Line etiquette question

[imthatgirl]

I agree. Further, I think what she did was wonderful. But I'm just showing ihow some of the line extremists think.

i understand, luckily they are few and far between. in fact when she returned i asked her if she came across anyone rude and she said no. as she moved through the line she simply said "excuse me i need to talk with the attendant".

 

[ABBYSDAD]

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Wow. I'm amazed by the number of responses to what I thought was a pretty simple question, and further amazed at the emotions the question has brought out. First of all, I would have had my question answered well enough if someone had simply said: No, it isn't cool. Done deal for me at that point. The first response to my question, smallfri posted a link to an earlier discussion on the subject. When I started reading the responses in that thread, I figured I had just made a mistake by bringing it up again. I should have searched for the subject, my bad.

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I was tempted a couple of times while reading some of these responses to take it personally, but I realize that would be silly. I would like to point out a few things, however. I did not ask the original question because I thought that having a small child made me and my wife special, or deserving of something others on vacation could not expect. I wasn't looking for an opportunity to take advantage of any situation, or anyone. Our DD is not a brat (at least, not yet ), I'm not worried about my or my DW's ability to teach her good values, etc.

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Anyway, sorry I stirred up something that really didn't need to be stirred up. When I first found this forum, I was really pleased at all the information people here share, and how helpful people here are. I started coming here about 50 days out from our trip, and it helped keep my pumped waiting for our vacation. Well, the big day is finally here, we leave tomorrow. And I promise we won't "cut" into any lines!

 

[imthatgirl]

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Wow. I'm amazed by the number of responses to what I thought was a pretty simple question, and further amazed at the emotions the question has brought out. First of all, I would have had my question answered well enough if someone had simply said: No, it isn't cool. Done deal for me at that point. The first response to my question, smallfri posted a link to an earlier discussion on the subject. When I started reading the responses in that thread, I figured I had just made a mistake by bringing it up again. I should have searched for the subject, my bad.

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I was tempted a couple of times while reading some of these responses to take it personally, but I realize that would be silly. I would like to point out a few things, however. I did not ask the original question because I thought that having a small child made me and my wife special, or deserving of something others on vacation could not expect. I wasn't looking for an opportunity to take advantage of any situation, or anyone. Our DD is not a brat (at least, not yet ), I'm not worried about my or my DW's ability to teach her good values, etc.

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Anyway, sorry I stirred up something that really didn't need to be stirred up. When I first found this forum, I was really pleased at all the information people here share, and how helpful people here are. I started coming here about 50 days out from our trip, and it helped keep my pumped waiting for our vacation. Well, the big day is finally here, we leave tomorrow. And I promise we won't "cut" into any lines!

dont let 'em get to you . some people have been here too long and this is the 15,000th time theyve answered this question. they tend to forget that soemtimes its a new person who generally has a question and not someone starting drama.

have a great time on your trip!!

 

[DVCajun]

Honestly. I wait in line with my kids (4 and 7), but there are times that one of them has to leave the line to go to the bathroom, etc. I don't feel badly about that. I also am a mom, and I am empathetic with other families with young children who choose to have a child out of the line until later in the wait. I don't give them the hairy eyeball when the mom and child(ren) join dad in the line. And if someone *else* gives them the hairy eyeball, ... well. um, how to say this politely? WHO CARES? You can't please 'em all, and if these boards are any indication, not matter WHAT you do you'll be ticking *someone* off.

I think we all agree that one person holding a spot for 15 people in their tour group is not cool. Otherwise, get a grip. You'll get to ride your ride whether or not the group in front of you are all there the entire wait time or not. Really. You will. Have a magical ride!

 

[smallfri1112]

Have fun ABBYSDAD!! Do what you feel is right in your heart. Who cares what anyone else thinks!

 

[DaveCN]

meh, whatever makes you feel better.

If you try to get past me in line, I'll smile, say no, and just go about my business. I wont get mad, get angry, or be uptight.

I just wont let you past.

I suppose it is because I would not presume that it is okay for me to do the same to you and jump in front when you have been waiting.

 

[SLK1]

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Wow. I'm amazed by the number of responses to what I thought was a pretty simple question, and further amazed at the emotions the question has brought out. First of all, I would have had my question answered well enough if someone had simply said: No, it isn't cool. Done deal for me at that point. The first response to my question, smallfri posted a link to an earlier discussion on the subject. When I started reading the responses in that thread, I figured I had just made a mistake by bringing it up again. I should have searched for the subject, my bad.

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I was tempted a couple of times while reading some of these responses to take it personally, but I realize that would be silly. I would like to point out a few things, however. I did not ask the original question because I thought that having a small child made me and my wife special, or deserving of something others on vacation could not expect. I wasn't looking for an opportunity to take advantage of any situation, or anyone. Our DD is not a brat (at least, not yet ), I'm not worried about my or my DW's ability to teach her good values, etc.

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Anyway, sorry I stirred up something that really didn't need to be stirred up. When I first found this forum, I was really pleased at all the information people here share, and how helpful people here are. I started coming here about 50 days out from our trip, and it helped keep my pumped waiting for our vacation. Well, the big day is finally here, we leave tomorrow. And I promise we won't "cut" into any lines!

Same thing happened to me on another thread...people can be a bit mean on these boards - I guess it's easy to do when you're in cyberspace - even when you ask a simple question or state your opinion. Don't worry - just have a GREAT time, and hopefully the lines won't be very long so all this will not even be an issue for you!!!

 

[WillCAD]

Wow. I'm amazed by the number of responses to what I thought was a pretty simple question, and further amazed at the emotions the question has brought out. First of all, I would have had my question answered well enough if someone had simply said: No, it isn't cool. Done deal for me at that point. The first response to my question, smallfri posted a link to an earlier discussion on the subject. When I started reading the responses in that thread, I figured I had just made a mistake by bringing it up again. I should have searched for the subject, my bad.
I was tempted a couple of times while reading some of these responses to take it personally, but I realize that would be silly. I would like to point out a few things, however. I did not ask the original question because I thought that having a small child made me and my wife special, or deserving of something others on vacation could not expect. I wasn't looking for an opportunity to take advantage of any situation, or anyone. Our DD is not a brat (at least, not yet ), I'm not worried about my or my DW's ability to teach her good values, etc.
Anyway, sorry I stirred up something that really didn't need to be stirred up. When I first found this forum, I was really pleased at all the information people here share, and how helpful people here are. I started coming here about 50 days out from our trip, and it helped keep my pumped waiting for our vacation. Well, the big day is finally here, we leave tomorrow. And I promise we won't "cut" into any lines!

Yeah, doin't worry about it. You asked a legitimate question and most of the replies have been civil, if passionate.

The search on these boards is useless, so no problem with not searching for the topic ahead of time.

Please try not to take it personally if someone has strong feelings about the issue. Despite my own strong feelings about the wrongness of line-cutting, I wouldn't presume to attack someone who does it, either verbally or physically, though I may vent about it on the boards.

In the grand scheme of things, line cutters causing my wait times on WDW attractions to increase by 24% per day won't kill me or cause the world to stop rotating. But my vacation time is as precious to me as everyone elses is to them, and it just puts a burr under my saddle when that time - which costs me a pretty penny of my hard-earned salary - is needlessly wasted by thoughtless or callous people breaking the rules.

 

[wickywinn]

ABBYSDAD: I wanted to add my opinion on your scenario. I wouldn't be too miffed if a mom and a 17 month old was catching up to dad in line. A baby of that age...well you have to constantly hold them. If it's a hot day and mom has to hold the baby all day, it would be very tiring. I wouldn't blame you for having her rest while you wait in line. I would completely understand that. Safety first!!

I'd be upset if it was a family of 4 coming to meet up with the rest of their family. I'd assume that they just got done riding another ride and had the rest of the family hold their place in line for the next ride. I don't think that's very fair.

Again, this is just my opinion. Others may feel differently.

Good luck!

I agree wholeheartedly! There are circumstances where people do have to split up, including while in line. Am I supposed to tell my 4 yr old - whose squirming and yelling that he has to go pee - to just pee his pants? People need to enjoy their vacation and chill out on the small stuff, like 1 or 2 people wanting to meet up with their group. Now when there's 3,4,8,10...yeah, that's when it's too much.

 

[wickywinn]

I am going to disagree on the character line with you. How is this not cutting? Is it fair for all those standing behind you to all of a sudden have 3,4,5 or more people suddenly there in front of them to see a character, get a picture taken, get autographs, etc. How is this fair to the small child who is waiting patiently behind you to have all kinds of people cut, how do you explain to this child who has patiently waited clutching that autograph book that they have to wait even longer while this family who has basically cut with more than 1 person gets a picture, gets autographs, etc. I don't think it is right but we can all disagree on things in a nice way. I wouldn't like it- would I say something---just depends!

And I agree with you on this one completely. That is just blatant abuse of the system. Drives me nuts when I see adults doing this, with so many children waiting patiently behind.

 

[maxiesmom]

I agree wholeheartedly! There are circumstances where people do have to split up, including while in line. Am I supposed to tell my 4 yr old - whose squirming and yelling that he has to go pee - to just pee his pants? People need to enjoy their vacation and chill out on the small stuff, like 1 or 2 people wanting to meet up with their group. Now when there's 3,4,8,10...yeah, that's when it's too much.

Well, if you were already with your son in line, and then had to leave to use the restroom, I would let you go back by me. But if you were not in line to begin with, and then just wanted to hop in front of me, I probably wouldn't. In the first example, you had your spot in line, and just had to vacate it for a little while. In the second example, you didn't have a spot in line to begin with, so no, you shouldn't cut in front of me.

There is a huge number of families with small children at Disney World. And if most of them decided to not wait in line, the parks would be an utter mess. You couldn't even begin to guess how long your wait for a ride was, you would have people hopping in front of you all the time! Part of being at Disney is waiting in line. If you have to leave a line because of an emergency, most of us will understand. But you should at least attempt to be in line to start with.

 

[wickywinn]

Sounds good to me.

Of course, many of the people that would tell you not to do it would also start threads complaining about rambunctious kids in the lines.

Yep.

 

[kaysmommie]

ABBYSDAD: I wanted to add my opinion on your scenario. I wouldn't be too miffed if a mom and a 17 month old was catching up to dad in line. A baby of that age...well you have to constantly hold them. If it's a hot day and mom has to hold the baby all day, it would be very tiring. I wouldn't blame you for having her rest while you wait in line. I would completely understand that. Safety first!!

I'd be upset if it was a family of 4 coming to meet up with the rest of their family. I'd assume that they just got done riding another ride and had the rest of the family hold their place in line for the next ride. I don't think that's very fair.

Again, this is just my opinion. Others may feel differently.

Good luck!

I agree 100% .

 

[kaysmommie]

How can you know that you'll need a drink when you didn't know how long the line was going to take to move inside. Geez my husband stood in line WITH me for the entire time, except for the last 5-10 min to get in line to buy a drink.

What if a kid or an adult had a bladder problem (which I do and have a much smaller bladder capacity than normal people), which I would never get out of line for and I don't think I have ever - but what if it was an emergency? I can go from feeling fine to being in dire pain (and when that happens I hemorage slightly inside my bladder). You'd bet I'd get out of line if I had an episode, because it's very painful.

I'm with everyone - I think it's annoying when tons of people cut into line to meet up with their party and except for the Philharmagic example, I don't do it - but people need to relax, its a vacation and it isn't like it happens that much. I go to Disney yearly for over two weeks and honestly it's not that big of a problem. When it does - I give the person the benefit of the doubt. You can tell those that are truly cutting lines. For those people, yes it's rude. But for families with kids - geez cut people some slack. I guarantee you that for the rest of the world it's not a big deal. It only seems to be a big deal to those who visit boards like that.

My point is - There are exceptions and people shouldn't be so rigid. I especially hate when I hear that people block kids or parents for that matter from catching up with thier kids. It's not the end of the world, and had they not gotten out of line for whatever reason they would already be ahead of you in the first place.

Exactly, I agree with you! If it's a group of people trying to just cut in line, which happens alot in Disney then I won't let them. If it's a parent or parent and small child catching back up to their group what is the big deal!! Some people need to lighten up alot and stop comaplaining about all this small crap that doesn't really matter at the end of the day .

 

[Jubilee]

Absoflutely. If it's a huge group of friends and only 1 is in line and the rest join, no. If a member of the party is with a child that cannot be unattended or had to use the restroom, then by all means, please do what you have to do and don't care what others think.

 

[monty]

Everytime I read one of these "hot topic threads" and people start posting about "being fair" it reminds me of the saying "who said life was meant to be fair".
I live by the adage "treat others as I would like to be treated myself".Translated into line cutting that means for me, people returning from toilet breaks : OK, people returning from other rides : not OK.
HOWEVER....if someone lives their life differently to me and their conscience allows them to line cut willy nilly then yep...it ain't fair,along with a million of other things in life that aint fair, but to me line cutting is well down towards the bottom of the list of things to let your life and well being be effected by.

 

[wickywinn]

how do you figure....?? To put it simply...

If I walked up to a line that had 10 people in it, I think great, a line w/only 10 people.

In reality those 10 are really 20-30 as each person "in line" also has 1-2 people standing outside or someplace else. My line's not so short now....

So if I get in a line as #10 and in reality I am # 31, how is my wait time exactly the same??

I suppose your saying if those 30 people were standing in line I would have been #31 either way, but that's not the point I was trying to make. Lines suck...they're boring, and not generally a fun way to spend time. If you go to Disney you have to wait in lines, it goes with the territory.

If those 10 people ahead of you are waiting for their wife/child/friend, etc. and you decide to block all of them, whose going to ride in the vehicle with every one of those 10 individuals - you and your family? They are going to take up the same exact number of vehicles, all by themselves as they would have with the person you blocked from meeting them. Get it now?

Hey, but at least some of you would have made your point.

Like I said, people need to chill out and stop sweating such trivial things and knitpicking every little thing to bits. It's really very, very sad. I feel so bad for you.

And yes I am aware that some rides have single rider lines and blahblahblahblahblah....more knitpicking....

 

[disneywith4boys]

For all of those who do their best to scare some of us poor Dis'ers from leaving the lines to let our kids use the bathroom, I'll let you know it worked!! Last time we went, we were waiting in a long line for Splash Mountain, when DS4 said he had to go. Well I was far too nervous about worrying the other people in line with our line cutting, and didn't want to wait another hour to ride the ride, so I had him hold it. So sure enough, as Splash Mountain splashed down, so did he. Hopefully those of you who are so worried about people leaving to use the bathroom weren't the next ones on our log - you never really know how that seat got wet. (only kidding, we told a CM about the mishap and they took care of it).

 

[SLK1]

Everytime I read one of these "hot topic threads" and people start posting about "being fair" it reminds me of the saying "who said life was meant to be fair".
I live by the adage "treat others as I would like to be treated myself".Translated into line cutting that means for me, people returning from toilet breaks : OK, people returning from other rides : not OK.
HOWEVER....if someone lives their life differently to me and their conscience allows them to line cut willy nilly then yep...it ain't fair,along with a million of other things in life that aint fair, but to me line cutting is well down towards the bottom of the list of things to let your life and well being be effected by.

Good one...as my friend tells her girls, "Life's not fair. And thank God it's not!"

 

[UP Disney]

ABBYSDAD: I wanted to add my opinion on your scenario. I wouldn't be too miffed if a mom and a 17 month old was catching up to dad in line. A baby of that age...well you have to constantly hold them. If it's a hot day and mom has to hold the baby all day, it would be very tiring. I wouldn't blame you for having her rest while you wait in line. I would completely understand that. Safety first!!

I'd be upset if it was a family of 4 coming to meet up with the rest of their family. I'd assume that they just got done riding another ride and had the rest of the family hold their place in line for the next ride. I don't think that's very fair.

Again, this is just my opinion. Others may feel differently.

Good luck!

I was thinking the same thing. If it was a mom or dad with a baby or toddler or young child, it wouldn't bother me that they joined the other parent in line. However, if the child was older or there were multiple kids, I wouldn't appreciate it.