a 5 year old..cut her some slack.

 

[maddhatir]

You're talking about a five year old, right? Not a 10 year old. Of course a 5 year old is going to hate waiting in line. As an adult you can reason with yourself..that while yes waiting sucks...it's worth it in the long run. A five year old doesn't have that brain capacity. I have a 5 year old as my youngest and a 9 year old as my oldest....! I know from experience that a 5 year old is too young to truely understand. If my 9 year old complained I'd kick her butt!!!! But a 5 year old..cut her some slack.

I see a lot of kids in line behaving themselves- young ones at that!

NO- no slack cutting here- she needs to learn there are other people in this world besides her and she needs to wait her turn just like everyone else- and it needs to be explained to her that NO ONE wants to wait- its just part of life- need to get them in that thinking pattern EARLY!

Sorry!

 

[plgrn]

I see a lot of kids in line behaving themselves- young ones at that!

NO- no slack cutting here- she needs to learn there are other people in this world besides her and she needs to wait her turn just like everyone else- and it needs to be explained to her that NO ONE wants to wait- its just part of life- need to get them in that thinking pattern EARLY!

Sorry!

You go girl! And if I could post smileys, you'd get a several little cheerleaders. The sooner kids learn that they are not the only ones in the world the better.That prepares them for adult life in the real world, which is what parenting is all about. You are training them to LEAVE YOU.

 

[maddhatir]

You go girl! And if I could post smileys, you'd get a several little cheerleaders. The sooner kids learn that they are not the only ones in the world the better.That prepares them for adult life in the real world, which is what parenting is all about. You are training them to LEAVE YOU.

I think there is TOO much cutting slack for kiddies now-a-days!- Thats the problem!

 

[plgrn]

That is Soooooo true.

BTW, guys, I can use smileys now for some reason! Yeahrah!!

There was my little celebration! I wonder what the problem was?

 

[Hixski]

I think there is TOO much cutting slack for kiddies now-a-days!- Thats the problem!

This is so true!!! I think the thing that drives me crazy the most is parents ignoring everything. Little Poindexter is doing a backflip off his chair in the restaurant. Do the parents tell him no. Of course not, they are too busy drinking and talking. Next he is running across the restaurant. Again parents are too busy having a good time. And now that he has been sufficiently ignored he is now screaming bloody murder. Sometimes I swear I am going to smack the next parent I see ignoring all that.

Another former fencesitter here that is now very happy not having my own devil spawns.

 

[kennancat]

I think it's too much of the parents wanting to be the kids' friends instead of being parents. If at some point, your kids don't tell you how much they hate you, you're not doing it right I was reading today this advice column where the parents were righting in about their 14YO son's little addiction to pornography. His friends and he are constantly surfing away on the family computer, but they don't want to install any software to restrict sites because then he might think they don't trust him! Horrors! Even the advice columnist was basically saying, uh hello? Wake up and be his parents, not his buddies.

See, this is why I can't have kids - then I won't know exactly what the problems with kids are

 

[ForTheLoveofDisney]

See, this is why I can't have kids - then I won't know exactly what the problems with kids are

 

[maddhatir]

See, this is why I can't have kids - then I won't know exactly what the problems with kids are

- and we wouldnt be able to give all of this great advice to the parents for the "cutting of the slack"!!!

 

[Kate and Pete]

My DH and I have also chosen not to have children. We married when we were 24 (and are celebrating our 5th anniversary this Feb. at WDW) and knew BEFORE we got married where we both stood on this.

Still, parents kept saying, "You're young, you will change your mind." Well, five years later, they finally stopped saying it - we're still not having kids. We just don't want them - the same way that so many people DO want them! My best girlfriend just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy - and I adore him - but there's no way that I want my own. We are all allowed to make decisions that fit our lives! And I like kids - I'm a high school English teacher...but I'm just not the type of person who can work all day and come home and be nice and "mom-like" - I know that much about myself! I'm glad that my friend IS the type of person who can - because I can go love on HER baby whenever I want!

DH and I have a small house filled with love - two cats and two boxer dogs. Trust me - it's plenty!

 

[almburr]

think kids are rude at WDW, watch the shows Daddys little girl and super sweet sixteen these kids (Urchins) can't do anything for anyone, throw fits if daddy wont buy a60,000 dollar car, or spend that much on a party, just cuse you have you dont have to blow it. I could not beleive how kids act these days. DISGUSTING!. Im only 31 and have 5 well behaved children(everyone has thier moments) Heres what i tell my kids "it does not matter how much money you have, your never to good to clean your own toilet." which they do.

 

[Boston5602]

When I hit my early 20's I KNEW I wanted kids. Then come my mid 20's , my sister gets pregnant and has to move it with me. After 6 months I came to the understanding I could ( by choice ) not have kids . I did not have what it takes to be a parent and now with both a 6 year old and 11 year old niece at home I know I made the right decision to not have kids.

I still do what I can and help in the ways I can , you know drive to soccer , cheer leading , homework , meet with the teachers and such. I also know I can just send them to their mother when I'm * sick * of them .

 

[maddhatir]

think kids are rude at WDW, watch the shows Daddys little girl and super sweet sixteen these kids (Urchins) can't do anything for anyone, throw fits if daddy wont buy a60,000 dollar car, or spend that much on a party, just cuse you have you dont have to blow it. I could not beleive how kids act these days. DISGUSTING!. Im only 31 and have 5 well behaved children(everyone has thier moments) Heres what i tell my kids "it does not matter how much money you have, your never to good to clean your own toilet." which they do.

The kids and parents just make me wanna

- if they really KNEW what people thought of them, it certainly isnt jealousy, thats for sure!.......ugh! obnoxious- nauseating, disgusting....mutants!

OK I am done...!

 

[kennancat]

think kids are rude at WDW, watch the shows Daddys little girl and super sweet sixteen these kids (Urchins) can't do anything for anyone, throw fits if daddy wont buy a60,000 dollar car, or spend that much on a party,

This show half cracks me up and half horrifies me. Every time we watch any part of an episode, I turn to DH and tell him that if we ever do have kids, they are not going to get away with that kind of behavior. Forget the deposits, that party would be getting cancelled and those kids would be spending most of their "super sweet sixteen" year in their room!

 

[druidia]

Gawd, that show is just a cesspool of self-indulgent brats! I absolutely cannot stand that show and all that it glorifies to girls today. It's a shame that it's making it even more desirable to kids when its on MTV. I think if I had a kid that even TRIED to act like that they would be spending their 16th birthday working in a soup kitchen to learn a little humility.

Don't get me wrong; I recall having a few crying fits over things that I wanted that my parents simply could not afford, and I felt bad about that later in life once I realized what that meant.

But if you give a kid a party and gifts, etc like that at such a young age, how do you top it?

You are simply not doing your kid any good to be so indulgent. They will never learn to make their own way in life when everything is handed to them.

 

[JennyDrake]

(Here's my response to the questions.)

Put on a BIG SMILE and say, "Oh no, I'm allergic to children!" then laugh and change the subject.

 

[Hixski]

Just an observation: We have not had anyone on here lately trying to convince us we are so wrong and will regret our decision. Not that I'm complaining.

 

[maddhatir]

Just an observation: We have not had anyone on here lately trying to convince us we are so wrong and will regret our decision. Not that I'm complaining.

I think they are scared of us.......or they finally realized there ARE NO good reason to have kids! (they are all recovering from xmas!)

 

[korbbec]

I don't want any either. I always did want children, until I got into my twenties and the harsh realities of life hit. I do not want to bring any more children into the world. I also just tell people I am too selfish, because it is true. I like to do my own thing- my pets are a big enough responsibility. When people say I will change my mind I then answer "well, if I do I will look into adoption. There are so many older children just waiting for a good home and if I ever feel I can provide one, I will." That usually shuts people up. If they ask why I don't want my own, I give them "the look" and respond that if I adopted a child, he/she would be my own. Duh! -not for me!

 

[maddhatir]

I don't want any either. I always did want children, until I got into my twenties and the harsh realities of life hit. I do not want to bring any more children into the world. I also just tell people I am too selfish, because it is true. I like to do my own thing- my pets are a big enough responsibility. When people say I will change my mind I then answer "well, if I do I will look into adoption. There are so many older children just waiting for a good home and if I ever feel I can provide one, I will." That usually shuts people up. If they ask why I don't want my own, I give them "the look" and respond that if I adopted a child, he/she would be my own. Duh! -not for me!