kids not ready for disney but going

[saratogadreamin09]

I have an aunt and uncle who are taking their kids (3 and 5) down to disney in december. The whole family agrees that they shouldn't be going because 1) they are also going to a awdding and the kids might provide too much stress, 2) the older kid has epilepsy and they are still trying to put him on a good medicine so he might not be "well", and 3) both kids are very clingy and afraid of many things. we all know that they wont like the characters and while the older one might like some of the rides, he might not be ble to go on them because of his epilepsy


despite all of this my aunt still wants to take them because she doesn't know when she'll ever get another chance, we're all trying to convince her to save up money nad take them back in 3 or 4 years


any opinions

 

[Aliceacc]

#2 is the clincher for me.

I don't know a lot about epilepsy, but I know enough that you want that medication stabilized ASAP.

How about suggesting they talk to their child's doctor before putting down any non-refundable money?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

they've tried for two years to get him on good medicine but because he's growing every time he gets onto something that works he gets to big for it to work anymore so the dossage and the medicine have to be corrected again

 

[imthatgirl]

ok, not to be rude or anyhting, but really they want to take their own kids on a vacation and you and your family feel you should have a say in it? really?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

we only are trying to have a say in it because

1) the 5 year old has epilepsy and we dont want anything to happen to him


2) we want them to have a good trip because they've been married for 7 years and never been on a vacation

3) we're concerned about the kids getting lost and things like that because they are so young and clingy

 

[Aliceacc]

they've tried for two years to get him on good medicine but because he's growing every time he gets onto something that works he gets to big for it to work anymore so the dossage and the medicine have to be corrected again

OK, so this is an ongoing process, not one they just started?

Then I think I have to agree with the previous poster. The parents know their kids, know their capabilities, and have decided to take their kids to Disney.

I say you give them your blessings and whatever help you can offer.

 

[pigletto]

Hmmmm....
Are they decent parents? Do they love their children and carefully watch their health? Do they have common sense to maybe take them to do things like play in the resort pool, watch the parades.. things that won't trigger a seizure?
If so.. My advice would be .. butt out.
However if it's an issue that they don't care for their childrens health.. are too inept to read a sign that clearly states "do not ride if prone to seizures", or are neglectful of their children's needs in other ways then I would be more concerned obviously.
If they belong in camp A. Then "the whole family" convincing them not to go seems meddling and out of line to me. There are plenty of ways they cold still enjoy a trip.

If they belong in camp B then they clearly have larger parenting problems than taking a less than ideal trip.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

they're good parents but they are alittle care free


like they might not hold the kis hands in the theme parks. my uncle might try to get the boy on some rides and might try to get the girl to do some stuff she wont like too.



i went to a water park with them a couple weeks ago and they were good with the kids but didnt really keep a really close eye on them. and i have no clue whats going to happen at the wedding they're attending

 

[imthatgirl]

they're good parents but they are alittle care free


like they might not hold the kis hands in the theme parks. my uncle might try to get the boy on some rides and might try to get the girl to do some stuff she wont like too.



i went to a water park with them a couple weeks ago and they were good with the kids but didnt really keep a really close eye on them. and i have no clue whats going to happen at the wedding they're attending

im sorry, but i think youre reaching for straws here.

 

[DISNEYFOS]

OK, so this is an ongoing process, not one they just started?

Then I think I have to agree with the previous poster. The parents know their kids, know their capabilities, and have decided to take their kids to Disney.

I say you give them your blessings and whatever help you can offer.

Ditto. 3 & 5 are a great age for Disney. They will be in awe...and for parents with kids that want a vacation.....There is no better place. Entertainment and distractions everywhere. Not sure I get the whole Clingy..therefore they will run off and get lost I'm sure they are concerned about the Epliepsy..but I'm sure the childs doctor can provide an opinion on whether travel is recommened.

 

[Karlzmom]

we only are trying to have a say in it because

1) the 5 year old has epilepsy and we dont want anything to happen to him


2) we want them to have a good trip because they've been married for 7 years and never been on a vacation

3) we're concerned about the kids getting lost and things like that because they are so young and clingy

I'm sure that you are trying to act with the best of intentions, but put yourself in their shoes...if the "whole family" had a really good reason for wanting to tell you how to parent, do you think you'd take it well?
Obviously, you are a disney-nut [posting here kinda gives it away ], any chance that you can go too and be "help"? Or how about asking if they want some help planning? Send them here, offer a book, etc?? This is the trip they want, and as a loving and devoted family member who cares, what-ever you can do to ease their minds and burdens in making their Disneydream come true will in the end be far more productive than trying to convince them what they are doing is wrong. IMO.

 

[Aliceacc]

I can't find a graceful way to phrase this, so bear with me:

Are they such awful parents that CPS needs to be called in? (It doesn't sound that way-- waterparks, Disney, ongoing upgrade of son's epilipsy medication..)

If not, then why not just let them parent the way they want to parent? Why is your judgement (and apparently that of the entire family) more valid than theirs?

To be honest, if it were someone in my family secondguessing my choices this way, I would be telling my family a WHOLE LOT less about my plans.

 

[pigletto]

I can't find a graceful way to phrase this, so bear with me:

Are they such awful parents that CPS needs to be called in? (It doesn't sound that way-- waterparks, Disney, ongoing upgrade of son's epilipsy medication..)

If not, then why not just let them parent the way they want to parent? Why is your judgement (and apparently that of the entire family) more valid than theirs?

To be honest, if it were someone in my family secondguessing my choices this way, I would be telling my family a WHOLE LOT less about my plans.

Ditto.

 

[thegrimdwarf]

I have to agree with prior posters - it's not really your business if they want to take their kids to Disney.

If you've expressed concern, which it appears you have, and they've heard you and decided to go anyway, there's not much you can or should do. I would recommend you drop the issue, unless you're really looking to cause problems with your aunt and uncle. They're adults.

 

[mrsklamc]

Have you actually been to Disney, yourself? It's not all about characters and rides. And if they choose to be more lax with there kids than you would be, or push their boundaries more than you would like...Sorry, but none of your business. I understand that it's becuase you care, but seriously, none of your business.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

my grandmother is trying to convince me to go down to watch the kids but i use my vacation time for other disney trips during the year and i have no clue if i could take off for another 5 days



i'm beginning to belive that the 5 yer old will love it but the 3 year old is afraid of a lot and i know she'll be way to oafraid to enjoy anything (well maybe she'll like the pool but thats about it)

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Have you actually been to Disney, yourself? It's not all about characters and rides. And if they choose to be more lax with there kids than you would be, or push their boundaries more than you would like...Sorry, but none of your business. I understand that it's becuase you care, but seriously, none of your business.

i've been to disney 28 times and i know what disney is about



and i'm not really trying to butt in but my grandmother came to me and my mother for ways to convince them not to take the kids because we're disney nuts

 

[noodleknitter]

we only are trying to have a say in it because

1) the 5 year old has epilepsy and we dont want anything to happen to him


2) we want them to have a good trip because they've been married for 7 years and never been on a vacation

3) we're concerned about the kids getting lost and things like that because they are so young and clingy

I suspect their parents have a pretty good clue as to whether or not it is doable with these kids. Seems like the family needs to mind its own business.

 

[sk!mom]

I have an aunt and uncle who are taking their kids (3 and 5) down to disney in december. The whole family agrees that they shouldn't be going because 1) they are also going to a awdding and the kids might provide too much stress, 2) the older kid has epilepsy and they are still trying to put him on a good medicine so he might not be "well", and 3) both kids are very clingy and afraid of many things. we all know that they wont like the characters and while the older one might like some of the rides, he might not be ble to go on them because of his epilepsy


despite all of this my aunt still wants to take them because she doesn't know when she'll ever get another chance, we're all trying to convince her to save up money nad take them back in 3 or 4 years


any opinions

My opinion- If they aren't asking you to pay then butt out. They're adults- it's their money, their kids, their vacation.

Why would your "whole family" feel it necessary to discuss or make judgements about the plans of adults? Did they ask for opinions?

There seem to be a lot of posts on here lately where the real problem is a lack of boundaries.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

the only reason the whole family is involved is because my grandmother wants help convincing them out, my aunt doesn't seem to mind it ( she just laughs whenever we talk to her about it) and my uncle is alittle uneasy about the kids going because he's going down for his friend's wedding