Let the Prom Drama CONTINUE . . . . . . . .

[Sandy V.]

DH and I discussed that last night. I am sure that girly played into it quite a bit but also knowing DS the whole party scene is not his thing. He loves the athletics (flag football, ping pong etc.) but just hanging out doesn't suit him. He is extremely active and likes to hang out with and do active things with his "teammates". Thus the draw to the Ultimate Frisbee and PaintBall. He is going to get onto the intramural flag football team.

DS is also pretty active, but for DH and me, DS joining the fraternity is a good thing in one way - over the past couple of years, other than through lacrosse, DS really didn't hang out with a lot of guys. He was a "dater", and although the last girl he dated was very nice and we liked her, most of them were just not what we had hoped for him. I don't mean to sound snotty or anything, but they consistently disappointed DS (plans fell apart at the last minute, lies, sneakiness, etc.) and we wanted DS to have a fresh start at school, so we thought it would be a good idea for him to have a "brotherhood" of guys to hang out with FIRST, and then maybe the girls would follow later. So far, that seems to be working, although DS had made a bunch of girl friends and hangs out with them as well.

Window Wars - that is a good one - I'll have to remember that. I see it as DS is as big of a brat as his roomie just in different ways. DS did say the kids from Vegas (the majority of his floor mates) are freezing! They don't like to hang out in his room because they are too cold! DS says he can't wait for real winter to hit and to see how the "Vegas sissy's" hold up. Also a kid on his floor from Hawaii........DS might suggest that roomie go sleep with them

Maybe roommate needs to invest in an electric blanket?!?!?!

Just checked the weather - yesterday Portland was 89 and sunny - supposed to start raining tomorrow, drop into the 50's & 60's and drizzle the whole time I am there. It always rains when I am there.

Stay dry!!!! And enjoy your wine.

 

[horseshowmom]

It's nice that your DD has such a good friend, and there will be nice guys in her future. Sometimes it takes a while for the bad ones to sift out.

He was a "dater", and although the last girl he dated was very nice and we liked her, most of them were just not what we had hoped for him. I don't mean to sound snotty or anything, but they consistently disappointed DS (plans fell apart at the last minute, lies, sneakiness, etc.)

Sheila:
Tell your DD's friend, I've got a nice big handsome boy who needs a change of girly scenery! He just doesn't know it

Yeah, honestly, it's too bad that your boys are too far away. She's a sophomore, but she just turned 20 the other day. Her birthday was one of those Sept. birthdays, so she's a year younger than DD but two years behind her in school. They've literally grown up together (they were in my Sunday School class together when they were 2 and 3 years old respectively).

It'll work out one of these days, but one of the downsides to living in such a rural area is that you can find a lot of rednecks running around.

Water Bottles - well DS put a large clearly worded post it note on the fridge: DO NOT DRINK MY WATER
DO NOT CHANGE MY INITIALS TO YOURS

Love it!

Frat:
DS decided to turn it down. Although the President has told him that the offer stays on the table and he can come back at any time. He says he doesn't have the time between school work, PT job, girly and Ultimate Frisbee(which he loves) he also feels that the fee's are too high. He feels that the fee's cover their party expenses more than anything else and since he doesn't party he feels like he would not be getting his moneys worth (the boy is frugal with HIS pennies). He also said that he does like the socializing but he is burnt out on socializing with drunk people all the time and that $125 a month just to play flag football is way too steep.

I know that it doesn't necessarily have to be that way everywhere, but it is to the extreme at Ole Miss. They are always ranked in the top 5 party schools (I think it was 2nd this year ). DD said that it's so bad that some of these kids come to class in the morning still smelling of liquor and looking like death warmed over (when they show up at all).

Things got so bad that last year the campus put new guidelines in place to try to deal with it. It had gotten to the point where they had several alcohol related deaths a year. One of the frat boys, who was almost through his second year but still only had enough hours to be considered a freshman, dragged a campus police officer with his car and killed him. Drugs are also a problem. One guy that DD knew dropped out of rush and said that he expected the alcohol, but he never expected the hard drugs that were being presented.

Of course, the Ole Miss alumni are somewhat famous for their partying too.

Sheila:

We always fly into FL. on Christmas Day. Also, put in a whole week for the rental period instead of 5 days, sometimes that helps. The Southwest Airlines web site is sometimes a good place to score rental car deals.

I hate that our week got cut down to 5 days, but SIL's DD is very sweet, and I wouldn't miss her wedding. And, of course, DD wanted to be back by New Year's Eve.

So, did you buy the hair clip

I'm sure I did! (I just haven't heard yet.)

Have a safe trip, and a great time (well, as great as you can in a visit with our mother).

Same from me!

It always rains when I am there.
Oregonians don't tan, they rust

Stay dry!!!! And enjoy your wine.

Maybe she could find a dry wine... (I know, that was really pitiful! )

 

[Sandy V.]

Yeah, honestly, it's too bad that your boys are too far away. She's a sophomore, but she just turned 20 the other day. Her birthday was one of those Sept. birthdays, so she's a year younger than DD but two years behind her in school. They've literally grown up together (they were in my Sunday School class together when they were 2 and 3 years old respectively).

It'll work out one of these days, but one of the downsides to living in such a rural area is that you can find a lot of rednecks running around.

The same was true of where I grew up in Nebraska (too many rednecks). That's why I was very glad to get out of there. I was very lucky to meet DH in law school!!

I know that it doesn't necessarily have to be that way everywhere, but it is to the extreme at Ole Miss. They are always ranked in the top 5 party schools (I think it was 2nd this year ). DD said that it's so bad that some of these kids come to class in the morning still smelling of liquor and looking like death warmed over (when they show up at all).

Things got so bad that last year the campus put new guidelines in place to try to deal with it. It had gotten to the point where they had several alcohol related deaths a year. One of the frat boys, who was almost through his second year but still only had enough hours to be considered a freshman, dragged a campus police officer with his car and killed him. Drugs are also a problem. One guy that DD knew dropped out of rush and said that he expected the alcohol, but he never expected the hard drugs that were being presented.

Of course, the Ole Miss alumni are somewhat famous for their partying too.

The University of Colorado-Boulder has also had its issues with being a "party school". Thankfully, they are no longer in the top 10 in that category, although they still are in the top 15 (#13, I believe, from the stats I saw reported a couple of months ago). There have been a number of fraternities who have had their national charters revoked over alcohol deaths and other stupid alcohol-related incidents where the pledges checked into a hotel and then "trashed" their rooms (this was some sort of hazing event from what I recall).

When you mix alcohol and youth, sometimes you get very bad results. I am trying to be very vigilant with DS and how he approaches all of this. We do know one of the boys that was already in the fraternity - he was a year older than DS in our high school, and the two were friends. He came home this summer and worked as a clerk at the Safeway. Because I knew that DS was interested in pledging and I knew that this boy was interested in having DS pledge SigEp, I would ask him questions about alcohol and hazing when I would seem him when I was buying my groceries. He's a really "with it" kid, and he said that this fraternity did not push the consumption of alcohol like some did. This was also confirmed by our DD, who says that DS's fraternity has, by far, the best reputation on the CU campus for how they conduct themselves and how they treat others (designated drivers, etc.). So while I know that nothing is foolproof, I do feel a bit better. Still, DS needs to know that I'm watching like a hawk!!!

I hate that our week got cut down to 5 days, but SIL's DD is very sweet, and I wouldn't miss her wedding. And, of course, DD wanted to be back by New Year's Eve.

5 days is better than none at all, isnt' it? And you're right, missing the wedding really isn't a good option. The older our kids get, I completely understand about the "must be home by New Year's" requirement. Although it does put a crimp in the travel plans sometimes.

Maybe she could find a dry wine... (I know, that was really pitiful! )

Groan . . . .

 

[mamacatnv]

Good Morning!
I have a couple of hours before DS picks me up to head to the airport (it's nice having an airport that is 13 minutes away). So while I sit here waiting for the worlds slowest coffee pot to spit out it's heavenly nectar I thought I would catch up.

DS is also pretty active, but for DH and me, DS joining the fraternity is a good thing in one way - over the past couple of years, other than through lacrosse, DS really didn't hang out with a lot of guys. He was a "dater", and although the last girl he dated was very nice and we liked her, most of them were just not what we had hoped for him. I don't mean to sound snotty or anything, but they consistently disappointed DS (plans fell apart at the last minute, lies, sneakiness, etc.) and we wanted DS to have a fresh start at school, so we thought it would be a good idea for him to have a "brotherhood" of guys to hang out with FIRST, and then maybe the girls would follow later. So far, that seems to be working, although DS had made a bunch of girl friends and hangs out with them as well.

Sandy, I totally understand your thought process. DH and I were hoping for the same result but alas girly has her claws into him good. DS was never a dater, this is is first girly and other than the 1 month of drama this summer they are attached at the hip and have been for over a year. I don't think you sound snotty at all, remember I am dealing with Miss. Rodeo and her "interesting" family! We were really hoping (and still are) that some girl will come along and sweep him off his feet. It could happen. I think DS has found a balance that he wants and we all know there comes a time when what we want for them no longer plays into their thought process. We find ourselves being very careful about what we say in regards to girly, he is very tight lipped on the subject. I met DH when I was 19, we married when I was 21 so it is hard for me to discount his feelings since I know how good our marriage is. I can't decide for him, I just hope and pray he keeps his options open.

Maybe roommate needs to invest in an electric blanket?!?!?!

I forwarded the suggestion DS says they are looking at bunking their beds. We shall see

Stay dry!!!! And enjoy your wine.

Maybe she could find a dry wine... (I know, that was really pitiful! )

Good One

Yeah, honestly, it's too bad that your boys are too far away. She's a sophomore, but she just turned 20 the other day. Her birthday was one of those Sept. birthdays, so she's a year younger than DD but two years behind her in school. They've literally grown up together (they were in my Sunday School class together when they were 2 and 3 years old respectively).

It'll work out one of these days, but one of the downsides to living in such a rural area is that you can find a lot of rednecks running around.

The same was true of where I grew up in Nebraska (too many rednecks). That's why I was very glad to get out of there. I was very lucky to meet DH in law school!!

I hate to tell you guys but you are not the only areas of the country with rednecks They are alive and well here in N. NV also. I remember when we first moved here, I was shocked. I came from the Silicon Valley and had never seen a truck with a gun rack or a teenager at the mall in cowboy boots and a cowboy hat

I know that it doesn't necessarily have to be that way everywhere, but it is to the extreme at Ole Miss. They are always ranked in the top 5 party schools (I think it was 2nd this year ). DD said that it's so bad that some of these kids come to class in the morning still smelling of liquor and looking like death warmed over (when they show up at all).

Things got so bad that last year the campus put new guidelines in place to try to deal with it. It had gotten to the point where they had several alcohol related deaths a year. One of the frat boys, who was almost through his second year but still only had enough hours to be considered a freshman, dragged a campus police officer with his car and killed him. Drugs are also a problem. One guy that DD knew dropped out of rush and said that he expected the alcohol, but he never expected the hard drugs that were being presented.

Of course, the Ole Miss alumni are somewhat famous for their partying too.

The University of Colorado-Boulder has also had its issues with being a "party school". Thankfully, they are no longer in the top 10 in that category, although they still are in the top 15 (#13, I believe, from the stats I saw reported a couple of months ago). There have been a number of fraternities who have had their national charters revoked over alcohol deaths and other stupid alcohol-related incidents where the pledges checked into a hotel and then "trashed" their rooms (this was some sort of hazing event from what I recall).

When you mix alcohol and youth, sometimes you get very bad results. I am trying to be very vigilant with DS and how he approaches all of this. We do know one of the boys that was already in the fraternity - he was a year older than DS in our high school, and the two were friends. He came home this summer and worked as a clerk at the Safeway. Because I knew that DS was interested in pledging and I knew that this boy was interested in having DS pledge SigEp, I would ask him questions about alcohol and hazing when I would seem him when I was buying my groceries. He's a really "with it" kid, and he said that this fraternity did not push the consumption of alcohol like some did. This was also confirmed by our DD, who says that DS's fraternity has, by far, the best reputation on the CU campus for how they conduct themselves and how they treat others (designated drivers, etc.). So while I know that nothing is foolproof, I do feel a bit better. Still, DS needs to know that I'm watching like a hawk!!!

Nothing wrong with watching like a hawk, just because they are off to college doesn't mean our job is done. I know that I have talked with DS extensively about hazing and the dangers of drinking. DS is not a risk taker, he is very cautious and fortunately he is confident enough that he has no problem saying no. SigEp here also has an outstanding reputation, I just don't think DS was willing to make the time needed available, it is not a top priority. He has found outlets for his energy and his need of comraderie and seems very happy.

Sandy, I don't know if I ever told you but DS's BFF's Grandfather (we call him PapaF) went to CU Boulder. We attended his 80th B-Day party last year and some of his former college buddies were in attendance, the stories they told were so funny. The partying was going on 60 years ago A few years earlier my Grandmother went to Brown, back then it was all girls. She almost got kicked out her Freshman year because of the partying she was doing. Now mind you this was what, back in the 1930's or so. She had escaped her stern New England family and was letting it all hang out!

We are not known for our partying we are kind of boring that way I know it is there as are the drugs, DS has never had an interest and it bugs him to see his friends making idiots of themselves. He also lost a friend in HS due to a drunk driving drug using induced car accident. While they were not close, they knew each other and had for years, that really hit home for DS.

I hate that our week got cut down to 5 days, but SIL's DD is very sweet, and I wouldn't miss her wedding. And, of course, DD wanted to be back by New Year's Eve.

Well at least you get to go to the wedding, that was really nice that you rearranged your trip for that.

I'm sure I did! (I just haven't heard yet.)

Yeah, getting those credit card statements is like Christmas, they are full of surprises

Same from me!

Thank you both - I have the provisions, I'm all packed and ready to go. I have it down to a science at this point I do it so often

DS came home last night and cooked dinner. I walked in from my nail appt. and the table was set and ready to go. It is nice having him around a little more often. I am going to go whip him up my famous french toast for breakfast since he is coming a little early and it is his favorite. My kids and their stomachs.............spoiled I tell you, they are spoiled brats!

I have to go get into the shower. You guys have a great weekend and I will catch up on Tuesday when I get back.

 

[mamacatnv]

I'm back - thank goodness, that trip seemed really long

First my Aunt, I do love her, but she drives me nuts. She obsesses over her dog and by day 2 she starts repeating the stories she has already told me twice in the time I have been there she is really very funny but her and that dog............
She is convinced the dog has food allergies, so she keeps trying different foods, most of which she makes herself. The dog is also a "picky" eater (well, heck, if I had a 24/7 diner with an on call cook I would be picky too) She feeds the dog little bites of anything and everything she eats, but she is worried the dog has allergies because she keeps scratching herself. So, she makes the dog lamb and rice, okay, not too bad, then she adds brocolli because she wants to keep her healthy but then she gives her bites of hashbrowns, cheese, bacon, eggs, toast, pork chops and an assortment of crackers with artichoke and clam dip. I know better than to say a word I should add she seasons all the food with salt, pepper, garlic etc. just like people food.

Mother is a loon! OMGoodness, the hour and a half conference with her caregivers was full of incident reports etc. Mother vs. Staff, Mother vs. Resident and the best one, 3 elopements (escapes) in the past month. On one of her escapes, she was 3/4 of a mile away before they found her. She is hitting, screaming and generally being a total PITA. She will not shower, change her clothes, brush her teeth or sleep at night. She "stalks" the halls at night and is very, very quiet. She has scared a couple of the RA's on more than one occassion by sneaking up on them in the middle of the night. I told them to put a bell on her shoe she is not actually sneaking, she has this tendency to come right up behind you and she is so quiet, you don't hear her coming, she then follows you around in this manner, like having a shadow.

I take her to the Dr. following the conference, armed with pages of notes and a firm intent to set him straight. I must add, that it took me 20 minutes to get her into the car, she kicked me, she punched me and she scratched me. No harm, she is no longer strong, but still, I was a little freaked out by her behavior. She used to do this all the time, but I had gotten used to her complacency. She was screaming and carrying on like a toddler in a full blown fit. (My Aunt had to attend a funeral so I was on my own) She also has these weird screaming fits in the car and other places where for an unknown reason she starts grunting, growling, yelling and waving her fists

Oh dear, I did not sign up for this, there is not enough alcohol in the world!

Get her into the Dr.'s office. No more drama, she is now behaving. I spend an hour talking with her Dr. Turns out he had no idea she had underlying mental disease, he thought he was strictly dealing with Dementia. I filled him in and brought him up to speed. I told him that while I understood why he was altering her meds in order to improve her quality of life he was also unknowingly unleashing the violent behavior that we had not seen in almost 2 years. He didn't know she has a history of violence. He understands now, he is tripling her anti psych med. He says, that he will then taper down if needed instead of trying to slowly adjust upwards. If this does not work, he will have her admitted to the Geriatric Psych Hospital to get her stabilized.

Didn't go see her all weekend, I couln't bring myself to do it. I just couldn't. There is nothing else I can do for her. I have tried everything to brighten her day. Kids Books, coloring books & crayons, puzzles, a radio, cd player, toys etc. She does nothing but wander and throw fits. The home won't even take her for walks which she loves because she has become so unpredictible. Hopefully, they will shortly be able to return to that activity.

Went yesterday with my Aunt as back up, took her for a walk inside the perimeter of the facility and then left. That was enough for me. Flew home without incident last night.

So that is my Mother update............I'm gonna go have a drink now a really big drink

 

[Sandy V.]

I'm back - thank goodness, that trip seemed really long

First my Aunt, I do love her, but she drives me nuts. She obsesses over her dog and by day 2 she starts repeating the stories she has already told me twice in the time I have been there she is really very funny but her and that dog............
She is convinced the dog has food allergies, so she keeps trying different foods, most of which she makes herself. The dog is also a "picky" eater (well, heck, if I had a 24/7 diner with an on call cook I would be picky too) She feeds the dog little bites of anything and everything she eats, but she is worried the dog has allergies because she keeps scratching herself. So, she makes the dog lamb and rice, okay, not too bad, then she adds brocolli because she wants to keep her healthy but then she gives her bites of hashbrowns, cheese, bacon, eggs, toast, pork chops and an assortment of crackers with artichoke and clam dip. I know better than to say a word I should add she seasons all the food with salt, pepper, garlic etc. just like people food.

It's a dog. It's SUPPOSED to scratch itself!! If I fed Tundra crackers with artichoke and clam dip every time she scratched, that would be ALL she would do all day long in an effort to get more crackers and dip!!!!

Mother is a loon! OMGoodness, the hour and a half conference with her caregivers was full of incident reports etc. Mother vs. Staff, Mother vs. Resident and the best one, 3 elopements (escapes) in the past month. On one of her escapes, she was 3/4 of a mile away before they found her. She is hitting, screaming and generally being a total PITA. She will not shower, change her clothes, brush her teeth or sleep at night. She "stalks" the halls at night and is very, very quiet. She has scared a couple of the RA's on more than one occassion by sneaking up on them in the middle of the night. I told them to put a bell on her shoe she is not actually sneaking, she has this tendency to come right up behind you and she is so quiet, you don't hear her coming, she then follows you around in this manner, like having a shadow.

I take her to the Dr. following the conference, armed with pages of notes and a firm intent to set him straight. I must add, that it took me 20 minutes to get her into the car, she kicked me, she punched me and she scratched me. No harm, she is no longer strong, but still, I was a little freaked out by her behavior. She used to do this all the time, but I had gotten used to her complacency. She was screaming and carrying on like a toddler in a full blown fit. (My Aunt had to attend a funeral so I was on my own) She also has these weird screaming fits in the car and other places where for an unknown reason she starts grunting, growling, yelling and waving her fists

Oh dear, I did not sign up for this, there is not enough alcohol in the world!

Get her into the Dr.'s office. No more drama, she is now behaving. I spend an hour talking with her Dr. Turns out he had no idea she had underlying mental disease, he thought he was strictly dealing with Dementia. I filled him in and brought him up to speed. I told him that while I understood why he was altering her meds in order to improve her quality of life he was also unknowingly unleashing the violent behavior that we had not seen in almost 2 years. He didn't know she has a history of violence. He understands now, he is tripling her anti psych med. He says, that he will then taper down if needed instead of trying to slowly adjust upwards. If this does not work, he will have her admitted to the Geriatric Psych Hospital to get her stabilized.

Didn't go see her all weekend, I couln't bring myself to do it. I just couldn't. There is nothing else I can do for her. I have tried everything to brighten her day. Kids Books, coloring books & crayons, puzzles, a radio, cd player, toys etc. She does nothing but wander and throw fits. The home won't even take her for walks which she loves because she has become so unpredictible. Hopefully, they will shortly be able to return to that activity.

Went yesterday with my Aunt as back up, took her for a walk inside the perimeter of the facility and then left. That was enough for me. Flew home without incident last night.

So that is my Mother update............I'm gonna go have a drink now a really big drink

Go ahead and have your big, big, drink. Heck, have another one on me.

Oh my goodness, Melissa, I can't begin to say how sorry I am for all of the mental, physical and emotional tolls all of this has to take on you. You have been (and continue to be) a "good" daughter here, and you're truly doing everything you can for your mother. I wouldn't have gone back there except minimally either. I'm glad that the doctor sees it your way regarding the medication. It's really the safest and most humane way to go here.

Not much to report here. Yesterday was the first Monday in October so the United States Supreme Court is back in session. It's the start of our busiest time, right up until Christmastime. Have been frantically working both yesterday and today.

DS was happy because the Sig Ep fraternity won the float competition on Friday at CU's homecoming parade. It was either the second or third year in a row that they won. They made it in conjunction with Chi Omege, the sorrority next door to the fraternity house. I don't know exactly what they made except it had something to do with Willy Wonka (now how this has anything to do with homecoming is beyond me, but I just smile and nod like I'm supposed to ). Anyhow, as part of the "float" itself, DS had to dress up and accompany the float by walking beside it in the parade. He had the choice of being an Oompa-Loompa or a little kid. As DS said, "I have no purple clothes and my entire wardrobe is little kid, so heck that was an EASY choice!!" So I guess it was a good weekend for him. He is now working on an ecology project with a partner that needs to be turned in sometime next week. Glad to hear he's hitting the books.

DD is coming home this weekend, so we're excited. Remember the crab legs, steak, and spice cake meal we made for DS? Well, last night I asked DD what SHE wanted for her home-cooked meal. Her menu choices were:

Steak
Baked sweet potatoes
Grilled red peppers and onions
Something chocolate for dessert

So Friday will be a pig out night. She's coming home because her boyfriend is coming home the day before and having his wisdom teeth out. So she'll be with us Friday night, go play nursemaid on Saturday, and then spend Saturday night with us before she heads back to Boulder on Sunday.

Not much else going on here. I hope that everyone is okay. Glad that you made it back safely, Melissa.

 

[agnes!]

I just wanted to say that I really like this thread.

At my house we're mainly just dealing with high school these days, also DD is taking an AP(oh joy) class as a sophomore. This year for her seems to be going pretty well.

agnes!

 

[Sandy V.]

I just wanted to say that I really like this thread.

At my house we're mainly just dealing with high school these days, also DD is taking an AP(oh joy) class as a sophomore. This year for her seems to be going pretty well.

agnes!

We enjoy having you on the thread, Agnes! Glad that your DD is doing well. If I recall correctly, you have more than one child, don't you? (a younger one than your DD)

I remember those first AP days. What class is she taking? When my DD and DS were both sophomores, they took AP European History. Lots of reading and writing, even in the summer before school started. One of mine really liked the class, the other one didn't. And I was surprised about which one liked it because I was 100% sure it would be the other one who would be in his element. Not the case. Both ended up getting the same score on the AP exam, though, and got some college credit out of the way.

Have a good day, and come back and visit often!!

 

[mamacatnv]

Hi Agnes!

I too remember those first AP days - can't remember which class it was though. There have been so many and my brain is old.

I do know this much, DS did best in the AP classes where he was engaged in learning......Now, he did not manage to pass any of the tests and given his high ACT scores I think it had more to do with the program being taught than his ability to learn. Our High School is only a few years old and the AP programs are in their infancy. The average pass rate is like 6% or something equally dismal.

However, he does not regret taking them and even though he didn't get any college credit, he did get into upper level college classes and is not struggling with them. (or so he says )

Sheila & Sandy - hope all is well - it has been a crazy week and I am way behind but wanted to say Hi!

 

[mamacatnv]

It's a dog. It's SUPPOSED to scratch itself!! If I fed Tundra crackers with artichoke and clam dip every time she scratched, that would be ALL she would do all day long in an effort to get more crackers and dip!!!!

I know......my Aunt has never had children and her cats are her babies. A year and a half ago she got her first dog, and this dog is more spoiled, pampered and worried over than any kid I know She cracks me up, but at the same time......ayeyiyi it got old!

Go ahead and have your big, big, drink. Heck, have another one on me.

My BFF is out of town all week.....no drinking buddy

DS was happy because the Sig Ep fraternity won the float competition on Friday at CU's homecoming parade. It was either the second or third year in a row that they won. They made it in conjunction with Chi Omege, the sorrority next door to the fraternity house. I don't know exactly what they made except it had something to do with Willy Wonka (now how this has anything to do with homecoming is beyond me, but I just smile and nod like I'm supposed to ). Anyhow, as part of the "float" itself, DS had to dress up and accompany the float by walking beside it in the parade. He had the choice of being an Oompa-Loompa or a little kid. As DS said, "I have no purple clothes and my entire wardrobe is little kid, so heck that was an EASY choice!!" So I guess it was a good weekend for him. He is now working on an ecology project with a partner that needs to be turned in sometime next week. Glad to hear he's hitting the books.

Oh rats, an Oompa Loompa photo would have been priceless! My DS had an English mid term yesterday and today texted me with a groan "great, another math test next week" I replied "Good, that means I am getting my moneys worth, now stop texting and go learn something"

DD is coming home this weekend, so we're excited. Remember the crab legs, steak, and spice cake meal we made for DS? Well, last night I asked DD what SHE wanted for her home-cooked meal. Her menu choices were:

Steak
Baked sweet potatoes
Grilled red peppers and onions
Something chocolate for dessert

So Friday will be a pig out night. She's coming home because her boyfriend is coming home the day before and having his wisdom teeth out. So she'll be with us Friday night, go play nursemaid on Saturday, and then spend Saturday night with us before she heads back to Boulder on Sunday.

So, what time is dinner Have a great time with your DD


Okay girls funny story:

We go off to DD's shrink on Tuesday and he has a plan. The next time DD pulls the stomach thing, we are to take the day off and direct her back to bed. No TV, computer, radio, reading etc. (she does not have tv or puter in her room) She is to stay in bed and "rest" we are to keep reminding her to get into bed and rest so that she can get better and go to school the next day. We are to only check on her every hour or so, feed her broth and crackers etc. Theory: Train her brain to make a decision, either cope with the stomach for a couple of hours or spend 12 hours in total boredom and isolation. He said we cannot make the anxiety go away, we have to teach her how to cope. Works for us, we agree. We head home.

Wednesday morning, Princess wakes up with the familiar clutch the tummy, whine, groan etc. I say "honey, go back to bed and rest" thus begins the day. She sleeps until about 10 and gets up, I send her back to bed with the what will now become the phrase of the day "oh honey, go back to bed, you need your rest so you can get better and go back to school tomorrow" My DH comes home at noon and relieves me. He does the same thing all afternoon......Okay, I must admit, she pulled out all the stops and we really had a hard time at times not laughing out loud at her antics.

I walk in the door at 5 and pass by her room, she says "Mom, I feel so much better now" and I say "Thats great honey, but stay in bed, you need your rest so that you can go to school tomorrow" I had to retreat because I was gonna laugh!

We gave her chicken noodle soup and crackers.......She comes out of her room that evening and says "I'm hungry, can I have something besides soup? Like Ravioli's" and I say "No honey, you can have a piece of toast, we want your stomach to get better, go back to bed I'll bring it to you" she was annoyed but off she went. This continued until bedtime.

We did not let her do her school work either, shrink suggested that we wanted the alternative of staying home to be as unattractive as possible and that returning to school and having current work and make up work to get done would further the objective.

Thursday, no problem off to school.

Today - the stomach clutch. I say to her "Do you want to spend the ENTIRE weekend resting in bed so you are ready for school on Monday?" guess who went to school Also, as she was leaving, I told her "I do not want a phone call in an hour or 2, throw up if you must, rinse your mouth out and return to class, do not proceed to the nurses office"

I actually would have loved to stay home again today and enforce a day of bed rest to really pound home the point, but I was so behind and the payroll was not done. I had no choice but to come in. I am sure it will take another time or 2 to get the point across but I do feel like we took a major step forward.


Sheila: Everything ok? Haven't hear from you all week.

It's been snowing here all morning! I am not ready for winter! As my DH said, look at the bright side, at least we don't have to go to a football game tonight Good Point!

Okay, back to work - you all have a great weekend. Don't work to hard, relax and enjoy your kids. Sandy, I like my steak Med. Rare!

 

[mamacatnv]

Happy Monday!

Good morning ladies! How were your weekends?
Sandy, how was dinner? I decided it was too far to drive to your house although the chocolate dessert was tempting...... so DH picked up a couple of steaks and we threw them on our own BBQ

I spent Saturday with DD browsing all the local thrift stores. She decided she wants to be a Hippie for Halloween. We found the most awesome ensemble.........Stripped bell bottom pants in greens & yellows, a hot pink tube top (blousy style, not snug with ruffled top and bottom) a dark brown suede vest, a long skinny scarf in pink with yellow and green squares for her hair and the pieces de resistance........a cream colored macrame purse/satchel with beads and real fringed moccasins! Grand Total: $24.50
She looks awesome! Now to find a peace symbol for a necklace, some fringe to add to the bottom of the pants and some peace patches to add to the vest and she is all set!

Yesterday, I continued with the TV series marathons I have been recording of "House", love that show. Then I cleaned and scrubbed my own house. BBQ'd a couple of steaks, got DD ready for school today and off to bed at a semi reasonable hour.

DS came home Friday night. He was at Girly's and they had plans for Saturday morning so he decided to stay at the house since we are closer he also needed me to mend some of his "Under Armour" compression shorts which he wears instead of underwear. At $30 a piece, I tend to mend the seams before I will fork out and buy him new ones.

At exactly 9 a.m. on Saturday, the phone rings.......DS is sound asleep, I saw it was girly on the caller ID (next time I am not answering it ) I answer "Hello" and this is what she says "Let me speak to your son" not hello, not good morning, nothing.......let me speak to your son that chicky needs to learn some manners. Evidently she was bent because his cell battery was dead and since he was asleep he hadn't responded to her calls and she had been up since 6:30. Oh well, she is his headache..........but next time, I am not answering, she can cool her jets while I enjoy both of my kids home sleeping in their beds!

This morning I fired the morning car pool driver.

Background:
Carpool mom has 1 elem, DD which is my DD's age and 1 (8th grade) middle school DS.
She also provides morning transport for a neighbor kid who is also in 8th.
My DD is elem and my BFF's (lives next door) DD is 6th grade which is also middle school.
The Elem. and the Middle schools are not in the same location - they are about a mile apart and their start times are staggered with the elem. school starting first and the middle 15 minutes later.

The woman is always late (DD has been getting 1-2 tardies a week for the past 2 weeks and many near misses in the weeks prior) DD does not do well with being late, so my BFF and myself along with our hubbies are taking over morning car pool duties for our girls. We knew when school started that the morning driver has a problem with punctuality and we knew we might have to step in. My DD doesn't need any additional anxiety in the mornings and I know just the possibility of being late or even "just making it" makes her edgy. The school says they can be there at 7:45 and so help me, we get her there at 7:45 - not 7:55 when the bell rings or 8 when they are supposed to be in class, but at 7:45 or else!

It ticks me off because carpool mom works directly across the street from the Charter school which is why she volunteered to do all mornings and I do the majority of afternoons. Now I have to go into town and turn around and come back to work, but we didn't feel we had any alternatives. This woman has been late and unreliable for as long as I have known her, it is just one of her traits. We are also taking over additional pick up days because we never know when she will get home with our girls. Could be 4:30 could be 7:30 and she doesn't call to let us know, she just mosies in whenever. She has a cell phone but no voice mail and can be very hard to get ahold of. She also does not have voice mail on her home phone.......I spent all day trying to reach her yesterday and could not reach her or leave her a message, so I called her at 6:30 this morning (I hope I woke her up )!

She lives 10 minutes in the opposite direction from my house on a long bumpy dirt road so she is still on her own to get her own kids to school. She asked me to pick them up one day last week (I will do it occassionally but don't want it to be a habit - the dirt road alone loosens my teeth ) I tell her - "ok, I'll pick them up, tell them to be ready at 7:20" I reiterate my pick up time several times during our conversation. I get there at 7:18 and I don't depart until 7:33 because I am waiting on her kids. That, IMO is unacceptable. Both she and her DH were home. The additional rider kid was dropped off by his Mom at 7:19 and hoped right into my van. No sign of carpool Mom's kids. I send DD to the door, first kid, her DD was in my van at 7:25 and there we all sit waiting on her son until 7:33! My girls are out on the curb when she arrives at my house ready to go when she pulls up.

We just barely make it to the school (7:54 but DD was starting to panic), The bell rings as DD is getting out. I told the son (8th grader) that the next time I pick up they had better be ready at 7:20 or I am leaving without them. (the 8th graders go to the middle school which starts 15 minutes later and is a couple of blocks away) so they are not the ones late, it is my DD who is always late. Carpool mom does not tell me, she does not tell the school nor does she walk them in when they are late, she can't then the middle schoolers will also be late!

I just think it is rude, I would never do that to someone and I resent it being done to me and my kid. I am one of those extreme punctual types. I have left DH at home more than once because he was not ready at the designated time Yes, people do wonder when we show up at events in separate vehicles If I can do it to him I can certainly do it to a middle school brat who thinks he can move at his own pace!

Oh lets see what else.........I guess that was it, ouch my finger tips hurt typing from all the stupid scrubbing I did yesterday. Comet with bleach is my friend

Oh, I feel so much better, thanks for letting me vent!

I know everyone is busy, check in when you can.....Have a great day

 

[horseshowmom]

Girls, sorry I've been missing in action. I have been covered up at work and trying to finish up the two classes and take exams (one is completely done and the other has an exam this weekend, but all of the work has been submitted, thank goodness).

I emailed our senator to see whether he can help DD get her appointment any sooner. I'm crossing my fingers!

Oh my goodness, Melissa, I can't begin to say how sorry I am for all of the mental, physical and emotional tolls all of this has to take on you. You have been (and continue to be) a "good" daughter here, and you're truly doing everything you can for your mother. I wouldn't have gone back there except minimally either. I'm glad that the doctor sees it your way regarding the medication. It's really the safest and most humane way to go here.

You certainly have my sympathy. FIL's situation is still about the same. DH is waiting on his mother to finally reach the point where she makes up her mind that something has to be done. They said he was in fine form Sunday and really ugly to everybody. In fact, he told somebody that he knew they were wanting to "put him in that nursing home" (you remember, the one he keeps saying he wants to go to ), so they could turn that house into a *****house! Now keep in mind that I'm extremely conservative, and these people make me look liberal! Not to mention the fact that DH's mother is 72 (oh yeah, she's out for a good time for sure!). DH just stays out of it and says that when she's ready to do something, let him know. She keeps saying she's ready, but she doesn't actually do what has to be done, so DH says he guesses she's not ready after all (does that make sense?).

Not much to report here. Yesterday was the first Monday in October so the United States Supreme Court is back in session. It's the start of our busiest time, right up until Christmastime. Have been frantically working both yesterday and today.

Good luck!

DS was happy because the Sig Ep fraternity won the float competition on Friday at CU's homecoming parade. So I guess it was a good weekend for him. He is now working on an ecology project with a partner that needs to be turned in sometime next week. Glad to hear he's hitting the books.

Congratulations to DS on his float win! DD always hates group projects, and college classes seem to love to assign them. I hope his goes well!

DD is coming home this weekend, so we're excited. Her menu choices were:

Steak
Baked sweet potatoes
Grilled red peppers and onions
Something chocolate for dessert

Except for those peppers and onions, she's a child after my own heart! It sounds wonderful, and I suspect it was!

I hope BF's dental work turned out okay and wasn't toooo bad.

I just wanted to say that I really like this thread.
At my house we're mainly just dealing with high school these days, also DD is taking an AP(oh joy) class as a sophomore. This year for her seems to be going pretty well.agnes!

Hi, Agnes! Good luck with the AP class. I'm glad she's having a good year!

We go off to DD's shrink on Tuesday and he has a plan. The next time DD pulls the stomach thing, we are to take the day off and direct her back to bed.

He said we cannot make the anxiety go away, we have to teach her how to cope.

Okay, I must admit, she pulled out all the stops and we really had a hard time at times not laughing out loud at her antics.

I walk in the door at 5 and pass by her room, she says "Mom, I feel so much better now" and I say "Thats great honey, but stay in bed, you need your rest so that you can go to school tomorrow" I had to retreat because I was gonna laugh!

This continued until bedtime.

I think the guy is worth what you're paying him!

It's kind of funny, but I gave similar advice to a parent who is homeschooling their child. The dad asked how they should handle the child's lack of motivation. I said that I wouldn't turn it into a power struggle. I'd have "school" at a set time. If the boy didn't participate, I'd tell him to go sit on the couch (no TV, no books, no nothing) and that when he got ready to do school to let me know but that the longer it took for school to be finished, the less time there would be for playing later because school was not optional. I assured him that the boy would get tired of sitting on that couch sooner or later and figure out that school wasn't going to be dumped. Eventually, it would be in his best interest to at least feign interest! Maybe I should send him a bill...

Today - the stomach clutch. I say to her "Do you want to spend the ENTIRE weekend resting in bed so you are ready for school on Monday?" guess who went to school Also, as she was leaving, I told her "I do not want a phone call in an hour or 2, throw up if you must, rinse your mouth out and return to class, do not proceed to the nurses office"

I actually would have loved to stay home again today and enforce a day of bed rest to really pound home the point, but I was so behind and the payroll was not done. I had no choice but to come in. I am sure it will take another time or 2 to get the point across but I do feel like we took a major step forward.

I agree, and I know how glad you'll be to get this behind you. The shrink is right, you're teaching her coping skills (whether she wants to learn them or not ).

It's been snowing here all morning! I am not ready for winter! As my DH said, look at the bright side, at least we don't have to go to a football game tonight Good Point!

WOW! SNOW??? I'm still wearing shorts!

I spent Saturday with DD browsing all the local thrift stores. She decided she wants to be a Hippie for Halloween. We found the most awesome ensemble.........Stripped bell bottom pants in greens & yellows, a hot pink tube top (blousy style, not snug with ruffled top and bottom) a dark brown suede vest, a long skinny scarf in pink with yellow and green squares for her hair and the pieces de resistance........a cream colored macrame purse/satchel with beads and real fringed moccasins! Grand Total: $24.50
She looks awesome! Now to find a peace symbol for a necklace, some fringe to add to the bottom of the pants and some peace patches to add to the vest and she is all set!

I love the outfit! That sounds great!

At exactly 9 a.m. on Saturday, the phone rings.......DS is sound asleep, I saw it was girly on the caller ID (next time I am not answering it ) I answer "Hello" and this is what she says "Let me speak to your son" not hello, not good morning, nothing.......let me speak to your son that chicky needs to learn some manners. Evidently she was bent because his cell battery was dead and since he was asleep he hadn't responded to her calls and she had been up since 6:30. Oh well, she is his headache..........but next time, I am not answering, she can cool her jets while I enjoy both of my kids home sleeping in their beds!

My oh my, she is something else, isn't she? At some point, he's bound to get tired of this. I'm sure hoping so!

This morning I fired the morning car pool driver. The woman is always late

My DD doesn't need any additional anxiety in the mornings and I know just the possibility of being late or even "just making it" makes her edgy. The school says they can be there at 7:45 and so help me, we get her there at 7:45 - not 7:55 when the bell rings or 8 when they are supposed to be in class, but at 7:45 or else!

I just think it is rude, I would never do that to someone and I resent it being done to me and my kid. I am one of those extreme punctual types. I have left DH at home more than once because he was not ready at the designated time

I'm sure with you on this point! I cannot stand to be late (and you sure don't need DD dealing with any stress). I generally get where I'm going either right on time or with a couple of minutes to spare. If it's somewhere I'm not accustomed to going, I allow time. Fortunately, my whole family is this way. (And, yes, I'm just like you. I'd go in separate cars if I had too! )

DF was late on their 3rd or 4th date. DD asked him if he happened to get lost? He was confused and told her no, why? She told him that she just assumed that he had gotten lost or something serious had happened for him to make her sit and wait on him 20 minutes, because she was ready and certainly wouldn't have made him wait on her. He wasn't late anymore after that...

"ok, I'll pick them up, tell them to be ready at 7:20" I reiterate my pick up time several times during our conversation. I get there at 7:18 and I don't depart until 7:33 because I am waiting on her kids. That, IMO is unacceptable. Both she and her DH were home. The additional rider kid was dropped off by his Mom at 7:19 and hoped right into my van. No sign of carpool Mom's kids. I send DD to the door, first kid, her DD was in my van at 7:25 and there we all sit waiting on her son until 7:33! My girls are out on the curb when she arrives at my house ready to go when she pulls up.

This is us too! DD's BFF's mother has no concept of time. We once were supposed to meet at 4 a.m. to leave for vacation. They got there about 45 minutes late. Since then, if we're going anywhere together (which doesn't happen often), we tell them when we're leaving and that we'll see them there. You can tell that they think we should travel together, but we're not. I'm not waiting around until it suits somebody else.

Of course DH teaches school, but he also drives a school bus route to supplement his salary. He tells his kids when to expect him and that he will NOT wait. He's had mamas call and complain when they tried to pull the same routine that you're talking about (send one kid out, then in a few minutes, here comes another one, then maybe one or two more in awhile ). The transpotation director tells them that they're supposed to be ready and if they're not, they get left...

I can remember years ago when I was still in the classroom, we had a parent who was mad that a bus driver didn't wait on her DD. The bus driver would blow the horn and then leave. The mother said that they didn't have an alarm clock, and they relied on the bus driver's horn to wake them up, so he'd better start waiting on her child! (afraid not, ma'am )


I'd getter get back to work now. The principal wants me to write a grant for some new playground equipment. Maybe we'll get lucky and get it!

 

[agnes!]

....At exactly 9 a.m. on Saturday, the phone rings.......DS is sound asleep, I saw it was girly on the caller ID (next time I am not answering it ) I answer "Hello" and this is what she says "Let me speak to your son" not hello, not good morning, nothing.......let me speak to your son that chicky needs to learn some manners. Evidently she was bent because his cell battery was dead and since he was asleep he hadn't responded to her calls and she had been up since 6:30. Oh well, she is his headache..........but next time, I am not answering, she can cool her jets while I enjoy both of my kids home sleeping in their beds!

I know you're trying to stand back & let this relationship run its course, but if I were in your shoes I think I would have said something snarky like "It's my house, I don't have to "let" you do anything." and hung up.

I would have dealt with the fall-out but MAN it would have felt good!

agnes!
PS - I can't figure out which regular poster you are from the way this was quoted, but you're the mom with 'girly' problems right?

 

[mamacatnv]

I know you're trying to stand back & let this relationship run its course, but if I were in your shoes I think I would have said something snarky like "It's my house, I don't have to "let" you do anything." and hung up.

I would have dealt with the fall-out but MAN it would have felt good!

agnes!
PS - I can't figure out which regular poster you are from the way this was quoted, but you're the mom with 'girly' problems right?

Hi Agnes, I posted the girly issues, actually it should be titled my DS is stupid
You are absolutely right, I should have said something and I didn't. I was kicking myself later, it totally caught me off guard. I do remember looking at the phone in my hand as I was walking to his room and having an internal argument with myself. In retrospect I also had my DS at home which is rare and I soak of his presence like a sponge (pathetic, I know). Part of me doesn't want to tick him off so that he doesn't come home, his Dad does a good job of that already by nagging at him about gasoline useage, meal swipes usage and just general usage of our funds. Part of me wants to change his phone number so she can't get ahold of him, something I would never do, but the thought is entertaining

It is such a stuggle for me to see him so in love with someone who IMO doesn't deserve his adoration, but at the same time it is a thin line to walk. Say too much and you alienate them, say to little and they think you either don't care or are not paying attention. Finding just the right thing to say at the right time is the trick............

Boys are stupid

 

[mamacatnv]

Girls, sorry I've been missing in action. I have been covered up at work and trying to finish up the two classes and take exams (one is completely done and the other has an exam this weekend, but all of the work has been submitted, thank goodness).

Well thank goodness that is over, I have been talking to myself for days now Good luck on that last exam

I emailed our senator to see whether he can help DD get her appointment any sooner. I'm crossing my fingers!

Fingers and toes crossed here also. How is DD doing? Is she getting excited about the wedding, it is getting closer!

You certainly have my sympathy. FIL's situation is still about the same. DH is waiting on his mother to finally reach the point where she makes up her mind that something has to be done. They said he was in fine form Sunday and really ugly to everybody. In fact, he told somebody that he knew they were wanting to "put him in that nursing home" (you remember, the one he keeps saying he wants to go to ), so they could turn that house into a *****house! Now keep in mind that I'm extremely conservative, and these people make me look liberal! Not to mention the fact that DH's mother is 72 (oh yeah, she's out for a good time for sure!). DH just stays out of it and says that when she's ready to do something, let him know. She keeps saying she's ready, but she doesn't actually do what has to be done, so DH says he guesses she's not ready after all (does that make sense?).

I don't know your family but in my experiences with my Mother, the bottom line, no matter how "well" she came across she simply was not capable of making decisions. You MIL may be in that space. It took us a long time to realize that about my Mother and a lot of the understanding has come in hind sight. My Mother also lost a lot of her social sensibilities and would say and do horrific things, things that from her were so totally out of character they left people stunned.

Congratulations to DS on his float win! DD always hates group projects, and college classes seem to love to assign them. I hope his goes well!

I too hate "group" projects it can be such a crap shoot as to who is in your group!

Except for those peppers and onions, she's a child after my own heart!It sounds wonderful, and I suspect it was!

I hear you, hate onions and will only eat peppers raw. My DH and DS love sauteed peppers and onions, not sure why since I have never fixed them. FIL did this summer, maybe it is in their genes

I hope BF's dental work turned out okay and wasn't toooo bad.

I forgot about that. Sandy, how did the wisdom tooth extraction go and did your DD hold up as nurse maid?

I think the guy is worth what you're paying him!

Yeah, me too. Week 2 was strange, he talked to us for an hour about how kids learn and develop (it was basic, along the lines of what can be found in any baby child development book), I think I tuned him out after about 30 minutes. So last week (wk 3) he says "any questions or comments about last week?"
Well he asked! Me, not ever being one to hold my tongue and feeling empowered because of this guys fees says something along these lines: "well, other than my sarcastic comment that I made later?" He just looks at me, I go on to explain to him how he spent an hour bringing us up to speed on the basics of how kids develop and think, which we thought was a little bit of a waste of time since we have already raised one, somewhat successfully so we kind of have a handle on the basics. I said, "we need tools and ideas, not a lesson in how a toddler learns to walk and talk." Then I said: "No, other than that, I don't have any comments."

I am a take charge, speak my mind kind of person. Especially when it is costing me $180 dollars an hour and the basic book of child development is probably under $20. Plus I am certain I have probably read it! I can be a bit snarky!

It's kind of funny, but I gave similar advice to a parent who is homeschooling their child. The dad asked how they should handle the child's lack of motivation. I said that I wouldn't turn it into a power struggle. I'd have "school" at a set time. If the boy didn't participate, I'd tell him to go sit on the couch (no TV, no books, no nothing) and that when he got ready to do school to let me know but that the longer it took for school to be finished, the less time there would be for playing later because school was not optional. I assured him that the boy would get tired of sitting on that couch sooner or later and figure out that school wasn't going to be dumped. Eventually, it would be in his best interest to at least feign interest! Maybe I should send him a bill...

Heck, if you don't lecture me about child development, I would have paid you. It is kind of funny, DH and I do consider ourselves decent parents. We think we are fairly good at the task and we are confident in our skills. Having said that, never in a million years would the idea of bed rest and no stimulation have occurred to us. Not sure why, it just never did.

I agree, and I know how glad you'll be to get this behind you. The shrink is right, you're teaching her coping skills (whether she wants to learn them or not ).

I think we would have done her a disservice if we had allowed the behavior to continue, it was getting out of hand and starting to take over her day to day life.

WOW! SNOW??? I'm still wearing shorts!

I froze my hiney off while out running around on Saturday. My BFF was in So. Calif. and flew home Friday night from 103 degrees to 25 degrees, she only had shorts and flip flops! The walk to the car which was in the long term parking lot was brisk!

I love the outfit! That sounds great!

today we are going to JoAnns Fabrics to look for some patches and embellishments. She is very excited.

My oh my, she is something else, isn't she? At some point, he's bound to get tired of this. I'm sure hoping so!

I hope so too, I can't stand it. grrrrr

I'm sure with you on this point! I cannot stand to be late (and you sure don't need DD dealing with any stress). I generally get where I'm going either right on time or with a couple of minutes to spare. If it's somewhere I'm not accustomed to going, I allow time. Fortunately, my whole family is this way. (And, yes, I'm just like you. I'd go in separate cars if I had too! )

This is me and the kids, DH???? not so much I keep a crossword puzzle book in the car for just those occassions. I am 9 times out of 10 early, rarely late and if I suspect I am going to be late I always when appropriate make a phone call.

DF was late on their 3rd or 4th date. DD asked him if he happened to get lost? He was confused and told her no, why? She told him that she just assumed that he had gotten lost or something serious had happened for him to make her sit and wait on him 20 minutes, because she was ready and certainly wouldn't have made him wait on her. He wasn't late anymore after that...

Good for her, she started him off right.

This is us too! DD's BFF's mother has no concept of time. We once were supposed to meet at 4 a.m. to leave for vacation. They got there about 45 minutes late. Since then, if we're going anywhere together (which doesn't happen often), we tell them when we're leaving and that we'll see them there. You can tell that they think we should travel together, but we're not. I'm not waiting around until it suits somebody else.

Exactly, it's rude imo to not be on time when there is no reason for one to be late and once is enough for me.

Of course DH teaches school, but he also drives a school bus route to supplement his salary. He tells his kids when to expect him and that he will NOT wait. He's had mamas call and complain when they tried to pull the same routine that you're talking about (send one kid out, then in a few minutes, here comes another one, then maybe one or two more in awhile ). The transpotation director tells them that they're supposed to be ready and if they're not, they get left...

Its just ridiculous, be on time or find alternative transportation! You DH also drives a school bus, the man is a saint and you can tell him I said that! I can't stand to be on the bus for 5 minutes, the noise level drives me insane, I cannot even imagine being the driver!

I can remember years ago when I was still in the classroom, we had a parent who was mad that a bus driver didn't wait on her DD. The bus driver would blow the horn and then leave. The mother said that they didn't have an alarm clock, and they relied on the bus driver's horn to wake them up, so he'd better start waiting on her child! (afraid not, ma'am )

oh dear.......bet those kids are like me and grow up to be on time fanatics. I know part of the reason I am such a stickler is because neither of my parents were and we were never ever on time to anything. I hate that.

I'd getter get back to work now. The principal wants me to write a grant for some new playground equipment. Maybe we'll get lucky and get it!

Good luck on that Grant!

Good luck on your exam and hope you hear from your Senator soon.

Sheila it was nice hearing from you, I hope things calm down soon!

Later Ladies -

 

[horseshowmom]

How is DD doing? Is she getting excited about the wedding, it is getting closer!

She is definitely excited about it. I called his mother to make sure she knew the pictures were up, and he hadn't said a word (it hadn't even crossed his mind). I told her that that was the difference in having the bride and having the groom. The girls revel in it, and the boys tolerate it!

I don't know your family but in my experiences with my Mother, the bottom line, no matter how "well" she came across she simply was not capable of making decisions. You MIL may be in that space. It took us a long time to realize that about my Mother and a lot of the understanding has come in hind sight. My Mother also lost a lot of her social sensibilities and would say and do horrific things, things that from her were so totally out of character they left people stunned.

See, that's the difference here. From what I'm told, FIL has always been a jerk (just no nice way to put that). She was 15 when they married, and he was something like 25 or 27. As my DH puts it, he basically raised her how he wanted her, and she allowed him to dominate her all of her life. DH and SIL have tried to talk to her about it all of their adult lives, but she just makes excuses for him (he didn't treat them too well growing up either, except for the favorite son - not DH ).

Not to be cold, but DH's perspective is that you can't help somebody who won't help themselves, soooo until she's ready, DH is staying out of it.

Yeah, me too. Week 2 was strange, So last week (wk 3) he says "any questions or comments about last week?"
Well he asked! Me, not ever being one to hold my tongue and feeling empowered because of this guys fees says something along these lines: "well, other than my sarcastic comment that I made later?"

Can't blame you for any of that. I do NOT do well when I think somebody is talking down to me. I am one of the most polite, tactful people that you'll ever find (forgetting that I called FIL a jerk earlier in this post ), but I can definitely get caustic if need be.

It is kind of funny, DH and I do consider ourselves decent parents. We think we are fairly good at the task and we are confident in our skills. Having said that, never in a million years would the idea of bed rest and no stimulation have occurred to us. Not sure why, it just never did.

You know what they say about hindsight, don't you? It's always 20/20!

I froze my hiney off while out running around on Saturday. My BFF was in So. Calif. and flew home Friday night from 103 degrees to 25 degrees, she only had shorts and flip flops!

Oh my goodness! I'll bet she got more than one sideways glance, didn't she!

Exactly, it's rude imo to not be on time when there is no reason for one to be late and once is enough for me.

And I've got to tell you, if I get up and make sure I'm where I'm supposed to be at 4 a.m., they had better do the same. I figure 45 minutes at 4 a.m. equals about 3 hours of daytime!

You DH also drives a school bus, the man is a saint and you can tell him I said that! I can't stand to be on the bus for 5 minutes, the noise level drives me insane, I cannot even imagine being the driver!

He said to tell you two things: One, thanks for the compliment - you're obviously a very intelligent woman...
Two, you'd like it on his bus - he doesn't put up with noise!




Ya'll have a great weekend! ETA: I apparently am losing my mind. I just got ready to make another post and saw the part about "weekend". Good grief, it was only Tuesday. Sad, sad, sad! LOL

 

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I just got a call from our Senator's office (one of his staff members). The young man was very nice and wanted to let me know that they were going to do all that they could. He said that he would be back in touch with me as soon as they could find out anything. We'll hope for the best!

 

[mamacatnv]

I just got a call from our Senator's office (one of his staff members). The young man was very nice and wanted to let me know that they were going to do all that they could. He said that he would be back in touch with me as soon as they could find out anything. We'll hope for the best!

I'm amazed at how quickly you got a call back

Is the Senator up for reelection

I'm excited for you, I really hope they can pull a string or 2. I mean afterall, your DD is almost a full fledge contributing member to the local tax rolls, she is an educated woman in a medical field and she should not have to wait a year for a consultation. You can tell them I said that too

I get what you are saying about your inlaws and I don't think your DH's view is cold, I think it is realistic. There is nothing that can be done and they just might have to self destruct on their own. It certainly is not due to lack of family support and effort it is due to their own stubborness and ornryness (sp?) i too lazy to go look it up, I'm sure you get my drift

PS:
I saw your edit above and when I was reading your original "have a great weekend" my brain said yeah! it's Thursday......then I got smacked by reality and now I need a pint of ice cream, a good chick flick and a spoon

 

[horseshowmom]

I'm amazed at how quickly you got a call back

Is the Senator up for reelection

Well, actually, he is.

I have to follow that by saying that, in my opinion, the senator is a really nice guy. He's from Tupelo (not too far from us) and has always had an excellent reputation in the community (both prior to and after his election to Congress). He was in the House for serveral years and was appointed to the Senate to finish out the term for the previous senator who retired. This is his first senatorial election. I don't like the guy (one of our former governors) who is running against him.

However, having said all of that, I don't mind at all that we're in the middle of an election. If he can help, I will make sure every single person I come across knows that he did!

I'm excited for you, I really hope they can pull a string or 2. I mean afterall, your DD is almost a full fledge contributing member to the local tax rolls, she is an educated woman in a medical field and she should not have to wait a year for a consultation. You can tell them I said that too

As my DH said, you sound like an intelligent woman!

I saw your edit above and when I was reading your original "have a great weekend" my brain said yeah! it's Thursday......then I got smacked by reality and now I need a pint of ice cream, a good chick flick and a spoon

I think I must be in the same shape that you are. I told DH about putting that weekend thing on there when it was Tuesday. I guess I'm more distracted than I thought.

Added to everything else, DFi's grandfather had to be hospitalized Tuesday night. They thought he had a stroke, fell out of his truck, and cut his head pretty bad. He was in the ICU Stroke Unit but was moved to a room yesterday. DD said last night, that now they aren't even sure it was a stroke. He was very involved in DFi's growing up (he's the ranching side of the family). DFi is one of 3 grandsons (no granddaughters) but is the only one "into" the horses and roping stuff, and DFi is very close to him. Hopefully, they can resolve whatever the issue was.

On a happier note, I just found out that the first graders are going on a field trip today to the pumpkin patch, and since I have first graders on Thursdays, today should be very quiet! (This job is working out so much better than I thought! )

 

[horseshowmom]

Heard from the Senator's office again today. They have been in contact with the federal affairs office of the hospital (I didn't even know hospitals had federal affairs offices ), and they are checking into the situation. Maybe things will work out, I sure hope so...