kids not ready for disney but going

[pigletto]

the only reason the whole family is involved is because my grandmother wants help convincing them out, my aunt doesn't seem to mind it ( she just laughs whenever we talk to her about it) and my uncle is alittle uneasy about the kids going because he's going down for his friend's wedding

Your grandmother is out of line. You could actually say to her that they are adults and you don't feel it is your business to talk them out of it.

And out of curiosity were the children invited to the wedding?

 

[AKBAFB]

Unless you can think of a valid reason why they should absolutely be stopped from taking their own kids on vacation, then I would tell your grandmother that you're not going to be involved with her meddling and wish your aunt and her family a happy vacation!

 

[Wendybird55]

It's hard to tell someone how to raise their children and where or if they should go on vacation. Knowing their son's condition and that it has been an ongoing series of changes, they might figure this is something they have to learn to live with and deal with and it can't allow them to stop their family children from having fun. And maybe by exposing the 3yro to Disney it will help her overcome some of her fears.

Instead of putting yourself in an awkward and potentially explosive position by telling them you don't think they should go - why not offer them help in planning their trip.

Since you've been to Disney so many times you can tell them what the rides and attractions are like so they will know which ones may scare or upset their children. You can ask if their Dr. has given any restrictions to the type of rides (movements. strobe lighting and such) that their son shouldn't experience because of his epilepsy and let them know which rides to avoid.

Introduce them to the disabilities boards where maybe they can find other people with eplipsey who can give them advice. There are so many ways you can help them prepare for this trip and have a good time.

You can give them touring tips and also tips on how to keep the kids kids safe - where to go if someone gets lost, having ids on your kids, etc. What restaurants to eat at.

I'm sure with your help and your family's support this will be a great trip for them. We all have problems in life to overcome and for most of us it's never the perfect time to do the things we want. But if we keep waiting for that perfect time, life will just march right by us. I know your family is concerned, but you should applaud your Uncle & Aunt in that they are not letting their problems stop them from living.

 

[ScotsMinnie]

Sorry but I have to agree with previous posters and you, your mother and your grandmother should butt out. Its none of your business - any of you - where your aunt and uncle take their family on vacation. Its their choice.

To say that they are carefree and might lose them is a bit ridiculous. They have got to 5 and 3 without getting lost haven't they?

Sometimes I think some people have too little going on in their own lives that they have to concern themselves with other peoples.

 

[Aliceacc]

I agree. Unless Grandma is planning to have them declared unfit as parents, she should butt out.

And she should stop trying to get you or your mom to do her dirty work for her.

If I were the aunt, it would be a LONG time before grandma or anyone involved in this drama heard much about my kids. Birthday plans, vacation plans, medicine updates, nothing.

Parenting is hard enough without having to justify your choices to others.

 

[noodleknitter]

Sorry I sounded harsh. i assume that you are a teen, and that you think you are being helpful. Grandma needs to allow her child to raise his/her children as they see fit. None seem to have been lost thus far. They are provididng medical care. It sounds as though the children are loved. It isn't anyone else's business. You don't need to be a pawn in this.

 

[maxiesmom]

Unless the kids are neglected or in danger (and it sounds like neither is the case) then your family needs to MYOB.

 

[In a hurry]

Unless the kids are neglected or in danger (and it sounds like neither is the case) then your family needs to MYOB.

Yes, indeed.

 

[vcgirl925]

I think that you should tell your nosey family members to butt out. It's none of your business where they take their kids. The only reason you may have to be concerned is the epilepsy, but he's 5 he's going to keep growing until he's 16 years old. So dosages will change all the time. Do you suggest because their son has epilepsy that they never go to Disney? Or at least until his meds are stabilized when he's an adult? That sounds so unnecessary and no fair. As for them never taking a vacation since they've been married for 7 years....i don't understand why this is any of your concern at all. What if they finally have some money and they want to take a family vacation? As for 3 and 5 not being good ages that’s just not true. Those are great ages to go and it's totally up to their parents how far they want to push their own kid’s boundaries.

We are going in November with another family and their soon to be 5 year old is terrified of every inside ride....he doesn't like not knowing. So dumbo, aladdin, and teacup are OK but the inside rides like winnie the pooh and peter pan are no go's. Guess what he LOVES disney world. He won't even go to the shows because he's afraid of them. He loves the atmosphere, the characters, the few rides he can go on, the parades, and the fireworks.

Bottom line is to just leave them alone and tell your family that they are over stepping their boundaries.

 

[labdogs42]

my grandmother is trying to convince me to go down to watch the kids but i use my vacation time for other disney trips during the year and i have no clue if i could take off for another 5 days



i'm beginning to belive that the 5 yer old will love it but the 3 year old is afraid of a lot and i know she'll be way to oafraid to enjoy anything (well maybe she'll like the pool but thats about it)

Have the children's parents asked you to come along? I don't really think it is up to Grandma.

You don't KNOW what the kid will be afraid of. No one can know that until they get there.

This is totally none of your business. If you want to do something nice to help them plan their trip, maybe buying them a copy of the Open Mouse book would be a nice gesture.

 

[bumbershoot]

I think maybe grandma wants to watch her grandchildren and is trying to get aunt/uncle to leave the kids with her instead of taking them on vacation....

we only are trying to have a say in it because

1) the 5 year old has epilepsy and we dont want anything to happen to him



3) we're concerned about the kids getting lost and things like that because they are so young and clingy

1) Do not EVER think that you have more at stake regarding the health of a child, than the child's parents do.

3) If the kids are that clingy, they will stick close to the parents.

 

[rt2dz]

LOL, watch out, I've been given points for less than that.

23? I'm thinking not. Her writing skills put her a lot younger than that. I suspect that someone's getting bored over summer break.

Actually, isn't it "almost" 23? I'm with you. Adults don't speak that way. And mature adults, regardless of age, are more articulate--even when not paying attention on a message board.

If the PARENTS are OK with it and they are paying for it, it's NO ONE elses business--least of all some neice with no adult experience.

I would expect this thread to be locked soon.

 

[minkydog]

There are plenty of children (and adults!) who have epilepsy and go to WDW. I'm sure the parents have a pretty good handle on it and will manage him just fine. Sure, he may have a seizure--but he could stay home and have a seizure. He could go to school and have a seizure. Or the beach.

My youngest son, 13, is severely mentally handicapped and has seizures. It has taken us several years to get his seizures under control. I'm glad no one ever tried to step in and persuade us not to go on vacation. Christian has had seizures on every vacation, even in the pool--we just take our emergency drugs everywhere we go. Even though he may not understand all the hoopla at Disney, he loves being there. The rides are not the big thing for him, nor the characters. It's the ambience and the Dole whips.

 

[minkydog]

sorry, double post

 

[saratogadreamin09]

first, i'm sorry if my writing style is teenish but like i said i'm a 23 year old adult and i'm engaged(planning a disney wedding)


i didnt post this for people to tell me why i should butt out because my aunt and uncle want opinions from the family so we told them our honest opinions. My family is very close and all of my cousins are like siblings so its not like i just randomly called my aunt that i never talk to to tell her dont go to disney! I talk to my aunt on a regular basis( like twice a week).



I want advice from people on how to help the kids overcome their fears and how to deal with a child with epilepsy in disney.

Can anyone give me advice?

 

[Aliceacc]

I got this from allears. I haven't read it, so I'm not sure what's useable:

http://www.allears.net/pl/epi.htm

The info there probably won't talk your aunt out of the trip as your grandmother hopes; it may help make the trip a bit easier on your aunt and uncle.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

I got this from allears. I haven't read it, so I'm not sure what's useable:

http://www.allears.net/pl/epi.htm

The info there probably won't talk your aunt out of the trip as your grandmother hopes; it may help make the trip a bit easier on your aunt and uncle.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!! I go to allears all the time but i've never seen that


thanks

 

[Aliceacc]

Also, there's a disability board here.

I'm not sure about the proper terminology-- whether epilepsy is considered an illness or a disability-- but I bet someone there can come up with some concrete ways to help your cousin have an easier time.

 

[The Disney Bunch]

Sorry but this is the whole family's business why??? The parents, in my mind, should be making the decision & I am sure they are able to talk to their doctor & make this decision. I don't think this is something that anyone else should be sticking their nose in. Sorry!

AND if you have been to Disney as many times as you say you have, then you know that kids of ALL ages have a good time. Since you say that you are 23 & engaged & working, then you are an adult - tell your grandmother that your aunt is a grown-up and can handle decision regarding her children by herself.
The kids will have a blast- they will enjoy it BUT NOT if everyone around them is telling them that they shouldn't be going because they won't have a good time, etc. Think positive and talk positive & the kids will take their cues from you. Be encouraging & excited & tell them all about the characters & what rides you have been on & how fun and thrilling it all is. They will have a good time.

 

[Merriwind]

OP, you seem very young and well-intentioned and maybe have gotten caught in the middle a bit. However, none of this is anyone's business but your aunt and uncles. You need to back away.

You will understand the reactions here more when you are older, have children of your own and family members start giving you unsolicited and repeated advice about parenting them.