Ladies - what is the oldest you would feel comfortable getting pregnant?

[Liberty Belle]

For me, 42 - 43 would be the latest I'd want to, but I'm done. I had my last baby at 35. I think that age is absolutely fine, but then I'm kind of a hip mom.

 

[apirateslifeforme]

It has to be 40 for me. I'm 35 (today!) and I just met my DBF within the past year. My clock is definitely ticking, especially considering my history of ovarian cysts that had to be surgically removed.

 

[KimR]

I have a hunch I'll be like my parents! Everyone asked them if they were sad I was leaving home, etc... I'm thinking NO WAY -- they were HELPING me pack trying to get me out as soon as possible.

That's exactly how my mother was - she couldn't wait for us to leave. She had us very young, though, and I think that's the difference. I wish I could feel that way, but I am dreading the days when my kids are gone. My oldest is 17 so I only have another year with her.

 

[Disney Ella]

I think it would have been 35 - 36 for me. I knew I didn't want to be 40 and still dealing with car seats and naps and diapers.

 

[disneydiva58]

I was pregnant with my one and only child at age 41. She is now going into middle school and jokes to her friends that I am the oldest parent in the school....nice....

 

[december]

Well, I'm done at 36. I have a ds12, dd9, and a 2 month old. I honestly think your 30s is a great time to have kids. I'm much happier, we are better off financially, and I have alot more patience now. In my 20s, I was so worried about what everyone else thought, keeping my house clean, etc. Now, I'm happy just to sit and look and my little one. And she is no afterthought-dh and I talked about having another baby for 9 yrs. The time just seemed right last summer (when I was 35). I finally feel like our family is complete, and I had a tubal right after delivery.

For others, I think anytime up to 50 would be ok.

 

[Minnesota!]

I have always said that I wanted to be done having kids by 33. Only reason being is that I want to retire at 55. I will put each of my kids through 4 years of college. Which means that I have my last at 33, my youngest would be 22 when I am 55. I will be done paying for college and can retire

However, if that whole retirement thing didn't come into play, I would say 42 or so would be my limit. My cousin had twins last year at 52...and she is doing great with it. But I cannot imagine being 70 when my kids graduate high school...

ALL that being said, we are done having kids. My youngest was born when I was 29. So...that was the perfect stopping point for me!

 

[luvmy3]

I said I'd never have kids past 30 and I didn't. I got pregnant with my last when I was 29 and he was born when I was 30.

 

[sbell111]

My wife and I would have certainly preferred to have children when we were in our twenties, but that didn't happen. It didn't happen when we were in our thirties, either. In fact, we were pretty sure that we couldn't have children, at all. Still we kept trying. Our little princess will be born in November. My wife will be 41. I'll be 42.

Having a child when you are older adds some complexity to the situation, but it's not all bad.

I do have to more carefully plan our retirement and her school and college expenses, since there won't be much time between when she graduates from college and I retire.

My wife and I are certainly more capable of raising a child now then we were when we were in our twenties, both financially and emotionally.

My wife has suggested that she would like to follow this one up with a quick second, but I've not warmed to the idea.

 

[Avalon_toon]

Early 40's I guess. I figure if they can graduate high school before you retire, its all good!

 

[Mermaid02]

For me it was 30. I had my dd at 22 and I said if we didn't have another one BEFORE I was 30- she would be an only. I turned 29 in December and he was born the following March. I wish I had actually had him younger- 25 or 26 would have been good.

 

[PghLybrt]

Well I am 34 now and have not thought about it yet.

 

[The Princess]

My mom had me when she was 40 and for me personally that is too old. Kids are very cruel, I had a lot of mean things said to me one I will never forget is when my mom came to pick me up early from school and a classmate said "oh your grandma is here to pick you up" I cried the whole way home. Needless to say I had my kids at a much younger age~ 24 and 27. I didn't want to do that to my kids. I wanted to be a "young mom"

 

[Nennie]

I thought I would be done having kids by now, but things don't always work out like you planned! I'm 35, and it took me 4 years to get my little guy, and am hoping it doesn't take another 4 years to get him a sibling! No matter what, I'm going to keep trying though!!

 

[lil mermaid]

I thought I would be done having kids by now, but things don't always work out like you planned! I'm 35, and it took me 4 years to get my little guy, and am hoping it doesn't take another 4 years to get him a sibling! No matter what, I'm going to keep trying though!!

I had my daughter a month after I turned 36, and my son 10 days before my 39th birthday. That is just the way that it worked out.

Although I'm pretty fit and healthy, we aren't going to be having any more. My eggs are still 41, after all. Also - well, we just feel that our family is complete and just right the way it is.

 

[lil mermaid]

My mom had me when she was 40 and for me personally that is too old. Kids are very cruel, I had a lot of mean things said to me one I will never forget is when my mom came to pick me up early from school and a classmate said "oh your grandma is here to pick you up" I cried the whole way home. Needless to say I had my kids at a much younger age~ 24 and 27. I didn't want to do that to my kids. I wanted to be a "young mom"

I am one of those people who "did that" to their kids. I'm 41 now, and although I am not the youngest mom in the class, I'm not the only one my age or even the oldest. I don't think that anyone is going to mistake me for a "Grandma" any time soon.

 

[alexandria674]

I think mid 40's is a time to stop.

 

[robinb]

I was 38. I probably would have continued to "try" for a couple more years if I wasn't successful. So, I guess I would say early 40's.

I had ZERO interest in children when I was younger and would have probably made a terrible parent because of it. I know a lot of people want to get their child rearing out of the way early so they can enjoy life in their 40's and still be "young" for their grandchildren. I was exactly the opposite. I wanted to live my life first. I began to want a child when I was in my mid-30's and finally had my DD in my late 30's. FWIW, I am NOT the oldest mother here in the area ... there are a number of women here in Madison who established a life and career before having kids. No one teases my DD about my age because it is very, very common.

 

[sunlver]

This is a good quesiton.

I hate that us females have that time clock..you know all the eggs..getting older each year..tick tick tick

With that said I have my last baby a 11 days before my 40th b-day. She will be 5 this Aug.. I have a son who will be 15(In Aug)and my other daughter will be 10 tomorrow...I would love to have more babies...My husband got fixed about 4 months after our youngest was born. Although I will be 45 in August,in my heart and mind, I feel no different then I did when I had my first 15 yrs ago. I have a few more aches and pains, but if god had other plans for me.. I would welcome a new baby even at the age of 45.

 

[Disney Doll]

I got married at 29, made a valiant effort throughout my early 30's, up to sage 37, to get pregnant...medical intervention, invitros etc.

Once I hit 37 I began to start thinking I was getting a little old to safely have a baby, so we stopped all the medical inetrvention.

I never did have a baby...a couple of pregnancies, but no baby.