Lisa & Dave's PJ: Home Wedding 8/2/09-MORE WEDDING PHOTOS!!

[LeesyUD]

I am sorry to hear about your family drama. I hope all goes well at your wedding. Also I love the martini glasses they are so cute!!

Thanks - I actually have an update on the family drama. A day or two later my uncle called and profusely apologized to my mother. She said he has never been that nice to her...ever. He said he loves our family and doesn't want to see us hurt...in 28 years my uncle has never said anything like this. Anyway my mother explained why she got so upset and things seem to be ok now. (we still are not fond of him but at least he showed some sort of empathy). We are still kind of bothered that the bride's family hasn't at least tried to apologize considering the fact that my uncle told them how upset my mom was. But oh well. They are family and again I am trying to honor my aunt and act how she would. So time to move on.

However, there is new family drama which is that my grandmother has not been doing well lately. She has had mental problems for as long as I can remember - psychotic depression I believe they diagnosed it as. She has been doing fantastic the last five years though! It seemed like when my aunt got sick she came out of her world she was living in and has been more normal than I think I have seen her in the past 20 years.

Unfortunately, my mother has been getting calls this past week from my grandmother that she is hearing sirens, she is yelling at my mother and calling her 8 times a day at work, forgetting conversations completely, and is calling my uncle the devil (ok so she may have a point with that but she also "heard the devil on the radio" about 10 years ago).

We are hoping she just needs a medication increase and that she is actually still taking her meds. But while we are working on getting her to a doctor I am on pins and needles. It will be hard enough to not have my aunt at my wedding, but my grandmother is my only grand parent left and she was doing so good for so long, that it will be heart breaking if she is not fully "present" at the wedding. I just hope that we can figure it out before anything progresses bc otherwise she could end up having to go to the psychiatric hospital if it gets too bad.

I guess I will just need to wait and see what happens and what we can do to prevent that.

 

[LeesyUD]

Only 5 1/2 weeks to go!!! I am sooo excited!! I have some more updates on the planning, particularly the invitations, a wedding website update, and the "engagement" photo session we did.

I had been contemplating throwing out my invitations because I slowly was hating them. Well, I am definitely getting rid of those because I did my own design as I had previously mentioned and got them printed at a local printer. I think they turned out very nicely and I am soooo much happier with them.

We decided we were definitely going to do just online RSVP and calls for those who do not have internet access (which is maybe like 5% of our guests). We sent the invitations last week on June 16 and invited about 95 people. So far we have had 17 responses (not including us, immediate family and bridal party) and 42 attending (including us, immediate family and bridal party). We seem to be getting pretty good responses so far and people are loving the online RSVP!

Our wedding website overall has been a big hit actually and I absolutely love having it! I decided I wanted something to really make people laugh on the website so I came up with the idea of doing fake FAQ's about me and Dave. Here are what we added to the website (they are cracking people up so far):

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FAQs about Lisa
How did Lisa get to be so awesome?
Sometimes people are born with a natural awesomeness that cannot be explained. In the case of Lisa Bulley, scientists and geniuses all over the world have been baffled for years over the awesomeness that lies within her. While we are no closer to understanding where this ever growing awesomeness comes from, experts say it will continue to be present in Lisa for many, many. many years to come.

Is there anyone more awesome than Lisa?
NO.

Where can I get a Lisa of my very own?
Lisa is one of a kind and is not available for retail. However, public cameos can be arranged for a nominal fee. Contact fiance David Walls for details.

How can I be more like Lisa?
We recommend that you do not try being more like Lisa at home. Feedback and testing have showed that those that try to be more like Lisa fail miserably. This can lead to severe mental health problems and feelings of inadequacy. Should you feel the need to be more like Lisa, call the 1-800-NOT-LISA hotline. Operators are there to assist you.

Who stole the cookie from the cookie jar?
Lisa stole the cookie from the cookie jar.


FAQs about Dave
What do I do if I encounter a "Dave"?
If he is sleeping, we recommend you keep your distance. A grumpy Dave can be very dangerous.
If he's mobile, be sure to check his IV of Diet Coke to ensure happiness and proper motivation throughout the day.
Be sure to set all clocks to "D.S.T" (Dave Standard Time), which is the same as regular time, but
always seems to run about 15 minutes late.

How can I learn more about Dave?
To learn more about Dave, go to your public library, and ask the librarian about these classic novels: "The Boy Who Slept Too Much", "Greatest Man Alive", and "Is He STILL Sleeping?".

I want a new pet. Can I take a "Dave" home?
Due to excessive slobbering and need for constant grooming, we do not recommend Dave as a pet.
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We just love being silly and making people laugh

Also here are pics of the new invitations - not the best pictures ever, but not bad either:

We also had a photo session with DF's best man recently but are still trying to get all the pics from him. Once I do I will share my favorites and my frustration with the photos that I have had

 

[wigdoutdismom]

Only 5 1/2 weeks to go!!! I am sooo excited!! I have some more updates on the planning, particularly the invitations, a wedding website update, and the "engagement" photo session we did.

I had been contemplating throwing out my invitations because I slowly was hating them. Well, I am definitely getting rid of those because I did my own design as I had previously mentioned and got them printed at a local printer. I think they turned out very nicely and I am soooo much happier with them.

We decided we were definitely going to do just online RSVP and calls for those who do not have internet access (which is maybe like 5% of our guests). We sent the invitations last week on June 16 and invited about 95 people. So far we have had 17 responses (not including us, immediate family and bridal party) and 42 attending (including us, immediate family and bridal party). We seem to be getting pretty good responses so far and people are loving the online RSVP!

Our wedding website overall has been a big hit actually and I absolutely love having it! I decided I wanted something to really make people laugh on the website so I came up with the idea of doing fake FAQ's about me and Dave. Here are what we added to the website (they are cracking people up so far):

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FAQs about Lisa
How did Lisa get to be so awesome?
Sometimes people are born with a natural awesomeness that cannot be explained. In the case of Lisa Bulley, scientists and geniuses all over the world have been baffled for years over the awesomeness that lies within her. While we are no closer to understanding where this ever growing awesomeness comes from, experts say it will continue to be present in Lisa for many, many. many years to come.

Is there anyone more awesome than Lisa?
NO.

Where can I get a Lisa of my very own?
Lisa is one of a kind and is not available for retail. However, public cameos can be arranged for a nominal fee. Contact fiance David Walls for details.

How can I be more like Lisa?
We recommend that you do not try being more like Lisa at home. Feedback and testing have showed that those that try to be more like Lisa fail miserably. This can lead to severe mental health problems and feelings of inadequacy. Should you feel the need to be more like Lisa, call the 1-800-NOT-LISA hotline. Operators are there to assist you.

Who stole the cookie from the cookie jar?
Lisa stole the cookie from the cookie jar.


FAQs about Dave
What do I do if I encounter a "Dave"?
If he is sleeping, we recommend you keep your distance. A grumpy Dave can be very dangerous.
If he's mobile, be sure to check his IV of Diet Coke to ensure happiness and proper motivation throughout the day.
Be sure to set all clocks to "D.S.T" (Dave Standard Time), which is the same as regular time, but
always seems to run about 15 minutes late.

How can I learn more about Dave?
To learn more about Dave, go to your public library, and ask the librarian about these classic novels: "The Boy Who Slept Too Much", "Greatest Man Alive", and "Is He STILL Sleeping?".

I want a new pet. Can I take a "Dave" home?
Due to excessive slobbering and need for constant grooming, we do not recommend Dave as a pet.
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We just love being silly and making people laugh

Also here are pics of the new invitations - not the best pictures ever, but not bad either:

We also had a photo session with DF's best man recently but are still trying to get all the pics from him. Once I do I will share my favorites and my frustration with the photos that I have had

I wondered who stole that last cookie..........

Love, love, love the invitations!

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

oh lisa!!! im terribly sorry about the loss of your aunt. in no way am i sticking up for your cousin or uncle(who sounds like a complete shrew!) but it is possible they havent even a year later mourned the passing of your aunt susan. im sorry if im sounding like a grief councelor! lol we just went through a molar pregnancy and are going through grief councelling rite now. perhaps in some weird way they chose that day to honour her. i did say weird! lol

your wedding plans look fabulous! and dont worry about meeting online and considering it a dark secret!!! dh and i met online over ten years ago in a chat room, our tenth wedding anny is this october! if people roll thier eyes or go eww tell em to buzz off! lol

i love the idea that yorue going to donate to a charity in susans name vs a favour to each guest. im sure all of your guests will be very very touched!

and i promise the family drama will pass...eventually...seems im always in the middle of family drama as well!

 

[LeesyUD]

oh lisa!!! im terribly sorry about the loss of your aunt. in no way am i sticking up for your cousin or uncle(who sounds like a complete shrew!) but it is possible they havent even a year later mourned the passing of your aunt susan. im sorry if im sounding like a grief councelor! lol we just went through a molar pregnancy and are going through grief councelling rite now. perhaps in some weird way they chose that day to honour her. i did say weird! lol

your wedding plans look fabulous! and dont worry about meeting online and considering it a dark secret!!! dh and i met online over ten years ago in a chat room, our tenth wedding anny is this october! if people roll thier eyes or go eww tell em to buzz off! lol

i love the idea that yorue going to donate to a charity in susans name vs a favour to each guest. im sure all of your guests will be very very touched!

and i promise the family drama will pass...eventually...seems im always in the middle of family drama as well!

I wish it was a delayed mourning, but unfortunately, that side of my family for some reason never really had the emotions that most people do. Everything just always seemed to roll off their shoulders too easily. (to a weird degree) On occasions where most people would be sad, they hardly seem affected. (My aunt was actually even like that to a degree - not much really phased her).

My youngest cousin at 15 years old (now 16) has not even yet had any type of reaction at the passing of my aunt and never says she misses her mom or anything. It has never phased her even in the slightest and at that age it should have had at lease some sort of effect. Only one of my cousins had a really bad reaction to her death, but other than that the other two kids and father had no or very little emotion over it.

I do think that they were trying to honor her at the wedding but it was just that if you know my family, there didn't seem to be any emotion behind it. It's hard to explain. But things have worked out and everyone is different so they will handle the passing of my aunt the way they need to. And everything should be fine at the wedding now thank goodness.

 

[acomasdiaz]

Only 5 1/2 weeks to go!!! I am sooo excited!! I have some more updates on the planning, particularly the invitations, a wedding website update, and the "engagement" photo session we did.

I had been contemplating throwing out my invitations because I slowly was hating them. Well, I am definitely getting rid of those because I did my own design as I had previously mentioned and got them printed at a local printer. I think they turned out very nicely and I am soooo much happier with them.

We decided we were definitely going to do just online RSVP and calls for those who do not have internet access (which is maybe like 5% of our guests). We sent the invitations last week on June 16 and invited about 95 people. So far we have had 17 responses (not including us, immediate family and bridal party) and 42 attending (including us, immediate family and bridal party). We seem to be getting pretty good responses so far and people are loving the online RSVP!

Our wedding website overall has been a big hit actually and I absolutely love having it! I decided I wanted something to really make people laugh on the website so I came up with the idea of doing fake FAQ's about me and Dave. Here are what we added to the website (they are cracking people up so far):

--------------------------------
FAQs about Lisa
How did Lisa get to be so awesome?
Sometimes people are born with a natural awesomeness that cannot be explained. In the case of Lisa Bulley, scientists and geniuses all over the world have been baffled for years over the awesomeness that lies within her. While we are no closer to understanding where this ever growing awesomeness comes from, experts say it will continue to be present in Lisa for many, many. many years to come.

Is there anyone more awesome than Lisa?
NO.

Where can I get a Lisa of my very own?
Lisa is one of a kind and is not available for retail. However, public cameos can be arranged for a nominal fee. Contact fiance David Walls for details.

How can I be more like Lisa?
We recommend that you do not try being more like Lisa at home. Feedback and testing have showed that those that try to be more like Lisa fail miserably. This can lead to severe mental health problems and feelings of inadequacy. Should you feel the need to be more like Lisa, call the 1-800-NOT-LISA hotline. Operators are there to assist you.

Who stole the cookie from the cookie jar?
Lisa stole the cookie from the cookie jar.


FAQs about Dave
What do I do if I encounter a "Dave"?
If he is sleeping, we recommend you keep your distance. A grumpy Dave can be very dangerous.
If he's mobile, be sure to check his IV of Diet Coke to ensure happiness and proper motivation throughout the day.
Be sure to set all clocks to "D.S.T" (Dave Standard Time), which is the same as regular time, but
always seems to run about 15 minutes late.

How can I learn more about Dave?
To learn more about Dave, go to your public library, and ask the librarian about these classic novels: "The Boy Who Slept Too Much", "Greatest Man Alive", and "Is He STILL Sleeping?".

I want a new pet. Can I take a "Dave" home?
Due to excessive slobbering and need for constant grooming, we do not recommend Dave as a pet.
----------------------------------------

We just love being silly and making people laugh

Also here are pics of the new invitations - not the best pictures ever, but not bad either:

We also had a photo session with DF's best man recently but are still trying to get all the pics from him. Once I do I will share my favorites and my frustration with the photos that I have had

I love your FAQs and invitations.

Sorry to hear about the family drama but remember this day is about you and Dave. Can't wait to read more...

 

[LLLBelle]

I love the invitations, they are beautiful! And the FAQ is adorable!

 

[amberg@eastlink.ca]

well im glad its all "worked out in the wash" so to speak. it will probably hit them some day and itll be an eye opener for them.

cant wait to see some more wedding plans!

I wish it was a delayed mourning, but unfortunately, that side of my family for some reason never really had the emotions that most people do. Everything just always seemed to roll off their shoulders too easily. (to a weird degree) On occasions where most people would be sad, they hardly seem affected. (My aunt was actually even like that to a degree - not much really phased her).

My youngest cousin at 15 years old (now 16) has not even yet had any type of reaction at the passing of my aunt and never says she misses her mom or anything. It has never phased her even in the slightest and at that age it should have had at lease some sort of effect. Only one of my cousins had a really bad reaction to her death, but other than that the other two kids and father had no or very little emotion over it.

I do think that they were trying to honor her at the wedding but it was just that if you know my family, there didn't seem to be any emotion behind it. It's hard to explain. But things have worked out and everyone is different so they will handle the passing of my aunt the way they need to. And everything should be fine at the wedding now thank goodness.

 

[LeesyUD]

I wondered who stole that last cookie..........

Love, love, love the invitations!

yes it was me sorry....

thanks! I am so glad I changed the invitations!!!

 

[bonjourfoxylady]

I LOVEEE your star necklaces! Only about a month now, I can't wait to see your wedding pics!

 

[LeesyUD]

I LOVEEE your star necklaces! Only about a month now, I can't wait to see your wedding pics!

yep a month from this Thursday...I am soo excited!! Actually I had a "surprise" bridal shower this weekend and hope to post some pics and info about it in the next few days - it was alot of fun!

 

[wigdoutdismom]

yep a month from this Thursday...I am soo excited!! Actually I had a "surprise" bridal shower this weekend and hope to post some pics and info about it in the next few days - it was alot of fun!

A surprise bridal shower? How cool is that!?!

Please find and post the pictures!

 

[disnut1149]

yep a month from this Thursday...I am soo excited!! Actually I had a "surprise" bridal shower this weekend and hope to post some pics and info about it in the next few days - it was alot of fun!

It wasn't a "surprise". Lisa knew about it. I was there. Also, since the restaurant was only open for the party, people coming for lunch didn't know it and said to Lisa and Dave as they were walking in, "they're having a shower in there". We had a really nice time, and of course a few of us had to get Lisa Disney stuff. I can't wait for the wedding.
Joan

 

[LeesyUD]

It wasn't a "surprise". Lisa knew about it. I was there. Also, since the restaurant was only open for the party, people coming for lunch didn't know it and said to Lisa and Dave as they were walking in, "they're having a shower in there". We had a really nice time, and of course a few of us had to get Lisa Disney stuff. I can't wait for the wedding.
Joan

The funny part is those two people were the last ones of like four other people to spoil something about the shower for me haha! By the time Sunday rolled around I was telling Dave that I would just drive myself if he would just tell me where it was...that was the last piece of the puzzle! I had a great time though and everyone was so generous! I am still writing my thank you notes and need to get them in the mail.

Joan (disnut1149)got me a really cute mickey and minnie tote and two big beach towels for us to use on our disney cruise, also included were some disney dollars That bag is great bc it is nice and big. Can't wait to use it on the cruise!!

Someone else got me some Disney stuff for our kitchen and a silver mickey head frame. It was all very cute as well

 

[LeesyUD]

A surprise bridal shower? How cool is that!?!

Please find and post the pictures!

I should be posting some pictures this weekend...i kept telling my mom to take some pictures on my camera but she didn't listen, even after her camera died haha...so I have to get the pictures from her and my friends

 

[LeesyUD]

So I am really getting frustrated this week....the family drama is over with but now I am having much bigger issues this week!

Issue #1 - The best man (DF's "best friend") is being a complete jerk. It took weeks for him to call my fiance back and get his tux measurements and we are a month out from the wedding. They got that done the other day finally but then just two days ago his best man asked my DF if he wanted to do his bachelor party today. Now it would really just be the two of them but still with all the wedding stuff we are doing, he only gave him 2 days notice and it is still a whole month before the wedding. DF said he didn't think it would be a good day bc he was getting back from a business trip the night before. DF let him know yesterday that we had made plans to relax and get some stuff done this weekend. Since then his "friend" has been posting snide remarks on his facebook (this guy is 35 by the way). Also the bachelor party he was planning was to go play with machine guns at a shooting range....DF is not exactly a gun aficionado...but the best man as you can probably guess is and goes to the shooting range all the time...how selfish is that???

What is worse is his friend has a professional camera and started taking pics a few short months ago on the side. He said he would take some couple photos of us for free. We did the session about a month ago. Well, since then he has given 8 over enhanced photos. There were over 100 shots!! Now he is saying that he won't give us the other photos because it is an "artistic thing".
He isn't even a professional photographer!! (though he likes to think he is).

Now I haven't even gotten to his wife yet....She is a snob....plain and simple. We asked their daughter to be a flower girl two years ago but had postponed the wedding. However, the best man's wife kept asking about her daughter still being in the wedding. Although we weren't going to have a flower girl in the end we said fine just to get her off our back. And then she had the guts to suggest that her younger daughter be a flower girl too. Fine, I thought, let her pay for two dresses I don't care. Well after all that, her and her daughters were invited to my bridal shower and she never called my mother to say she wasn't going!!! She mentioned it briefly to my DF two nights before the shower and lied about why she couldn't go. This family is just a bunch of jerks.

Anyway, DF has tried to talk to his best man about things but apparently it is not getting through to him and things just keep getting worse and we are a month out from the wedding. Df is going to try to talk to him again tommorrow I think... but at this point we don't know if we should just take him and his kids out of the wedding?? I hate for him to do that bc we may not have a best man for him then bc it is a very small wedding party, but how are we supposed to enjoy our wedding day with those attitudes?? We have no idea what to do at this point....

Any suggestions?? Would you take them out of the wedding if you were DF? Or any ideas on what to say to them?? We could really use some advice

Issue #2 - Got some very upsetting news this week. I can't post the full details, but a friend of mine from work was almost killed by her abusive husband. Luckily, someone stepped in to save her. If they hadn't she would not be with us. She had recently confided in I and another co worker of the problems with her husband and we were being supportive in her leaving him. Unfortunately, she had not yet found her own place yet and he attacked her. She has been recovering in the hospital for a few days. I went to see her today and she was doing pretty well but she is in alot of pain. I just have to say she is one of the bravest women I have ever met. I am really worried about her safety though. She has no family at all to help her and I am one of her only friends. I am trying to help her find an apartment and she asked I speak to our manager to inform him of what is going on. It is hard because I am trying to help her as much as I can but need to be careful not to get too involved I think. I feel bad not offering her to stay with us but even with a two bedroom apartmetn and all our stuff there isn't much room and I don't even know if that would be a safe place for her right now. Luckily she does have a social worker helping her though.

I just feel really overwhelmed this week. I feel really helpless and feel like I have so much stress right now Don't know what to do about everything

 

[acomasdiaz]

Lisa,

I am so sorry to hear about your issues this week.

As for your best man, I truly believe that you need to be surrounded by people who care about you on your wedding day. It doesn't seem to me that that family truly cares about you. You need to do what will you and DF happy. Will he be ok with not having his "friend" in the wedding and possibly losing the "friend" alltogether? This might sound harsh, but I would take them out the wedding. If they are not true friends, they don't deserve to have such an important role in your wedding day.

 

[LeesyUD]

Lisa,

I am so sorry to hear about your issues this week.

As for your best man, I truly believe that you need to be surrounded by people who care about you on your wedding day. It doesn't seem to me that that family truly cares about you. You need to do what will you and DF happy. Will he be ok with not having his "friend" in the wedding and possibly losing the "friend" alltogether? This might sound harsh, but I would take them out the wedding. If they are not true friends, they don't deserve to have such an important role in your wedding day.

I know that it will be hard for my DF bc they have been friends for 15 years. However, my DF knows that his best man has not been a very good friend in the last few years and I think this has been the last straw for him. At this point we have decided that we will be taking him and his family out of the wedding (and univited unfortunately). His best man has not responded to his phone calls the last two days even though DF has made it clear that it is important and that he needs to talk to him right away. At this point, DF will be writing an email and leaving a voicemail to let him know they are out if he doesn't hear back from him tonight. It is really unfortunate and I feel really bad that it is coming down to this.

To be honest I have never been crazy about his friend bc I have always know him to be a very self centered guy. But I never let that on and did my best to make him my friend as well. At this point he and his family not only slapped my DF in the face but they offended me as well.

DF has talked to his family and even his own mother says to dump his "friend" (she also wondered if the guy was sniffing glue ) I did express my feelings to DF that I was concerned about them making the next 4 weeks and the wedding miserable. However, I also let him know that it was his decision and I would stand by it as long as things got worked out with his best man (bc there is no way we could leave things as is and enjoy our wedding). Unfortunately, his best man has made no attempt to do anything and we just don't see any chance of this being repaired before the wedding (especially with this guy's attitude).


DF's father is 72 and has heart problems, so we think since it is so last minute we will have my father stand in as best man bc my DF and him get along great, and we think he could do a great speech.

 

[wigdoutdismom]

Gosh Lisa, this is really awful. Do you think that the best man's mother might have spilled the beans to him and that is why he isn't responding to phone calls? I can't imagine what would cause him to treat you guys this way. You are getting married very soon and he had an important role in the wedding! What the heck?!?

 

[Pirate's Princess]

Sorry about your DF's best man and your co-worker. That is definitely a scary story.