Well, I thought the drama couldn't get any worse, but I was wrong! Before I share the new drama..let's quickly recap drama in recent weeks and the updates:
1. Major Family spat over cousins wedding -family made up & issue resolved (for now anyway)
2. My friend in the hospital for a week bc her abusive husband tried to kill her - she is home now and doing a bit better - trying to help her out as much as I can.
3. Best Man (DF's best friend of 15 years), Wife & two kids (the flower girls) removed from wedding party and uninvited from the wedding.
So what could be more drama than that you ask? Here it is, number 4:
4. DF had to give his two week resignation to his job this week!
DF has been working at his job (as a tech for audience response) for almost two years now. When he was hired he was told that he would be in the office most days checking equipment and planning jobs etc.; that he would be on the road maybe once or twice a month for one or two nights each, maybe a three night mixed in there. Boy was that a big lie (we quickly learned). They have sent DF out on jobs that were anywhere from 1 to 6 nights long, back to back, no time to rest. Sometimes he would come home at late at night and have to fly the next morning to somewhere else with no rest. He was often working 10 to 16 hour days. And then they expected him to be in the office the next morning after his trip many times.
In addition they expected him to be on call 24/7 because they pay for half of his cell phone bill. His manager is crazy and would call him while he was on an airplane or in a conference doing his job, and leave voicemails dropping the F bomb; screaming at DF bc he didn't have his phone on. Um hello? How is he supposed to answer at those times.
To add to everything they only give the techs 10 days vacation which they can only use within 3 months in the summer, or if jobs are slow over Christmas. Also recently, it has become worse and worse bc they would give him less than 24 hours notice for alot of jobs, and when we had made plans for the weekend or he thought he was going to relax, he now had to fly on another job somewhere on the other side of the country. Df had to leave on jobs when his father was in the hospital with heart problems. They didn't have any expectations of their tech's having any sort of personal life. They also asked him to do ridiculous things like paint walls in the office and go to walmart and buy one of the managers a vaccuum cleaner "because he needed one"(no joke...DF told him to go to hell)
So you would think from this description that DF makes alot of money right? Wrong. He was making $35,000 a year for this. Other jobs with these requirements would normally pay at least twice this much around here.
Well the company crossed the line this week. First his manager scheduled him coming back the night before the wedding! DF said he would quit if he was not taken off that job, and so they did. However, they scheduled him on a 5 night job this week last minute (probably to punish him bc there were other people available to do the job). He left early Monday morning and isn't getting back late tonight (Saturday night). Three days ago DF looked at his schedule again while he was away. We new at that point they were trying to screw him over purposely, because they took one tech off a job (who already had the corporate
travel agent book $800 nonrefundable airfare) and put him in the office for the week, and put DF on the job instead which leaves Sunday (tomorrow) and doesn't get back until Thursday night...they even booked his airfare for him which they never do...the techs always book their travel through the corporate travel agent or the client books it. We are sure they did that so he couldn't get a replacement.
When we realized all the traveling involved in this job early on, I told DF that it was not worth the salary he was getting and expressed my frustration with the job and the whole situation. Unfornately, DF didn't listen for a while and waited too long to look for another job. Now he has been trying to get another job for a while and has been having a tough time.
While talking to DF the other night, and having a big fight over everything, we came to the realization that he didn't have any other choice but to quit. We knew it was going to be him quitting his job, or postponing the wedding (which you really can't realistically do 2 weeks out). Last year they screwed with a tech and had him come home on a job the night before his wedding and now his wife has been talking divorce.
We knew they were going to try to do the same thing. I do suffer from major anxiety and have been diagnosed with a form of bipolar disorder. We knew that we wouldn't be able to go into a wedding under these conditions and that his job had some sort of agenda in doing this to him (perhaps to make him quit). So DF let his company know the other day that he is resigning and needed to stay locally for his two weeks notice. They agreed to let him take his two weeks vacation as his last two weeks and he will be giving the official resignation letter on Monday.
If we had any question whether he was doing the right thing, we were assured we did a few hours later. Df rcvd a call from a coworker not long after he made his resignation phone call. He coworker informed him that just a few hours before he called about his resignation, his manager put him on a job that came back the day of our wedding and there would be no way for DF to be at the wedding. The coworker also actually inquired to their manager why he was trying to screw Dave over. The manager apparently said "that is none of your concern"!! They are such slime balls ugh!
The positives of all this; DF has a part time radio offer that should be coming through this week that will get us through for now. Even better though is that he has a phone interview on Monday with a research company that is two builidngs over from where I work and would be a supervisory position. He said the woman on the phone said the work his doing right now seems like it would be a great fit for their company. She also told him they believe in family first, job second and having a well balanced life, not all work!! MUSIC TO OUR EARS!! We are trying not to get our hopes up but they seem very interested and it would be at least a little bit more than what his making now.
I have been through so much stress the last few weeks, I thought that I was going to be pushed over the edge and lose control of my emotions (bc I have before bc of my bipolar). Df realized that both he and I were not going to be able to handle this job any longer and be able to start our life together as a Happily married couple. Now we have two weeks to regroup, finish everything up, and have a wonderful wedding!! At least now we can enjoy this part together!!
Sorry for the long rant! I am done now - DF is coming home tonight and last night was the last night, for at least a long while, that I had to be in what felt like an empty and lonely apartment without him!! It will be a very happy homecoming this time!!
Ok ok one more thing - what goes around comes around. Since DF has quit everything is apparently going crazy at the company. There is only 4 techs now to cover what 11 techs used to cover and 2 of them are definitely quitting very soon as well, which will leave them with 2 techs - can't wait to hear what happens once that takes place!
Writing all that wore me out!
) I did express my feelings to DF that I was concerned about them making the next 4 weeks and the wedding miserable. However, I also let him know that it was his decision and I would stand by it as long as things got worked out with his best man (bc there is no way we could leave things as is and enjoy our wedding). Unfortunately, his best man has made no attempt to do anything and we just don't see any chance of this being repaired before the wedding (especially with this guy's attitude).
and wish weddings didn't bring out these things.
I'm very glad that it wasn't as bad as it could have been and she is physically okay now. It breaks my heart to hear what happened to her, I was almost in tears. 
