Married DISers: Do you think divorce could ever be a possibility

[Liberty Belle]

in your marriage?

 

[Disney Doll]

Not as things stand right now. We are very happily married. But life happens and one never knows, I guess. But I would do everything in my power not to divorce...I don't really consider it an option in general, so it would have to be a very extreme situation.

 

[KAMKIM]

I think its a possibility in any marriage. You just never know.

 

[luvmy3]

Yes, anything can happen. I have seen a couple who once had the perfect marriage go through an ugly divorce last year. If it can happen to them, it can happen to anyone.

 

[Piecey]

I think it's more realistic to believe the possibility of divorce is in every marriage... than to think that a marriage will never fail.

 

[DVCLiz]

Yes, anything can happen. I have seen a couple who once had the perfect marriage go through an ugly divorce last year. If it can happen to them, it can happen to anyone.

I saw this, too. There are three couples I know who I consider to be exemplary married partners and parents. Over the years I have always said to myself, "Thank goodness they are examples for all of us because so many of our friends are divorcing (including my husband and I.)

We found out a couple of years ago that one of the husbands had been having an affair with someone in his office for 6 years. He left his wife and children and they are now divorced. You could have knocked me over with a feather.

I sure hope the other two couples stay strong because I will totally lose my faith in humanity otherwise!!!!

 

[JessicaR]

My first instinct was to choose the first choice. Then after careful consideration I chose the second. I don't deal with absolutes.

 

[jfoofj]

Second choice also. My first marriage ended in divorce, and while I understand now that I married too young and with a lot of unresolved issues on the table, and that isn't the case now, anything is possible. I know that things are good now, and I would fight tooth and nail for my relationship, but I also know that I am able to be alone if need be, and if things ever got so bad and we couldn't fix it, I would rather be happy alone than miserable together.

 

[MaryPA]

Although I am happily married, I am a child of divorce, have seen other family members go through a divorce and one thing I have learned is...

It takes two to make a marriage... if one person's heart isn't in it. Where are you?

I have one more point to say. Just because you stay married - doesn't mean you are happy. I have seen that also.

 

[Boxley]

Seeing how divorce seems to happen a lot in my family, I am not ruling it out. These things happen, do I ever want it to happen, no because I love my husband but do I believe that things may happen years to come. It's horrible to think about, but I wouldn't rule it out.

 

[Ember]

I think that to blindly believe that "it won't happen to me" is foolish (sorry to those who voted "absolutely not"). A marriage is not a binding tie, it doesn't magically make two hearts beat as one - regardless of what the romantics want to say about it.

I believe my marriage is strong and that it will last. I would do everything in my power to save it if it were failing. But, like another poster, I don't believe in absolutes.

 

[disykat]

I voted #2 - uncomfortably. I'd say absolutely, but I'm firmly in the "never say never" camp. Like another poster, I don't deal in absolutes. Reality gets in the way of absolutes sometimes.

In general, I believe we vowed to work through anything and stay married for life.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I am another who voted for the second option only after struggling and because absolutes bother me. I would have voted for "highly, highly unlikely, almost certianly not" if I could have

 

[aprilgail2]

I think its a possibility in any marriage. You just never know.

I think that if anyone thinks its totally impossible is kidding themselves.

 

[NMAmy]

We found out a couple of years ago that one of the husbands had been having an affair with someone in his office for 6 years. He left his wife and children and they are now divorced. You could have knocked me over with a feather.

This is very similar to what happened with my first marriage. If someone had asked me this question even 10 years into that marriage, I would have said absolutely not and so would everyone who knew us. All of our friends were as shocked as I was when my ex cheated.

It did teach me that I can't control someone else's behavior and while I fervently hope that DH and I would never divorce and we're both very happy right now and we'd both say we have a great marriage, I know that can change on a dime and would never say never. It does make me very appreciative of what I have right now and I work hard to keep that.

 

[aprilgail2]

Yes, anything can happen. I have seen a couple who once had the perfect marriage go through an ugly divorce last year. If it can happen to them, it can happen to anyone.

We had a guy at work who was 60 years old- married for close to 40 years....he hooked up with a younger (about 45) co-worker....divorced his wife who was a SAH their entire marriage and married this other woman. The ex had to move in with one of her kids because she had no job or income. Once he retires she will be entitled to part of his pension though. We actually have guys at work that WON'T retire even though they have the age and the time in simply because they are trying to outwait their ex's- if the ex dies first then they can retire and keep their whole pension....sick way of thinking but its out there!

 

[NY Disney fan]

It takes two spouses to make a marriage; it only takes one spouse to divorce. I hope people remember that divorce is never a choice sometimes. Sometimes its forced upon you. On the flip side of that, I know somone who (becuase of relgious beliefs) won't divorce her spouse even through they have lived separately (and haven't spoken) in 13 years.

 

[momrek06]

DH & I are happily married BUT man o man I am shocked at the status of so many of my friends.
I have one very dear close GF and she has been married for over 25 years to a JERK. But DGF loved JERK, just loved him to death. So year after year the more JERK was a JERK to her she just was always there for him. Now JERK loves DGF very very much despite his very demanding JERK ways. People that know DGF and JERK cannot figure out why DGF stays with JERK......welllllll ff to summer of 2009......DGF now hates, despises and wants absolutely NOTHING to do with JERK......it just blows my mind as she always said there was NO ONE else for her. She wants a divorce and NOW. JERK does not want a divorce. UGH. She works retail and has told me now that she has requested that weekdays she wants evenings and all day Sat&Sun so she does not have to be home when he is....her DD got married last year and so DGF has moved into DD's room.

We live in SoCal now and have for a year. Went home in August for the month to spend with family and friends and found out 5 very good friends have either left their spouse or are in the process.......

 

[AllyandJack]

If you asked me this a year ago, I would have said no.

Now, yes. It's a very real possibility.

People change and it's not always for the better.

 

[Thumper_Man]

I gotta agree with most. You can never rule out the possibility. DW and I have been married 2 years, but have been together 6 1/2 years. So far we are going strong and hope that continues (knocks on wood). DMIL just recently got divorced after 25 years of marriage. As many have said, we never saw that coming until it actually happened. So we know it's always a possibility.

This is the first marriage for DW and I. We've each have had bad relationships in the past. So we know what it takes to make it work. This is probably one of the reasons we get along so well. We've learned it's all about compromise, communication, trust and love. We've never tried to change each other, or one person trying to control the other. If someone tries to change someone else in marriage, then that's not the same person he/she first fell in love with. Neither one of us have ever taken control of the marriage. We share a lot of the same interests, like going to WDW; and communicate very well. Don't get me wrong, we've had our share of arguments and don't have the perfect marriage; but we always settle our differences.

We are both very happy at the moment, and we pray each day it continues to stay like that.