Lost a good man today to alcoholism

[mommasita]

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend
Such a horrific disease.

 

[robinb]

I am so sorry for your loss.

My best friend is dying of end stage liver disease from alcohol abuse and I am her medical POA. It's a terrible disease.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I am so sorry for your loss!

 

[LuvOrlando]

We had friends who son died at 50 with wife and 2 kids. Strange part is twice he went to ER for alcoholism but never went to rehab even once, Its like everyone was in denial.. Sad part was once the kids got out of high school they each moved as far away as possible, not a happy childhood

I don't know about calling it denial or assuming a lack of rehab is an indication of denial. There are a lot of people who simply want to live how they want to live and to hell with the consequences. The entire family may have been begging with the person daily and there is no reason to assume the alcoholic is not aware they are killing themselves but if that person is the, "Nobody is going to tell me what to do," sort it doesn't matter. The only person who can change things is the person doing it and this is true of alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, cheating, spousal abuse and any other vice imaginable nor force someone else to take diabetes medicine or antidepressants or be cautious with finances. No-one can MAKE anyone do anything, the family had to endure it they did not ok it. Psychiatry, Drs, Medication, Rehab is not magic, it does not make a person intent on choices decide against them, all it can do is support the person once they choose change, it is 100% in their hands.

It would be wonderful if there was a magic answer though, lots of people wish for that.

Life is just heavier for some people than others is all.

 

[Bullman]

I went through something similar with my brother, and it was heartbreaking to feel so helpless. It took a lot of support and the right environment to help him turn things around. He's in Abbeycare right now, and for the first time in years, I feel like there’s real hope. It’s not easy, but having people who truly understand what he’s going through has made a huge difference.

 

[Uk145081]

I’m really sorry for your loss. Lost my cousin to alcoholism about six years back, and it still hurts thinking about how fast it escalated for him. He was the kind of guy who could make everyone laugh, but towards the end we barely recognized him. He was in and out of detox, but no long-term support ever really stuck. It’s tough watching someone you care about slowly disappear into that disease.

Later on, when another family member was struggling, we tried doing things differently and had a pretty decent experience with Abbeycare. Not perfect, but they understood how much was at stake, which helped a lot during that time.